Those waiting to ttc... (slightly pointless thread)

[LoveYouForeverMyBaby]

We're ttc #2 in dec and I know it's a really silly thing to get excited about, but just started taking folic acid and feeling very excited about it!

Sorry for the pointless thread.

Madame is there anything you can do to improve your financial situation quicker, or is that not possible?

Not poss - already paying down debt as fast as poss. I also want us to get married first so I can't really complain! Plus i know dp and i will be more ready and relaxed for a baby once we've got those 2 things sorted. Just getting broody reading mumsnet!

Hi everyone. Yes, I can imagine waiting is not a great place to be if suffering from over thinking things! It is less worrying to just get on with it.

We are waiting because we need to get organised. The house as well as finances. I am not very organised, and this is a bone of contention between my partner and me.

I have lovely images of how the baby's bedroom will look once I have got it redecorated, how much my dd's will learn about little ones, and how much they will enjoy teaching a baby to crawl, talk, use the potty etc.

But sometimes I do feel rather despondent about whether or not this will actually happen.

I do love this thread though, it means I can talk and think about it without driving my dp up the wall!

Evening all, I hope everyone had a good start to their weekend.

TooMuchLaptop that horrible, undecided, limbo-land is definitely an emotionally exhausting place to be. If you were to start trying to conceive you may find that it helps crystallise your feelings. It is a somewhat risky strategy as you may fall pregnant straight away, but I think you'd soon get a sense of whether in your heart you want another. If, even with all your understandable fears and concerns, you find yourself mentally willing AF to stay away, it'll be a strong sign deep, down you want another DC.

Tigerseye - yay, last day tomorrow! Fingers crossed for you (both for the endo to behave itself and for a BFP) I hope loopy lurcher enjoyed his gloomy Friday walk

Oooh I luuurvve picture books, one of the best bits of being a parent. Most of Mini Bridget's collection were really bought for me. If there are any fellow picture book enthusiasts out there, my favourite illustrators are Helen Oxenbury and Polly Dunbar.

testing a name change...

Was justcait...

Jolly good it worked!

Just a quick post to say hi

Bit of a weird day really. Went as a family to visit an old work colleague, her husband and her kids (2 year old and nine month old). To get there we had to drive through where we used to live (moved a few years ago) It felt so odd to drive past places I used to take DD all the time (library, park, doctor's surgery) and yet they weren't 'ours' anymore

Seeing the baby was fine (placid, dinky little mite) but had an awkward moment when I was quizzed about having a second child. I answered truthfully i.e. that actually we would have been looking forward to another if I hadn't lost a baby in April. DP was surprised I mentioned it but it actually felt like less effort than trying to come-up with something to say (IYSWIM) Conversation topic changed at the speed of light!

Hi ladies, not much of the weekend left now :-(

Question now is - and I know the real answer is sweat out the 2WW - but all day long I've had really sore nipples! hoping it could be a sign of something exciting but then could it just be rampaging hormones post-pill...? any ideas?! apologies for TMI.

Bridget that sounds like a hard day in many ways but well done, I can't imagine how difficult such conversations might be for people in similar situations. I still find it strange passing my old homes even from student days or early childhood.

Hi all.

Bridget, that must have been a bit of an ouch moment. It's interesting how sometimes you don't want to talk about hard things because it will be hard for the listeners too. I admire you for your openness, and think it is important to help people remember that Having a baby doesn't just come from wanting one.

Good luck with the driving. It is a case of practise really. I used to go adn watch roundabouts to see how drivers used the lanes, thinking it would help me to get used to them. I am still hesitant on them, but blame this on a dodgy clutch I had for a few years!

Flowers is the nipple soreness a usual symptom of pmt for you? I think it's hard to differentiate between the 2 things, so hope you don't drive yourself crazy. When will you test?

did some bedroom reorganising today. Definately need to do a toy cull before Xmas.

I'll update the list with the name changes and new waiters soon, promise!

Thanks for the kind words, but probably a bit undeserved. At that moment I just couldn't find the emotional energy to put a smiling face on and think up some throw-away line to satisfy their curiosity. More couldn't be arsed than anything else.

I think going past all the old haunts from DD's baby days had already put me in a funny frame of mind

Flowers fingers firmly crossed the sore nipples are a positive sign. My boobs are dreadful tricksters so I can't offer much advice - they tease me every cycle with different sensations at different times (although soreness often reaches a peak around cycle day 21).

