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Is everyone in the world pregnant but me!

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Countmyblessings · 06/06/2012 20:14

Need to rant I believe my 1st AF is on its way since my eptopic and tube removal the end of April 12!!!!!
My emotions are all over the place and I'm now crying as " Gennie in emmerdale" seems to of gotten pregnant without wanting or trying!!! It's a soap! But feel like its happening in real life too!!!!!!

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Purpleprickles · 10/07/2012 23:11

I've just worked out that I should have ovulated two days ago and nothing has shown on those sticks. Well today was faulty but now I'm worried I'm just not ovulating. At the moment I'm in bed crying while dh snores besides me Hmm Most of the time I manage to keep all my crazy in but sometimes the thought of not being able to conceive again makes me feel like I can't breathe.

iloveberries · 11/07/2012 06:11

Hi purple - oh, how i understand how you're feeling. It is soooooo hard when your body won't do what everyone else's does very easily. remind me how old your DD is. I have basically checked out of all (toddler) social situations as i can't handle the fact all the other toddler mums have a bump or a baby and i have neither - just a lot of painful memories and one fallopian tube left.

I have no advice but just wanted to give you a big HUG.

RE: the ov sticks - sometimes they don't work.... I used them for 4 months (cleablue ones) and only saw a smiley once but i am pretty sure i was ovulating as when i bought the CBFM it gave me a peak every month from month one. Can you use the natural signals of ov to help you dtd at the right time?

I hope you wake up feeling better and with no rats in the bed - apart from the trouser rat! ;)

Purpleprickles · 11/07/2012 21:30

Thanks Ilove, I'm feeling a bit calmer today. I'm glad to hear that the sticks don't always work all the time. I used to be able to tell when I was ovulating from cramps and feeling a bit hotter but in the last few months I haven't been sure. To be honest I think I am over thinking everything. I'm just hoping that once I get to summer hols (I'm a teacher) my general stress levels will calm down and I may have a better chance of conceiving. It's so hard ins't it- I feel for you avoiding toddler groups. I feel very bitter when people have a second child, first I'm fine with but second just hits that nerve and I feel so horrible feeling like that.

Thanks for the hug though, it was much appreciated and no no rats in the bedroom..even the trouser one was nowhere to be seen Grin

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Countmyblessings · 15/07/2012 21:49

sending out big positive vibes to you all xxx

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Purpleprickles · 15/07/2012 22:34

You too Count Smile

Just spent the weekend away with dh's family. Ds played so nicely with our Dn, gave me a little glimpse of what it might be like with two. Saw loads of pregnant women on their 2nd/3rd dc but swallowed down the Envy feelings and focused on enjoying the time away....most of the time Grin

iloveberries · 16/07/2012 07:45

oh purple that feeling is so familiar - it's hard isn't it.
I had 2 friends announce their 2nd/3rd pregnancies last week. One did it very thoughtfully and tactfully but the other sent me a group text with her "wonderful news" which made it very hard to swallow as she knows everything we've been though. DH tells me i need to realise she is a toxic friend who is no good for me.

My AF is due on weds and i am feeling rubbish about it all. It just seems so cruel. We should be expecting our DC2 in october, not crying every month when AF comes :(

iloveberries · 16/07/2012 07:45

sorry for being so self indulgent!

Purpleprickles · 19/07/2012 22:18

Hey Ilove I think that this thread is the place to be self-indulgent. I'm not sure if you feel the same but I find I go through life at the moment smiling and not really letting on how I feel while inside I spend quite a lot of my time feeling sad/frustrated/angry and jealous. When I post on here I feel like I can say how I really feel. I also think sometimes although of course I'm writing it as part of this forum to share with you and others I'm also kind of writing it down to let it out for myself. Does that make any sense? Blush

Sending you a un-mn hug too.

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Countmyblessings · 24/07/2012 16:56

Purple - that make so much sense! Writing it down, for me gave me some kind of control I wrote down my inner mist feelings the amount if times I cried alone when I was in the shower was my fave place as no one knew if I was crying or if it was the water! Each day was just me trying to take control of what I could do! I couldn't control my babies not coming to being born! 1 day at a time " dealing & healing"
Today is a good day!

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Purpleprickles · 24/07/2012 22:36

Thanks Count am glad I make sense Smile

BFN here tonight Sad Am really not surprised as opportunities weren't that frequent for dtd last month what with work, bad backs etc. I did a proper count of my cycle though this month going back over the last six months and they have been 32 days long. Today I'm on day 33, no sign yet. Not even sore boobs which is a regular sign that af is coming for me. WTF is going on with my body?? I'm so frustrated/anxious, trying to be sensible and not google early menopause. I'm 35 ffs, I'm not ancient. Why can't bits work properly. And although I'm being rational and accepting that we didn't dtd much this month why can't I have been lucky? People get pg from a one night sodding stand but no I can probably only get pg in the precise second my body releases an egg which is no doubt at 2.35am one day (which I can't calculate due to sodding crappy changing cycle) while I'm asleep.

