Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

[Dorita75]

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

hi all,
iq so sorry about your grampy

hi to tiago, I was wondering what had happened to you, glad baby is doing ok.

and piemistress hi to you!

martha hope you are doing ok, I've been thinking of you x

happy birthday to state, lindor is my favourite!

lurcher know what you mean about children bashing into the mini-bump - I see it as beneficial to my mental health to eat lots of cake and grow a rubber ring of lard around my womble area, to protect small bean.

so pinkfizz I'll have a twirl! but quite fancy a toblerone, glad the guidance has changed since I had DD so I can have nuts without metalling now.

afm, feeling a bit sad and scared. I had loads of symptoms for the MMC, so even having symptoms now (excessive saliva, nausea, light headed, starving hungry, indigestion, wind ok probably TMI now!), just keep thinking "it's just like the MMC, the bean is going to die ".

Having a 7 wk scan on Thursday, so hoping that it will be ok this time. But even then, with the MMC they would have seen a heartbeat at 7wks, so even this scan won't be totally reassuring. Aaggh! . What a pile of crap. I keep thinking this one needs to be different from the MMC. A friend who had a similar experience, then a lovely DS said her 2 pg were very similar, which gives me a bit of hope. Have you guys found your mcs similar to your successful pgs?

At least it's not ectopic again, I have to keep reminding myself of small mercies, well that's a rather large one. Also a friend of mine had an aneurism recently and nearly died, so that puts it all into perspective. Ok enough rambling,

hi to everyone else I haven't mentioned, hope you're all doing ok

Hi everyone - I was hoping for some help/advice. I had a mc in July. It took a while to get a bfn again after the mc but af arrived in August. I did have a few days of brown discharge before it started.

This month, I've not been totally sure about dates etc. I was on holiday and trying to just enjoy dtd etc.

I started having a tiny amount of brown discharge on Saturday. I thought that this must be start of af but there's hardly been anything at all. I've only been having brown discharge (although I did have a tiny amount of dark blood in the middle of the night when I wiped. My boobs have also been feeling really sore and it's felt like they've got worse. Anyway, I decided to do a test last night as I have a lot of the internet cheapies and I've become a bit obsessed with poas. There was hardly any urine and it was almost clear as I'd been drinking so much but I thought there was something there. I've test again this morning and I've got a faint +ve on the internet cheapie. It's definitely there - you don't need to squint to see. It may be that I ov a lot later then I thought I did.

To be honest, I just feel really frightened. I'm already having this brown discharge and as I said there was a tiny amount of blood through the night. I'm frightened that things are going wrong already. I don't even know if I'd want early scans this time as last time, everything seemed ok and then it all went wrong.

Has anyone else experienced this and things have been ok?

I think that I'll go and buy a branded test and see what it says. I did test last week with superdrug and first response tests but got bfn.

Hi all

Had a manic few days which wasn't ideal but hey did taken mind of metalling though I'm back again now

State and lurched I have a 4 year old cocker spaniel who also seems to now make a beeline for my lower tum I like tax idea of building a protective ring of lard ... If only I could keep food down

Martha hope ur doing on hun x

Tiago yay for average means all is well and must be a huge comfort

Jolly I to am a self confessed poas addict I loved the opks as it meant u got to indulge more frequently

Iq I'm so sorry for the loss of your grampy hope you are doing ok and remembering all the lovely things you did together x

Woody welcome hun sounds to me like a positive just remember brown blood is old blood so try not to worry could also have been implantation bleed depending on when it was ......

Afm still nausea all day and can only really eat and keep it down after 8 pm I see that ring of lard appearing .... Jeans don't do up now but reluctant to enter the mat clothes just yet. I want to try to wait til my 12 week scan if I get there ......

Anyone got an opinion I was scanned at 6+5 and lovely strong hb. But then got told that was it till my 12 week one. For a metaller like me it's scary not knowing .... After 3 mc I know some of u ladies have had fortnightly reassurance scans ... I'd both love and dread this dh wants to just wait I think he loves just believing its all ok and doesn't want it spoilt whereas I would rather know sooner being that my body doesn't seem to recognise if my beans have stopped growing .... I'm tempted to ring epu and ask there advise but just don't really know.......

Leaves out yummy old school cornflake tart cake and custard and some home made lemonade

Sorry for the typos damn I phone autocorrect !

