Hoping for a July BFP Part Two

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Hoping the luck continues here.....

RIBS I agree it can only be a good thing! DH and I have talked about whether we should be worried about not being that fussed to DTD in general but neither of us seems to mind.

kittykat it's true it helps, although with DD we lucked out finally when I'd used the sticks enough to figure out when I would be getting the smiley face (am too neurotic for ones that just show lines) and then getting it on a day before. I'd better start the chart again...

Quick question girls...If (and I know this is very wishful thinking) I was to get a BFP sometime during this week, would I still be only just 4 weeks pregnant? I'm so confused, my cycles range from 28days to 36, and tomorrow is cd36 for me. It is very very unlikely that i'm pregnant because I had bfn today AGAIN, but say on Friday it was miraculously positive, that would still only make me 4 weeks right? As I would have ovulated around 14 days previously?
My heads so confused and full of dates and counting i've lost track! Right back when I joined the thread I was hoping for a bfp on cd28, which feels like ages ago now...I HATE IRREGULAR CYCLES it makes things so complicated! Room 101 anyone?!

hmmm cherry i'm not an expert but the day you get the BFP isn't necessarily 14 days after ovulation as your body may produce HCG slower or quicker than average - so you could get a +ve test 6 days before AF is due (and only be 3 weeks pg) or get a -ve test for a while after AF is due then it suddenly turns +ve (so would be more than 4 weeks). I think the only way to know how many weeks you are is to know when you ovulated and count this as 2 weeks pg and go from there.
I have irregular cycles too, I knew I ov on CD22 with DD but the Dr still did my EDD from LMP which would have then made my 12 week scan a week early (as things turned out I had some bleeding at 10 weeks so had to have a scan then which properly dated my pg).
Anyway... brief answer is - it's hard to say and yes to room 101!

Girls- is anyone still awake?
Just has awful row with DF- he says I'm selfish and unsupportive for 'forcing' him to dtd when he's tired and stressed from work. I think he's a complete
shit-heas for not wanting to have sex with me. I know he's tired etc but so am I, i just think ttc is more important. He's now saying he wants to wait until after the wedding, we've got some time off work and it'll be more relaxed. But I don't want to wait. I'm just so so so sad about mc, I just want a baby. He says me badgering him about sex is damaging our relationship- which I took as he didn't want to marry me anymore! Which is clearly ludicrous! I'm just so sad and cross with him. And now the fucker has gone to sleep :-( I hate falling out with him- he's just being a selfish twat though :-(

I'm sorry, Wishful. It's a shame that (most) men don't understand how we feel about TTC. But at least it isn't long until the wedding now, though that is of no consolation. Maybe have to be more subtle in your approach?

We had a massive argument last week when he refused me...to the extent I marched off to the spare room.

Maybe try it tomorrow night. He may be more receptive. I hope.

Oh, wishful, this TTC business makes us and them irrational. Completely understand why you don't want to wait, esp after m/c when you feel cheated and just want back what was taken away. I'm sure he still wants to marry you!
I'd be surprised if anyone on this thread who has been TTC for a bit hasn't had a similar row with OH. I know that I have.
Chin up. Jump him tonight. Bet he feels lousy too.

PS is insomnia a symptom???

Sorry your Dp is being a pain. I think we've all been there. Men just don't get it. I can't even get mine 2 remember 2 take any vitamins. They're simple creatures, but can b awkward. U need 2 explain calmly how upset u are over the mc and how it makes u feel. It's not their bodies they don't get it. I did that with mine, I shouted it at him tho. But now he's very compliant. At the end of the day, I think he was just tired and that way out. He clearly loves u dearly and prob feels like a bit of a twat. May not admit it tho. Good luck. X

Hi all. I'm still lurking on the thread :o

Congrats to all BFPs and damn those BFNs. It is so frustrating that you then a whoooolle nother month to wait to see again

Don't worry wishful I think we've all been there! Try and concentrate on the wedding and you might find whilst your mind is otherwise occupied you might be conceiving - happened to me this month as was stressed at work. Hope the day is great, your dress sounds lovely.

Oh wishful we have all been there. Have you tried bursting into tears, it often works for me, to diffuse the arguement not for having sex. Puffy eyes and snotty nose don't really do it for my dh.

Hope you have a chat with him tonight and he sees how important this is to you.

resipsa yes insomnia is a symptom but with me it only kicked in at 8 weeks. Still fx for you.

kitty I am so proud your iPhone thinks whenshewas is a real word. I obviously spend far too much time on here too.

RIBs have not tested today. Don't know what happened, I have zero willpower. Feeling a bit calmer now that I am almost completely sure this month is not the month. Just hoping for a decent length luteal phase. First lp after bf was only 11 days, am 12dpo today and no period so that is good.

Hi wishful, hope you got some sleep!!
I had a row with dh the other week, we went to bed in separate rooms and the next day when I was upset he said why and I said that I hated fighting and the fact we went to bed seperatly then didn't dtd ment I might not get pg then for us fighting that 1 day it was essentially another month and a half before I might get a bfp! If that was ov a month then another 2ww, I don't think he had thought of it like that and the time out it takes just having a spat so we dtd straight away that morning!! He will probably feel bad too especially if you explain how you feel and how dissapointing it is after mc, getting married is a stressful experience itself nevermind ttc on top x

Aww wishful it's ok we all go through it at some point. I struggled last cycle getting DH to DTD lots. He felt the pressure and was tired from work. We were deffinately not relaxed about it! This morning he asked me when do we start again? He's got it in his head that we need to save it all up so I'm going to try relaxed DtD this week where there is no pressure. I am actually dreading next week because I'm worried that we won't be relaxed again (silly I know). I think I better sit him down tonight and make sure that we book some time out next week. Perhaps I'll suggest a nice meal out or something!

