Fantastic 40+ thread - part 7

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Shiny new thread - over here everyone

Blimey it's been busy in the last couple of days!

Massive congratulations to Jollster :) :)

Gum - sounds promising perhaps? You sound as though you are in a good place right now.

To answer Golden's questions about me - I was 43 in June, mc'd two weeks beforehand. :( Had all the usual investigations a couple of years ago up to and including exploratory surgery on me all of which concluded that there was nothing biologically wrong and it was 'unexplained infertility'. As to the user ID I used to be a goth, and am 'in recovery' from being one i.e. had to sort out my image for work.

As to my attitude - yes I still very much want a baby, but am trying to enjoy the good things in my life. I am still hopeful but also trying to be realistic if that makes any sense and not put everything else in life on hold. There are some nice positive stories on this thread at the moment so maybe there is still a decent egg somewhere.

I also got (lots of - sorry for TMI!) EWCM on CD10 over the weekend which is normal timing for me - haven't had that since the MC so hopefully my cycle is finally fixing itself, which is something.

Phew! [waves to all] I'm so thrilled for Jollster Hopeful, do they have such a thing as 'shabby chic' over in Oz? It's the new anally clean, dahlink! Seriously though, I totally echo what Somewhere said; I'll bet your colleagues won't give a scintilla of attention to your filth and will just bask in you and your hospitality. I do understand your angst: we all want to be seen as 'on top of things' don't we? With the obligatory control over our (perfect) homes and families. After I left rehab a year ago the lovely and caring council stuck me out here in this valley in the middle of nowhere in a massive rented house which used to be a residential home. DP and I now rattle around in this hideously old-fashioned pile with an embarrassing cornucopia of someone else's 'artwork', carpets (vile), curtains (i wish!) and the odd stick of furniture. I have given up attempting to keep the windows clean (there are 13 bedrooms) or the carpets vaccuumed (the corridors are as long and spooky as those in The Shining and the carpets are as horridly retro. Often, when I'm on the toilet, DP will scare the shit out of me by putting his face close to the frosted glass in the door and shouting "heeeeeeere's Johnny!") When friends (what are they, again?) do visit I simply divert their attention by being über fabulous and wafting around with my chipped teapot and a tray of all-butter cookies. You must do the same - except you can thrust photos of your lovely children at them to gape at; your four year-old is gorgeous!

Calibee, glad you've enjoyed your weekend. Wouldn't it be smashing if you were preggo? Fingers and toes crossed, eh?

Goth, I wish you so much luck in getting pregnant and having that longed-for baby. I like your attitude to making the most of the life you have. It's so important to recognise the things we have been blessed with. Thanks for sharing some facets of you: I am not, nor have I ever been, a goth, however I am 'in recovery'

This morning I got a beautifully strong line on the OPK and so tonight is the night for sexy time. I will only be back home late as a friend is coming this afternoon to take me out for tea and then to the cinema to watch Meryl Streep (my girl crush - I love the woman) in Hope Springs. Have a lovely day all you lovely ladies x

For all you pregnant ladies (and the rest of us - very funny!): www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=e4xUSjftm04

Ahoy there! I am adrift on a crotch full of egg white cervical mucus! Someone chuck me a life belt!

golden go girl!!! She who has fertile EWCM must be rogered silly!

hopeful when do you go to the wonderful Rottnest Island?

gothin hoping your time comes soon - I often think these things happen when you least suspect it & have come to terms with giving up.

I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow - I hope. Not feeling particularly pregnant - symptoms are coming & going - not particularly reassuring - would LOVE to have m/s so I would at least notice if it stopped.

Never had bleeding or pain with previous 2 m/c either... Was googling "blighted ovum" today at work - need to stop that kind of thing - have been very disciplined so far!!

Oh thanks for the reassurance ladies, I know my colleagues love me and don't care about my level of cleanliness, it's just something that my controlling mother has instilled in me (that people will notice that there's dust on the skirting boards and cobwebs hanging from the ceiling.)

My Dh said to me, "now that the microwave is clean your colleagues will be so impressed " (he was joking), to which I replied, "I don't think they'll notice at all, but what they won't notice,is how filthy it is," (which I reckon they would have otherwise). You see it is a "pot luck" dinner - everyone is bringing a casserole - so the microwave may need to be used.And besides, it was time - one of us could have caught something nasty from inside that microwave

I'm actually glad I did get a bit of cleaning done yesterday. I have also taken an "urgent private business" day on Thursday so I can finish the job. We are allowed three of those days a year,and I've not yet taken one, so I might as well.

Cheese - we are heading off to Rotto on Oct 7th. Can't wait - just love relaxing there. Last time we were there (last year) I had visualised walking around there with a baby in a sling. I guess that won't be the case,but maybe I'll be walking around with a tiny one in my belly? However, not feeling especially pregnant,except for sore boobs, which I think is a monthly thing anyway.

Somewhere, if you knew me in RL, I'm not sure you'd see me as an inspiration. I am really a grumpy old harridan who wants far too much and has probably bitten off more than I can chew. I just aspire to be wonderful, so practice by trying out all sorts of stuff.

