Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

[Bunnygirlie]

Ladies, Time for a new thread for us oldies (well not that old) TTC number 1 and our MN friends who have their BFP but are still coming along for the ride :-)

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF due end Nov
Winkle, ttc 15 months, BFP due 19/11
Zombies, ttc 2 cycles, erratic cycle, PCOS. Next POAS not before 15 December.
Pipbin, ttc 15 cycles, BFP due 27/11
BraveLilBear TTC cycle 1 after early mc, BFP due 18/11

Aquarius, 32, ttc 8 mths, bfp due mid dec
Happylass TTC cycle 3 BFP due 8/12
Janey, 38, six weeks pg
Rach, 34, PG 7+5. Booking appointment on Wednesday.
Quod, 33, six weeks pg
HazleNutt 8 weeks pg

Sorry if I missed anyone :-)

Well bloody hell, THAT was stressful!! But thank fuck everything is ok

The appointment ran an hour late so I had an extra hour to work myself up into a frenzy of worry while at the same time trying not to think about my burstingly full bladder. It was so full after all the waiting that the Sonographer nearly had to send me to empty it so she could see anything at all!

But there was our little bean on the screen, measuring 9+3 with a nice strong heartbeat and he even gave us a little wiggle which was amazing to see. I am not generally a particularly emotional person, and even pregnancy hormones haven't softened me up that much, but I struggled to hold it together when she told us everything is fine. I am sooooo relieved! Only 2.5 weeks until our next scan

That's great that they're seeing you tomorrow Janey. My symptoms disappeared in the middle of last week so it apparently does not indicate any problem. Still impossible not to worry though.

Oh rache, it had been so long I was starting to get really worried. I was literally checking in every ten minutes during my lunch break! Don't even know you, but welled up when I read that (oooh, hoping it's pg hormones not just me being soft). What a horrid, horrid weekend and how horribly stressful for you both, am absolutely delighted for you that all is OK.

PHEW and congratulations

Thanks Janey. I think this was more stressful than waiting for my GCSE, A Level, Degree results and Driving Test all rolled into one!

Oh so glad to hear everything is fine!

It's such good news Rache. You must be beyond relieved.
I'm still here in shock. Not told DH yet as want to do it face to face and did test after he left for work!!!

And according to this,
sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general
the chances of MC at 9 weeks after a heartbeat has been detected is 0.5%. I know it it stupid to count my chickens but I can't help thinking this also is good news.

Lol I think it's good that you have time to get over the initial shock yourself before telling DH. I told mine a minute later in a really rubbish way, at least you have time to think up a lovely way to tell him the wonderful news

So relieved to hear that all is well Rach. Now relax and look after yourself!

Fantastic news Rache! So pleased for you And yup, the stats are pretty good

Blol how are you going to tell him? First time, I didn't tell him for ages - I inked a rock that I picked up on holiday with 'Baby xxx ' and 'Made in Greece' on the back because it was a holiday baby. I wrapped it up and gave it to him as a present but he totally didn't get it!

Last week, OH was taking aaaages in the bathroom so I dashed in straight after him then had to yell to him to wait as he was literally about to leave the house for work! Staggered out of the bathroom in shock and told him on the stairs. Drama fail, but he looked happy and much less confused!

Ooh good point Brave (loved your rock idea btw, although hilarious he couldn't work it out!) - as you've had time to think about it blol you can do something memorable to tell him. As opposed to me - running into the bedroom at 6am and putting all the lights on, with a pee-covered stick in my hand, muttering "I THINK I can see a line...". DP said I was shaking when he took the stick off me!

Rache - those statistics must be very reassuring. Fingers crossed I get a heartbeat too - am 8 weeks tomorrow so if all is OK it would put me with 4.2% chance I think. Aargh, I have the fear, but things being OK with you have made me feel a little more brave....

How do you think you'll tell him blol?

I don't know how to tell him. He is out with friends tonight and doesn't get in until about midnight!!! So I might even be asleep!!!
Was thinking of letting him come to bed and spoon me then put his hand on my belly and tell him there is a baby!

I sent DH a photo to his mobile of the Clearblue Digital and wrote "Your boys can swim!"

