Those waiting to ttc... (slightly pointless thread)

[LoveYouForeverMyBaby]

We're ttc #2 in dec and I know it's a really silly thing to get excited about, but just started taking folic acid and feeling very excited about it!

Sorry for the pointless thread.

Evening all,

Sorry, I'm really shite at these threads. I just can't keep up I read the thread then by the end I can't seem to remember who's done what etc. sorry x

AF due today, if it doesn't arrive tomorrow should I POAS?

LoveYouForever - I did half-heartedly use some cheapie OPKs early in my cycle (didn't bother what time it was or whether I'd drunk loads before I tested etc) and thought perhaps I had a positive result on day 12. The two lines looked pretty much equal to me.

That would tie in with the online calculators but that's assuming a 28 day cycle and I do fluctuate a bit.

Anyway, not too fussed as I knew there was a chance we'd stopped the SWI too early this cycle. I had planned to seduce Mr Hairy on Friday night but he came home full of DD's foul cold and was clearly not in the mood for shenigans

I hope you aren't feeling too down about it all today. I think there is every chance you have ovulated already, but missed it, or you will very soon. Those sticks aren't foolproof and even if they do detect a LH surge that is no guarantee.

Jaffacakes, I do hope you are feeling ok. Any sign of AF? The testing question is such a tricky one. If you can hold on, I think it is generally best to wait, but I have zero will-power and will test at the drop of a hat.

Finally, welcome to the thread iwish

bridget all it takes is that one sperm and egg to be right place, right time...fingers firmly crossed for both (and all) of us! Even though I'm not getting that +Ve on the opk or any signs of ov am lying here with a pillow propped under me hoping to help gravity do its best! (Sorry if TMI everyone!)

jaffa yes poas! Make sure you use fmu and maybe a digi cb to avoid confusion. Good luck and update us!

iwish welcome to our thread!

Gosh LoveYouForever you're a woman who knows how to multi-task!

(I meant to type shenanigans...no idea what shenigans are, or whether DP would be in the mood for them)

Go for it love you forever!

Hope everyone else doing ok. Off to google pink pad then.

Think I may be slightly too militant in wanting to dtd to ensure we give it a good shot....dh isn't complaining yet but expecting his enthusiasm to wear off soon. Sounds so bad but just want to fast fwd to poas time.

Hope you can wear the stress of it ok. It does get very pressured at times, so it is totally normal to get 'militant'. Hopefully it'll all happen nice and soon for you!

Good luck loveyouforever and Jaffacake and anyone else about to POAS, not jealous, promise ;-). Good luck to everyone else who is about to test but who I've forgotten (been up since half six with coughing lurgy child who'd also wet the bed..) As for me and my well meaning DH, he just doesn't want us to end up destitute and wants to provide the best for the two DS we have (head, brilliant, absolutely right, can't argue with that), but I just want to have one last pg, one last birth and one last baby and I can't believe that that won't happen to me (heart talking, impractical, massive financial implications etc etc). Not so much crossed wires now (post DTDWACO - new acronym - doing the deed with a condom on) as checkmate. Still, give me until Feb and I'll either be 'over it' (will I???) or he will have decided that one more would be lovely. I am very envious of all you with 100% on side supportive willing to get shagging husbands. XXX (In a good way) xx

PS it occurred to me that half of you would make EXCELLENT fertility doctors as you know so much about stuff like luteal phase (what on earth is that?) and temperature regulation (how do you do that), acidity and alkalinity. There's lots of science knowledge in this forum, so just saying - if you fancy a change of career at any point, consider medicine. xxx

Oh Mythreeknights, you poor thing (and your poor DS) - not the best start to a Sunday morning. I bet it feels like you have been up for hours and hours already. I ended up spending most of the night on Mini Bridget's bedroom floor (another coughing child here). My bones ache!

Don't feel jealous of my supportive DP, it has taken roughly 4 years and 1 m/c for him to come around to the idea of having another DC. The yearning for another is a very powerful emotion, irrespective of the number of you already have and irrespective of reason. I can completely empathise with your feeling of wanting to go through it all "one last time."

My only advice is to give it time.

toomuch poas is pee on a stick ie take a pg test.

Cd19 still not ov...have pretty much written this month off but next month I will buy the 20 pack opk as welll as amazon cheapies and test twice a day.

