Those waiting to ttc... (slightly pointless thread)

[LoveYouForeverMyBaby]

We're ttc #2 in dec and I know it's a really silly thing to get excited about, but just started taking folic acid and feeling very excited about it!

Sorry for the pointless thread.

Blimey! I can't keep up!!!

God Loopy would hyperventilate at the thought of an Easter Bunny, as an ex-hunter he would be in heaven chasing that beast across the fields!!!

Can I join in?! We were going to start TTCing this month but have decided to wait until Jan 1st so we (I) can really have one last 'wild' Christmas! I can't wait to start-I'm 30 and this would be our 1st. Started on folic acid last week. I'm impatient though-I will be symptom spotting everything I know!

Hi Blanket, I'm sure there is room for another (especially if cheeky people like me clear off back to their own threads!)

I will type your name out in full in future as it sounds like I'm chatting to the late Michael Jackson's youngest.

Tigerseye nearly wet myself at the thought of your dog chasing the Easter bunny across the countryside with chocolate eggs madly flying out of his basket. Please go easy on me, I've a dodgy pelvic floor...

My life feels like a rollercoaster atm...dont feel very happy tbh because we're going through a huge with mil about her not wanting to look after dd anymore. We're fucked financially hence us going back to waiting earlier....i still hope its a bfp though a chemical or mc would floor me after the shit time we've had recently.

Will update in am.

Huge row.

Oh LoveYou - not sure where to post this (feel like I'm chasing you around the conception board) but hang-on in there!

This problem with your MIL, and childcare, and finances - whilst horrible - is all temporary in the grand scheme of things.

Try not to let it take the shine off the fact that this could be the very, very, start of a wonderful new life. It is an amazing possibility and a time for cautious joy.

I have everything crossed for you.

Hello waves can I join you guys??

DP an I decided we are going to start ttc next year and I am so impatient!
It probably won't be until mid way through the year but I'm starting to get excited already...

Things are pretty shit atm with one thing or another, so it's nice having something positive to look forward to.

Hi everyone, and welcome to new faces.

Loveyouforever, I am sorry things are so up and down with you ATM, I am not sure what a frer test is? Is it a pg test? If so, congratulations! I am sorry to hear of financial and family troubles. . . It's never straightforward is it! The minute the emotional circumstances are right for ttc, something logistical crops up. I do think that the emotional part is more important though, as it can take a really long time for the unwilling partner in an accidental pregnancy to let go of their resentment and really give their love. I do hope things get resolved in a way that you can start to feel more relaxed about the future. X

Literary one, it sounds like your appointment went well, and I really hope the tests all come back fine. Don't get too hung up on the overweight thing. . I think there are one or 2 of us here are in the overweight bracket. Perhaps we can remind each other about avoiding snacks? Like one more said, it is not a good time of year for dieting.

I found a bargain pair of trousers I fell in love with last week. . . One size too small. I resisted the temptation to buy them, as I have fallen for that one before! However, I have had a good look at my midriff, and decided that something must be done.

One more for good measure , no it's not crazy to follow your instinct on when to start ttc. Further up thread there is more discussion about the way people have different responses to miscarriage, and that there are times when you need to wait a while, or get back on the bus ASAP.... You just need to do what you feel comfortable with, and know that here is online support on here for the ups and downs.

tigerseye so sorry you may have missed your window. It's hard to know whether the timing it carefully or just shagging approach is more stressful. If you are holding off for the magic window, it puts a lot of pressures on those days, but if you are just shagging, then you might get shagged out pretty quick. What do you think is the best approach bridget ?

It's the Christmas concert/ nativity season in full swing now, I can't believe how much stuff the kids get to do!

hi leaf it is a pg test it's the first response early result test....poas again tomorrow with fmu and using a cb digi so hopefully I'll get a nice clear pregnant ....will update again tomorrow....fx and good luck everyone.

Aww, really hope you get a good strong result, and have a lovely day tomorrow. Fx

Evening Leaf - I think it is whatever works best for an individual couple and, quite crucially, how often you would be having sex anyway.

Unfortunately, I don't really have much option shagging strategy wise. DP works such long hours that he really doesn't have the energy for vast amounts of SWI all cycle. I just have to hope that he is available for action a good few times during my most fertile week.

I do dabble with the OPKs but can't afford to get too hung up on having sex on exactly the 'right' days. If DP is doing a run of hard-core late nights at the office, me putting pressure on him to perform at home too would be horribly unfair. He has also surprised me by being very sensitive about only being wanted for his sperm.

Given our back-story (DP taking years to feel ready for a DC2) I'm very reluctant to do anything that could diminish his enthusiasm for ttc.

On top of that, my poor bits aren't what they were pre-birth and really couldn't cope with night after night of shenanigans anyway.

(P.s. can't wait for Mini-Bridget's school Christmas show)

Oh, sorry, forgot to say hello to Kate. Welcome and I hope 2013 sees an end to the shit time you've been having.

I've decided to try to keep to the other slightly pointless thread so please, please, please, be very dull from now on so I won't be tempted back..

Hi Bridget, yes, this is it, you can't win. I am sorry to hear that birth has changed things 'down there', it can be so traumatic. Do you go on the thread in general health for support and advice?

I am hoping we will continue to enjoy our sex life, but I can see that it can easily become very pressured. Good luck to everyone who is planning their shagging strategy!

I do kind of get why you want to stick to one thread, Bridget! It is confusing to be in both places at once. But do please report in occasionally daily about your progress. Can I keep you on the list? I'll come over and use my list making skills on the other thread too if nobody else does it

Leafmould - you are a very, very, naughty woman asking me questions and tempting me back already!

