Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

boris .. I am thinking about you today and wishing you strength and healing. Best wishes to you.

wilderumpus .. I am not stalking you over from the June TTc thread honest!

I just feel like such a huge part of my TTc journey is coping with the feelings I have of the MC and I don't like to bang on about it over there for all the first timers that have never had a pregnancy. I feel like such a misery.

I am due AF on June 5th but cracked today and tested with a FRER which suggests quite a good success rate 5 days early.

It was of course a sodding BFN. please reassure me ladies that their success stats are a pile of poo and it doesn't mean game over for this month?!?!

If it is a no go for this month, I may well give next month or two a miss from TTc as this 2ww is really messing with my head. My DH has quite rightly pointed out that I am so wrapped up in the idea of getting pregnant that I am neglecting the current 2 DSs.

sorry about the me me me. having a truly shocking day. Probably a bit of PMT .. Sob!

wilde i don't think we will always have ov bleed. this was my first proper cycle since mc. the people i read about on my google search just seemed to have the ov bleed be the first cycle after mc. something to do with hormones maybe?

ted i would stay away from the normal ttc threads - they don't have a clue what it's like for us (lucky things!) 5 days early seems too early to me. try again in a couple of days.

can you not try not trying but not preventing for the next couple of months. it might help you to relax a bit if you think you aren't trying but you might get lucky. i think it would really put my dh off ttc if i was so wrapped up in it that i was neglecting other parts of my life so he doesn't see the half of it lol!!

ted good to see you! Come, come, join us :)

It is nice here, everyone is reet friendly and understanding of our inability to just enjoy ttc and the ensuing (fingers crossed) pregnancy. And I think, because we are all miserable and worried to varying degrees we can all be rather jolly about it, but in a knowing way rather than the 'woohoo' jolliness that I rather bitterly see as naivety :( Personally am still pretty raw from my mc too and am only just sort of getting my head around the fact i might be lucky enough to get pg again let alone have a baby, so indeed, come in!

Anyway... To test today is quite early? very early?! And I am rubbish with DS in my 2ww! Am so distracted! I only noticed it this past month and thought oh, I am always like this on the 2ww! then decided to stop ttc, then realised I have to have a 2ww if I am gong to get pg, so better just suck it up and cope better!

Hope you are ok, rant away. it's bank holiday! hurrah?!

pebs ever need a sil bitchathon feel free to pm me

Thinking of you boris xx

ted my ds who I'm pretty damn sure is real, he's meant to be 5 soon, took 12 yes TWELVE BFNs before I got a BFP, I was 10wks when it finally showed a line!

I'm mettaling today. I just feel bleaugh and very um damp down below, nothing to worry about when I wipe its very faint yellow-ish but I'm guessing that's just pee

Ladies, your stories are making my slightly crazy SIL look almost normal. I don't know how you are coping with such vile people.

wilder not a veggie at all .. Bacon buttie YUM YUM.

yes, there is a fair amount of innocence over there that is starting to grate a bit. pebs you are right that they don't understand and yes they are lucky. For me it is of course a worry about getting preggers again, but that is only the start of the worry. I am stressing about where I will be for the miscarriage if I am pregnant. I have started looking at where the local hospital is to us in Spain as if I am pregnant now, I will be 11 weeks when I am there and that is when I lost the last baby. It was not a pretty time.

So yes, I am very glad that you all see me as a normal lady on the TTc path after mc and not a nutter.

God bless you for saying too early to test. I am very sad and scared and confused. but possibly still in with a chance??

i cope with my sil as she has turned my brother against me and i never see them any more. nothing to cope with!!

i feel my brother is in for a world of pain in the future as she is vile and cannot possibly go through life without making his life hell at some point. she has already got him upto his eyeballs in debt as they have loads of catalogues, payday loans etc all in his name - she doesn't have a job.

she also tried to turn my mum against me but luckily my mum saw the light and realised what a bitch she is. my mum was loving her (cause she was chatty and the other gf's never were) and i couldn't believe she didn't see what she was really like. i knew from day one of meeting her! she is banned from my mums house now thank god.

families eh!! who'd have 'em.

(sometimes these troubles secretly put me off ttc - families can be a lot of hassel)

how many days dpo are you ted? The earliest I got a pos was at 10dpo and was the faintest line ever. vanishingly faint.

the chatter was starting to grate on me too, i must confess . it's just because we have had a mc, therefore we are different, we see and feel pregnancy differently. it's not them, it's us. Your next baby will be fine ted, really, you have to believe that. If i get pg this cycle i will be about 13 weeks odd when we go on holiday... I absolutely intend to be pg and happy about it on that holiday! That holiday is everything to my sanity!

mmm spain... bloody love spain :)

oh pebs why can't your brother see this?! How frustrating :(

state I have been super wet since before my BFP and it has not let up. Using pantiliners and changing them a couple of times a day. Also a bit yellow, and rather fragrant. GP says it's fine though. Essentially I am constantly inspecting toilet paper and knickers. I look every time I go, and when I am at home I'm always having a bit of a feel .

pebs. Very sad that your SIL is such a cow. Your brother may well see the light, eventually. I think in these situations you just sort of have to wash your hands of it all, but be fully prepared when the situation reverses to pick up where things once were and resume a normal relationship with DB. You know that the reason he's turned on you is her. There are so many threads on MN where women complain that their DH's side with their families rather than their wives, and I guess you are stuck on the wrong side of someone else's version of this scenario, and your DB is probably torn and doing as we would all want our DH's to do by standing my his DW. Shit though.

