Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

hey all

thanks for your advices earlier, I took them and got a referral to EPU. Baby fine turns out they can se my placenta on the scan now and it is over the cervix which is making me bleed whenever I do owt :) It should shift tho if it doesn't it means a CS but I don't care!

Dr who I had to speak to to refer me was the total twat who I saw when first pg (who congratulated me on being pg but was referring to my last, mc pg as he hadn't read my notes properly and then was cross with me for the rest of the appt). he was brutal about what kind of mc this would be at 15 weeks but still wouldn't refer me today. sicko. I fought him and got my referral though.

anyways.

tas go to your counselling, be well. mental health is just as important as sickness

thansk for today. what a horrid day but what a lovely ending.

wilde so relieved to hear everything's ok. You must be so glad that you went for a scan instead of going your homework.

Yay yay yay!!

Wilde phew! So glad all is ok, but what an absolute arse for a GP! Have you got the energy to complain?

I have called the specialist counsellor and left a MSG. I saw her before and it did help. Thanks, your messages have given me the impetus to do it. I've always fretted about babysitters for dd but I'm just going to beg favours and we'll work it out somehow.

Yay wilde! That doctor sounds like a right cock. I'd complain x

jolly I did do my homework, then did my scan

tas and backward I think I will have to complain about the GP. It is like he is a sociopath, he is so cold and shitty and sexist. If I wasn't me, and a PITA I would have waited till weds and be in bits tonight and, from what he said I would be fully expecting to have the most traumatic mc, while still being ignored er, by him. I asked him for help, he basically said, 'oh yes, you will need our help because these awful things will happen to you. But I am am not going to give it to you until weds after these awful things have happened.' bastard. And he never once called my baby a baby, but 'retained products of conception'. wtaf.

Anyway, am so happy tonight. I feel like for the first time since I started spotting at 6 weeks someone listened to me (EPU were just fab), and now I can actually be confident the baby really is ok and the spotting isn't heralding mc. It is huge.

good on you tas for ringing, that's quite a milestone.

wilde have I understood that your gp referred to your baby at 15 weeks as retained products of conception? and

It's a horrible expression anyway.

Would def complain and is there a way you could change gps?

Oh and so happy everything is ok.

wilde - so glad today had a happy ending for you
pebs - hope you're ok?
I've still not had any symptoms apart from feeling knackered and a poke-y feeling in my uterus, so feel like a bit of a fraud. Am 4+4 today so still v early days. Counting down to my 7 wk scan...
How are the other recent BFP-ers doing?

cog yes, he did. he never acted like I was vulnerable or sad or pg with a baby but with a banal thing that might be dead :(. He said worse than that about the situ, I couldn't repeat it it was too awful but DH was devastated by the state I was in when he got home.

he is not my GP thank god, but he was the on duty dr and even tho I said to the receptionist I did not want to deal with him again I had no choice unless i waited until late afternoon. I will have to say something but am dreading getting caught up in a fight, too hormonal and all that. but really, it's like he has no heart. He's the one that said even if everything is ok at the 12 week scan (at my 'hey I'm pregnant after a nasty mc' chat) it could still all be wrong at the 20 week scan - because I had picked him up on the mc he had just congratulated me on being pg with. he likes to be barry big bollocks. grrrrr.

but thanks :) will stop ranting about him now!

wilde so pleased you had the reassuring scan great news and what a complete prick that GP sounds awful!

tas I think chatting with an experienced pro in these things will really help.

yikes glad you're ticking along and not feeling too rough!

AFM had GP appt this morning, he was really reassuring about our hols and that he'll get us an early scan before, been feeling hideously rough (more so than the previous pg) so I'm hoping that's a good sign!

Hello to everyone I've missed

How are you today wilder?

Hoping you've had an ok night.

And I agree fully with a formal complaint regarding your Doctor. The Practice Manager is a good starting point. I'm sure there will have been other complaints about him if he's been that inappropriate with you.

Good luck & hoping things are better today.

hey all.

polka am so glad you are relaxed and happy about going on holiday :) enjoy!

cheese had a good nights sleep thanks and woke this morning feeling very happy and confident in my pregnancy yay. DH is looking after the house etc so am all lazy!

Is the EDD for the baby we mc'ed in april today though. aw. bit sad about that but also insanely grateful for this wee one too.

hows the pneumonia tas?

hope the new BFPs are ticking along wonderfully

it was the edd + 1 year for my baby i lost last year on sunday and i totally forgot. didn't realise until i came into work on monday and noticed the date. felt a bit bad but i do think about him a lot. hope you get through today ok wilde i agree with complaining about that idiot. it's a pain you have to see gp to get a referral to epu. i have never had a gp appointment in any of my pregnancies. the midwifes and epu sort it all out.

