First fertility appointment

[Charlotte321]

Hi, I've just had my first fertility appointment and they think I have PCOS (have had this suspected before). They've asked me to come back for a HyCoSy scan to check my tubes - has anyone had this and it this a good/safe way to check them? I asked if there was a chance I'll ovulate naturally and the doctor said no, so no point doing the day 21 test. Was anyone else told that from the start?

Hi there, is the procedure you're having fully called a 'Hysterosalpingogram' or something like that?

If so, I can tell you more - just let me know. I know it for short as a HSG.

Hi, I thought it was the HSG as had read about that on here but then I googled and it seems to be different so I'm not sure why I'm having that and not the HSG (eek!) Were your tubes all clear? Did you then go on to clomid?

My tubes were clear; uterus fine. We were 'Unexplained Infertility' and went on Clomid. I conceived DD2 on our 6th cycle. She's almost 7mo now, so it was all worth it, although it's extremely rough going at the time x

I thought clomid was supposed to help you ovulate if you're not ovulating (to kick start it), I didn't realise they give it to people who are ovulating already. Maybe I've got that wrong. Did they say why? I'm hoping I'll get the all clear on my tubes, the consultant said my uterus didn't look normal on the initial scan he did but he can't tell for sure yet, feeling so anxious about it all. He kept talking about IVF but I really hope I can try clomid before that x

Clomid was a stab in the dark, I think. It's aim was to produce one or two strong, ripe eggs, as we were young (me late 20s, DH early 30s) and had been trying for 2years.

There seemed nothing wrong with my reproductive bits; DH's sperm mobility, motility and morphology was fine. So, I think the Clomid acted as a bit of a kick up the arse.

There are lots of avenues to consider before IVF, such as IUI. Be les by your fertity specialists because they really do know what they're doing. If I was to go through fertility treatment, I would choose to have counselling. It's only in hindsight that I realise that the whole process broke me a little bit. I definitely was depressed; I was drinking more to cope; I isolated myself from friends. Partly, this was the whole unsuccessfully TTC thing, but the focus upon getting pregnant became engulfing when on Clomid.

If you need to talk, I'm happy to be here for you :) Good luck with everything xx

It's great it worked for you! I'm 31 soon and DH is 36 so am panicking a bit about how long this could all take - and whether it will ever even happen (can't bear thinking it won't). Fingers crossed they'll try clomid and it will work (am debating trying herbs first like agnus castus - a natural clomid apparently?). DH has no problems with his sperm, it's quite good apparently so we're really pleased about that (it's just my fault eek!)

It's so hard isn't it - I feel like no one understands how awful this is, friends and family are being amazing but I feel like I'm becoming a total misery guts a bit obsessed with worrying about it all. I don't want to depress people and feel like I need to be positive for DH as he's trying to be really optimistic, but inside I've just got this horrible fear. Anyway sorry to bang on and thanks for understanding. By the way, I didn't know you could take clomid for as long as 6 cycles? Could you have kept going until it worked? x

You can take Clomid for 6 cycles, and then some. I think you have to have a break, but you can take it more long-term depending on what's preventing you getting pregnant.

I don't know about in your case, as the follicle stimulating hormones in Clomid might affect PCOS in ways I don't know about. On the plus side I have heard that Clomid has high success rates in PCOS sufferers.

It's difficult not to think about getting pregnant when IT'S ALL YOU WANT but, try to relax about it. Just go about life like you're not TTC. The month that we conceived DD2, I was starting to come to terms that we might only be a threesome (my DH, DD1 and I); I felt like I was starting to accept it. And then I conceived DD2!

It's impossible, but you should try to not try, IYSWIM. I don't think people who haven't been through this can have any real idea how you're feeling. They can be empathetic, but it's difficult for them to know how soul-wreaking and wholly frightening the idea of not being able to have a baby is.

If you want to let off steam on here - go ahead x