Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

Great news Tits. Good luck for Wednesday.

Glad all is well with tinytits, tits and I hope that they git rid of the infection. Sounds vile :(

bonzo yep it has calcium in too, managed it tonight by chewing really fast and smelling orange juice but still felt awful afterwards.

mrspear combination of raised bmi and many women having vitD defiancy in our area.

Dp is home from hospital sore and tired. I spent ages settling the dc so I could just be with him when he arrived home but ds decided to open the curtains and blinds by standing on dds bed and Waking her, she is still awake!!!!

Great news tits what a relief.

Good to hear tits. Look after yourself.

Leedy - I'd have said the same thing. Bad things happen and pretending they don't just adds to the great conspiracy that currently has my dad thinking all will be fine just because we got past 12 weeks! If people would be more open about the fact that things go wrong, it would be better.

Well, it is 4 thirty in the morning and I have been up for an hour. I simply cannot sleep at the moment. Ugh.

I am here Jaffa - I've just been lurking. I've had to avoid MN too for a big as it was making me paranoid (the November thread ladies are lovely, but when they start talking about babies kicking etc...not conducive to destressing as I feel nothing).

tits glad to hear all is well - must have been v worrying though, hope you get the infections treated now...

misscoffee your story sounds horrendous, well done for supporting your DH through all that and both of you coming out the other side

leedy I posted on AIBU to see what people thought about my DH going out on the piss the night before an early scan - some of the responses were quite insulting ("stop being such a princess" being one!). Steering well clear in future!

7+5 here, sloooooowly clocking up the days! Trying to focus on 'real life' stuff thats been on hold like, work, studying for exams and doing research proposals, but finding it so hard to focus. Looking forward to our scan on Saturday fx all well

Good luck today Jaffa, will be thinking of you!

Good luck today Jaffa! Xx

hi everyone

i went to liverpool rmc yesterday. they were excellent. really well organised and made me feel like they will be able to help me.

i have my surgery booked, had bloods taken for rmc testing and got an appointment for my follow up appt in a couple of months for the results. i feel like everything is in place now and i can start ttc after my results appt.

i recieved a letter from raj rai with my results and one of the clotting tests was showing up positive so i am glad that something is wrong (strange way to look at things but thats the way it is!). i can fix the clotting problems with asprin and heparin.

i am getting mid cycle bleeding though which has started to worry me as i am panicking that it means i won't get pg when i ttc. my consultant is going to check that out when he does the surgery.

i haven't checked on here for a while so will go back and see whats been going on.

i try not to be a doom monger amongst pg people. to be honest most of the real life people i know know better than to ask me about pg stuff as i will always be thinking negative. i stay well away from normal pg stuff on here and just stick with my own gang!!

so glad all is ok with bubs tits and I hope you get some relief for your bits soon. Sounds awful :(

So glad you are being looked after and that things are starting to make sense pebs, even though I know what you mean about being pleased something has been identified as 'bad'!

leedy I think what you said was fine. I had to have the second scan on my own and mouth 'no' to DH in the waiting room (he couldn't come in as we had toddler DS. I begged knowing baby wasn't there last scan. they said no) in front of everyone. Was fucking awful doing it alone. However, people whoi have no experience of mc are really weird and in the strangest most positive bubble. Self preservation I guess. i don't know if I will be able to join a proper AN thread if and when I get pg for all the squealing and pram chat at 6 weeks...

good luck for scan sat squeaky - did you sort things out with your DH/DP? I can't see why he thinks it was weird having a scan, hope you both sorted it out.

missc am so sorry to hear about your DH. My aunt had a nervous breakdown and was insitutionalised for over a year, and now rarely talks. Is very, very tough - you must be so very strong.

good luck today jaffa!

Morning sorry for not name checking but i have come on for a MN hug.

My beautiful best friend forever passed away at 7am this morning. It was calm and peaceful, i too feel calm and peaceful. I have grieved for 3 weeks now, but it will hit me soon.

sorry to hear your news martha.

thank you pebs

I'm do so sorry Martha ((hugs))

Gives martha a big bear hug - i so so sorry about your friend. Cancer is a cunt. It is one the very few times that i agree to using that word.

tits i am glad you are getting treatment.

pebs glad you got your dates booked. I am like you. I need reasons. I can't cope very well when they say "we don't know why"

Oh Martha I'm so sorry. It's not fair, but if it has to be, calm and peaceful is perhaps the way. MN hugs to you. Be gentle with yourself.

hugs Martha. xxx

cancer is a cunt

Just seen you news Martha, I am so very sorry. X

I had a good scan this afternoon, 20 weeks, and she is doing fine. She yawned, and then gave us the thumbs up, so that must mean something! Will catch up properly later. X

thank you everyone - cancer is indeed a cunt!

excellent news on jaffa and tits' scans i will try to bob on every now and again, i am trying to find lots of distractions and MN is the perfect tonic

jaffa excellent news!

Big hug for martha

pebs I am so pleased you feel like Liverpool are going to give you the treatment you deserve and that Raj found something, I am on the heparin and its not that bad, I can give you tips on minimal bruising when you start :)
Have you been told to start from BFP?
In Taking Charge of Your Fertility, the author talks about some mid cycle spotting being a fertile sign? I agree its worth checking it out though just in case!! Good luck TTC

Good luck to all those with scans coming up- I think it is kirrin tomorrow, Farfalla on Friday and squeaky on Saturday. also tits*, I really hope they can sort out this uti once and for all for you.

tiago, have you had your 20 week scan yet? Do you know where your placeta is? I talked to the sonographer about kicks today, and she said at this stage, it is completely normal for them to be light, sporadic and hard to feel because they don't have 'a lot of oomph yet'. The technical term! I was in Addenbrookes today- I wonder if our paths will cross at some point? I didn't want to think like that in the Daphne ward's miserable and weird waiting room, (the EPU waiting room has motley collection of chairs and lots of random bookcases and cabinets). I always felt very head down in there. Now I'm not
exactly beaming and laughing in main scan room, but can bare to look round the room.

Which is just as well. My DH was late, because he couldn't park his car, and I had half the scan on my own. The scary bit when the screen pops up and you think 'oh please let there be a heartbeat, please'. But there was, and I haven't the energy to get mad, I'm just so relieved. Bought some nice ice-cream on the way home to celebrate.

So sorry to hear that Martha - take care of yourself xxX

Congratulations Jaffa that's great news :)

tiago I'm about the same as you I think, and whilst I feel the odd proper kick I mostly don't feel much at all. It is easy to get stressed about it and today I had to have a cold can of coke to see if I could get him/her moving a bit. It did work actually, I thought it was an old wives' tale!

Hi to everyone else :)

Ps squeaky I have been on MN for a few years now and I have never been brave enough to post an AIBU - I'm too scared!

I'm so sorry, lovely, cancer is such a cunt. :(

Jaffa, really glad to hear about your positive scan x

DH is away for two nights and I am probably ovulating. Fantastic... Fingers crossed we've done enough this month, but I'm not particularly hopeful.

I've posted on AIBU and it didn't turn into a bunfight. The overall consensus was that IWNBU. Win!

Big hugs Martha x

Good luck ladies with the up coming scans!

I'm in a dilemma - mc was 25 apr at 6+6 weeks - af visited exactly 4 weeks later - she was due again Monday - but nothing - have been having period like pains for 4/5 days which are particularly bad at night and I'm scared to take another pg test. It took me 3yrs to fall before could I really be pg again so quickly??? I'm 42 and have a dd aged 9 and it took 5 years!

I'm scared I am and scared I'm not does that sound crazy?