Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 4

[Jollyb]

I've started the new thread - how exciting!!

I hope this thread will bring lots of BFPs, good scan results and healthy new arrivals.

Hello Yikes! And co. hope you feel better soon HJ. Was talking to my friend who knows yesterday and she said pregnancy is a time when all manner of crazy things happen with your body... she said it's a way of testing that you're up to the challenge of parenting etc!

The reason she said this is cos I'm off work and waiting to see gp with a giant cyst/abscess 'downstairs'. It's gross and extremely painful and I'm scared about how bean is coping.

Thing is, where I'd normally be putting off exposing my nether regions to a doc, I'm now banging down the door to get it sorted. Really hope I won't need surgery. Eek.

Morning ladies

To answer the question I've had 3 mc all beans didn't make it to 6 weeks but I had mmc discovered between 6-11 weeks.... I'm now 22 weeks today can't quite believe it myself. Tbh I didn't start to relax and enjoy being pregnant til about 2 weeks ago . Largely because I was convinced I'd have another mmc.....then I started worrying about health of the bean the further along I got. The 20 week scan for me was when I got told that in as far as they could tell after all the tests I have a happy healthy baby .....
The best thing to do is work out your way of coping and keeping the mentalling in check. For me I brought a home Doppler and I had to promise myself only to use it every third day ... I also made a bargain with myself if I struggled to find the heartbeat to wait til the following evening / morning and try again if I still couldn't then I'd panic. I was very lucky I found it first time at 9 weeks !!!! And only had one scary incident but for me mostly it gave me the reassurance I needed... Have to say since I've felt movements my obsession motherly mentalling concern has subsided the tiniest bit . Hope that helps

Good luck to anyone on the 2ww , sorry to those who got af fingers crossed for you all in new year

And to all our graduates ( or nearly grads) hope all us well xxx

Hi mumtum glad to hear you've found a way of coping, sounds like you're doing just fine

Sorry backward that you're feeling down about the date, just keep on thinking of the kicking bean inside you now, probably yelling 'hey, I'm here and I'm great, don't be sad!'

Glad to hear you're ok too jolly, my friend who had a mc, then went on to have her son (and just had second son last week) but she had terrible bleeding for a long time, all okay. Bodies are weird as Bravelilbear's friend says!

AFM I've got a scan tomorrow to check my tubes, ovaries and womb are all okay, first stage of looking into whether we've got any fertility problems. I don't think we have, think it's just taking a bit longer, but seeing the doc about my migraines I mentioned blood tests as an aside and here we are... It'll be good to know we're okay (fingers crossed) though. Got 2nd appointment to discuss results of bloods/sperm test etc. next Weds.

Am off work with a nasty cold, weather's so horrible in Liverpool today I'm almost glad I'm coughing my guts up!! Hope everyone's warm and dry and feeling festive

Oh dorita I didn't imagine you as Liverpudlian - more of a Spanish señorita! Hope all your testing goes ok. Must be almost time to get busy again!

mum tum good to hear from you- over halfway yay.

brave hope you get your undercarriage sorted soon - ouch.

First day back at work since my heavy bleed - just about survived. Feeling completely knackered and queasy though- can't remember feeling this bad with my daughter. On the plus side the bleeding has almost stopped. Feeling a little more positive about scan on Wed.

Hi everyone, for some reason I keep loosing this thread!

Anyway just a quick one, I'm going in for my csection on wednesday!!! Still metalling won't believe I get to keep this baby until its safe in my arms I don't think.

Another day, another announcement of "wonderful news". DH not being at all sympathetic and I know I need to toughen up and get over it, and also that i am really lucky to have 1DC already, but it still feels like a kick in the stomach .

Glad you're starting to relax and enjoy your pregnancy mumtum. If its any comfort, with DC1 I didn't relax till 24 weeks and wouldn't properly plan anything till 28 weeks [superstitious emoticon]

Tiredness and queasiness are Good Things jollyb but they still feel shit so lots of sympathy (and I bet KateM smacks anyone who tells her that).

I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend x

willsanta i don't think the pregnancy announcements ever get any easier.

state I can't believe you're nearly due - I think you were one of the first pregnancies that I've followed from the beginning on this thread. I often wonder how confusedmum is doing - I think she was around the same time as you and was moving to the states.

Happy Saturday night everyone

Yes she was a few days away from me I believe, hope she is doing well!

I'm feeling rather overwhelmed by it all tonight and feel like having a bloody good cry, it all just seems so surreal, my mmc and erpc were a year ago this week just gone and now I'm preparing to welcome a new baby, I'm overjoyed but it does toy with the ole emotions.

Thank you to every last metaller who's helped me through this rollercoaster! X

hey everyone! I lost you all and all of a sudden yikes is 8/9 weeks preggo and state is about to have a baby! :) wow!

willsanta pregnancy announcements are shit. I still hate them and I am pg!

My friend who was due at the same time as me is having the shittest time imaginable. Apparently she is having to organise the work rota for all her teachers who are pg, and had to spend her xmas work do at a table with new mums and pg people so was baby talk all night. And me and her SIL too are pg at the same time as she would have been due :( She's is very sad. She is as hard as nails so to hear she is in bits about this whole ttc-after-mc lark is heartbreaking. I just hope that she, and all you other ttcers, get your BFPs soon! If anyone bloody deserves it... (altho I know it doesn't quite work like that)

AFM am nearly 19 weeks now and feel baby kicking often so am a bit less paranoid... but the 20 week scan is rearing its ugly head so will start feeling utterly freaked out again soon. Still spotting most days so guess placenta still on cervix but it is lessening so there is hope.

Hope pebs is getting on a-ok?

to all and wish you all such good luck!

