Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

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I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

I always think the cruellest thing about previous miscarriage(s) is that it totally takes your innocence and excitement out of future pregnancies. I'm starting to enjoy this one now that I'm past 24 weeks, but up until now, I've been very 'meh' about the whole thing x

I agree possum - you never get that innocence back. Or confidence in your pregnancy. Mmc are particularly cruel, as you have no idea anything is wrong.

I'm 14+5 & haven't really bought into this pregnancy yet. I'm beginning to feel movement which is a little reassuring. I'm dreading telling people eg work but I'm showing & can't avoid it for much longer....

Evening all. polka, thinking of you tonight. Hope tomorrow brings you good news.

wilde, that GP sounds appalling and I would definitely complain!

cheese, I know exactly how you feel about not "buying into" the pregnancy yet. I am 19 weeks tomorrow, bump is huge, everyone knows and I'm feeling movement daily now - but it still doesn't feel real and I'm still scared to get excited. I won't relax until this baby is here. 20 week scan next week and I'm so scared about that. We're going to find the sex out this time (had a surprise with ds) as I think it might help me get my head round everything a bit if I know the sex - might make it all a bit more real.

Another hand holder here polka try and get some rest - we all know that's easier said than done xx

polka good luck for today, am crossing everything for you.

Yes thinking of you Polka

Hope everything is ok polka i had a bit of bleeding for about a week early on and it was very worrying.

I am finding it difficult to 'buy into' this pregnancy as well. i am nearly 21 weeks but still haven't felt anything i can say was definatly the baby. i have an anterior placenta though which masks movements - thanks body! the people i have told at work are speaking like i am going on mat leave soon but i really can't believe that will happen yet.

i look pregnant - well i have a cute little bump so most people probably wouldn't notice but i think i do! just wish i could feel some movement to relax me a bit.

Hi all,

Totally missed the boat on wilde's stressful day - so glad that everything is ok and that you have an explanation for what's been going on...but bouldering what the hell were you thinking

Sending positive vibes to polka

I'm ok - still having some really tired and emotional days at 15+3

Mind if i join you? Feels polite to say hello as I've been lurking around this thread on and off for months now and will be doing so more regularly now.

I've had two mcs this past year while trying for our first and am now 4w0d with pregnancy number 3. Both mcs were at 5/6 weeks, so this doesn't feel real to me and I suspect it won't at least until I'm past 6 weeks. Very comforting, though sad, to see many of you feel the same way.

And having read back a few paged now, sending best thoughts to you polka. Know several people this has happened to and had it turn out fine - hope it will for you, too.

Hey polka sorry I missed you yesterday afternoon - how are you doing today? Have you managed to get an appointment with EPU? Sending you every positive thought in the world.

Hi there HJ Beans sorry you join us but you're very welcome. And congratulations on your current pregnancy! Fx this one sticks.

I lost my last pg at 5 and a half weeks... And I just found out this morning that I'm pg again. Shocked and a little scared but the line was strong so I'm allowing myself the merest hint of excitement

HJBeans hello and welcome. You'll be very welcome on this thread and am sure you'll find it a great source of support.

I'm in a very similar position to you. I'm 4+2 with pregnancy number 5. First resulted in DD and then had two very early losses and a blighted ovum at 8 weeks . I really don't hold out much hope for this one either but trying to stay positive (and trying to stay away from the sticks).

Good luck and sending you lots of strength. To get you through the next few weeks.

Hi ladies thx for your kind thoughts, sadly bleeding got worse thru the night so am not very hopeful for a positive outcome, GP trying to arrange scan on fri when I'll be 6 wks life is a complete BIATCH not only does it take me nearly 5 yrs to conceive then i have a mmc and now this in 9 months, bloody body!

Welcome to bear and YEY for beans

Oh Polka I'm so sorry to hear that you never know, there may still be hope. But I know it's going to be hard to cling on to that if things are getting worse.

polka do you have any cramping chuck? if not it is a good sign, bleeding could be from a clot or cyst or something around the baby. fingers tightly crossed x

Not cramping wilde but just a bit achy.

brave did you sneak in a BFP announcement?! congratulations! fingers crossed for you too :)

spade I wasn't bouldering I was clambering up a hill with, ahem, boulders. I know, I know but in my defense I am normally a very active person and had a burst of energy and love for being in the wild outdoors and a funny little 2 year old who needed a climb too! I won't do it again now I know it means trouble :)

welcome beans sorry for your loss, and good luck!

ah guys, I totally know what you mean about buying into your pgs. I am into mine hook, line and sinker now though. Bizarrely, after thinking I was going to lose my urchin the other day and starting that grieving process it made me realise how attached I was, really. I am openly smitten now.

thinking of you polka

wilde maybe

Didn't want to be whatever the opposite of a buzzkill is by glossing over bad news with something that is a bit happier... Thank you for the crossed fingers. Am slightly scared tbh. But will hope and be as positive as possible.

So glad you're finally bought in let's hope you can start to enjoy it a bit more now and the little urchin behaves

Polka don't give up hope completely, hope Friday's scan brings good news.

Brave, ooh! Congrats! This is proving a lucky thread for bfps.

Hi beans, hope this bean is a sticky one for you.

I know what you all mean about not investing in the pg, I'm in a weird place, half way between loving my bean bump and not being able to properly engage with the pg. the bump is getting v noticeable, when I turn up at work after a month off sick, I'm going to raise some eyebrows!

I just got a txt from a friend congratulating me on my pg. a mutual friend told her and I feel a bit weird about it. I didn't specifically tell the mutual friend not to tell anyone, but with the last 2 she knew quite early and I remember her being quite discreet. I suppose I am 16 wks now. I just feel a bit weird. I haven't even told work yet as I've been off for so long. Am I being silly? I just can't quite face telling people. I told this particular friend after the dating scan as she had asked if I was ok, as I had seemed a bit off lately. I had been off as I'd been so stressed and under the weather and I wanted to explain. Anyway, what do you all think?

fingers crossed polka. how are you doing now? are you at home resting x

tas I am starting to wish everyone wasn't being so discreet Everyone is being all tight lipped and asking every so often on text if I am 'ok'. I just want them to chill now and be like, yeah whatevs is just Wilde being pg! How BANAL. so am the total opposite :) !

does seem a bit like you expected your friend to be more discreet but if you didn't SAY keep it a secret then... hmmm. hmm.

Yup I've just slept by the fire most of the day and DH has been amazing tho he's still very hopeful even when I'm sure it's curtains. S'pose only time/scan will tell

glad you have rested up. keep doing that. Hope the bleeding is easing off and will be thinking of you on friday

polka . Fingers crossed for Friday. Don't give up hope. I've several friends who have bled quite heavily in early pregnancy with a good outcome. Worrying times.

brave missed your BFP announcement there. Many congrats. A strong line - I want one of those!

What a roller coaster week it's been on this thread.

Thinking of you polka xx