Hoping for a July BFP?

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Come join me :)

I know what you mean, but sometimes if I'm having a 'I can't be arsed' moment, I think forward to that time when I'll be due af/bfp and what if today was that day I was going to conceive and I missed out because I didn't do it? Once you've got pregnant you don't have to be arsed again - you can just go back to enjoying it all.

It's easy for me to say though, because although I've been trying for a few months this is my first proper cycle where I've had an idea of when af's due, when I'm ovulating etc. It's emotionally - and physically - exhausting. So a few cycles of this and I think I will be on the way to giving myself a nervous breakdown if I don't calm down.

I know there's lots of success stories where people give up trying, stop thinking about it and then fall pregnant straight away. But how the hell do you stop thinking about it? I mean really stop thinking about it rather than 'he he I'll trick my body into getting pg by pretending I don't care anymore'?

I think as well everyone must get negative times - it's only natural. I think as we're all on here to support each other we might sound more positive i.e I want x to feel positive so I'm going to sound really positive when I'm talking to her.

I know personally I'm feeling scared, because I've got myself convinced I'm pregnant... I'm really sure I am. So if I'm not I'm worried about how it's going to affect me.. I'm going to be crushed. I bet it must be like that for a lot of people in the 2ww. Then next cycle I'll probably be feeling really negative, what's the point etc.. But I must keep trying because I really

want it.

It's ok to feel negative and let yourself feel like that but it's also important to try to stay positive and not stop trying. It will happen

How's the spot doing by the way? If it's really red with a big white head, you're definitely on for your BFP!

Fatas laughed so much I spilled yoghurt all over my laptop..does anyone know how to get yoghurt out of the keyboard?

I am always paranoid about those toilets too - whatever happened to good old fashioned latches!

Repisa & Sunshine I think thats what June felt like for me. May I was super excited - June was just down and negative, and now I am all geared up again. I really hope I don't see any of your faces on the August thread - in the nicest possible way :)

Spot's fading

hi likesoxinbed so do I! DH thinks its weird though - always suffer from cold feet.

Shoulda kept my mouth shut

Yes I do - always have cold feet in bed! Glad I'm not alone redstrawberry. xx

POAS!! I didn't know that one. All a bit hap hazard having been on the pill for x years, but 'should' be due AF 9th July if my body had read any of the books...

Had convinced myself was pg straight away (accidentally) but was just pill withdrawal symptoms and PMS I had forgotten existed. Was crushed, and surprised I felt that way! So here I am

Oh how long have you been on the pill sox ? it's strange isn't it.. For years I didn't have a maternal bone in my body, now all I can see is babies.even while I dream!

Do you know when you OV (Ovulate) ? I am monitoring on apps and CM (cervical mucus ) The things you resort to when you want a baby! I never thought 5 years back, I would be on MN (mumsnet) talking about CM!

It's amazing how you get used to all the acronyms..... want to get pg, think I ov on cd21 due to monitoring cm and ewcm, so dtd eod around that time, poas 14dpo using frer. Taking epo and using cbfm...... all makes perfect sense to me but it's gibberish!

Haha I accidentally even once said it aloud as "do the deed" to hubby Luckily he didn't cotton on :)

Lol at fatas, I can't use one of those without never taking my eyes off the lock button, even the loo is too far away from the buttons to stop it turning!! It's like the text you send to the wrong person and you keep trying to stop it but it won't it wont!!!!
I like sunshines attitude but I'm feeling really glum this month about it, felt I would be pg this last cycle as we'd dtd alot and I had headaches tired and felt nauseous and I also believed the extra fertile rumour! Af really took me by surprise and its thrown me back to the it's going to take me ages despair which ofcourse will with that attitude, I can't seem to stop obsessing at the moment which ofcourse means the days drag even worse, had arguement with dh last night too so deprecate beds
luckily I don't need him at the minute

don't be too hard on yourself kittykat it will happen for you soon.

Its frustrating as its something you can't control and have to suffer through the wait every month. The waiting is the most annoying thing about TTC. And then after insanely counting down the weeks, days, hours, mins when you get a BFN its sure not a nice feeling.

