Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

pie wonderful news indeed, so happy for you and gorgeous name!!
Sorry to hear about all those with DP trouble, mine was the same, could not understand at all how sad I was, thought I was crazy that other people's pregnancy announcements made me cry etc. i think he sort of understands how I felt but not really and I stopped sharing so much and vented on here instead. I think men do find it hard to be truly sympathetic and understanding after the first initial horror of it all passed.

jaffa I think you are roughly same stage as me is that right? About 20 weeks? I had a complete wobble at 17 weeks as the flutters compleltely stopped and the kicks and not at all consistent. Midwife said this was completely normal and no consistently would be felt until 28 weeks. Also said that at the early stages it totally depends on baby position, where they are kicking as to whether you feel it yet. Good luck with scan tomorrow, mine is on Friday.

Well, someone gave me a present for the baby last week, it totally freaked me out and made me sob hysterically that evening as it made me so scared to have something real in the house if it all went well. My poor mum has taken it 'for safekeeping'. I wonder when I will be able to relax!

Welcome baby Cerys and congratulations Pie!

Hm, I am beginning to feel like some kind of clanking doom-merchant - somebody posted on another board I'm on that she was wondering whether her DH should come for her booking-in scan at 12 weeks, and I said yes of course, it's lovely to see that everything's going well, and obviously if something is wrong, it's good to have somebody there - had missed miscarriage diagnosed on first scan and was very grateful to have DP with me. Immediately had somebody going "I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU SAID THAT!!!", as if all pregnants should be shielded from the possibility of bad news and I was trying to depress her by suggesting that something could go wrong, and that the only acceptable answer was "yes, so he can share the happy news!". And maybe they should, I dunno. I thought it was a perfectly reasonable reason to want to have somebody there?

Anyway, meanwhile I am pregging along at 17 weeks. And have another chest infection. Joy.

Just popping on to let state know I'm taking vitamin d. I'm taking oestocare, which is vitamin d and calcium and is safe to take with pregnacare. They are quite chalky, so I have to swallow them quickly or they get stuck on my tongue. A colleague at work takes pure vitamin d from Holland and Barrett, those are very small and easy to swallow.

Oh and congratulations pie

leedy are we on freakin NetMums or something??? that is utter crap, of COURSE that was a sensible answer. This site makes me sometimes.

Congratulations pie and what a lovely name :)

leedy I agree with what you said and can't see anything wrong with saying it.

Jaffa I'm 19+5 and feeling lots of kicks one day and hardly any the next. Sounds like we're all experiencing the same? Good luck with the scan tomorrow. Mine is on Wednesday!

Hi all

Congratulations PieMistress lovely name :)

Nothing interesting going on here and hence have just been lurking. OPKs continue to tell me I'm not OVing (CD22 so far, being doing them since CD11) but have been SWIng anyway. It could be that I am becoming resistant to Clomid - 50mg worked, then after my 1st MC didn't, then 100mg worked, then after my 2nd MC no longer did the trick, so I suppose it's very possible that 150mg no longer works for me (did one previous cycle on 150mg a few months back). Feeling more and more agitated that my body continues to let me down.

leedy FWIW I agree with MarthasHarbour - you gave a sensible answer. People do have to consider the possibility that it won't be good news.

Jaffa hope your scan reassures you. It's horrible how the paranoia stops you from enjoying everything. Even if I get a BFP, which right now seems unlikely, I honestly don't think I'll be able to relax and enjoy pregnancy at any stage now. :(

Sorry for not namechecking others - I have a memory like a sieve and can't remember what was written on the last couple of pages.

I'm off out foraging for elderflowers as soon as I can get DS1 off the PS3 to come with me! Gotta keep busy to take my mind off everything.

Leedy you are just being real. Anyone that repeats the truth of labour is also out to drag down first time mums and is 'like majorly negative'. Silliness.

'I don't know why people have to say it hurts and it is hard' it's like so not helpful. Er becasue it can hurt, and it can be hard and if you think any different you are not in any way prepared. Of course it is good to be positive (I am the positive midget) but we can't hide from reality to make people feel a bit better.

