TTC 1st baby # Thread no 4

[Newbie2]

Wishing everyone a happy BFP!!!!!

Yes. He said he doesn't see it as a problem though.

They are the same people who arranged their daughters' christening on the Sunday of my birthday weekend (with H2B as godfather) without asking if he was busy. When it transpired he was as it was my birthday and we were going to London to see Matilda and then to my parents' house (and we hadn't visited since the previous Christmas, and my birthday is November), which had been booked for 3 months, they refused to change the christening. Bri had to come back up here on my birthday instead of to my parents' house with me.

I think they should have asked first and not booked it then. Apparently I'm in the wrong / minority. And I think they should have moved it to the next date. Yes, it was February, but Bri wasn't available on their chosen date, so a bugger, but just the way it goes.

Nicola really hope the situation changes or improves soon. Sounds really awkward and unecessary on you both (particularly you)!

Nicola I agree with the christening thing. me and oh r godparents and were asked if we could make x date before it was all booked.

if he is with the friends why doesn't he just ask them if they can come to wedding? also agree its rude not to reply but he could just ask them? (sorry if I've missed something here that complicates things)

men! well af has arrived here so cd1 for me.
on the plus side I can now have the wine with my nice m&s tea!!

Morning ladies!

No, apparently I'm

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in the wrong. I don't get to dictate when they had the christening. They wanted it then, so it was fine. Birthdays don't matter after you're 21 (and clearly visiting my family also doesn't matter).

If there is ever any disagreement with his friends, I am wrong. Always. No matter what it is, I am wrong.

Seriously reconsidering the wedding right now.

Boo to AF, Puppy. Hurrah to wine & M&S tea!

I've no

Bloody hell my phone is pissing me off!

I've no idea why he couldn't ask them about the wedding. Same reason as to why he couldn't chase them for their response when asked, I imagine.

Hi ladies, Nicola that would wind me up/upset me too! Especially if you were in on your own last night waiting for him did you manage to DTD last night or is that a silly question? Fx you did if you're ov'ing!

Sorry about AF Puppy, dont think mine is far away either as the cramps have come back today :(

Hi let's, no we had a screaming match at midnight. He went to sleep in the spare room, but when I moved to the sofa to watch TV as I couldn't sleep, he was sitting in the lounge. He slept on the other sofa, sitting up while I slept lying down on my sofa.

Not even talking yet.

Oh, and he'd originally told me he was going to that couple's house for his god daughter's birthday and would be back for dinner. He wasn't. He got back at about half 11 after saying he'd be later, not late.

Oh, I wasn't invited to where he went.

And I am ovulating if the pain is anything to go by.

And I'm almost always alone...after 4 years here I still don't really know anybody. He won't move away, I don't want to stay.

Oh god, sounds like you've had a shit night! Must be so lonely for you on your own and would be good if H2B could be a bit more supportive for you! DTD would be the last thing I'd want to do now :( thats probably my trouble - I can't separate how I feel and DTD

Yeah, it would be nice. Sick of always being in the wrong, even when I'm not wrong.

They are all really weird people as they apparently all think the same, I'm out on a limb.

I'd have disowned my friends if he'd moved to me and they'd treated him like I've been treated. But up here it's all me being unreasonable, and I don't understand how people think like that, which is so at odds with everyone else I know. :-(

Absolutely no intention to DTD. Ever.

God...why is ovulation so damn painful? :-(

sounds like they're a clicky bunch but you'd think they'd make some effort for your H2B's sake! Aw hope you make up soon and have a better day today! Yep ov pain sucks but at the same time its reassuring to feel the cramps

Nicola I read yesterday that women who have recently come off the pill feel it more because a) the body is not used to it and b) we have a bit more prostegen to give it an extra boost since our ovaries have been out of action for donkey years. I felt better after reading that!