This was always a bonus month anyway.

threekinights I sympathise

DP and I had a talk

Because of our finances and wanting to move out of London for DD's secondary school and having SO much essential redecorating still to do on our current place, it is unlikely we can afford to get married before 2016 unless we do it properly on the cheap! (i wanted summer 2014 wedding). Therefore no baby before then unless I agree to have one before we are married.. Which is a no no for me as I need that commitment from him having been burned by experience with DD's father - if you have a kid with someone you are def stuck with them for life so I figure I want the extra security that I feel marriage will bring us

However we will have vastly improved finances by sep 2013 (although not out of debt to family till sep 2015) and who knows, if I get lucky with a bonus from work or something not holding my breath

But oh I do want a nice wedding and a nice ring! In fact the ring is more important to me than the wedding and will probably cost more

Guess I just got to be patient. Wish I hadn't been so irresponsible with money at university

Morning team!

Still haven't POAS yet! DH has been working this morning, so I'm making him give DD her lunch so I can sit down

No sign of that red witch, however I do have a few new spots this morning which isn't a great sign. I'm utterly knackered at the moment, I had to drag my ass out of bed this morning only to find DD had been a bit sick overnight. Delightful. I've also been having a few afternoon naps too.

Okay....

might pop to Tesco later to buy a test. Not completely unusual for AF to be a day or so late is it

Thanks for the welcome ladies

Oooh go to tesco now Jaffa! You are so strong not caving and testing! I tested every month from about 10dpo when ttc for my DS!

loveyou I got cheapies off eBay when I was ttc last time and they were great. So much better than spending a fortune on the ones in shops. I have to say tho the lines were never as dark as the control lines for me but I still got a line that was almost as dark.

Waves to everyone else. :)

I am currently either 5 or 6dpo. I ovulated on cd 12/13 but before I got pg OV was cd16/17 so we dtd on cd10 thinking I wouldn't OV till late (since we arent ttc till next yearr. Sooo there could poss have been some little men hanging around near the eggy. Oops. Doubt I will be upduffed but I'm actually excited just in case I am.

iwish I missed Tesco, dam those Sunday opening hours!

Bugger!

jaffa poas tomorrow with fmu if you can...fingers crossed youget your bfp!

Ooh booo jaffa! Hope you get your bfp tomorrow. Sorry I've not read the whole threat but are you ttc no1? Xx

Evening ladies, I hope everyone had a good weekend.

MadameLeBean - it is a shame the ttc will have to be put on hold for a while but I can completely understand your reasons. I'm sure you'll both know when the time is right.

I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you Jaffa. It would be lovely to get a BFP on this thread and for it to set the ball rolling.

For a 'waiting to ttc' thread, a surprising number of us are trying now. We seem to have been rather rubbish at the waiting bit! So, I've been wondering if anyone has given any thought to threads to 'graduate' onto? I really love being here but can hear a clock ticking in the background.

I know initially we talked about setting up a 'no longer waiting to ttc' thread in December, but do you think actually everyone will want to join different established threads?

Hi everyone,

To those with dp not 100% behind ttc, or the date we have fixed, i think that there are quite a few of us on here. Fwiw, i think there is a major gender imbalance when it comes to wanting children. There are so many ladies on mn with 'iwant a baby but my dp doesn't' dilemmas, but i think there has been very few the other way round. I'm sure there is a biological and hormonal reason for it, like someone else said, the intensity of the desire varies according to time of cycle.

I am trying to stay confident that the right thing will happen for us. If we don't end up having any more, I will have to accept my good fortune in having2 gorgeous daughters. And I guess it is easier for me, as I already have 2. I did always want lots though!

To those considering graduation. I like having the prospect of actual bfp's on the thread! Please don't go! But if you do, can we keep the 'slightly pointless' theme to the thread title so we can always find each other? I can't wait to see all you lovely dec, jan and feb ttcers getting your bfpS!

I'll definitely keep updating here if you'll have me, but happy to start up a new thread for those of us trying now.

Can I join?? Tentatively steps in... DH and I want to get the baby stage out of the way sooner rather than later and only want 2 DC, but I have no desire to ever be pg again over Christmas/New Year/Birthday so we are hoping to start trying in late January if everything goes according to plan and our finances are still reasonably ok then... DD will be 7 months when we start ttc so a minimum of 16 month gap - call us crazy eh?!! DH and his sister are 15 months apart and have the best bond so feel a 16-19 month gap would be fab. If I'm not pg by march though we will stop as I just can't do the holiday season (all 21 days of it!!) pg, just tired me out something rotten last year!

Ah, glad I can hang out around here a bit longer. LoveYouForever I have posted on your new thread too.

Leafmould, even with your two DDs, I think it can be very hard if you have that longing for another. My sister has three girls but even now (her youngest is 18) has moments of sadness over the fourth they never tried for.

Sorry blondie forgot to say hello.

Chockagirl checking in...babysquishing went well. Lovely sunny chap, very relaxed. Loved loopy. Loopy less sure.

AF finally gone so better start planning a modus operandi. Not read back yet, hope everyone had a good weekend x