Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

[Bunnygirlie]

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

I'm an idiot. I'm at MOST 6dpo- could be less. I POASd today and of course it was a BFN.
Just a waste of money.

Ok so OV took me completely by surprise yesterday on cd11, wasn't expecting it for another few days but got my on the OPK first thing (which had gone again this morning) and very clear OV pain late last night. Isn't this a bit early though? Thought it was usually around cd14? Fortunately had DTD on Friday and again last night. Am away in lovely spa hotel in West Wales at the moment so will try and sneak a few one more in today. Anyone else joining me in the 2ww?

Morning, pregnant and soon to be pregnant Elderberries! How's Monday? I think there's something happening with my hormones, everything irritates me. Keep having the same dream over and over, that I've forgotten a class (fitness, I teach some as a hobby), so am late and haven't prepared. And now really want an egg salad sandwich..

Ah zombies, we've all done it..... Few more days to go and you might might might get an accurate response from first response? The temptation is too much! Fx for BFP in a few days time

Oh and hazle - I'm not irritable (yet) but am having crazy dreams already. And have gone over four days from someone who sleeps incredibly well to an insomniac! I keep waking up at 3am desperate for the loo (not like me) then am tired, but wide awake and unable to get back to sleep. Fri night I was awake 2.30am - 5am, Saturday night 2.45am - at least 5.30am, and then last night woke at 2.30, 3.30 and 4.30. It must be the hormones - I asked my friend who's 12 weeks and she had/has exactly the same. Are you sleeping OK apart from the strange dreams? And got any morning sickness, or not?

Yes, otherwise sleeping fine. No morning sickness really - have felt slightly nauseous, but so slightly that I'm not sure if it's there or I'm imagining it. Everything smells funny though, poor DH is forced to sniff all food, as it all smells off to me, even if it clearly isn't..

Well I'm 13 DPO today and still only spotting, no AF.
So I POAS but bfn.

Oh pip how frustrating for you. It just gets to the point where you want to know, and if it's a BFN, just get on with the next month. Fx it was a false negative for you...

Well my way of looking at it is this:
Next cycle would work much better for me timing wise as I would be able to get to the end of the academic year before starting maternity leave.
Also, I am glad that AF isn't here yet as I don't want her to arrive too early before my fertility clinic appointment on Wednesday. That way I might be able to get going on Clomid straight away.

Also, I'm doing the Clearblue Trial for the CBFM and this is my last cycle of doing that. If I fail to conceive during the trial then I get to keep the CBFM for free!

I haven't had any symptoms yet at all, other than these allergies (could just be a change in pollen) and achy boobs (but as per normal for me). I did feel tired yesterday and have a siesta, but again, could just be normal laziness!

Pip that is a very pragmatic perspective. Sorry you've had no BFP and no AF, how frustrating. How are you feeling about the Clomid?

Wow I'm amazed at how positive you are pip. I'm of your resolve.

Awww Pip, that's so FRUSTRATING. I really hope you get your BFP soon.

Doctors appointment today. Will see what he says about dates, digital thingy test said 2-3 weeks (would be 3 by my reckoning) since conception so 4/5 weeks pregnant by the stupid way doctors work it out.

The first appointment I can get at the doctors purple is on 8th November, and even then it's in the middle of the day, basically meaning I'll have half a day out of the office. Annoying! Am a teensy bit you're getting in the system so soon! ;o)

Considering trying to get a private scan when I land back from Thailand (land 6am on Christmas eve) - if I could have a scan that day (and I know this is a long way off) it would mean we could tell our families on Christmas day if everything was OK. Plus after mc at 12 weeks last time it would be lovely to know if everything was OK. Suspect NHS one won't be until the start of the new year given I will be 12 weeks on Christmas day...

Quod I'd have liked to have done it without Clomid but I think that any help is good really.
Lol I'm not that positive really. I cry a moan and complain, but then it doesn't do any good does it.

Red spotting and cramps now, I'm sure the witch [henvy] is on her way. I just hope she can hold off until tomorrow. Still, at least I have a good length LP.

Janey I am hoping for an NHS one before Xmas because I doubt they will do one between Xmas and NY, so I'd be 13 weeks at least if it was after NY, and they have to do the NT scan before 13+6 to get worthwhile results. On the NHS website is says they normally do the first scan between 8 and 12 weeks (am I being stupidly optimistic here?!)

I think the NT scan has to be between 11 and 13 or something? I may well call the hospital myself at some point and ask, but I can only have it done on Christmas eve (if it's true they can't do it before 11 weeks) due to the hol. Aaaargh damn 17 night holiday getting in the way

Mind you I hope they're open between Christmas and NY or I will be in a right pickle too... Oh no....

:( pip

Today I have sunk to a new low, even lower that sitting in the preferred staff room chair of the pregnant woman at work, I bought crystals!
If my DH knew I had done that it would really start to worry about me. I'm going to put them under the bed.
I know, it's ridiculous isn't it.

pipbin hugs.

Well the evil witch has arrived and I'm totally depressed!

I've lost track of who the lucky buggers are, is it Rach, Quod, Janey, Purple and Hazle?

Which regulars are still on my team?

Bit of a TMI question, those tracking cycles using apps or pen and pencil i guess, do you count day 1 as first day of actual red blood? I get a day or two of brown before you see. Sorry if TMI lol

Its the first day of proper red flow.
TMI
I find that I get a few days of nasty brown sticky nastiness, and some red spotting, however, day 1 is the first day of proper bleeding. The fist one where you need a towel or tampon rather than just a panty liner.

Quote from Fertility Friend:

When should I start a chart?

Your chart starts on the first day of your period. This is the first day that you have red flow (not spotting). This is cycle day one. When you enter "menses" on the data entry page, a new chart will be started for you. If you start charting mid-cycle, make sure your chart still reflects cycle day one as the first day of your period so that your cycle statistics will not be skewed. In this case, you can go back and enter "menses" on the date your period started and cycle day one will be that day. If your period arrives in the night or late in the evening, you can record it for the following day.

Thanks Pip :-)