Even, if AF does make an unwelcome appearance at the end of the month, the good news is you'll now be armed with more information about you and your cycle to take forward into the next month. At the very least it is a good sign that your natural hormones are doing the business post-pill.

bridget so sorry you had a tough day. Fwiw I think you did the right thing by answering truthfully, alot easier than trying to come up with a story. Just a shame your friend was rude enough to quiz you on something so personal.

flowers for me sore boobs were a sign of pg so fingers crossed for you!

Good morning,

can I join in? Have DS who has just turned 1 and we will be TTC from the autumn, but I thought I might join in now, am going a bit broody already!

Hi TwoJacks, come and join our merry troop of wait-ers, and belated birthday good wishes to young Master TwoJacks.

Does your nickname match your situation? If so, mind if I pick your brains on combining dog ownership with motherhood?

TooMuch, sorry to hear it hasn't felt the right time to raise things with your DP yet. I maybe way off the mark here but - thinking back to the endless angsty discussions I had with my OH - do you think perhaps he would sigh because you've had lots of emotional talks in the past that have just gone round in circles (and he would expect it to be more of the same)?

Do you think approaching him with something concrete, like proposing you/he stop using whatever contraception you've both been relying upon (or setting a definite date to do so) may elicit a different response?

On a "me, me, me note", this week should be shag-fest-athon week in the Hairy household but I'm feeling strangely flat about it...Very weird...

bridget why are you feeling flat? Is that visit to your work colleague still getting you down? Hugs to you.

think I might be ovulating next few days, hopefully oh doesnt use protection again!

Welcome twojacks!

Welcome twojacks and any other newbies that I may have missed off.

This thread is getting really busy and I can't keep up with all the coming and goings And please no more name changes - I'm very easily confused!

bridget I hope that you are OK?

Best of luck leafmould I hope that a BFP is on its way to you.

I think that we have delayed TTC in Dec & now looking to TTC in January...... but I reserve the right to change my mind!

Have a good day all x

Do you mind if another one joins?

We're not going to be ttcing for ages yet - starting in July after we get married. I guess it's restarting really, we tried for a bit earlier this year but nothing, and then stopped because I didn't want to be a pregnant bride (I'm going to need a drink to deal with my family all day...)

Evening all. Thanks London, I'm fine really. I know what you mean about the name-changes, I'm easily confused too! Glad this is a busy thread though as I've seen a few 'waiting to ttc' fizzle into nothing once everyone has introduced themselves.

Thanks for the suggestion TooMuch - I've never heard of that technique but it definitely sounds worth trying.

LoveYouForever - I have to hang my head in shame and admit that when DP was going through his 'careless with the condoms' phase I did rather cheekily try to physically engineer things during DTD so that 'just slipping in' was the easy option I think I may have been rather obvious at times but DP was too polite to say anything!

Leafmould thank you for keeping an eye on the thread list. Just say if it starts to become a pain. I wish I could get Mini Bridget to part with toys she's outgrown but she's as stubborn as her father. Oh well, may be another little Brigand will get to play with them.

Finally, hello painted cat, find yourself a comfy corner to settle down in

Sorry for confusing everyone with my name change! I was ChicMama25.

My career is just taking off and we want to get financially sorted and do up the house we just bought and get married first so baby is off the menu for a couple of years. But according to my plans for baby%232 before I am 30 and assuming a wedding takes a year to plan that gives DP approx 9 months to propose!!

DD is nearly 8 so there will be a massive gap whatever happens but I would love for it to happen before she is 10! Although I am concerned about giving her my full attention while she is transitioning from primary to secondary so it is either got to happen well before she turns 10 or after well after she turns 11.... What do you reckon ladies?

Sorry for confusing everyone with my name change! I was ChicMama25.

My career is just taking off and we want to get financially sorted and do up the house we just bought and get married first so baby is off the menu for a couple of years. But according to my plans for baby%232 before I am 30 and assuming a wedding takes a year to plan that gives DP approx 9 months to propose!!

DD is nearly 8 so there will be a massive gap whatever happens but I would love for it to happen before she is 10! Although I am concerned about giving her my full attention while she is transitioning from primary to secondary so it is either got to happen well before she turns 10 or after well after she turns 11.... What do you reckon ladies?