Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

Hi jolly how's things this morning with your tests? Hope you have a clear answer x

Not really cheese am driving myself crazy. I should be 13 DPO today. Did a FRER with FMU and was much paler than yesterday. Repeated with SMU and about the same as yesterday! Think I was hoping for a stonking line today.

I am behaving like a madwoman. I have written the days on the tests with a marker pen and keep going back to have another look. This extreme metalling isn't healthy I know . I'm going to take DD to the park In a minute and bin the tests in the dog poo bin en route!!

I'm convinced this is another chemical pregnancy. I told DP yesterday that I might be pregnant again and he told me to relax, not to get my hopes up and retest in a week!! If only.

Anyhow enough from me. I think I may need to avoid mumsnet and the Internet for a couple of days.

jolly take a deep breath :) You have lines! lines mean that you are pregnant! congratulations!

Maybe step away from the sticks if you can and relax just a weeny bit? every day you don't get your period you are that bit more pg, that is a HPT in itself eh? and FWIW I always, always get a stronger line with mid morning wee, a few hours after i get up; my FMU barely got a line! really weird. I tested the day after my decent BFP (also not FMU) with 6am wee and had barely a line. was crushed, thought another cp was on its way. tested again at 10.30 and had a much better one. Lines didn't get darker steadily each day and after day four I stopped testing and just prayed AF didn't show (still hasn't!) so FMU not always brill tho think this is unusual.

anyway. congratulations my lovely!

congrats Jolly, a line is a line! X

*Jolly it's times like this you wish you could switch your brain off!

FWIW, you've had at least 2 positive HPT's - you cannot get a false positive, only a false negative.

So, unless you start bleeding/AF - you ARE pregnant.

Definitely step away from the sticks, for at least 48 hours.

Remember: what will be, will be x

jolly I hope the fresh air in the park did the trick!

I saw my reflexologist on Friday who recommended I eat LOADS of sweet potatoes as they have loads of progesterone in them (just I see the skin) so it's sweet pot soup followed by sweet potatoe roasties for weeks

We drive ourselves mad don't we jolly?! Sounds like a pg to me too...least you'll know for sure in a few more days. Hang on in there!

Popping in quickly to say a very whispered congratulations to jolly - hope you get through the next few days without going mad.

how you doing today jolly?

hope everyone had a nice weekend and BFPs are embedding nicely :)

I have had a SHIT morning! Have had more, redder spotting over the past few weeks and days and this morning woke to bright red blood and a clot :( Some cramping but not too bad and could be constipation so trying not to dwell on it. Since clot has come out tho I have stopped bleeding and all my pg symptoms are still in force... Rang MWs said to ring GP and get to EPU but won't as can't face another GP/scan trip, but will wait it out as it seems to be ok now... if mc kicks off will get to A and E. does that sound sensible to you folks? am 15 weeks tomorrow, if I am going to mc I do NOT want to do this at home alone :(

Anyway, part of me desperately hopes that a super busy, active weekend (energy returned, I overdid it as am shattered today, just want to lie down. I climbed boulders yesterday.. . oops!) disloged this clot that, hope byond hope, has been the cause of the spotting and now all the spotting will calm down. I just hope. Does that sound at all likely? I had red blood, the clot, then pink blood straight after and then brown and now nothing. Hope beyond hope.

bah. this pregnancy business is hard work! Oh to be 37 weeks! or even 24 weeks and viable!

got a project deadline for tomorrow aft then a week off so am working my socks off for that to a) take mind off possible mc (which shows it must have calmed down as if I was mc'ing I would NOT be working!) and b) get to my week off without letting anyone down, and then CHILL.

be well ladies, I hope you have all had very uneventful (apart from conceptions and dtd!) weekends :)

Hope you're ok wilde sounds scary x

wilde what a morning-i think it sounds like a clot that's just shifted due to boulder climbing, he no more cramps now then doesn't sound like mc to me. Just keep an eye on how you're feeling and don't be scared of scan, it could reassure you xx

If not he...stupid phone!

wilde i would go for the scan in your position just to see what is happening. can you not ring the gp and get them to refer you straight to epu without a gp appointment.

it's probably nothing to worry about and like you said that clot might have been causing spotting and now it's gone but if it is a mc you don't want to have a late mc at home.

you sound like you are not too worried so i see that as a good sign.

thanks ladies, I really appreciate your time and thoughts. I don't know what to do. TBH I have to finish my first complete draft of my PhD for tomorrow aft, then I have a week off while it is marked. I think for now I must get that done and then I can see about my baby knowing that if I have got a problem I can deal with it fully.