Well, 9 weeks today. If all is OK my odds of a live birth now are pretty good. Feeling like shit (yay) and MW a week today....

bonzo so glad its not just me I fear the next 6mnths may send me doo lally.

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Ted I'm with you. I'm due on Monday but cracked and did a test today. I'm on holiday in the depths of Pembrokeshire but popped into a chemist today. I tested in the public toilets! Of course it was a BFN. I'm trying to console myself by the fact it wasn't a FMU but I've got the feeling that it isn't to be this month.

Boris - hope the weekend goes ok for you.

Hello everyone

I am still knicker and loo paper watching too. Bonzo we must be due the same time; beginning of Jan?

boris i hope that you and your husband are able to find peace this weekend. Thinking of you both.

To all the testers - try again in a couple of days. I would like some more positives!

Confused sounds like you have a good evening, i am pleased for you.

Hello to the newbies - sorry you find yourselves here too.

Ugh have quite bad period pains and AF due around 6th - not got a great feeling about this month... Wish I could stop wanting to POAS! Is a waste of blinking money if nothing else!!!
I am blaming the mmc for making me like this - am obsessed with being pregnant again before edd of baby I mc in March (October) - is not helpful tho is it really?! Poor long suffering DH is being quite patient when I have my mini freak outs...

Hope you are all well and have a lovely Jubilee weekend, for those who are planning to partake of festivities! x

oh jollyb hon - it is such a kick in the teeth to get the BFN isn't it? I don't know why I do it early. My wee also wasn't morning wee but was a dark yellow so don't think that excuse really stands. I am going to wait a couple of days and test again. But also feeling negative about this month.

wilde . I am 10 dpo today. 4 more days til AF so prob was a bit silly to test early. It was like I was possessed! My hand was in the toileteries cupboard and my knickers were down before my brain engaged! Spooky.

fats .. the wanting to be pregnant again before previous due date (Sept for me) is one I understand only too well. Is this what these old timers call metalling? If so, I'm rather good at it!

Fats I know how you feel. My edd with the mc is 23 November and I am desperate to be comfortably pg (ie more than 14 weeks) by then - so no pressure.

Balls. I just want to be pregnant.

On a brighter note, DH and I are both off work on Friday. We're going to put DD into nursery that day and have a long boozy lunch in bed somewhere nice. so that's something to look forward to.

mrspear, yep, early jan but hoping for ELCS so may be late dec. had emcs last time and gp reckons I will have a reasonable case.

I'm going to be 12+3 on my Due date, so glad i got a positive scan as the pain from the dd arriving without a healthy bean cooking would have pushed me over the edge, its not helped by the fact that its also my late Grandmas birthday near my old dd too. hormonal wreck tonight.

Morning everyone.

Just popping on to wish Yikes a wonderful wedding. Have a great day and try to take some time out with your soon to be DH to enjoy the moment - its flies by too quickly.

happy wedding day yikes! I was due to get married today too - had a venue and everything but family turned feral so we eloped last year :) we are celebrating our unwedding day today with a cream tea (was on our wedding breakfast menu)

YES yes I really realised last night that I want to be pg before my the edd of my mc (20 nov so with you there confused. cycle buddies in many ways...) I realised I feel like a ghost person because am depressed I need to feel whole again with a baby in mah belly. Need the baby. Don't want to think that too much because that is indeed where metalling lies... but it is true and I hope DH gives me LOTS of shagging this next 10 days so I can just sit back over my 2ww thinking I did the best I could this month and what wil be will be... I am happy with that.

state so glad you are pg and will be pg on your edd, that is lovely for you.

ted 10dpo is too early! and you too fat! step AWAY from the sticks :)

confused your friday sounds super :)

off for fry up now and then to see thomas and the fat controller. laters yo.

I'm very of your fry up wilder

Congrats on your wedding day MRSyikes DH and I have been married for 5years in august it's lovely!

my fry up was well lush state. then I had fish and chips for tea. I would but I have no shame :) I shall go for a run tomorrow or something probably something :)

Many congrats on your wedding Yikes. We keep finding reasons to postpone ours -have been engaged since 2009!

Wishing you all a happy bank holiday weekend. We got back from our holiday today and both DP and I are suffering with post holiday blues. I cheered myself up by buying a new BBQ. (yes I know the weather forecast looks awful) .

Was very proud of myself in sainsbos - I managed to walk past the clear blue digitals- hurrah!