I did once take a look at the birth injuries thread but it was really long and I didn't understand most of it. To be honest, probably rather stupidly, I just stick my head in the sand about it most of the time.

Thanks for the list making offer, but we are such a 'select' group at the moment I don't think there is much need for one at the moment. C'mon wait-ers! Hurray up and join us.

(Tigerseye - never answered your question way back up thread - yes, there is a "slightly pointless" thread for people already trying)

And on this thread... Congratulations Love you !!!

LoveYou, that is FANTASTIC! Congratulations and wishing you all the best. It's a complete roller coaster on your end, that's for certain, and I hope things even out soon in all the stressful areas of life.

Hello, Kate! Wishing you a better 2013. Sorry things have been shit.

Leafmould, I am happy to nudge you occasionally... am not going to go on an insane diet, but am just going to try to cut out as much crap as possible and eat lots of fruits and veggies. If it works to get rid of just a couple of kgs, it would be great. Fortunately I have decided to "skip Christmas" so to speak and not do any major celebrating... so keeping away from evil holiday food won't be too hard. I can only get away with this because I'm in a country that doesn't do Christmas in a big way. Thank goodness for that.

Bridget, do stay here as well and tell us how it goes!

Also: Started folic acid! Never have I been so thrilled about taking a pill daily.

I am going to go and peep onto the other thread to see if loveyouforver has posted any news!

Literary one. I have decided that we will have the usual Xmas food, but no snacks. I think that is where I fall down at Xmas. I will drink, but not loads, and I will eat good meals, but no boxes of chocolates, nuts, fudge, orange and lemon slices, bendicks bittermints etc etc like usual.

Frolic acid is exciting! I can't wait! I am a terrible pill taker and have decided to finish all the random collection of vitamins in my cupboard befor I go out and buy any frolic acid.

Petit from age/ too much laptop: I don't think I will be telling anyone until it is a fait accompli. I am aware of the opinions of my nearest and dearest about our family size, and they mostly approved that we stopped when we did. My grandmother had 4, but other than that everyone else has stopped at 2, so that is the norm really. I also didn't show much, so managed to delay telling work until quite late on, and some of my neighbours were shocked as they had never noticed!

I felt that the later it was when I told people, the less they had to say about it that was unsupportive. Probably defence mechanism.
My work will not be happy at all. One of my colleagues has just had a baby, and is not being covered for in her absence, as the boss says we can't afford it. I think they think I'm done.

Laptop: glad you are feeling happy to wait. I like tracking my dates while I wait, because I fell it's part of preparing. Just need to lose 1/2 stone as well!

Hi to the new people: I will put you on the list when I update it. . . . Any suggestions as to how to reorganize the list now we have graduates and quite a few people gone quiet?

Thanks for the welcome guys :) laptop yes I am a huge firefly fan! My gave episOde in castle is the one where he dresses as a space cowboy

loveyou hope you got the result you wanted.

Out of curiosity, how many of you are ttc your first? Or how many of you already have dc? DP and I will be ttc our first, and it is actually a bit terrifying. I have only told my best friend, but DP has told his parents it is in the plans... My parents won't be finding out until it has happened! Df would be all "no se til you're 30! I don't want to be a grandad yet!" an DM would explode in excitement and try to usher us upstairs to dtd!! Haha!

Frolic acid

Kate Beckett, pmsl at you mum! Ha ha hha!

If you scroll up a bit [to wednesday] you will find a rather long list of who is on this thread. It says how many kids we already have. I have 2 primary age girls, and really excited about having another baby they can join in with looking after!

Yes, the first probably is terrifying. But it's got to be nice to be actually planning and preparing for it instead of it being accidental.

Ps I looked on the other thread...... Loveyouforver IS PREGNANT!!!,!!!!,!

Can I join the waiting to TTC waiting room?

DH announced last night that he is ready for DC3!!

He's been on the fence for ages and back in September we had a very teary conversation about it. I wanted a third, he wanted to stop at two and we both agreed that you can't have half a child so had the 'where do we go from here then?' discussion. It was probably the hardest conversation we've ever had in our marriage and the first time he's offered to leave. A lot of his worries are about having time for three, money for three, etc but I've also had a mc at 6w and a mmc at 15w and he doesn't want me to have to risk another for the emotional fallout afterwards, plus I had an EMCS in my last pregnancy and he's worried about that happening again. It ended with us agreeing not to discuss it any further until after Christmas but to each think about it in the meantime.

Anyway, yesterday he had the DCs out all day and when we went to bed he whispered to me in the dark "I want to be a dad again". He says he had a brilliant day with them but that it also dawned on him that they're not going to be small forever. We have a relatively small age gap and they're currently 3.3yo and 15mo so they can be hard work at times. He's concluded that having a third doesn't mean three babies or three toddlers, even if I got pregnant tomorrow DS would be 4yo and DD would be 2yo. 4yo is a world away from 3yo and as for having a 2yo and a newborn we've done that already, we're old hands at that.

I'm now the one having slight reservations! I still want one, I've got one more DC in me, I know it. I've lost loads of weight recently and I'm 20lbs from my goal so I think I'd like to get that first. I'm wanting a VBAC if I can so the fitter I am the better. He bought me a little bottle of folic acid today though and has said that he's ready when I am :o

So here I am, signing on for the pre-TTC board :)

Thank you all ladies, did a cb digi and another frer test this morning and both bfps, have so much going on at the moment that I wish I could be happier about it....but hopefully everything will settle down in a day or so and I'll start to enjoy things more.
Good luck to all you ladies! Keeping fx for you all.