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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake! Part

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Dorita75 · 03/09/2012 20:28

Hi, thought I'd start the new thread. This is a brilliant thread for anyone trying to conceive or who has got a bfp after mc, full of lovely ladies, fab advice and a lovely place to metal, so called because someone said metal instead of mental and the rest is history......

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Moominsarescary · 13/09/2012 22:16

Martha I'd be better having you check it, dp is colour blind. He wouldn't be able to tell if it was blue, pink or yellow!

Jaffa I remember that tiredness, had a mc at around 6 weeks, pg straight away with ds3 who was born at 32 weeks and I was pg again before the post natal at 8 weeks with Jacob so 58 weeks pretty much back to back. Even though I've had an 8 month break this time I still feel like I've been pg forever!

So I've been to the mw, yet again mine wasn't in. I've not seen her yet this time. Still no joy trying to get the cervical scan but I did have a good talk to her about the cervix and where it should be.

MissCoffeeNWine · 13/09/2012 23:30

Just had a sob at mosh pit playgroup in the sky. Oh my. I am also the mother of a six month old baby boy as well as my tiny girl. It's just not right, is it.

Remembering all the tiny ones Thanks

Moominsarescary · 14/09/2012 06:39

Yes Jaffa I thunk you described it really well, it is like a piece of your heart is living a parallel life.

It's the only thing thats made me wonder what happens after you die. Ds3 was playing in the paddling pool and his new sandpit last weekend and dp said Jacob would be able to sit in there with him now. It's sad they never got to meet or play togeather

littlepinkfizz · 14/09/2012 10:30

Just a query and definitely TMI but .... Does anyone else get an itchy ehmmm muff pubic hair when they are coming on AF??!! Or ,as I suspect, is it just me??

Rich tea and coffee anyone, or a choccie digestive

buzzybeetop · 14/09/2012 13:19

So glad you've decided to get back on the horse Martha I'm sure you'll get the lovely baby you so deserve.
Was loving all the positivity of the other day. I'm going to try to take that on board and be a bit more optimistic.
I'm sure you're not alone in the pre menstrual muff itching little but can't relate to tat one myself!

buzzybeetop · 14/09/2012 13:23

I'll take a digestive though!

snorkmaiden2 · 14/09/2012 13:51

Did a test this morning, BFN. I wasn't sure which way it would go really cos I've still got lots of pg symptoms which I'm surprised about on my 3rd cycle after mc. Bleurgh.

This has been the longest 2ww in the history of all time. Wondering whether or not all the lurking I'm doing isn't really helping me after all. I know it's an obvious thing to say but I really really really want another baby in my tummy

Jollyb · 14/09/2012 14:24

Snorkmaiden - when are you due on? Could you just have tested too early?

Fizz - can't say I've suffered with itchy pubes either - will keep an eye out for this symptom next weekSmileseriously sorry to hear about your AF

Hope everyone's ok. X

littlepinkfizz · 14/09/2012 14:56

I knew it! It's just me!! I do wash though!

Sorry to hear bout the BFN. I feel exactly the same , so your not alone there x

littlepinkfizz · 14/09/2012 15:05

moomin what is your secret for getting pregnant so quickly? Is it just a calm ,not getting stressed approach or did you work out when you were ovulating or use opk? Would really love to know . Smile

StateofConfusion · 14/09/2012 16:22

Your not alone little Blush

JaffaSnaffle · 14/09/2012 17:32

littlepink, I get pregnant very easily, ( 4 pregnancies each within 2 months of ttc). Some of it is luck without a doubt, and some of it is me being very anal about it... well not literally ahem.. But I do get quite controlling about it. I work out when I'm likely to ovulate, start on the opks, pay a lot if attention to cervical mucus- that is the best indicator for me actually, and then make sure there is s lot of sex in that time. But, I am so aware that a lot of people do this, and don't get pregnant so easily... I'm good at getting pregnant, and good at labour, so far, just the bit in the middle I'm rubbish at :(

pebspop · 14/09/2012 17:59

I get pg easily since I temped to work out when I ov. first time I ttc took 5 cycles. next three times were first or second cycle. I temped between first mc and second pg.

I ov a week later than normal despite having a 28 day cycle.

a lot of the ladies on here seem to get pg easily. stick around and it will br your turn soon. how long have you been tryin g?

MarthasHarbour · 14/09/2012 18:03

moomins and *MissC8 (sorry i made you cry Sad) i have an 11 month old and a 1 week old in that playgroup Sad Smile i was hugging my friends DD the other day, she has just turned 1. We were due within a month of eachother. It was bittersweet (as she is simply adoooorable)

snorks Angry about the BFN.

littlepink erm me too - in fact i get it at all times of the month Blush

jaffa we are up for TTC straight away, once the bleeding stops actually Blush we have learned that it takes us forever to conceive so best not do any planning if it happens immediately i will have 20-25 weeks on top of next pregnancy.