Angry and Sad and a dose of Grin through tears.

Purpleprickles · 24/07/2012 22:38

Count sorry I'm glad you are having a good day. Apologies for my rant Blush

Purpleprickles · 24/07/2012 22:42

Sorry it's me again. And also because I did the test on a whim about ten mins ago when I really really needed a wee I didn't read the instructions for this particular one properly. For about 30seconds I thought I was pg as I got a - line in the window and the example showed a blank window meaning not pg BlushSad

Purpleprickles · 24/07/2012 22:48

Oh my god I'm so Angry with all of this. Sorry I promise to stop posting now. I'm not violent but I really want to hit a wall or something.

Pipbin · 25/07/2012 09:26

I hear what you are saying Purple. It is so frustrating. Especially when everyone else seems to get pregnant by just thinking about their husband.
I'm off for my second fertility clinic appointment in about 5 minutes. Have you been referred yet?

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Countmyblessings · 25/07/2012 10:37

Purple - you have every right to want to be pregnant, I know a friend of a friend is not in a relationship with the father of her dc and got pregnant after 1 drunken night 3 years ago, well she did it again they are still not together he don't want anything to do with the children and she's having another in january13!!!!!
I'm here happily married and have had 2 heartaches in a short space of time!
What gets me through the day is when i don't cry! Saying today is a good day!!!
The months after my MMC was hard as every time my AF came I just cried, but afterwards I just didn't focus on it so much and it got easier! I set myself some life targets and set out to do them!
Pipbin- good luck at your appointment, hope you get some good news!

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resipsa · 25/07/2012 11:35

Count - my sis got knocked up via a drunken one night stand (OK, it was with her ex but they'd been apart for more than a year). She told me about 6 months before it happened how much she wanted a baby. DN is 13 now. She always said it was a condom failure and for years I believed her but since TTC myself I realise that she has probably been lying for a long time!

Purpleprickles · 27/07/2012 07:18

Thanks everyone. Pipbin I haven't been to the Dr yet. I'm going to wait until after these school holidays. I'm pinning all my hopes on becoming more relaxed over the next six weeks and being able to conceive. How did you get on at your appointment though?

Still no sign of af which means my cycle is now 35 days Sad I have no idea what the hell is going on Sad

I spoke to my Mum about all this yesterday, up until now I haven't because she is a worrier but it was actually a relief to let her know what's going on. We have friends down this weekend so I'm going to try and put it all out of my mind and enjoy them.

iloveberries · 27/07/2012 07:24

Hi purple, just a quick message as on phone but you have poas haven't you? Xx

Purpleprickles · 27/07/2012 17:34

Ilove I did 3 days ago and it was bfn. We've got friends here til Sunday night so I'll wait til Monday and if there's no sign I'll try again. I really don't think I am. From time to time I have a 40+ day cycle which is massively helpful when trying to conceive Hmm

iloveberries · 29/07/2012 21:24

Hi purple, how are you doing?

Purpleprickles · 29/07/2012 21:31

Hi Ilove I'm ok thanks. Had friends to stay this weekend so I've not had much time to think. Still no af so I'm going to test again tomo but I'm not for one minute thinking it will be positive. I just think my body is on a protest or just giving up. How about you?

Pipbin · 29/07/2012 22:04

Well it's 10 DPO here and I had a little bit of spotting last night but other than that nothing.
I really don't feel like I've done it this time.

Doctors said that they want me to have my tubes tested and if thats OK then they'll give me Clomid.
DH is pleased because his second SA results were exceptional!

Purpleprickles · 29/07/2012 23:53

Pipbin do you often get spotting? The only time I have is when I was pg with ds. Fingers and toes crossed for you.

Pipbin · 30/07/2012 00:25

As a rule I get a lot of spotting. Any time from ov onwards really.
Getting this far with this little is excellent.

Purpleprickles · 30/07/2012 20:11

Pipbin sending you lots of luck.

Just poas and bfn again. I knew it would be, I even brought a clear blue digital because it was on offer in Boots so I'm assuming they are even more accurate? I'd just really like af to come now so I know I'm not a dried up old prune and also so we can get on with trying again. Today I don't feel sad or frustrated I just feel very bored and tired of it all Hmm