Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

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I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

I think I'm 4+2 LCR We've got an appointment to get some results of a scan and fertility hormone blood tests on Weds, all set up before this bfp. I'm still going to go they're the experts and I still want to know more about scan I had in November as they mentioned a cyst, I've had pinching pains a lot since yesterday so want my nerves calmed that that's only this corpus luceum thing..! I don't know much about what causes eptopic I'm afraid, my friend had one so I know about symptoms tho.

dorita hope it goes well for you on Weds and you get a few reassurances from the experts. I know how worrying things can be - every twinge causes concern. I had quite a lot of spotting last time when I miscarried from about 5 weeks so going to be keeping an eye out. Got my midwife appt booked for Friday so can talk over everything and get my early scan booked in.

Hi all, you'd slipped off my page and I'd lost you again. Congrats to Dorita and LCRon your BFPs and to jolly and beans on your scans! Lots of great news on the thread, lovely start to 2013!

I'm 31+3 today. Getting rather large and grumpy. Antisocial is definitely how I would describe myself at the moment... Am having a good declutter around the house - is this nesting or is it too early for that nonsense? I can't believe how close I am to having this baby, would never have believed it in May. This thread has been a lifeline at times - good luck to our TTCers x

Right, am back and going to post more regularly again - I have been quite slack recently and lots has been going on!

I am entering the 2ww - not holding out much hope tbh, we only managed to dtd once this month as DH was ill all of last week (he is better now).

Congrats to LCR and Dorita properly and glad to hear that everyone else's scans and bumps seem to be going well.

Shit shit shit shit shit. 1:2 risk of downs. Shit shit shit shit shit.
That is all.

Oh yikes not what you want to hear. :( What's the plan? Amnio? Much love x

Oh yikes, so sorry to hear that. You've had a lot of different tests - have you had all the results back? I think you said you didn't want to have amnio? Thinking of you.

Big hugs yikes mrsh I'm still ttcing with you! AF visited over the new year (bitch) but she left Saturday - let the DTD begin lol

Happy New Year one and all x

Oh yikes - what's the next step. Are you going to have CVS or an amnio?

So, so sorry to hear that, yikes. Is it based on the FMC or NHS tests? Have your Harmony results come back yet? And what are your next options?

I've been reading alot about the various tests on the forums (my NHS NT not until 13w2 so wondering about going private to give more time to consider, etc.) and read a lot of stories about people whose NHS odds were terrible but had good odds from FMC tests and happy outcomes. I hope yours is the same.

Will be thinking of you as you face this lousy situation. I really, really feel for you. Xx

Thanks all. Just getting over the shock. Been sent home from work. My 1:2 result was from the combined test at FMC. Harmony results not due til next Weds but as the combined score is soooo high they are recommending CVS ASAP anyway - likely tomorrow. But they didn't seem to be giving me any glimmers of hope that this will have a happy outcome. Blood results were bad, nasal bone absent, tricuspid regurgitation, absent ductus venosus. All pointers of Down's. Not looking forward to the next couple of weeks.
Hope you all have a better time of it than me. Someone's got to get the good luck ;-) xx

Oh yikes, I'm so very sorry.

Well, I feel like a bit of a cow posting this after Yikes's post below, but I have just pee'd in a plastic cup at work and... BFP!

I'm sorry for what you are going through Yikes.

I am so sorry yikes.....xxx
Congratulations lady....xxx

yikes what a stressful time for you. I'm glad things are happening quickly. Will be thinking of you.

ladyf many many congrats. It's been a good week for BFPs

Don't be daft flump, what's not to get excited about - a BFP is the Best Thing Ever! Great news

Ok,

So, I have been absent for a while, for which I apologise. Basically I went crazy. Well, not quite, but ended up sobbing at the GP about how I couldn't cope, and how I was sure I had caused my last miscarriage (in a row with DH, I yelled that I didn't want to be pregnant).

Anyways, I'm on Citralopram and am seeing a mental health team so feel a lot better. I was in such a shit place I didn't want to inflict myself on you lovely lot. Also, reading Mumsnet became one of my anxiety things, stupid, huh?

Have caught up now and have a few questions if I may?

I miscarried in November, and BFP'd today, should I book in early with the midwives for an early scan? Also, can I still take the happy pills? Bit scared that if I stop taking them I will go downhill again...

Sorry for the long, self indulgent ramble.

Also, am spotting a bit, but had a very strong BFP, could this be implantation or breakthrough?

ladyf I'd definitely ask your midwives or GP about being referred for an early scan. Some trusts will others are a bit stricter. I had a routine early scan this time but this was only as I had been seen in the recurrent MC clinic. If you can't get one this way, for your sanity it may be worth having a private scan at around 8 weeks for reassurance - costs between £50-£100

Now regarding the citalopram - I'd speak to your GP but in your position I wouldn't rush to come off it. Anxiety tends to worsen during pregnancy and I think you'd be at risk of relapsing. Citalopram is one of the safer antidepressants to take during pregnancy - I know this as I've just been started on it. This was after a long discussion with the local perinatal psych team. I'm on 10mg and 2 weeks in am feeling much better (though this could be down to coming to the end of the first trimester too).

Many congrats again -

Big hugs, yikes, hope the CVS goes ok xx

Congrats ladyflump xx

yikes big hugs. Hope you are OK, so sorry you are in this position.

ladyf - congratulations!

A friend let me know she was pregnant yesterday. I was so pleased for her, and she was so sweet not wanting to upset me bless her. Of course when she said that I then cried, but all was fine. I swing wildly between being positive that this is the month and thinking it will just never happen for us again and I should move on.

yikes so sorry, a very difficult time for you , keep us posted, thinking of you

ladyflump congrats! lovely news,

I'm so sorry yikes I can only imagine how you're feeling but hope you get all your results soon xx

Congratulations ladyflump welcome to the gang! Good chat with your doc should answer your questions? We're off to fertility clinic this morning, hope they don't tell us off for not cancelling but got questions for them and some results due

Morning ladies, just a question...we've just seen fertility doc and told him our bfp news. He said our mc last time would have been due to my age and my body rejecting an abnormal set of cells (my words there) There is no reason to expect another one, we have as much chance as anyone else my age of having a baby. So my question is, for my own reassurance, how old are all you lovely ladies who are pg now? I'm 38 next month. Thank you in advance x

dorita I'm 39 now, was 38 when I conceived this one. 37 sounds good to me! I know lots of people who conceived in their late 30's