Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

[Bunnygirlie]

Ladies, Time for a new thread for us oldies (well not that old) TTC number 1 and our MN friends who have their BFP but are still coming along for the ride :-)

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF due end Nov
Winkle, ttc 15 months, BFP due 19/11
Zombies, ttc 2 cycles, erratic cycle, PCOS. Next POAS not before 15 December.
Pipbin, ttc 15 cycles, BFP due 27/11
BraveLilBear TTC cycle 1 after early mc, BFP due 18/11

Aquarius, 32, ttc 8 mths, bfp due mid dec
Happylass TTC cycle 3 BFP due 8/12
Janey, 38, six weeks pg
Rach, 34, PG 7+5. Booking appointment on Wednesday.
Quod, 33, six weeks pg
HazleNutt 8 weeks pg

Sorry if I missed anyone :-)

Hey Janey welcome home you jetsetter you! So glad you had a good time and no problems to speak of apart from vomity children in-flight

Hazle my plan is to have child take OH's last name, but my last name as an extra middle name. That way, we will always have a connection to my family (even after me and OH get wed.... when he proposes), plus it will make it easier to travel abroad.

Sounds frustrating purple. I was told last week that I'd get my booking-in appointment 'through the post in 1-2 weeks'! Could be 9 weeks+ before I see anyone at this rate. Which, seeing as Xmas Day is 9+2 for me, means it's more likely to be 10-11 weeks

If it's as late as that, may have to get private scan... could be my excuse!

I'm with you brave, I'm going to be 13 weeks by the time I have my booking in appointment, and then they will arrange my 12 week scan. Ah, the efficiency. Thank goodness we can afford a private one on Christmas eve. And it's not just due to me going abroad - the first date they offered me for a booking in appointment was a couple of days before the 12 week point. Great.

hazle - glad they're back (in that it's reassuring) but am obviously sorry you've got MS back. I seem to still be escaping it on the whole...

Sorry, will not say the BD word again. Am new to all this slaps own wrist
In my OH country, people have two surnames, the first being the father´s and the second being the mother´s so that the mother´s surname isn´t lost. Brave I love the idea of using your surname as a middle name.

We have that quandry too Hazle, I don't know what the answer is, I much prefer my surname tbh. Have agreed if it's a boy it definitely gets OH's surname (he only seems to care about names if it's a boy )
but otherwise, I just haven't decided. We were planning on getting married in the long run anyway so I suppose it's easier to use his surname but mine's nicer so I feel a wee bit sulky about the idea

I think ours will have DP's and my surname. Passing mine on is important to me. And they sound better together with mine last. Annoyingly his surname limits our first name choices quite a bit as lots of names that have the same sounds/letters in sound like a tongue-twister!

Oh I REALLY want to pass on my surname. Mine is lovely and his is boring, and unfortunately associated with a really crappy trilogy of best-selling soft porn books much to the hilarity of my friends.
My name just couldn't be a middle name - it wouldn't make sense and would sound odd. Not sure about using both, don't think I'm posh enough

Oh and escorpion please don't worry about it! We just decided a thread or so ago that we were far too old and grumpy for that particular phrase

Janey don't get me wrong, I'm pretty sure my surname really won't work as a middle name. For a start, it is very common as a surname and ends with an 's' which is just plain weird.

But it makes perfect sense to me and means we don't have to go down the double-barrelled route. My sister just got married and refused to take her husband's surname because 'she is too proud of our family'.

He took it well, considering, tho it was awkward going through the wedding cards when it got to cheques written it what should have been her new name! She is planning to double-barrel their kids and tbh they're nice complementary names. Her hubby will allow that.

My OH has experience with this, hence his reluctance to double-barrell ours - he has a child from a previous relationship. He was double-barrelled then mum dropped the second half, meaning the child now shares a name with no-one (mum has married, half brothers and sister have family name) I think it's really harsh on him.

The name is such a difficult thing! Our baby will obviously have my married name but when I was engaged I agonised over whether to keep my name or not and only decided to take DH's name because I wanted us all to have the same name when we stared a family and our 2 names double barrelled sounded ridiculous.

A word to those who are planning to get married and change their name at some point though. My Step Sis already had a child from a previous relationship when she met and married my Bro in Law. As soon as she changed her name she had no end of trouble going through customs with a child with a different name to them, and as she lives abroad so this was quite regular. All is fine now as they all have the same name but for years she had to go being taken to an interrogation room before they would let her through!

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.

I took DH name which I don't really like as it was never an option for him. I was married before and didn't take his name and there was always a joke it was because I knew it was doomed. So I had no chance.
Baby will have same surname. Just need to find a name that suits it. Hard though!

Quickly logging on to add my details.

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.

Hope you're all well!

Winkle, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec

Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think!
( on phone so can't copy and paste)

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
Winkle, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

I'm loving seeing all these 38s with their BFPs.

Oh I'm 33

Just checking in - sounds like you've been having fun worrying about names! I've been away all weekend so need to catch up on all the posts! Was good to get away and forget about ttc for a few days... Roughly ov/dtd week this week (managing to lay off the POAS so far- cold turkey is the way forward)

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
Winkle, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Adding myself in (it's going to be an eventful Xmas eve)

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
Winkle, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Oh Crikey, looks like i'm the one who may keep you all guessing till 2013 lol

Talking about surnames, when we got married last year I didn't know what to do, I love my maiden name but I wanted any children (if we're lucky) to have same name as me and the father! I keep my maiden name for work! It was the strangest thing in the world to lose the name I'd had for 31 years, I'm still clinging onto it, haven't changed my driving licence yet!

Hi ladies - I'm new to MN and have been reading the threads and trying to learn the lingo! Please can I join you? We've been TTC since April. We actually got engaged about a week before Kate M and Wills - I was hoping the baby news would be in sync too but sadly not! Anyway, I've put my details below:
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec

Mulberry welcome to the Elderberries!

We need some new ones! Welcome

Bunny I know, I guess it would have been different if I got married at 18 and didn't already have a long professional career with this name, but I was 31 as well. So I did double-barrel, but I never use DHs name anywhere really and don't react if someone addresses me as Madame Hisname. It's always "What, who, no I'm not...no wait, yes I am!"

Also my last name starts with B, his with M, and some studies have shown that people with beginning-of-aphabet surnames do better in life, www.psmag.com/culture/abcs-of-the-queue-28417/. So if we would want to give the kids all advantages, they simply have to have my name.

That's a really interesting article Hazle, I've not heard that before. I've heard about Sept/Oct/Nov babies doing better in life so our Summer baby is apparently already damned to a life of inadequecy and failure

Both DH and I have (had) names which put us at the back of the queue. We are both from very working class backgrounds and yet our household income falls within the UK top 1% (if that's a measure of success?) so I am pleased to see we are trend breakers

Oh, and welcome Mulberry!

Rach yes I've read those studies about birth months as well. Healthwise summer is already not that bad compared to March-April, but yes, October would be better. It's suggested that has to do with sunlight (lack of) during pregnancy, so if we take some beach holidays during this winter, the kids should hopefully be allright.

As for doing well, not entirely sure about the school system in UK, but the kids born in summer would be the youngest in class, the August baby would go to school basically a year earlier then the September one, is that correct? So could simply be the case that the kid was not ready yet and never cathces up. Any flexibility, can you keep them home for another year if you want to or is the school mandatory? (I went to school a year earlier as well and was always the best in class, but we start formal school at 7, so 6 in my case. Quite a difference from 4)