I have found that pregnant people sometimes can't actually deal with news of other peoples outcomes if they are in anyway not all rosy (not a great time, have dodgy scans, loose babies to name a few). Like it is catching or something. I am blowing raspberries at those people for they need to find some empathy and compassion rather than think it is someone out to spoil their party. I think we all need to remember it is not all about us although it if often all about me, right?

Jaffa Sorry meant to give you a gentle metallers nudge into the mosh pit. I freak pretty much constantly about movements. It is totally normal and I am sure it is all fine though if you are really worried then get checked, you don't have to wait for scan apps. Better to be a pain in a HCP's arse than drive yourself demented. At least the scan will offer some temporary reassurance. Movements can so depend on where the baby is at our stage as they have so much room to roam about it.

Thanks for the reply confused, mine are the size of a 2p and I have to suck and chew them I'm going to call the midwife or gp and ask for different ones.

Huge congratulations PIE how wonderful to have another baby on the thread. Beautiful name :)

Fwiw leedy I think that's a fine answer, I wish I'd been more aware of what could happen! I would have appreciated the honesty instead of fluff tbh! X

Fuck fuck fuck sorry, i'm 18 weeks baby is moving well but after my millionth wee of the day I have some bright red spotting
I'm currently in hospital with a very poorly DS, I have had a UTI for ages now and antibiotics still not helping, I also have a savage case of thrush.
I was itching quite a lot in my sleep so am very sore anyway, it's bright re like if I had pricked myself with a pin.

I'm terrified, baby has been moving loads today, this is a good sign right?
I can't seek any help until tomorrow because of DS.
No pain or anything.
Hand holding please?

Tits I'm sure the spotting is due to your UTI one way or another. I have dodgy kidneys and have had many, many UTIs over the years. If the baby is happily moving it is far more Likely to be blood in your urine from the UTI or blood from your fanjo from scratching the thrush.

Try and rest and drink plenty of fluids, but avoid anything citrus or with caffeine. We are all here to hold your hand until you can see someone tomorrow and thereafter if necessary.

Oh and tits get yourself some cold, plain bio yogurt to cool your fanjo down and relieve the itch.

what confused said tits xxx

Fingers crossed that everything's ok tits, hopefully it's from the UTI and/or the thrush.

Seconding the bio yogurt rec as well (also I'm pretty sure you can use Canesten when preg, see if you can get a prescription tomorrow for the Canesten HC version that has a de-itching steroid in it too).

Definitely can use canasten cream - I had it prescribed by the dr a couple of weeks ago.

Hello everyone. Nothing new to report here except I'm on CD10 (with a day's spotting even before that) and AF is still showing no signs of disappearing. Hrmph.
Brilliant news pie - congrats to you, your DH and little Cerys!
leedy - I loved your description of yourself as a "clanking doom merchant", made me lol, but the points you were making were spot on. (or maybe we're all a tad biased on this thread...?)
wilder - funny, but you're the first person I've heard speaking of pregnancy as being like being in love and you're absolutely right, that's just what it's like. I hadn't thought about it like that but it's the same emotions and feeling of closeness.
tits - good luck with the spotting. I haven't a clue medically-speaking, but it does sound like it's probably related to the, erm, itchy-business! fx for you.

state I have 12.5 microgram/ 500 units tablets from boots. They're about 3mm diameter, a little bigger than the folic acid. V easy to swallow. Do the ones you're taking have calcium too? These don't.

Awww congratulaions pie on baby Cerys, how lovely. Well done you.

tits it's just another symptom, it'll be OK, baby is fine, get seen as soon as possible but big metally thoughts with you and tinytits and your DS.

I'm so sorry marbles. It is shit. So sorry :(

I can't join in with the upset about DHs not getting it really, far from not being distressed by the MC mine had a nervous breakdown after our 14 week MC and was hospitalised, under consultant psychatrist care, and on meds for four years. Symptoms included not being able to deal with babies or young children at all meaning he couldn't live in the same house as me as DD had come along by then. So I did single parenthood until he was better. Took three years. He has dissociation and memory loss so doesn't remember much of her babyhood or toddlerhood. Finally got round to being strong enough to TTC, and then we had the 17 week loss. So maybe I'm the opposite, I get buried under the stuff he needs.

