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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

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Jollyb · 06/11/2012 18:04

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

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LadyFlumpalot · 15/11/2012 22:57

Hi all, thank you all for making me feel so welcome! I've just got to get through next Wednesday, the date that was booked for my 12 week scan - then I'll be fine.

Tis lovely to (virtually) meet you all.

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Jollyb · 16/11/2012 08:42

Did another FRER this am and there was the faintest of faint lines. 11DPO. Oh bloody hell. Half wish I had waited until Monday as really not sure I can cope with another chemical pregnancy. I didn't even tell my DP this am as it was so pale and we've had so many false starts.

Ok what to do now. Head telling me to wait til Monday but of course I'm not going to be able to do that. Maybe another FRER on Sunday. I can't face doing a digi yet as am still haunted by my MC. Confused

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Jollyb · 16/11/2012 08:46

I meant to say welcome to Mrs Flumpalot (love your name too). Hope you're feeling ok. Don't underestimate how exhausting miscarrying can be.

As for when to try again I think we started as soon as the bleeding stopped. I did keep testing until I got my BFN though which took around 4 weeks after my MC at 8 weeks.

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cogitosum · 16/11/2012 10:19

Congrats on bfp jolly crossing fingers for you that it sticks

lotsofcheese · 16/11/2012 10:28

jolly that's how my current (succesful, currently 14 weeks)pregnancy started...

I'd still be testing tomorrow even if Sunday or Monday is more sensible!! I used CBD once a week till 5 weeks then saw GP.

Good luck - have everything crossed for you!! Xx

cogitosum · 16/11/2012 10:47

cheese I've just bought 2 more double packs of CBD Blush

wilderumpus · 16/11/2012 10:48

welcome lady and so sorry to hear about your mc. look after yourself won't you.

jolly tentative woo for you! 11dpo is really early so don't be surprised it is faint! Don't do a digi test yet noooooo, i never actually brought myself to do one as seeing 'not pg' would have floored me (even tho clearly am). Hang on in there and try not to test again at lunchtime and later today as I would most certainly would have with my IC cheapies Grin fingers crossed for you! oooh!

pebspop · 16/11/2012 14:23

whispering congrats to jolly as line is a line!

i have told my collegues today and am quite excited. i feel a bit bad as i know someone in my office is struggling with fertility issues. will try to stop talking about it but people are getting me excited.

i might be back to stressed out soon anyway and not want to talk about it. just feel a bit guilty even though it's not like i haven't had more than my fair share of problems.

wilderumpus · 16/11/2012 15:19

you came out to work pebs! am so happy for you, what a milestone :)

ImAbbs · 16/11/2012 15:20

Positive thinking ladies. Pixie between you and your OH have already 3 DDs but can see your want to make family complete fx for you

BraveLilBear · 16/11/2012 16:48

Pebs first a boy, then coming out in the office! What a couple of days! So pleased for you Grin be excited for now, enjoy it. There's bound to be more metalling round the corner at some point, so make the most of the feelgood right now.

And wow - oh my gosh Jolly How exciting! Totally understand your fear though. Keep us in the loop - we're here every which way

Hi to LadyFlump sorry you're here but these ladies are amazing - turned a huge corner emotionally with their help as no-one in RL knew what was going on.

Dorita75 · 16/11/2012 17:15

Ooo jolly I really hope it's your month! Sounds like it, I'd agree with a Sunday test Wink

pebs you have earned the right to enjoy the excitement from coming out. Having been thru what you have, you'll know when to be calm about it so as not to upset anyone else but you are allowed to be happy xx

AF, the old cow, rocked up today bang on time so that's one good thing and I'm looking forward to trying out my clearblue digital ovulation kit next time!

Have a good wkend everyone, I'm having a glass or 2 of vino tonightSmile

LadyFlumpalot · 16/11/2012 18:00

Hey, I'm being well looked after, and I do already have one beautiful little 2yr old boy so I feel a bit guilty for feeling down, I've already been given one child - I feel it's a tadge greedy to be sad about losing one.

That made sense in my head.

Anyways, I'm definately getting my libido back, and starting to look forward to trying again.

Did anyone else have a sort of premonition before their miscarriage? I really struggled to have any excitement or emotion at all about being pregnant after about 6 weeks. In fact, my other half got very cross at me because I kept saying that I was sure something was wrong, and that I'd get to the 12 week scan and there wouldn't be a heartbeat. Even my mum said today that she had felt something was wrong.

