Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

[Bunnygirlie]

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

I found much the same as Quoid. I fade in and fade out on the cheap sticks.
However the actual positive, where the test line was as strong or stronger that the control line was for one wee only. I also used to get tests that were close to positive, but not quite. The line would be dark, but not dark enough. It was only because I was temping that I know I hadn't OVd yet.

I used to get a false surge on around day 14, then the real one about a week later.
For the last two cycles I have ovd around day 14. I asked the fertility consultant about this and he seemed to think it was due to weight loss. However it happened the cycle after my HSG.

Captain I didn't use to use lube, but given that we are dtd whether we are in the mood or not it has proved very useful.

Evening all! How are we this fine Thursday?

I'm on day 4 of weird AF! Had a shitty shitty week, emotions all over the place, roll on Friday!

Bunny I'm with you. Day 3 here and I just want AF to naff off so I can get on with it. I understand.

Thoroughly pissed off today Pip, fed up, wanna cry, really grumpy and i just want to fast forward to happier times :-(

Oh bunny poor you. Nothing I can say will make you feel better I know, so sending a quick online hug instead

(Apparently that's very un-mumsnetty but who gives a shit)

Balls to what MN say. I am in exactly the same place Bunny. I just hope you aren't here after 14 cycles of trying like me.
I think because I'm off work this week, and I've had the appointment at the fertility clinic, I have just been at home sulking. I have been crying. DH is putting up with so much, and being so positive for me.
Doesn't stop me wanting to scream though.

Thanks ladies, I needed that online hug! Part of me wishes one of my friends knew i was TTC so I could sob on their shoulder but i can't deal with them asking if its happened yet etc...

I feel bad whining when you've been trying so much longer then me Pip, I feel like a right idiot as only been trying for 5 months but its hit me bad this month, am shocked how crappy i feel - its all pants innit!

Big hugs :-)

Poor Bunny. Sometimes you just need to be grumpy, so complain away, that's what we're here for.

Janey I think I've discovered a cure for the tiredness - have been a bit lazy this week so didn't work out enough. Well this evening I taught 2 classes and am still awake and not tired at all. So more sports might be the answer, even if this is the last thing you want to do after a long day.

Bunny I confided in a few friends that we were TTC and not a single one ever asked any questions or even brought up the subject unless I did. I didn't feel any additional pressure to get a BFP because they knew about it and it was lovely having someone to talk to other than DH (and MN!) Everyone is different but I found it very helpful.

Don't worry about it Bunny I felt just the same at 6 months as I do now. Some times it just hits you bad.
I'm lucky in that most of my friends know I'm TTCing.
In fact one of them spent 2 years trying and so knows the exact feeling.
I think my problem is that AF is here. I once heard it said that your period is the tears of an unfulfilled womb. Dreadful I know, but it feels like a messy reminder of how I have failed. I think once she has gone and I feel like I am actively doing something about it I'll feel better.

Hugs to pip and bunny. TTC is shite. All the fun disappears after the first few months. Then it turns into stress and anxiety.

Pip, Bunny, I'm so with you. This month marked a year of trying and when AF turned up this time, on the way back from meeting another friends newborn, I just had to weep all the way home in the car. AF sucks. And absolutely yes to a fast forward button. It's the endless wait - 2 weeks to OV, another 2 waiting to Poas, then round again.. Gah. This is why MN is so great - we really are all in the same boat, and very soon we'll all get to the promised land of babies galore if we just keep paddling, right? Hugs to you all.

I agree Captain, MN is such a support.
In a funny way it's nice to have such a continuous cycle of people too. As some head off with their BFPs then there are new people joining waiting for theirs.
I'm so glad my cycles have got shorter, now it's just a week and a bit from the end of AF to OVing, rather than the three weeks it used to be.
I think one of the reasons this time was so hard was because I had spotting for 7 days before AF. I know I was out from then really. Aso, during that one cycle, two women at work announced their pregnancies.

Serves me right for POASing again this morning being stupidly hopeful

BFN, of course.
-Ok so at least it will be better timing work wise when it finally happens.
-I will have more savings then, at least one month's more worth.
-I can continue to have sushi!