Thanks mumtum - hopefully everything will be ok. I think if I hadn't previously mc, I maybe wouldn't be so worried about it all. I just keep thinking the worst. Trying to be positive but not sure how to be!

woody I agree with mumtum that it's probably old blood that is being squeezed out because a nice egg is nestling into the lining

Also trying not to think about POAS, 5 days until AF due....the day we go on hols for a week...hoping to hold out as long as possible...hard isn't it jollyb!!

Good luck with your scan Tas will be thinking of you

A really good friend in work had an ectopic last month and had to have one of her tubes removed, she's just found out she's pg again and it could be ectopic again...waiting for bloods results and second scan...How did we ever think having babies was straightforward???

Hi to everyone else, help yourselves to a bowl of fruit and cream...

Mmm fruit and cream, thanks Dorita

woody I also agree with mumtum - fingers crossed for you!

I'm just tottering along. Am 15+4 and starting to maybe feel the first flutterings of movements? Either that or I'm a bit windy. Not metalling too much at the moment, but I have almost 2 weeks until my '16 week' (ha) appointment with midwife and I'll be metalling before that. I hope she tries to find, and finds, a heartbeat!

Thank you dorita and backward possum - really hope it's all going to be ok.

pops in and scoffs Lindor and Twirl bars!

holding lots of hands tonight with all the metallers, welcome woody and congrats on your BFP! i agree that this blood is probably old blood, so hang in there

i bought some Boots cheapo pee sticks today (the value ones are on 3 for 2 - so you pay a tenner for six tests in total). I did a test and i have got my BFN, which was bittersweet as it is yay for TTC again and because, well my baby has gone

Anyway - that means we are all systems go to start TTC again but i am still bleeding (which is to be expected as it is only a week and a half after Jack was born) so we will have to wait a few days, i thought the bleeding had stopped at the weekend but it is still there. I know i am just too impatient but we just feel robbed of our baby and want to be pregnant again so 'i can do it properly this time' (yes yes i know that is irrational but i am a metaller)

I had the most insincere condolence this morning, one of the mums at the nursery asked how i was, i shrugged my shoulders and said 'well not great but getting there' she just looked at me and said with no emotion at all 'well i dont know what to say' Now loads of people have said that to me which i am fine with, but SHE said it to me as if i had the audacity to put her in that situation stupid bitch

Then tonight i was in the park with DS when one of the mums who i hardly know came running over to me and enveloped me in a huge hug and kiss and said how sorry she was - yep, that was really lovely, that is all the other mum had to do

Rant over!

You can rant all you want martha .thats what we are all here for and you are perfectly entitled to! Stupid bitch. Hope she never has to go through such a loss.
It's only normal to have all the mixed emotions. Just go with them martha x

Oh Martha - what a thing to say. I haven't been through anything as traumatic as you with my miscarriages but I agree all you want people to say is 'I'm sorry' or 'how are you?'.

Now that I've hit the magic 3 miscarriages my friends keep asking about whether I'm being referred for investigations etc. Am sure they're being well meaning but it just reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with me. I don't want to be referred. I want to have a normal pregnancy like I had with my daughter.

Rant over and many congrats to Woody xxx

Oh martha she was a total twat. Some people just have no idea do they? I hope the far nicer lady made up for it xxx

jolly well meaning or not your allowed to feel annoyed at the comments, all this mc lark can wear us down, and unless you've lived it you have no idea. I had two early mcs 4/6wks then the 14wk mmc, and it was (so far) 4th time lucky! It was SO frustrating as I fell pg with ds and dd so easily. I sometimes think it may be the whole 'mc protecting us from a baby who wouldn't make it long term' does that make sense? Good luck anyway x

I can't believe your 15wks backward that seems to have gone really quickly! I felt flutters from 13wks, I'm sure of it now wrigglers like the cast of stomp.

As for me I'm 26+4, plodding along nicely. The fear does still get me some days, but mostly I'm good. Picked up an amazing crib this week, steriliser and change bag, so I am getting braver, slowly!

jolly i know exactly what you mean, i got sick of people saying to me that all i need to do is 'just go to the GP and they will do blood tests' like that is the magic route to a successful pregnancy

state oo how exciting - i am congratulating you on your bravery

i have just had a visit from two of the lovely staff at DS's nursery, they brought round a lovely bunch of flowers and lots of hugs and chat. They have worked there for years and have seen many mums come and go with the same kind of thing, they were just so lovely (and told me to ignore the twat mum - they know who she is and think she is a twat too )

That's lovely martha that there are some sentient people still about.