Well my shopping trip yesterday was a big mistake, i woke in the night with cramps and had a heavy blood loss this morning. So have taken it easy today

Moominsarescary · 14/09/2012 18:22

little I don't know, I've always found it harder to carry than get pg, it did take longer when ttc ds3. About 14 months by which time I'd tried ovulation kits having sex every day and had got to the point where dp dreaded af time, we then decided to try to forget about it and I conceived a few months later, although I had a mc.

I seem to get pg easily after mc or after having a baby. I was still bf ds 3 when I became pg again. It has taken longer this time but I think that's because tmi we haven't had sex much since Jacob as even though I wanted to be pg again I was also scared. As it turns out the last 3 times I've gotten oh I've had bleeding which I thought was AF an it's only been when they've scanned me an moved the dates fwd that I've found I've been pg between 2-3 weeks longer than I thought. I wasn't really able to judge my cycles though as I've become pg two of those times so soon after mc or birth.

Martha take it easy or I will come round and sit on you!

snorkmaiden2 · 14/09/2012 18:31

Thanks ladies. jollyb I tested faaaaaar too early, there ws never any chance of a BFP today. I reckon I only OVed last Thursday. The good side of this now is I have temporarily convinced myself that I am indeed not pregnant which has given me a mental break and it also means I have no more tests in the house so I can't keep winding myself up over it. I guess if I'm honest I thought I'd be reupduffed by now and I'm starting to feel really pissed off about not being pregnant

Martha please take it easy.

littlepinkfizz · 14/09/2012 21:42

jaffa are you ovulating when your c/m becomes loads and white and stretchy? Is that the right time then to Dtd or am I better taking temps or an opk? There seems to be uncertainty as to when to test for the opk - ie morning or 2pm.

I'm 40+ so time is of the essence Smile

StateofConfusion · 14/09/2012 21:42

Just popping by to check in or I loose the thread.

Thinking of you martha make sure you rest.

littlepinkfizz · 14/09/2012 21:44

Martha thanks for joining me on the Itchy and Scratchy show! Smile

JaffaSnaffle · 14/09/2012 23:01

littlepink, personally I'd throw the book at it and try the lot!

Sorry if tmi, but for me, fertile cm is still clear. Lots of it, quite thick, stretchy and slippery and would strand between my fingers if you tried. It often is described as egg white cm, or ewcm on the conception boards. The white stuff comes after OV for me. When I've had the ewcm, I've done a opk, and it has come up positive. I think the text book guide is that you are most fertile a few days before OV,
to about 2 days after... Sperm can live for about 5 days, and eggs for about 2. I'm often most interested in sex at this time too.

I never tried temping, but I think it can be a really good way to understand your cycle, particularly if you are ovulating at a more unusual time like pebs. I also know some people try it and don't like it, but I'm not the best person to ask.

Also, others might have something to add, or might have different experiences...

My personal opinion is that the more info you have, the better. When ttc, I used to feel very aware that there is just this little window once a month, then you have to wait forever to find out if you're pg, or to
try again. Not a patient person really :)

JaffaSnaffle · 14/09/2012 23:02

Oh, meant to add to the voices telling Martha to take it easy.... X

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Dorita75 · 15/09/2012 08:55

snork I love the reverse psychology....an early BFN making you think you're not pg (you still could be but we Don't mention thatGrin) I like it and hope it is indeed, giving you a mental break! I'm in the 2ww so weighing up whether to just wait till AF's due or to test early. I plan to do the first one but am secretly counting days until I can test early

Take care Martha

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Dorita75 · 15/09/2012 08:55

snork I love the reverse psychology....an early BFN making you think you're not pg (you still could be but we Don't mention thatGrin) I like it and hope it is indeed, giving you a mental break! I'm in the 2ww so weighing up whether to just wait till AF's due or to test early. I plan to do the first one but am secretly counting days until I can test early

Take care Martha

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MumTumWanted · 15/09/2012 09:33

Freaking out ...... Am having massive huge sharp pains right in the centre of my lower tummy ( right where my womb etc is) pain is shooting down wards towards my Womble area .... I'm thinking this is defo not good major freaking out SadSadSad

MumTumWanted · 15/09/2012 10:41

After much googling Confused had large glass of water and a warm bath and it does seem to bd subsiding. Seems it could have been just ligaments stretching of even dehydration. I hope so. I'm now very scared . No other symptoms though so fingers crossed Blush

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