Unfortunately DH will be v busy around ov time next cycle so I don't have much hopes for it.

Zombies, sorry about the N but as we say, it's not over til AF sings!

Oh and NHS says it's safe to have sushi when pregnant.

Zombies and Pipbin, sorry you are both down. It is shit isn't it, no matter what month you are on.

Zombies, I had written off last month due to DP being away so much, but he was around for the right 12 hrs in the end...I know it's hard to find anything to be optimistic about at times, I have been exactly the same.

Well DP (who was home with me for a grand total of 24 hrs since we got the Bfp) has flown off again til Monday. We are going not going to have the easiest of months as he is away again from 12-27 Nov which will be my week 6 and 7 fingers crossed. I hope I don't develop debilitating MS on my own!! We decided yesterday that I should tell a few close friends so that I have some support whilst he is away...

Oh and I think I have got the tiredness - yesterday at 9.30 I was yawning rudely and shattered by the time we got home.

Morning all! Sorry to have put a bit of a downer on the thread, we've all been so positive up to now, what a party pooper I am lol. Even people at work have noticed I'm grotty as I do wear my heart on my sleeve.

AF should be gone tomorrow so it's then time to cheer up, I'm off the booze, second month of using concieve plus and little ov sticks, hubby on zinc and cutting down on the booze too. I may even get on the full fat milk, I'm willing to try anything! I guess I should really start monitoring Ewcm too ewwwwwww. And I need to stop thinking and stressing about when I want baby to be born and concentrate on just having a healthy happy one!

Come on ladies let's some of us regulars get our BFP this month x

So my doc just called and re-scheduled my appointment to 9th of Nov instead of 13th, as apparently there's a general strike from 12th (a strike! In France! Who would have thought, we haven't had one for ..um..days)
Honestly quite nervous, would be such a disappointment if everything has not gone as it should...

Morning all!

bunny - don't be silly, that's what we're here for, to listen. We're all in this together, for the good days AND the bad... Sorry you've been so down, but as you say, positive thinking is the way forward. Try the milk, you never know.

quod - the tiredness is ridiculous, isn't it. I babysat for my niece and nephew last night (just 5 and just 2, and ridiculously cute) but my Dbro and DSIL (right abbreviations?!) didn't get in until 11pm and I was SO TIRED I felt a bit sick! Thankfully my lovely bro gave me a lift home - not sure how I would have stayed awake on the tube...

hazle - I think you're right. I swam a couple of miles on Saturday and felt really good for it. Am away this weekend but am going to start back at the gym properly next week - DP is going quite a lot at the moment too so we just need to drag each other along. And I reckon I could get home, go to the gym, and then be back home and in bed by about 9.15pm - winners all round...

Good luck for everyone still waiting for their BFP's - hopefully we'll get a few more in the run up to Christmas so we can start our elderberry pavlova's antenatal group

hazle - what's your appt for on 9th? That's the day after my first doctors appt (when they will do NOTHING except refer me to the hospital, and will therefore be totally underwhelming...) Are you having another scan? So jealous. I want to live in France, have loads of scans, and strike ALL the time...

Yes, second scan to see if there's heartbeat.

Hazle I bet it is really hard not to be nervous - I'm also jealous of your early scans though!

Over here I have decided to make a conscious decision not to worry about or dwell on things not going well with this pg. I can't do anything to change whether it sticks or not, and either I enjoy the excitement of being pg or I worry and fret and wind myself up. I'm quite surprised at this attitude in myself because usually I am dreadful for anticipating the worst case scenario, but for some reason I am sticking to my optimism guns about this one!!

You are right, of course quod. All we can really do is eat bloody well, take some folic acid, and try not to stress.

I think the fact I'm abroad for basically all of November will help - holidays usually go so fast that I'm thinking it will make the unbearable wait for the 12 week scan go slightly faster?!

Saying that I can of course appreciate how it might be far more difficult to 'choose' not to worry having experienced a previous MC (hope you don't find that insensitive)

Of course not Quod, it's true. I do what I can though not to worry, if it's not sticking then at least we know that we can get pregnant and can try again.