Hey guys :)

Good news Rache and I hope everything goes to plan for everyone! I'm going to scuttle off the thread I think. 7 days to get my hopes up, only for AF to show up at work today :( Getting to me a bit now, so will be lurking and wish y'all the very best!
Sazz x

I'm sorry sazza - hope you get your BFP soon...

hazle - love the way you told him! Lots of my friends have said that their DP's/DH's response was along the lines of "it works!" or "yep, well done me". My sister in law said my brother had been our for a few drinks for his work christmas do and even patted himself on the back when she told him!

Lol at the self-congratulating men - I had one of those too! No wonder they think that conception/pregnancy/childbirth is easy - they only do one tiny bit and they're guaranteed a good time doing it!

Blol I just got goosebumps at that - what a wonderful way to tell him

Janey Thanks! I loved the rock idea, too. Just like when not totally freaking out about telling people I'm thinking of getting some books for my family for Christmas - like an aunty book for my two sisters, a grandma book for my mum and a grandad book for my dad and letting them open them up as a way of 'telling them'. OH says that's a total cop out and I'm completely selfish for not just telling them! Think he's keen on zero ambiguity...

Really sorry about AF sazza come back and say hi when you're feeling up to it - we'll still be here...

Rach I have been worrying about you all day, what a relief to hear everything is fine. Janey I am hoping you get the same reassurance from your private scan tonight. It must be so difficult not to worry but like everyone else has said these symptoms are fickle things.

Blol it must have been bizarre keeping the news to yourself all day and not cracking and calling him. I had to tell mine via FaceTime as we were in different countries and time zones at the time!

Sazzy sorry to hear you are bowing out this month.

Oh Rache, I am so pleased for you - it's so worrying when odd stuff happens

Janey - hope everything goes well for you - fingers x

Congrats Lol - let's hope that starts a whole load of BFPs!

Welcome MrsMustard.

I'm mainly counting down the days till I leave work (why is everything about counting days in my world?!) - then we're off to the mountains after xmas for a few months - maybe the change of scenery will bring a BFP. Or at least it will be way less depressing when it doesn't!

Quick question: I have been doing Zumba and ballroom dancing for the last year. Zumba twice a week for an hour and dancing two hours. Do u think its ok to continue?
DH just called asking how my day was and said I sound tired!
I def recommend adding B to your names girls!!!!

Rache - PHEW!
Janey really hoping I can have the same reaction to your scan - thinking of you!
I'm definitely feeling unusual today - hard to describe quite what I mean by that, but I'm hoping it's a sign of impending BFP and I am going to ignore obvious AF symptoms in total denial keep thinking positive (!) until AF turns up. Only a week til I can test! (a weeeeeeeek.. can't believe how slow the 6 days since OV have gone! feels like a month!)

navis mountains sound lovely! Jealous!
Blol I do remember reading something about exercise being fine as long as your heart-rate doesn't go over a certain level, but I'm sure the PG ladies on the thread will have more useful info. I guess it's largely up to how you feel? If you're tired, give yourself a break..

Lol - yep, as Moll says, exercise is good - but I think there is something about making sure you don't raise your body temperature too much - I think that's why it's fine to carry on with whatever exercise you do already but not start something new...

Lol it's fine, unless your doc tells you differently. Remember to drink a lot. I actually teach several fitness classes like Bodypump, combat and zumba and am not planning to stop any time soon.

As captain and navis said, it is not recommended to start anything new - well, new intensive classes, you are of course allowed to start with pregnancy yoga and similar.

Welcome MrsMustard.

Brilliant news Rache so glad everything is ok.

Spotting has slowed to what seems like EWCM with spotting mixed in. Still sure AF will be here tomorrow.

Janey I've had the procedure your friend is going to have. Tell her not to worry too much. Like an uncomfortable smear if nothing else really.
When I went though I took DH with me but he had to wait in the main waiting area while I went off to a smaller one where I got changed. So I'm not sure how much you are going to see your friend. Also there is a nurse on hand with a cup of tea afterwards!
Still I hope you get your scan sorted.

Ok, so I was being ridiculous, all is ok. Don't remember ever being this relieved, or this happy.

Saw the heartbeat, heard the heartbeat (didn't happen last time) and it measured to the exact day (didn't happen last time). So apparently in very lucky that I just don't have any symptoms

Thanks for all the messages

Just seen your post pip - thank you. Not expecting to be with get at he time, bit instead to drive her home after and be there for support if it's not good news...

Fantastic news Janey, I'm really relieved for you!
All in all a good day for the Elderberries - two heartbeats and a BFP.