I wasn't exactly "Paleo" this past weekend, when I drank two glasses of champagne on Saturday night, a couple of glasses on Sunday at Knitting club,where I also ate cheese (not on my Paleo diet). I also had to sample the fabulous olive oil blueberry cake I made for the party we went to on Sunday night(if you call a sample two pieces).

After those slip ups I feel like I've gained all the weight back (which I'm sure I haven't), perhaps feeling bloated and fat is a good sign??

Golden - you lucky,lucky girl have all that lovely EWCM. Mine has been AWOL for ages.I'm lucky to get a "wet" feeling. Bah Humbug...I hope you had a fun afternoon, it sounded nice.

I'm up super early today - 5 am- because I actually went to bed at 8;15 and promptly went to sleep. I just can't seem to stay awake in the evenings.It's so frustrating.But I feel fully refreshed now and love getting up to a quiet house. Bliss

Thanks hippy.

Hugs all.

got my combined result 1:1300 for Downs. Nothing to boast about, I had hoped for a bit higher given such a small nuchal translucency, but good enough.

Still can't stop worrying! Stupid! Possibly even ungrateful.

anyway hugs to all you wonderful ladies.

xxx

Hiya, Cheese [waves] I really hope you start to get horrid morning sickness and stuff (although not having symptoms results in healthy babies too.) I've never experienced MS and it's absolutely something I would welcome if I ever get pregnant again as it would be a kind of reassurance, so I know how you feel.

Gum, your blueberry cake sounds terrific. I create my carrot cake speciality using oil also (dare I use the word 'moist' here?) It is moister than the moistest moist thing you could imagine

Somewhere. Hmm...is there any point in me telling you not to worry? I am hugging you instead ((( )))

I decided yesterday to forfeit a nice tea out somewhere and my friend and I instead went to an earlier showing of the film (which was marvellous and riveting and true-to-life in every one of its nano seconds. Those who've been in long marriages will just shout at the screen with "yes! that is us!" moments. Lovely and painful and funny and true. I laughed and wept in equal measure). My friend knew it was baby-making night and that's why I wanted to be home earlier than planned. It was half-way through the film, at approx 6pm, when I felt a crampy, precise pain in my right lower abdomen which went away fairly rapidly leaving soft cramping in the same spot for about 3 minutes or so (Gum & Hippy, could this be the elusive yeti ovulation pain??) I then realised that DP would not be home until past 10 o'clock as it was badminton night and the league has only just recommenced and he is captain and there is no way the selfish, sports-mad, competetive bastard he would see tonight as majorly significant despite my texting him earlier to tell him I was drowning in EWCM. Gah!

Anyway, I arrived home at 7.45pm to find him having abandoned badminton and ready-for-sex having took his Viagra an hour earlier (he had checked the finishing time of the film on the internet). He made sure I had an orgasm ('I wanted the pulsations to drive the sperm up higher' he offered by way of explanation of his attentive and tender efforts. What has he been reading?!) I dunno, it felt so bloody perfectly engineered and well-timed and egg-whitey that I'm already kidding myself I'm pregnant. Stupid, stupid girl...

golden sounds really super promising. what a lovely DH.
xxx

I now need to know if I ovulated yesterday (CD14). I usually ov on CD15. I had to take my temperature 3 hours later than normal thanks to being up and down all night with a recalcitrant Little Ted (aka Little Bastard). So, where I normally take my temp at 8am, I could only take it at 11.15 after a full four hours of uninterrupted sleep. Is this o.k? I only ask as my temperature has soared indicating ov yesterday (which would be fecking marvellous). However, maybe I should discount this due to the vagary in time taking the temp? Can anyone reassure me, please?

Yes, Somewhere, he is. I must remember this when I am being forced to understand the minutiae of his decision-making as manager of his fantasy football league games (this is fantasy, you understand, not real life)

[yells over to Diege]: O.K magazine is only a quid this week!! Plus, Closer & Heat come as one package for two quid!! Closer is full of celebs who have put weight on (yay!) and Kerry Katona looks a blob even after her liposuction (big fat yay!!)

Oooh I'll be havin that then golden - I always wonder if I'm compromising myself a little by indulging in the multi-pack buy. I make do perfectly well by reading Closer in the train station shop, don't seem to recognise anyone in Heat these days , but OK! seems like a really old friend. I was thinking about the aftereight thing the other day when pegging out washing. They are, iirc, a xmas thing, so will be in the shops soon. I think if you refridgerate you'll find the balance between mintiness (albeit a 'warm' mint) and the sweetness of the chocloate is very satisfying. I am assuming you aren't a white mountain bar person then? (fave) I do much prefer milk maltesers as opposed to the white pretenders and also get oddly put out if only reg size available (which look like fun-size bags to me).
Gum I was chatting to my office mate who is Australian and she was very of your planned trip. We were extra envious of the fact that your teaching is just finishing and ours starts again next week!!! Where did the summer go?
somewhere that is a really excellent risk factor, hope you can relax now a little?
Cheese I was reading somewhere that ms declines as we age and it's not unheard of for women to suffer in their 20s/30s and feel little nausea in their 40s. Plus it also tends to hit a little later on (7/8 wks) if it is going to happen at all (in only 60% of pregnancies)
Right, had better get back to writing the dissertation module guide (yawn) though will add newsagents to list when I brave out in the deluge to the PO later!