Enjoy your holiday polka could be your last one for a while! make sure you check out the travel insurance just in case.

feeling much better today. i have got my maternity jeans on and ordered some new maternity tights. my tights were really digging in yesterday.

quick dilemma for you all. i am going on a girls weekend this week. just staying in a cottage with one of my good friends and some of her friends/family who i know but not 'my friends' iykwim. one of those girls can't have children and has decided to adopt in the future. i haven't told my good friend yet as i wanted to tell her face to face. should i text her and let her know so she can warn the other girl or should i just tell them on friday and hope the other girl is ok with it. don't want to make her feel awkward all weekend if she is uncomfortable around pg people.

the girl in my office seems fine about my pg. i haven't really talked about it since my excitment on friday and see was asking me questions yesterday.

Blimey wilde what a day. So pleased you finally got the peace of mind you needed. I'm totally on the complain-about-GP-bandwagon here. I know you don't want a fight, but how would you feel if he did that to someone else? Someone you knew?

That, for me, is always the motivation I need to step up and make your thoughts known.

Btw - so impressed that you nailed your homework first! Babywilde is going to have nowhere to run when they would rather be playing on the Xbox etc instead of finishing off their maths!

Sorry for the EDD arrival

Great move tas I really hope it helps. I'm sure people will come through to assist with DD. Fx for you x

Polka awesome news about the early scan! Maybe Wilde should take your GP on loan, he sounds ace!

Hi to everyone else

Hi pebs I love how you're being really sweet and considerate with people about your good news. Is there any chance you could meet your friend face-to-face before Friday? Or at least talk on the phone? That might better than a text - plus, you can explain your concern about upsetting the other girl without it sounding like a really big deal.

While it may be painful to the other girl to see pregnant women, it's not as if (a) you can hide it anymore and (b) you're the only pregnant woman in the world. Your good friend may be better placed to know how she feels about pregnant ladies, so if you give her the option, I'm sure that'll be appreciated - would also give you a clue as to how to play it.

At the end of the day, I know you're being considerate, but you can't pretend like you're not pregnant for the fear of not upsetting someone - the fact that your colleague is being so nice suggests that you're playing it right, and that people have the capacity to feel happy for others, even if they feel sad for themselves.

That's my 2p worth anyway...

sigh

I was filling in the maternity forms for work and the midwife who filled in my matb1 (not my lovely usual midwife) has filled the date I'm expected to give birth in as the date my miscarried baby would have been due instead of my current due date. Way to go making me feel great...

oh backward. that's shit

brave yeah am a pain. DS can't ask a question without me being like 'Oh! how interesting, let's look that up' I am so boring. I was terrible at uni the first time tho, such a drunk barely went to lectures...

I will complain aye peeps, thanks for the encouragement. I have a week off from tomorrow aft so will have time to beat that drum. Am all worried about coming across as a hormonal, emotional pg woman with a beef tho, rather than composed and just cross am not good at this kind of thing but I know as a gobby person who doesn't take orders just because someone has a white coat I should stand up for me, and others.

ah pebs . Text your friend and let them know and she can then let her friend know if she thinks it is necessary? Though if the friend is going down the adoption route hopefully she'll have some peace with not having her own now, and with pg in general. Don't feel bad though. and wooo how lovely to have a girls weekend in a cottage! want one!

Oh ladies pls help me....... This afternoon everytime I wipe I have bright red blood with quite a bit of mucous, I'm not cramping and its only when I wipe but I'm fecking terrified. I'm 5wks5 today. My plan is if it continues thru the night that ill try and get a scan tomorrow but help, hand hold, help ladies.

:( polka thinking of you xx

Holding your hand tightly polka & hoping you can get a scan tomorrow. My EPAU take self-referrals but only after 48 hours of bleeding (although I've been seen both times within 24 hours)

Crossing everything for you xx

no cramps is a good sign. Hope you are ok polka, thinking of you x

Holding both your hands polka I agree with wilde that no cramping is a very good sign xx

polka another hand holder here.

Please phone your EPU first thing but also book at back up GP appointment in case your unit doesn't accept self referrals.

Remember lots of women bleed and go on to have healthy pregnancies.

Hope you manage to get some sleep

Thanks ladies you're ace, as no one knows in rl its even more scary as you all know. DH trying to be helpful and supportive in his own way! Still no cramping but i do have a teeny dull ache and its now more browny when wiping, so sorry for TMI but seeing as previously I had a mmc at 12wks with a dot of implantation at 6 wks, the red blood is new. Thanks again

I've got all my fingers & toes crossed for you polka, I really hope your baby is safe and sound in there. I hope you manage to get an EPU referral tomorrow to get it checked out. Worrying times, I know. Am so scared myself, just want to get past 10 weeks (where I got to last time) and then I might chill out a bit. Why oh why do some folk sail through pregnancy and others have non-stop worries?! xx