Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

hey girls

i know manda is probably busy at the mo but maybe someone else can help with a b vits question.

i have been taking them for a few weeks now (b50) my wee was really bright yellow as first but now it is normal colour. does this mean i need to take more as the excess vits come out in the wee as the bright yellow colour. could i take two per day to make them up to a b100 or does it not work like that?

Hey ladies

Just thought is pop on quick been trying to keep busy over half term .... Monday is my first day back after mmc and erpc. My boss has been great and we decided to tell people I had appendicitis and needed the op which accounts for the 3 weeks off I have had..... I'm dreading it .... 2 preg ladies one heavily with only couple of weeks til she on mat leave and one due nov. close to my would have been date.... Hoping I can be strong ....

Haven't got ability to name check but suffice to say im chuffed to bits for all those with good news and I'm joyous that some of our girls are now discussing maternity wear !!!! .

I'm now not allowed to ttc til I've had further tests I'm gutted really really gutted cos I just want to jump on dh and get baby making again but realistically I know it makes more sense to wait....
Shows how long ago we used condoms though dh gave me z lovely massage the other night which ended rather fabulously but we'd used baby oil being in the moment unable to find massage oil only realised afterwards that your not supposed to use this with condoms are u ?!?!? vaguely recalling sex education class at school so if by some miracle in my wtf cycle I do fall preg again I think I may self medicate with aspirin .......and metal like a good un.... I promise however to be more sensible now

pebs I noticed the same with mine, I think it's just your body getting used to it? I took 50mg of B6 all the way through conception and 1st tri then weaned myself off to 10mg which is in pregnancy vits. I think a lot of people take 100mg of B6 but I was happy on 50mg x

grand it depends on where your placenta is - if it's anterior (front) then you won't normally feel movements till later on. With DS I had an anterior placenta and felt bubbles at about 19w/20w. This time round it's posterior and I felt the movements much earlier x

ladies just got time for a quick mememe post but just wanted to say that i had scan this morning and we saw a heartbeat we were soooo happy, also saw a vague outline of the foetus

am a bit puzzled by the dates though, i reckon i am somewhere between 7+4 and 7+6, the screen said 7+2 and she put 7+1 in my notes - then said that they dont date scans before 10 weeks i just dont want them to fuck up the dates for the nuchal scan and do it too late...

high fiiiives missc you are in your third trimester!!

to mumtum

sorry for lack of namecheck but have a sleepy DS on my lap!

mumtum good luck going back to work your boss sounds like a v supportive star!

martha how fantastic to have seen a HB! V !

Constant metalling going on here as essentially everything for back or any other type of pain is not a good idea in the first trimester including heat packs which I thought as they're non-medicinal would defo be safe. I'm a doc (not anything to do with babys / ladys though) and I know that based on the evidence codeine is safe, but still not comfortable exposing my own little bean to it...

Heartbeats are lovely.

I find them more emotional than actual babies on scans. Cried like a baby when I saw DD's heartbeat. Not so bothered at the 12 or 20 week scan for some reason but beside myself with her little heartbeat.

I may have a little sob for Maratha's HB.

I agree, lovely heartbeats. Better than the grainy blob shape, that little flicker. And even when I'm sat in the waiting room feeling the baby batter my insides and watching my belly jump up and down I still get a awwww moment when the I hear the HB at the appointment! Lovely news martha

Thanks for the stretchy pants tip! I'm going to try and stick to my leggings and dresses for a bit and see how I get on. Feel a bit indulgent buying something only to be used for the next 3 months. Yes that does feel weird to write!

Am I in the third trimester? My preg calculator doesn't switch to it until 28+1.

Anyone in the third trimester gets a good midget licking.

Hi all-
I'm sorry for the radio silence- my wonderful DF took me away for a few days to get my head on straight again and he's just brought me a g&t in the bath- what a man!!