But you have got to pick yourself up and remember that one day it will take you by surprise when it does happen and you will be very very happy that day and a lot of women on this thread will envy you in the nicest possible way.

Thanks red
I know the pessimist in me is pointless but sometimes you just feel really glum about it all, love the threads for support but it's hard when someone else gets a bfp in the nicest possible way, think its the mc that's done it, it's hard not getting a bfp but when you had one then you think I'd have had my 12 wk scan by now, I'd have a bump by now etc etc I need to snap out of it though
Sorry guys I'm bringing the thread down
Wheres fatas, what else have you done

oooooh I'm guessing on and off (mostly on) for 22 years!! And I very often took it consecutively to skip periods.... whether it will have paid havoc with my system we'll see.

At the moment we're not worrying about it and just saying que serra, serra - but I guess the mere fact that I am on here means actually it means more to me than that... OH is just enjoying the ride, so to speak, and will always deal with whatever comes his way.

kittykat is must be hard and I can only imagine how that must feel. At least on here you know you are not alone. xxx

Ah, kittykats I'm sorry you feel down. If you're at the beginning of your cycle there's nothing you can 'do' at the moment, so take some time to be kind to yourself. Drink wine, eat rare steak, goats cheese and Stilton and enjoy them as you won't be able to when you're pregnant

Spoil yourself for a while, and by the time you're in a fertile part of your cycle you'll be ready and positive again.

Take some time with your dh/p when you're not in a fertile bit to enjoy spending a night together just to be together and not about babies.

I know it's hard not to obsess about it, and you can start again in a few days, but give yourself a little break.

Have you got any holidays planned? Has anyone else?

I'm sorry, I can only imagine how hard a m/c must be. Do you get a chance to talk to anyone about it in rl? Dh, family or friends?

Sorry fatas but that did make me laugh!

I'm in a CBA (cant be arsed) mood. Should really dtd tonight just in case I didn't OV when monitor said I did... Must muster up energy!

I've been a bit miserable and quiet for a few days. Should have had a scan last Friday and after a few drinks that evening had a bit of a meltdown.

I feel like I'm wishing my life away want to fast forward to AF so that I know where I am. Self indulgent whinge over!!

Fatas you poor thing, but did make me laugh. I've done similar at work but thankfully grabbed the handle before the door was wide open.

:( Dexi

Helloo! It's the stupid arse here!!

Am on return journey now with a tiny bottle of water so hopefully won't need to pee again!! I will obv be the joker buffoon of the fred! Am very glad to hear it made you all laugh! I never understand why they put the buttons so far away from the loo...

Please don't be down for too long! I feel
Like that sometimes too - it can be so hard but is worth it in the end

Ahh fatas you have made me lol again, who is Fred and is he better then your dh?
It's one of those days hey
Well I've been abit self indulgent today aswell havnt I, feeling abit better beer in hand and arranged two nights out this week
Thankyou sunshine for your kind words, unfortunatly not really got anyone to talk to as mum and sis are of the move on its happened for a reason type which there is alot to be said for at times but not when your feeling blue so unfortunatly you guys got it, but thankyou all x

Ohh and had to add I'm having my beer in a nice hot bath
While you can hey

Ooh beer in bath sounds gooood!
kitty I think you will feel better tomorrow (unless u overdo the beerage!!) - its ok to have days like these as long as you can dust yourself off and renew your enthusiasm...

Am so grateful for mini DVD players and The Gruffalo (gorgeous film) as it is keeping DS entertained while we get thru the last chunk of our epic journey!

Evening
Well it looks like the 2ww is upon me. Cd 18 and think d-day was yesterday, cd17. So we DTD on days 6, 9, 12, 14, 16 and 17. Possibly once more for luck tonight or tomorrow.
My boobs hurt already how cruel is that. Done almost all I can for this month and really don't see at the moment how I can last out for at least 10 days without knowing. It's probably a good month for a bfn though as we have first appt. at the fertility clinic in mid July. Even though I don't expect to get answers then I sure as hell will be asking a lot of questions!
One slightly embarrassing one to ask here though- what's the verdict on whether or not having an orgasm while DTD makes a difference? my understanding is that it may help a bit- increases general movement of fluid etc., but it's not a major factor. I generally don't you see