Yes, let's, they are...they've never made any effort with me, which I found weird right from the start. My home town is slightly odd, but I never imagined I'd find somewhere so unwelcoming as I have here! Ho hum, suppose I'll have to grin and bear it for now.

My ultimate plan is to find an NQ (newly qualified) solicitor job nearer to home in a couple of years. As he's going to be a stay at home dad he won't have much choice if that's the only job I try for can get!

And yes, good to feel the pain. And that's very interesting, Newbie. And explains a lot! And I'm certainly convinced I didn't ovulate the first cycle off the pill as I definitely didn't feel like this!

I keep hearing that ok average it takes 3months for a women to ovulate post pill so maybe that's what's happened with us Nicola

My CBFM is still showing a peak today. Temps slightly raised but cramping is a lot more comfortable...TG!

Here is an interesting calculator for those wishing to know when they might implant: www.thebabycorner.com/tools/ttc/implantation-calculator.php

www.thebabycorner.com/tools/ttc/implantation-calculator.php

Mine's more of a tugging than a cramp, if that makes sense? Making me feel a bit nauseous to be honest.

It wouldn't surprise me if it took a while to ovulate. And bearing in mind I was on the injection for 11 of the 17.5 years, and that can take a while to leave the system, I'm rather pleased my body appears to be trying to head back to normality sooner rather than later.

Ooh..calculators are dangerous things. They get my hopes up!

Any idea when you're testing next, Newbie? Looking at the heartbreak of chemical pregnancy, I'm beginning to think it's best to hold out for as long as physically mentally possible.

Oh Nicola that sounds dreadful. I would be so upset in that situation, I don't handle isolation well and his friends sound awful. Definitely not the type of atmosphere conducive to ttc. Hope he comes to his senses soon and you can make up.
Newbie glad you got a docs appointment. You really need an AF so you can get your head round times etc. my AF was actually quite regular for 3 months after I came off the pill and then I fell pg but miscarried. No regularity now and have no clue if or when I ovd this month. Hey ho. Enjoying partying whilst I can. oh and thanks for the link too.
I'm just patiently waiting AF as stomach increasingly bloated. Think I'm
CD 24 today.
Hope everyone's pain subsides soon. Xx

It is so hard but I'm going to try and hold out for 2 weeks now. I'll still be going to the blood test on Friday (slightly odd to be doing it as I could be pregnant by then but I don't think a blood test is going to cause any harm). I wonder when they test for prostegen levels whether it shows up when your pregnant! I might ask the doctor (after she's taken blood not before in case she changes her mind)

He won't come to his senses about his awful friends, Love, I will always lose there. I just find it bizarre how people who are so rude can be supported and me shunned. Really baffling to me :-(

We are at least talking now, thankfully. And I've just put my ring back on.

Hmmm...not sure about the blood test, Newbie. Do you think you've ovulated with me this weekend? Fx for both of us.

Really should DTD tonight to make sure. Wonder if he will be up for make up sex?!

The blood test shouldn't cause any harm newbie. I know they can tell if you're pg from them but I suppose it depends on what it's testing for.
Nicola, I really hope things get better for you. Can't make planning a wedding v exciting if that's how he makes you feel. Good luck with the make up dtd. Not sure if I'd be in the mood. Can you forgive him quite quickly? Are you in the states just now for his work? X

I may be able to forgive him quickly...see how it goes. He likes to DTD after we've argued...his way of finding out if he's forgiven!

I wasn't finding organising the wedding exciting as it was, to be honest. Too many family problems on both sides!

And I'm in Southport - where he is from - not the States. Did I do a typo earlier? Want to go back to Nottingham really though. Which isn't my home town, but is somewhere I've lived on a few occasions and really like.

Oh sorry, my mistake. Don't know why I thought you were in the states. Lol. If it wasnt for families, weddings would be a breeze. ( been there, got the tshirt. x

The first thought we had about eloping should have been followed through, I reckon!

And no worries...easily done with so many people with varying locations about!