Can I join please. I'm on a few threads and now obsessed...

I'm 42 ans have 3 teenage dd and ds of 19 mths. Had mmc at 13 weeks in July and desperate to ttc again. Hoping October will be our month.am on cd 11 and going to try to Dtd tonight and another once if I'm lucky couple of times by the weekend. With our ages Dtd is less frequent ....

Anyway hello to all and looking forward to getting to know you all. [ puts on kettle to start reading back on posts.]

[yells to Diege on her way out]: Co-op are doing buy-one-get-one-free family bags of Maltesers!! That's only £2.39 for two fecking bags!!

Hello, Littlepinkfizz (can I call you pink?) and welcome . A 19 month old! How marvellous! I'm sorry about your mmc - how utterly shit. You will find lots of comfort, wisdom and support on here where the feck have you been hiding for feck's sake?!

Just a quick pop in...hope all ok. Hi to Pink..I'm fairly new too. Also 42 and trying after a 15 year break eeek.
Golden I think if your temps stay elevated for three consecutive days it can be a definate sifn of ovulation. Very exciting :)

Thanx cali andgolden I conceived ds after 2 mc and 11 year break! Now hoping for a little brother or sister for him. Fx

Welcome pinkfizz I love a bit of sparkly myself. Except when up the duff I never lose my taste for alcohol when pregnant so have to exert self-control! I was sorry to hear you'd had a mmc too - they're just shite - and then your cycle goes up the spout after too

Diege thanks for those statistics - they make me feel better. Have never had MS in any of my 4 pregnancies - I guess it's not the way I "do" pregnancy. 2 weeks today it's my 1st scan - provided nothing happens before now & then....I'll be gobsmacked if they find anything in there at all - still have it in my head it's a blighted ovum.

something how are you feeling about your results? Would you consider an amnio to reassure yourself?

Calibee & Golden good luck for this month - as long as you're having sex every other day (or more if you can be arsed) in your fertile week, as confirmed by Opk,I'm not sure that the temperature-taking really adds anything.... That's my humble opinion & I'm sure there'll be others along to disagree soon!!

www.pregnancystoriesbyage.com/?m=1

Not sure this will work cos I'm on the phone. This should link to some inspiring over 40 stories.

hi cheese i wouldn't have the amnio cause the risk of mc is more than Downs. i just thought cause the nuchal translucency was pretty world-beating i'd get better. if i'd had a larger nuchal translucency that didn't raise my expectations i think i'd be punching the air with my result.

i'm adjusting to it and it's starting to feel ok.
only other thing is I still have a private scan booked and wondering whether to go ahead with that.

but cheese wanted to say great that MS isn't part of your pattern. i'm thinking of you - this is the hardest time, i've been there so recently. it's really, really tough. I am praying for a joyous scan for you in two weeks time xxx

Somewhere - that result is excellent for a woman of your age. Personally, I'd be jumping for joy. I'm sure all will be well.Try not to worry(I know, I know, impossible)

Golden, sounds like you got perfect timing,and yes,that does sound like O pain. When I get it I have a sort of low grade heaviness, then a more intense pain, which then moves right into my girly bits,and can be quite uncomfortable.It is a great indicator of what's happening, but, sometimes it is so uncomfortable I don't want to have anything poking around down there (i.e, a penis). However, I crack on as it is all for the hope of a wee bairn.

Hello Pink, have we met before? Your name sounds rather familiar? Anyway, Like you, I have a LO, for whom I have been trying to provide a younger sibling. But I've been trying for close to three years,and he's now 4 and so independent and cute, I'm not so sure about messing with the status quo. I'd still love him to have a younger sibling, I just want it to happen now, I'm tired of ttc and waiting. He'll be off to kindergarden next year, I had envisioned them at home with mummy playing nicely together (obviously a dream...)
Pink, I'm sorry about your mmc, it really is awful. I hope you are healing and that you are pregnant asap.

I am 10 DPO and I got a rather starkly one-lined First Response test this morning. I suppose I ought to be glad, as I won't have to change our trip to Indonesia next year.But I'm not glad. I secretly (or not so secretly) had hoped I'd get a BFP.I really wanted to have a little baby on board...

Cheese - I'm sorry you are experience this anxiety. I do understand, as I felt the same way. Just remember, FTYAP.

We probably have met hopeful on some thread or other!

Feeling fed up this morning. Still no dark line on opk stick and Dtd tonight.. Its cd12.

Also training bloody dog who now seems to have forgotten everything and is as heedless as ever. She is 6 mth old boxer and were going to training classes every Thursday. Worried that on Thursday's class the trainer will think we have done fk all work all week when that's not the case. It's just disheartening and I suppose I'm thinking that's how the ttc is going

Also ging to psychologist for help with sexual attacks over 20 years ago. I'm bald to be getting help finally but
It's hard and painful and I just really want to have another and last baby. Just afraid now I'm stressing about it so it won't happen...

Not normally gloomy- see my name!