Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

Same here. Knackered. Grumpy. Cooking lovely breakfast soon in very bad grace)

Love it myself and DH also had a grumpy 'exchange'! this morning - there must be something in the air! He's been working really hard so we hadn't had a chance to sit down properly and talk about the scan I had last week, and he's basically saying I'm a psychopath, he can't go through 9 months of this, and I shouldn't be in any way concerned about anything ! Also now wants to postpone our planned scan next Saturday cos he has a big night out on the Friday night ! Not going to happen....

I'm sooo tired. And grumpy.

We took DD to the park this morning. we have never been so early, but it was nice and empty, so no waiting for the swings and slide. DD and DH had a great time charging about. Just got to get through lunch and we can all have a long nap.

Reasons for grumpiness (sorry if this is a bit of a rant):

1. Bumped into one of the nursery mums at the park. My DD and her DS are the same age. She's pg with DC2.

1. I phoned my dad to wish him happy fathers day and to see if he liked my card. He hadn't opened it as he was waiting for my sister to arrive for breakfast. (Too much back story, but little sis has been single for years and my parents over compensate by spending ALL their free time with her. They even made a stupid comment about how no one had considered her feelings after MY mc ) I wouldn't mind so much that he hadn't opened my card, but my parents aren't coming for tea with us now as my sister needs help choosing an outfit for Ascot next week. whilst this might seem reasonable, my mum had spent the whole of Wednesday with her in Oxford street with a personal shopper to buy the outfit.

Anyway, I should be in for a giggle soon as DH has gone for an extreme haircut, I think this is the one before he shaves it off! Also DH thinks I'm probably pg as I'm always tired and grumpy when pg. So today is CD20 and tiredness and grumpiness have been caused by my early start to the day and all of the above are today's symptoms of my being pg!

Morning all. Hope today's a bit better for you state.

Squeakymac - sometimes our partners don't get it do they? Mr JB hasn't really shown any interest into why/what happened. He just says it will all be fine next time. Maybe he's right and worrying isn't going to change anything but it's hard not to.

Confused - am officially on the 2WW with you now - although according to my super dooper clearblue fertility monitor says that I haven't ovulated yet so who knows!!

Have fun today everyone - we're off to a BBQ at my dad's house.

Morning all, anyone want a crêpe with Nutella? Freshly made...

Fingers crossed for all 2WW-ers. I'll be joining you in a couple of days - CD11 here for me.

Hi all!

Backward ooh if I'm not too late that sounds lovely!!

Hugs to all those with dippy DHs or DPs. Mine made a comment about "our kids" last weekend which upset me and I got a whole load of jip about I-Don't-Want-To-Be-Walking-on-eggshells-For-The-Rest-Of-Our-Lives-I-Knew-You'd-Get-Obsessed in return. Very sensitive and supportive, eh?

Hope you're all well today. My dad died a few years ago and we're not in a position to make this Father's Day for DH so am just keeping a low profile today.

boo to everyone's DH/DP's not understanding :( but yay because mine is the same! I was saying on fri night over a glass of wine about how I wasn't going to see our nct friends on the sat because of the mc - that one of them was grumpily pg and the others are bound to ask if I am pg yet and I would have to confess about the mc - and he was completely bewildered about it and thought i was being incredibly oversensitive and dramatic :( UG I lost our BABY, husband! 'But it wasn't a baby?! There was no baby DW'... Yes. There. Was. To. Me.

Arf. Thank goodness for MN eh?

Anyway, today I have been looking after said DH and when my back was turned DS was being a bit rough with the kitten and now she is limping :( Am so sad and feel like shit about it. DS is lovely but why won't he understand to leave the fucking cat ALONE?! And then I spilt hair dye all over our rented bathroom floor and it has stained... And now I am off to see my dear friend and she has terrible cancer and I really, really, really wish she didn't :(

I am really moody. 3dpo... can I join you confused and say I am clearly pg, obvs?! nothing to do with just having one of those days?!

sorry, I totally didn't mean to offload! off now :) happy happy...

aw cheap. xxx

((hugs for wild, cheap and anyone else who needs one))

Sorry to hear some of you are having trouble with DP/ DH's :( Some of our friends know about the MC but it is quite hard with those that don't.

I am starting to realise why the first cycle after a MC is called the 'WTF'. (TMI alert). Think I ov'd about 16 days after the MC going by the usual signs (EWCM etc). Have been running hot for the last few days but am now not and have basically no idea when I can expect AF to show up. Bit of tiny spotting yesterday but definitely not due yet (will be 4 weeks post MC on Tuesday and I usually have a 28/29 day cycle). I guess I should expect things to be a bit all over the place given raging hormones!

Hugs to everyone who needs one too.

to all, really sorry i have been AWOL for a bit (midget thanks for the licks ) i am having a rough time of it and cant get my head around anything other than my best friend.

My friend is still with us but it is just a matter of a few days now, i wont go into too much detail as i dont want to upset wilde - incidentally wilde if you want to PM me to talk about your friend i am here, it is so bloody scary, sadly there was nothing they could do in the end for my BFF but that was after a long slog of treatment, i am hoping that your friends situation is different as i say i am checking in periodically so please feel free to PM.

on a happy note DS was 3 on Friday we took him to the Blue Planet Aquarium on his birthday and had a pirate themed birthday party for him on Saturday - i loved it!!

Normal service resuming soon i promise - thanks again for the love and licks

ps - i am 9+1 - the baby is still with me DH and i have vowed to now talk about babies and not MC - we still regress every now and again but are starting to get excited - yes things can go wrong right up to term but we are getting excited!

wilde first things first, cancer is a cunt.

