Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1

[Bunnygirlie]

Hi y'all, Welcome to our new meeting place :-) Let's refresh as usual -

Bunnygirlie - 32, married, TTC since June, due to OV this week according to app

janey your words are very reassuring, I know I am just being silly (and if I didn't I have DH reminding me constantly). I also know nature will do it's own thing irrespective of how much I worry so there really is no point. I didn't know about the lack of symptoms for Elderberries though so that's good news which made me feel better

I am so sorry about your MMC - what a bloody awful thing to go through, especially after the all-good scan at 10 weeks. A good friend of mine had one earlier this year and she has really been through the mill with it. Everything happens for a reason but nature is so cruel sometimes.

We have a friend who we only see at Christmas.
Last year she told us that she was 10 weeks pregnant after just two cycles of trying. By that time we had been trying 8 months. I'm really happy for her of course, but I had to go off to cry.
This year she will be there with her baby.
I really want my BFP this month so I can tell her this Christmas.

Of course it's fine to mention the mc, janey. we're all old enough to understand that a BFP is not the end of it and not a guarantee that a healthy baby pops out 9 months later.

And symptoms or lack of does not show anything as said. Had very unpleasant morning sickness very early last time, but it did not work out.

So, first scan tomorrow morning, wonder if they can even see anything..

Hi ladies
Af got me today right on time. At least cycle is back to normal. A bit gutted bit hey ho.
Bought cb ov sticks today and am back on epo. Not sure it's doing anything though.
Having bad period pain

I'm sorry lol, it's gutting, isn't it, especially when accompanied with bad period pains. Rubbish

As a little aside, I have twice today felt like I've got stitch (once on the left, and once on the right), which is odd given I was sat at my desk both times. Odd? I def don't feel pg in the slightest, and also had the (ridiculously early) BFN yesterday, but am of course thinking this is a possible symptom... Even though us elderberries don't get symptoms that is...

How many DPO are you Janey?

I've no idea. Is that days past ovulation? I got my smiley face on clear blue ov predictor thing on 15th and had EWCM then too.... So if it was 15th I guess it's 10 DPO? AF is due on 29th, but knowing me, could easily come on 27th or 28th....

It tends to be on the day after the positive OV and when the EWCM stops. So I'm guessing you OVd on the 16th and are 9 DPO like me!

Argh nervous times then pip. Annoyingly we didn't DTD on 16th as DP was out until late, and I was fast asleep when he got in. We did on 14th and 15th though so hopefully that might do?

I'm in exactly the same position as you. Didn't manage it the night of the CBFM peak, but we did the day before.

Another woman at work is pregnant. She'd been trying a year apparently. I'm just hoping that these things happen in threes.

Hmmm, no AF for me yet. Have been getting on and off cramps and definitely feel like AF is about to come but will test tomorrow as that means I am a day late! Probably just because am off to the doctors tomorrow for blood test results! Pipin, I know how you feel re friends. I have a friend who has never wanted kids and been very anti people that did at times. Just announced she changed her mind and 6 weeks later was pregnant. I wanted to kill her!!! Next time I see her I want to tell her I am pregnant too!!!!

No AF for me yet either, finished my last pill about four weeks ago and have been feeling crampy for about three flipping weeks but nothing. Every day I think, oh DEFINITELY today but so far nothing. Trying to put off testing as long as possible though cos I know the chances of getting a BFP already are pretty slim and I don't want the disappointment but my patience is running out!

Purple they do say that you have a fertility spike after coming off the pill, so who knows.

Thanks Pipbin, I was hoping you'd all tell me to stop being so silly though. I've hidden my sticks to PO in the car so I'm not too tempted. Perhaps if I DID POAS sods law dictates that AF will turn up the next day doesn't it? Would be one way to hurry it along

It is guaranteed that when you wipe after POAS that AF is there. She hides waiting for the stick.

Negative test but still no AF

So couldn't wait... POAS this morning (first response told me it wasn't too soon ) and got just the palest ever BFP! I literally cannot believe it.... So happy

I just had to test after the stitch yesterday - I knew it was odd, and thought I remembered it from last time.

Really really hoping things go ok this time....

Oh and chuck - sorry no BFP for you at the moment....
And pip - fingers literally glued together for you....

xx

Woohoo janey a huge congratulations . Fantastic news!

Pip that is sooo true!! Last time I'd already taken the stick out of the cupboard ready to test when I discovered AF had showed up! Thankfully I hadn't taken the wrapper off cos it was a £5 one phew!

Brilliant news! Congratulations Janey!!!

janey big congratulations!!!
Are we on Elderberry BFP no. 3 then?

We are indeed... Hoping for a couple of more over the next few weeks

See, we're not ready for the motherhood scrap yard yet hey, despite what the Daily Wail might think!

So, the ones with the BFPs here- have you broken the news to your families/ parents/ ILs yet, or are you planning to do that at Christmas?
On another note, ^TMI alert^ strong smell from down there- a bit pheromonal I want to think. Maybe sign of ovulation? Clutching at straws I think now since ov seems to be most mysterious in my case. Have had phantom ovulation for a whole week now and at each point I could have sworn there were all the signs of ov
It's amazing how so many women are so in touch with their bodies. I don't think I'd know if my body put up an "open for business now" sign.

Pip - I hope you get to tell your friend you are pregnant at Christmas, I really do.

Janey - congrats on your BFP! I thought it might be after your weird pain yesterday!

Cd8 here and monitor has gone to high so will be dtd tonight. Aiming for every day this month if we (oh) can manage it!