Hi RIBS They gave me 4 months, this is my second month but my first with follicles, last month they just found a cyst. I still have 2 months to try before my next consultation to discuss IVF but I may ask to try clomid a couple of extra months.
DP is lovely, he has been so supportive and after 13 years I still fancy him like crazy. I do talk a bit to him about mumsnet and he often suggests I have a chat with you lovely ladies when I am feeling a bit low.
Yikes I do hope your line gets stronger and must say reading some of your comments I could have written them myself. I had a mc after falling very quickly, in fact in the 1st month. I then suffered severe depression so was unable to try for a few years, then when I felt strong enough to try it did not happen. I now have loads of regrets that I did not try sooner I guess I just thought it would be as easy as the first time.
Sorry to hear stress levels are high wishful I hope things settle down again soon. It does sound like you have a lot going on at the moment with the wedding and ttc it is no surprise that you are both feeling the pressure.

@mersea. If u put your name down 4 ivf u can still ask 4 more clomid 2 keep u going. It's usual 2 get 6m worth.

Hope all is ok wishful. what did make me laugh was him fast asleep while you're seething. Been there SO many times! they really r infuriating.

8dpo here. Very sore boobs have gone. No other symptoms at all. Surely the boobs would still b sore if I was in with a chance. Don't think ill make it til nxt Fri b4 testing.

Hi ribs. Good to know its not just me with no willpower. Best of luck for whenever you do test.

Poor DPs just don't understand - they've not got the hormones and the longing the same. I never discuss anything like that with mine - it would put him off I think to feel under pressure to 'perform'. He just enjoys it when we're DTDing and wonders why when we're not - but I'm not letting on!
Neither does he know I come on here - he's not a forumite and wouldn't understand that either! Each to there own hey

I'm sorry for those where rows have ensued - it's understandable under the pressure of TTC when you want it so much. Hugs to all. It's all part of life's rich pattern, as they say.

I had a good friend who died tragically - and I try to put it in perspective that way when things get tough. If you are feeling pain, disappointment, frustration or sadness it means you are still alive to feel it and still have a heart that cares, and for that you have to be thankful.

I'm still hanging in there on the list. Spotting has stopped. Trying to resist the temptation to test early as I don't want the disappointment to arrive or the hoping to end. :0)

Has anyone tried acupuncture? My DP emailed a practice for more details and they sent through some information for us to look at, just wondering if anyone has heard/experienced that it has been helpful with fertility problems?

Started acupuncture last Weds. It was really strange, c previous post about kung foo episode! Trying 2 get another appointment. I figure it can't hurt. It doesn't hurt literally tho, except mine uses heat and that did. Dr Google said it gives u a better chance, u r ok doing it while taking clomid, than not and uv got a better chance of it sticking. And furthermore once it has works and uv got a very sticky bean, it helps relieve some of the symptoms of pregnancy. Sickness. Tiredness etc.

Thanks Ribs I will certainly give it a go. I was also looking at reflexology and massage, more for relaxation and stress relief really as I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks.

Hello all, hope you're all ok.

Hugs to all who need them!

Sorry I havent been around much ? I had the second interview for the job I went for last week. Think it went 50/50 ? I was nervous but I can do the job so let's see what happens.

CD33 and no AF as yet. fed up! That's 20 days after OV according to monitor!

winkle sounds good re interview. Best of luck with it.

20 dpo is a really long time. Are you still poas or given up? Could it be late due to interview related stress?

Hi girls-
Can't stop- just wanted to log in and say thanks for all your messages of support. I was so so upset and angry last night- I hate fighting with him at the best of times, but it just brought everything to a head and I think hormones weren't helping really!

We didn't particularly talk before we went to work- I cried some more and have felt shit all day. But then when he got home he said he was sorry, I said I was sorry and then we had a shag. So, we're kind of back on, but I'm going to try to back off. And try to make each one count! Am on CD11, so if Ov has been and gone then I've missed it, as we've only dtd once. We haven't dtd, and he hasn't had a wank, since 19th of June (he says he's just too tired to feel like cracking one off!) so I've only got veeeeeeeeeery old sperm. But it's better than no sperm! Presumably fresh is best, but it does put me in with a chance now, right? (Someone come on and tell me a story about concieving with month old sperm!) Haven't seen much in the way of EWCM, but maybe had ov pain yesterday. Who bloody knows.

Anyway- can't stop- we're going out for dinner to try to be friends again! And I can't tell him that I need to name-check on mumsnet thread, as its my guilty secret too!

Just briefly- well done on second interview- and it's not over till its over!

Thanks again everyone- really appreciate having you all as a sounding board,
x

p.s. the last bit was for winkle! x

likesox, I'm really sorry to hear about your friend but I agree that's a good way to try and remember in the end we are still all quite lucky in many ways.

I'm off to zumba now for some good vibes!

sorry, meant to also say to you wishful that I'm really sorry to hear about the argument but it's lovely you both want to patch things up by going to dinner tonight. It's impossible not to argue sometimes, especially when people are tired, but I hope (and predict) that you have a great time tonight.