Secondly my dp had a major twat moment after my mmc and said it wasn't a baby, and I might have known I was pregnant 14wks but the baby died at 8, blah blah blah. I might have gone a touch mental after that.

Dp has stopped being such an arse, he has his knee operation tomorrow and I'm scared, its routine and nothing to worry about but I keep thinking well our baby is ok, something must go wrong, please don't let it be him, I love the arsebiscuit!

Well my vit Ds are making me gag my guts up, boobs hurt like billy o and and I'm a tearful mood swingy mess. But I'm 13+1 and today I am pregnant!

Hi everyone,

Sorry to those who are having DH/DP trouble. FWIW my DP bearly said a word about either of my losses - he's not exactly the sympathetic type at the best of times but I also think that they are just not as emotionally connected to the pregnancy as we are in the early stages, I just don't think they "get" that for us it is a baby, right from the start.

On a more positive note, I waddled round the Race for Life today! Pushed a sleeping DD round in her pushchair so did it at a walk but still did it! Real family effort too - for my Mum - all my aunties and cousins and my sister did it too. Quite emotional, but a lovely day :)

High fiiiive to state being 13+1(2)

A mahoosive high fiiiiive to kirrin and her DD for doing the Race for Life. I want to do soo much fundraising for the MacMillan nurses and the hospital where my beautiful friend is resting.

I feel sick as a dog Nando's were giving out free sausage sandwiches for brekkie this morning and i took her hand off her

It is no picnic being nauseous but i cherish every moment of it in a weird way IYSWIM. I was 9+6 when my MC started in 2011 and that stage of this PG is on Friday, but i feel so much sickier than i did the last time i know it is still in there.

I saw the MW for my bloods and booking in appt on Thursday. She was lovely and we had a good chat about my PND worries, i told her about my BFF's illness and she was so sympathetic, she put it in my notes and said she is there for me if i need her Also i have my scan on 5 July (woo hoo!) i will be 11+5/3 then so i am really happy (as they are so busy the scans are usually at 14 weeks).

Anyway, as i have been awol i cant catch up with the chatty thread but i am starting from scratch here if that is ok?

Love to you all xxx

For Hospital ^^ read Hospice

Martha Macmillan is a fantastic charity. I ran the Edinburgh half marathon for them last year.

CD12 here, and DH is off to Manchester tomorrow for two nights... Am hoping we don't miss ov, but knowing my luck...

martha me and dd just had sausage sandwiches :) my nasuea has been far worse this time, and is actually worse now than it was

dp is in hospital today for his op, im a mess about it very anxious and tearful :( its only day surgery so i wasnt allowed to go with him but he should home tonight if not ill be a blithering wreck

martha you are kind, I will PM you if I get too down/confused about it all. She is refusing chemo and going for trad therapies but we have a business plan for when she is well and we both live in cornwall so she will be fine I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Really, that must be so tough for you and I hope you are lookng after yourself. And if you need to talk on here, please, please do, don't hold back for my sake, I'm a tough old bird hard faced bitch most of the time... AND on a lighter note I am so happy you are able to start embracing your pregnancy, and such good luck for friday, that will be such a milestone :)

congrats on the race for life kirrin!

state yes, definitely a major twat moment! The men definitely do not understand how attached in love we get and how quickly immediately. Dh was only just getting a handle on the fact we had a BFP when it started going tits up so he could let go very quickly, while I was getting bigger and still having symptoms.

I have raging hormones today (as in, am suffering from irrational rage!)... am only CD 24/32 so this PMT is very early and unwelcome :( I guess this is still post-mc shit? Were any of you guys terribly hormonal for a few cycles after the mc?

but the sun is out and my DS has been accident-free all day (potty training) and my cat's limp has gone :) hurray for that!

Happy to say that our baby girl Cerys arrived this morning three days before my planned section date.

Thank you all for your support during those dark miscarriage times I really couldn't have done it without you xx

Woo hoo pie well done you and welcome to baby Cerys (adorable name)

That has perked me up no end!

Baby Pie Ok she has a name and a lovely name at that but she will always be baby pie , welcome to the world Cerys and well done Pie.

Another graduate to place in the hall of fame. Was it a C-section but just early or did Baby Pie have ideas of her own?

Congratulations Martha for a whole 9 weeks. I am sure it is dragging for you but it seems to be flying. Glad you are managing to stay kind of positive even with all the shit that cunt cancer is throwing at you and your lovely friend sorry baby pie, forgive me, I am a vulgar, dirty tramp

State also clocking up the baby miles - another high five to you.

Backward I work in the charity sector and you get kind of cynical about big charities but Macmillan isn't one of them. I don't really give to large charities anymore but I would give to any hospice or Macmillan - the work they do is amazing. People I know that work or have worked there speak of it so highly - it is a marvelous place by all accounts.

Better go as I am supposed to be working. 21 weeks and feeling the need to nap straight after lunch every day - think time to get the iron levels checked. This can't be right can it?

Is anyone else taking vit D?

I just cannot take them, it makes me gag wretch and feel rotten for a while after, I've tried with a drink and food but nothing helps.

Welcome baby Cerys! Pie, so pleased for you. I hope every thing went well for you. Treasure every minute with your precious little girl x

Martha, glad your pregnancy is doing so well. I am so sorry that you are having to watch your friend suffer.

I am sorry ladies, I am not in a good place. I am stiill getting kicks, but they feel weaker generally than last week. It is my scan tomorrow so maybe that will get to the bottom of it. I am so paranoid, I don't know what to think. Just hoping for the best.