Might sound crackers but Uni don't know am pg again and am so nearly there I might as well finish while am not in any pain. If the bubs has died then there is shit all i can do about that and the moment I find that out I will be finished for quite a while. Would be good to at least get my work out of the way as I will be free to grieve then.

how very practical

how shit is it to be so practical about these things?

my bump is aching at the top today. i don't like it as i had this pain in my pg which ended in mmc at 20 weeks. hoping it's nothing but it's not nice.

will ring my midwife if it is still achng later.

it is shit, pebs and pretty sad when I realise i am just holding it together until tomorrow aft when I finish work and it will all start to hit me. I will have to start getting the ball rolling with EPU etc i suppose because I don't think I can go to my 16 week appt next tues wondering if I am still pg! listening in will be hellish. shit bugger tits.

i do wish I had a doppler you know. It could all be fine!

sure your bumpy is ok, but understand your worry!

Hi wilde so sorry you're having drama. Really hope you're ok. Good luck with the first draft. Yes it's practical, but I would agree that's probably best - but if you get any red flag symptoms, please please consider dropping work and getting things sorted first.

Fx for you (on both fronts).

Jolly I don't know what to say. Sending you love and luck and POAS resistability. I think your OH is being very sensible - not that that will make you feel any better, I know.

Stay positive pebs give the mw a call - sounds like they're treating you so well, I'm sure they'll be able to offer some advice or reassurance...

AFM, well, AF still taunting me. Stronger AF pains every day, still no sign. Just want to reset the clock so I can focus on getting a Christmas BFP.

wilde and pebs what can I say? You both know that the likelihood is that all is well but it doesn't stop the worrying.

wilde don't stress yourself out too much. If you can't finish the draft am sure you will be able to get an extension in your circumstances. I know it would be nice to be able to draw a line under your Phd before your week off - just don't overdo it in the process.

AFM - haven't tested today but am still slightly freaked by the fact that some of my later tests were so pale. I've had about 7 BFPs in all so am in no doubt about there being a line - just concerned about a lack of progression. I've been in this position before too many times . No more tests in the house so am going to try to hold out for a few days. AF due today.

jaffa a lovely image of you snuggling with a newborn x

Ps brave are you going to test soon? I'm an excellent advertisement of why you should not test early!

Hey Jolly I'm impressed at your resolve!

I refused to test early after last time. Well I say last time, I lost that at 5+2 and hadn't tested til a day late and still, when you google chemical pregnancy, it makes out that you're only upset because you tested early and if you hadn't tested early then you'd never have known and therefore it's all your own fault.

Which I bitterly, bitterly resent. I already feel like a total fraud being on this thread as so many people (no-one here, I might add, just a general google-supplied perception of medical world) don't class chemical pregnancies as 'proper' pregnancies and therefore 'proper' miscarriage.

Sorry for the rant, and I know so many people have have experiences a million times worse than mine, but my experience still had a significant impact on me.

Anyway. I really hope you get some clarity soon.

If still nothing by Wednesday, I'll test then. But honestly, I know I'm not pregnant. Like last time, I woke up one morning, and knew something had gone wrong. Next day, mc started.

brave I think I tried to deal with my chemical pregnancy by not classing it as a 'proper pregnancy'. I was then doubly devastated when I had my second MC (blighted ovum) at 8 .

Fingers crossed for the both of us (and Wilde and pebs)

i am feeling a bit better now. just took the belt off my normal (not maternity) dress. is there a dick head icon!

i am going to catch an earlier train home tonight and have a chill out anyway.

Jolly when i use ic's the line doesn't get darker for ages. i was expecting the line to be darker each day and panicked.

pebs glad you're feeling better. Belts will soon be a thing of the past.

Hi pebs sounds v normal to me, had that with dd who is nearly 4yrs old now. Totally understandable that you're worried, can you speak to your midwife?

I'm madly stressing about everything, can't sleep and I feel like shit. I thought I was getting my anxiety under control but after the pneumonia, I'm wobbling. Wondering whether I should call and ask to speak to a bereavement midwife. Though I feel like a bit of a fraud cos I see them as there for people who've had late losses. I've just had a mmc and ectopic, though all in the past year so it has been intense.

Wilde, sounds like it's all getting better. I completely understand the feeling of needing to get things out of the way first. I was exactly the same with my ectopic, I didn't even do a test til the weekend even though I knew I was pg. I needed to get stuff done that week and I knew I'd need energy for what was coming. Though I would really get to the Epau ASAP. You can get looked after there, a&e isn't a nice place to be with a pg problem.

Jolly hope you're doing ok

Hi to everyone else

tas don't ever feel like a fraud you've had a shit time. Whether or not you fall strictly under the remit of your bereavement midwife, I think it may be worth getting in touch. They could point you in the direction of a specialist counsellor. Don't underestimate how long it takes to recover from pneumonia either. Xx