Yes please to all of the above- you do spoil us here!

Have just been scoffing choccie digestives so may put mine on a plate for later...

Anxious about opk as do doesn't know. He has a hernia and awaiting surgery and feels it is hindering him getting an erection(tmi) . Naturally he's feeling über sensitive about this and does not like any pressure to perform so whether we actually Dtd on smiley days or not, who knows??

Would everyone here please please please keep all fingers and toes x as well as those of your children, partner, neighbours and pets for us? It's such a sensitive issue

littlepink your poor DH is there any way you can, erhem, manoeuvre oneselves in order to - well you know - create minimum impact to his hernia situation Be creative girl!!

Oh martha you are naughty!
Its his male pride that is the problem! Wil be doing my very best to start those little swimmers on their merry way!

littlepink dd has crossed her eyes for you, and I echo martha get creative

Little pink hope you've managed to get your wicked way.

I'm beginning to spot so I think my period is on the way I suppose i should be thankful it was a relatively short WTF cycle. Next Question is should I dig out the old clearblue fertility monitor or go au naturel for this cycle? Ho hum

jolly managed to Dtd last night but just for fun as only on cd 7 today so no chance of me ovulating yet.

I'm just starting to use opk this month,they recommend me starting on Sunday.if I was you, I would definitely be using the monitor? Every little helps! x

Hello, thought I'd come and join you. We had a MMC at the end of July at around 10 weeks. AF then arrived at the beginning of September so we said goodbye to condoms again. This week we've been putting in more effort than usual, and DH has taken this to almost every night. At times it's quite difficult for me to get myself "in the mood". I do really want to fall pregnant again, I do really love DH and I do enjoy dtd. What can I do?

grain you can either lie back and think of england or just relax and take it easy. you will get pg again it doesn't have to be this cycle! at least your dh is keen. mine hates it when he knows it the right time of the month.

jolly i would get the cbm out. why not eh?!

i am still plodding away here. going for a scan tomorrow and should be 11 weeks. starting to get extra nervous now as my first mc happened at 11+4 after going for my dating scan at 11 weeks and seeing heartbeat. if everything is ok tomorrow i have my dating scan next thursday will also be seeing the consultant to go through the plan for getting me through the next trimester.

hope everyone is ok and the quietness of this thread means everyone is just plodding!

hope you are ok martha

Fingers x for you pebspop

oh crikey pebs i know that place; i am keeping everything crossed for you remember, there is NO reason why this pregnancy should go wrong. Really x

welcome grain and so sorry for your loss but you are on the home straight now and can get TTCing. Glad to see DH is keen too. Masses of good luck for you this month.

AFM i am feeling pretty low; i am going back to work next week on half days and dreading it, my team obviously got the guilt and sent me some flowers this morning (erm i have been off sick for almost 2 weeks now ) they have obviously thought that they should show willing given that i am going back next week fuckers

The midwife came this morning and asked if she could discharge me, i said yes please as having a midwife come round once a week reminds me that i should have a baby in my arms anyway i am trying to perk myself up, i am still bleeding brown blood and getting really frustrated about it as i want to start TTC right away. Madness i know, and i know for a fact i am wanting to replace my last pregnancy, but i feel that the only way i can carry on is to be pregnant again. God - what a mess

Anyone fancy getting virtually blotto tonight? Even the TTCers can join in coz it is virtual reality innit?

Evening all. martha I will join you in that virtual glass of wine. In previous pregnancies I've gone right off it but in this one I'm craving it! I haven't had any, but frantically sniff dh's glass like a madwoman whenever he has some!

pebs will be thinking about you tomorrow and keeping everything crossed. You're nearly out of that first trimester now...hang in there, beanpebs!

grain, it all depends how desperate you are to be pregnant I guess...if you're happy for it to take a bit longer, just do it when you fancy and not when you don't and eventually it will happen. If you want to be more systematic, have you considered props? Porn, vibes, whatever might help get you in the mood?

As for me, my next scan is a week today when I should be 10+4 - I'm looking forward to it and absolutely dreading it at the same time. I am ridiculously bloated (always am in early pregnancy) and as I'm usually quite slim my stomach looks like a football. I know no-one will ask me at work if I'm pg again after they know I had a mc, but they must be suspecting.

pebs good luck tomorrow!

grain welcome to the thread, shame we're all here, but 'tis a lovely place. x