Ps good luck to state for your CS. It'll be amazing to hold your wee one. If you haven't had a section before, feel free to ask - it's not that bad xx

Thank you lots my ds and dd were csections so whilst I'm still a bit nervy about it I know what to expect :)

You know if someone had told me this time last year where I'd be now I'd never had believed them, I had my first mc july 2010. The mmc last december hit me hardest though so I feel very lucky that one year one week later I should have my baby in my arms.

Just wanted to say a huge Good luck to every one here and a thank you for all the support, kind words and hand holding before things get too hectic and I can't post much! Will let you know when lo arrives :)

And the best of luck to you too state. , Wishing you a speedy recovery from your section. Won't be long til you have a newborn in your arms x

Dashing in with a dead quick but HUGE 'good luck' state for weds what a wonderful story to hear for us ladies needing some hope

I hope no one minds me jumping in but I think I might need a little place to chat about things. I found out a week ago that I'm pregnant again. Have had a couple of miscarriages, the last one in July was just out of this world awful. we've got 2 very lovely dcs already and up until this time have always fallen pg quite easily. This time it took 6 cycles which felt very long and stressful. I thought it might help me feel a bit calmer if I kept this pregnancy a secret (DH knows obviously) as I don't want anyone worrying on my behalf or to have anyone think losing our other babies doesn't matter any more.

For the first few days of this pregnancy I've felt quite calm but today I've been finding it trickier. I've been feeling sick which has been okay but it's the tiredness that's got to me a bit. It probably sounds daft but I've just realised how long the wait is to get to 12 weeks and I don't know if I'm gonna be emotionally strong enough to handle it.

That's what we're all here for snork, those times when you need a boost or a virtual hug. I think everyone who's become pg on this thread has felt exactly as you describe at some point or another, I think it's natural and I hope that helps you feel a bit better, that you're not alone?

I'm still working on my bfp (next week or so will be busy!) but I'm sure someone else who's been in your position will have better things to say and I'll just send you nice calm vibes for now xx

Thanks Dorita. I'm delighted to be pregnant again of course but I think so much time recently has been spent trying to get over the last miscarriage and trying to get pregnant that now I am pregnant again I feel a bit weird, like I don't know what to do with myself. I keep trying to talk to DH about it but unusually for him really he doesn't have a lot to say. I think he's worried too really.

I wondered about getting a reassurance scan in very early January and so have a smaller chunk of time to get to. Thing is though with my first mc I had a scan ans saw a heartbeat then lost it anyway 48 hours later so I know really that this wouldn't reassure me much, plus I'm really tight-fisted so can't imagine wanting to pay best part of £100 when I could just wait a few more weeks!

Not sure what I'm wanting anyone to say really!

Good luck for weds state!

Good luck state can't wait to hear news of the new arrival.

Midwife came this morning. my bump is measuring 24 weeks so perfect! and the heartbeat was fine. the baby was kicking the doppler so that was good.

I am getting excited about this pregnancy now.

Welcome, snork, and sorry to hear of your losses. Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry you're feeling understandably apprehensive about the wait though the first trimester.

dorita is right, you're certainly not alone in this - this is one of two very well populated threads on MN filled with women for whom pregnancy or ttc is a very long slog emotionally due to previous miscarriages. I do take a lot of comfort that it's normal to feel as I do and that I can talk freely with people who really understand. I hope you'll find this useful, too.

I'm 7w5 after two early mc this year and my husband doesn't talk much about this pg either. I think we're both trying to think of it as a potential pg until we've got past 12 weeks, and it's just much easier for him to do that as he's not got lots physical reminders of how real the pg is now.

Are you sure your local EPU can't scan you any earlier than 12w? Mine is very happy to give as much reassurance as is needed through the first trimester and there's good evidence this can actually improve outcomes. Do see what you mean about a scan being no reassurance until the next scan, though, given the history of your losses. But since odds of m/c decrease vastly after hb, after 8w, etc., I'd still find some comfort in knowing my chances were improving.

I hope it feels easier for you soon. If it helps any, I've been surprised by how quickly I've gotten to (nearly) 8 weeks and I felt just as you do when I found out at 4w. Take care.

Hooray for happy scan, pebs!

And all best wishes to state - it makes me happy to think of you meeting your baby so soon.

Glad to hear its all going well pebs 24wks already!!

Still can't quite believe how close I am to the finish line, don't think ill believe I'm having a baby until its in my arms, I said to dp in a mess of hormonal tears it better cry straight away, it needs to cry really loud, still metalling at 39+2! Thanks for all the good wishes :)

glad you are well and happy pebs

such good luck for weds state

Congrats to the continuing first tri gang :) So many BFPs at once, it was great! And welcome to newbies, this is a lovely supportive thread :)

snork I really feel for you! No one will be able to give you the comfort that only a healthy 12 week scan can. I had a molar pregnancy discovered at my 12 week scan in May and I am now nearly 7 weeks preg. The worrying is overwhelming and although I'm delighted, I feel like I need to protect myself.

I had a scan last week due to spotting but my gp has offered to monitor how my hcg rises. I've found that helpful. X

Good luck on Wednesday State! What a wonderful christmas present

Well, lets go TTCers, bit of festive fun and baby making all round!! (I'm trying to give myself a boost here, we're both full of cold bang on fertile time so that's gonna be realllly fun!)

Great news pebs, 24 weeks already!! Exciting stuff!

Good luck for Wednesday State if I don't get the chance to say tomorrow. x

I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow to talk about section (I'm 28+4 tomorrow) so hopefully I'll have a date soon too! This is passing really quickly now. I can't believe I'm in my third trimester. I tell you what, I didn't think I'd ever get here back in May...