28 weeks and some days and still metalling a go-go. Today I get to metal about cervical gunk, stupid amounts of gushes, as per, and counting the kicks. Kick kick kick. Metal metal metal. Prod prod prod. Kick kick kick. I'm going to make an insomniac baby

piemistress congrats! So happy for you, I had no idea you were so close to the end! And there's me wittering on about hormone tests on that other thread, were you in labour when you were answering??!!

hi everyone, I've been fretting away about hormone tests - GP said Day 2 results were "fine". Yes fine as in I'm not going through the menopause, but 12.7 for FSH is not fine. Grump. Anyway, not much I can do about it (apart from acupuncture, B Vits and wheatgrass). Sometimes I think it's all too much hassle.

missc you've really been through it, you and your DH, I'm so sorry.

clanking doom merchant leedy I think you're being normal, things don't always work out. I was totally naive with DD, just couldn't imagine anything going wrong. I was just lucky.

tits hope you're feeling better, get some live yoghurt on your bits

jaffa hope you are back tomorrow with happy scan news, thinking of you and farfalla same for you on Friday! and kirrin for Wed!

martha hope your friend has a peaceful time at the end, hugs for you x

So glad it's all going well at 9+1, get you!

boris haven't seen any posts from you, but hope EDD was ok.

midget glad it's all going well and your DD is excited. Did you lose a tube in your EP? I can't remember, I'm stressing about my one tube not being up to the job.

marbles sorry

Sorry not to name check everyone, but hope that this month/cycle is a good one for all us TTC and a good one for those with their metal jackets on!

tits I'm sure it's related to the uti, but get it checked out asap to be on the safe side and to help with the metalling. Hope your DS is better soon xx

Evening everyone

Piemisstress Huge congratulations on the birth of Cerys

state hope dh is OK - why the vit D? I am taking sainsburys multi vitamin and it is huge and horrid - big babe eet as DS calls it!

missc what you a terrible thing to happen to both of you - i am guilty of not thinking about DH and his feelings. I still can't get his words (and sobs) out of my head from my scare last week.

jaffa good luck for the scan - i didn't feel anything with DS until after 20 weeks. I am sure all is OK - there is allot of room!

far as DS was prem and very sick i had to be told to set up his bed 2 days before we took him home by SCBU and even then we collected the pram on the way home! Good luck with scan too!

leedy i don't see anything wrong either - people can be over sensitive sometimes.

tits get some natural yogurt and sit on your hands - the spotting is more than likely the itching!

martha oh 9 weeks = that has gone quick! Glad you and DH are more positive. I am thinking of buying a blanket after my scan on Thursday.

Hello to everyone else

So I had a chocolate bar this evening, and she has gone mad! Most active I have felt her in days. I will sleep tonight. Metalometer down to moderate, rather than on full whack.

Cannot believe there are so many if us in a November clump! Also tiago is within a few days of us. Hope you are ok Tiago.

leedy, I think you made a completely sensible comment, particularly given the context. I had my bad news on my own, DH was looking after DD, and it was horrendous. I was just holding a MW's hand. I had to call him and tell him the news, he struggled to believe it, we had to have a second scan because he was in denial, I was in denial. Would not wish it on anyone. It is not like you are trying to rain on someone's parade, but mmc being discovered at 12 week scans must be a fairly common event.

tits, so sorry you and your DS are having such a bad time. Hope both of you are better soon. I bet the bleeding is uti related, but you need to nail that bastard, it has been with you too long. X

misscoffee, you are getting there, little by little. Viable baby and more. Completely understand metalling doesn't let up. But at least you just have a few more months left. Maybe the prodding will have opposite effect- she'll be so glad of the lack of poking she'll sleep like a goodun.

Waves to all I haven't namechecked.

Will let you know how scan goes tomorrow.

Good luck tomorrow jaffa.

I got sent to A&E by the nurses here, they did a scan and little one was happily waving at us in there.
I feel a bit for getting worried.
They made me an apt at EPAC on Wed to try and get to the bottom of the lurking infection incase it's pelvic.
The spotting continued so I had to have some anti d.
Just got back to DS the nurses up here were marvellous and say him at the front desk and entertained him while
I was gone.