Polka2 · 16/11/2012 20:38

jolly (quietly whispering) YEY YIPPEE!!!

cogitosum · 16/11/2012 21:11

Yes lady I had exactly that. In fact I can pinpoint the moment I think I lost it. I woke up and told dh something had happened... Everyone including drs told me I was being ridiculous but had scan and unfortunately I was right. I had one scan with heartbeat and it was after that I felt negative for some reason.

lotsofcheese · 16/11/2012 21:25

Yes, lady I spent a lot of time googling "missed miscarriage" in my last pregnancy.

The night before I found out, I had the strongest feeling of impending doom, like the world was crashing down. I woke up the next morning & had the tiniest fleck of blood when I wiped. I just knew I wasn't pregnant any more & a scan confirmed a mmc at 9ish weeks, despite a heartbeat at 8+5.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 16/11/2012 22:01

jolly, eek how exciting! Smile

pebs brilliant news on your little boy and telling work.

hi ladyflump sorry to hear about your MMC. I had one last Nov (a year tomorrow since that horrible 12 wk scan). I did know deep down that something was wrong, I know exactly when the baby died, I felt so so dreadful, kind of ill and exhausted but beyond any pg exhaustion I've ever felt (been pg 5 times). But because I had no pain or bleeding and I didn't know what a MMC was (lucky me!) I assumed that everything had to be ok. Anyway, it gets easier with time.

oo00PIXIE00oo · 17/11/2012 00:16

Hi abbs not sure what you meant by your message - yes my oh has 2 dds from a previous relationship who live about 144 miles away (though don't recall ever mentioning them on here before) I have a 9 year old of my own from a previous relationship.

Should that stop me trying again - should that stop us being absolutely devastated when we fail??

Being pg before the first mc made us realise how much we both want a baby and will keep trying

oo00PIXIE00oo · 17/11/2012 00:20

Oooooo jolly Envy Grin will make sure I checkin over the weekend for an up date fingers crossed babe xx

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Jollyb · 17/11/2012 08:32

Not looking promising here. Of course I couldn't resist and did an Internet cheapy last night- BFN. Did another this am and BFN. They're meant to be the supersensitive ones detecting bhcg levels of 10 so have a bad feeling.

Going to buy a couple of FRERs today and will retest tomorrow am but I think I have to be realistic and accept this month isn't the one.

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Jollyb · 17/11/2012 10:28

Oh FFS just did another FRER and there's a line. Possibly slightly darker than yesterday's and not with FMU (but still very faint!).

I'm going crazy here. One minute thinking and hoping I'm pregnant and the next despairing.

I need some straight talking. No more Internet cheapies and no more testing at 10pm. Fortunately FRERs are 3 for 2 at the moment and so I've stocked up.

pebs such a big step for you to come out at work. I'm the complete opposite when it comes to pregnancy and my MCs. I tend to overshare. I get an controllable urge to tell people.

Hope everyone else is ok.

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JaffaSnaffle · 17/11/2012 14:35

Hi,

Just wanted to pop in and say congrats on all the BFP.

jolly, ICs are always faint, in my experience. Early testing is so hard, but just try and be strong and stick it out for a few more days... FRER are better quality, and a line is a line. We all know on here that that is not a certainty, but every day that goes by makes a difference. I know it is so very hard, but try to distract yourself any old how and get through this weekend. And do your next test with FMU for your own peace of mind. Big hugs love, I think you are pregnant!

pebs I'm so pleased for you! A boy, and confidence to tell the office in one week. I'm sure you were sensitive to the person with fertility problems, but you have more than had your share of hard times, enjoy this as much as you can.

And manda, a sneaky last 2ww. :) Things have a way of working out for the best, and our desires and wishes are not always immediately obvious to ourselves x

I've got a 19 day old asleep accross my lap. Never thought it would happen, so happy it did

tasmaniandevilchaser · 17/11/2012 15:33

hi jaffa! You had your baby! So pleased for you Smile, it gives me faith it's all worth the wait and the stress

jolly step away from the sticks, you're driving yourself mad! A line is a line!

lotsofcheese · 17/11/2012 17:23

Lovely to hear from you Jaffa - Enjoy your beautiful bubba.

Jolly - wow, the rollercoaster continues! My advice: only use FRER on 1st morning urine. And collect urine in a container rather than trying to POAS - good luck!!

Dorita75 · 18/11/2012 07:21

Hi lady when I told my family at around 8wks, I couldn't get really excited, it was as is it wasn't real, wasn't going to happen, like it was false to get excited about the news. I have no idea whether that's a normal self preservation feeling but I was just very aware of the fact lots of friends or work friends had had babies and that not everyone is that lucky, someone has to be the 'one that has a mc' Turned out the mmc happened around 6wks. I'll never know if that feeling is normal or not, because if I'm lucky enough to get pg again I'll worry anyway now.