Thank you so much for all your kind word and thoughts. I really am beginning to feel better and am able to be a bit more 'well, the baby wasn't forming correctly so it wasnt meant to be' about it. We've decided not to tell my parents, there's simply no need to upset them. I'm sure we'll tell them one day, when I'm preggo again, but for now, it'll just cause unnecessary upset.

We've got so much to look forward to- ive got a wedding dress fitting tomorrow and then the wedding is just 6 weeks away- so, we'll get cracking with the ttc again straight away and fx for the next few months.

I know it's sometimes hard to find the positives in these situations but if I've learned anything it's just how wonderful my DF is. He's been a complete rock- truly- its brought us even closer so I feel blessed in many ways.

Being new to the thread it'll take me a while to figure out who's ttc, who's preggo and who has a newly delivered bundle of joy but I'm sure I'll figure it out.

Can't name check everyone but wanted to say hello to cheaptarnishedglitter- I think we were together on the may thread. So sorry to see you here- hope you're ok xx

Thanks again all xx

Great news on the HB martha I record the heartbeat on my mobile phone :)

When I had an early scan at 9 weeks they out me at 9+6, then at my 12 week scan they put me at 13w which I was surprised at as I knew I didn't ovulate on cd7!! More like cd17 but not much I could do!! I think the Nuchal has to be done between 11 and 13 weeks, or something?? If your nuchal is done at about 12w by LMP then that should cover all bases?

Hugs for mumtum xx

misscoffee it seems like the weeks at going by so quickly, can't believe you are 6 months !!!

Only one or two more days left at work, can't wait!

Great news Martha :)

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.

I think DSS might have slapped cheek. He has a bit of a temperature and really really pink cheeks. And I'm getting a sore throat and headache.

Fuck. Who do I need to speak to to find out if I'm immune? There's nothing we can do if I'm not, mind... Fuck.

Please please don't worry. It could be a number of things and not necessarily slapped cheek, how old is he? Could it be teething or earache? You can call your midwife and they might be able to check your booking in bloods for immunity, otherwise you can go in and they will take a sample for testing. Most pregnant women are immune, I had exactly the same thing about three months ago. If Your DS does have it and you aren't immune then they can send you in for regular scans to check blood flow but as far as I know chances of anything going wrong are slim (I googled this frantically when I thought DS had it). Do any of the kids he is in contact with having it? If not chances are it's not slapped cheek xx

He's four. In fairness he has been bouncing about like a mad thing all day but he's very flushed on his cheeks and has a temperature and stayed like that when he was sitting relatively still eating dinner. He says he feels 'fine' when asked, and doesn't seem to be unwell particularly. Plus he hasn't really been in contact with other kids since he finished school last thurs.

I'll ask the MW on Monday, but as I said - there's not much I can do either way. We'll see how he is tomorrow, it's just hard not to stress about it.

Thank you pie.

Just popping in to say hi.

DH and I had a lovely day today - spending some time were it was just the two of us was just what we needed. Though I did feel guilty sending dd to nursery this morning.

I hope everyone else had a good day.

lays out tray of chocolates, fruit, wine, gin and non-alcoholic cocktails to welcome in the weekend

Mumtum sounds like you have a boss like mine - the days I have had off after my mc have been forgotten :) she told everyone I was working from home - we finally got round to telling our respective families and was astounded by the support - given we are both 42 I thought the reception would have been a lot different - they are even fine with us trying again :). I have mixed feelings though at first I though - ok I know I can get pg now lets try again - now I'm so scared of having to go through that pain again ( the emotional not physical) haven't told the OH as he is sooooo keen but I'm worried the dark hole I was in will return and I won't get out - this was my first mc - are these feelings normal?

Hi everyone.

I've been lurking and am chuffed with all the good news and bursts of happiness on here! My thoughts are with those who are on the TTC roller coaster, but I do envy your ability to have a goodly few drinks!

grand I just had the Slapped Cheek scare two weeks ago. I am currently 14+4, so not far off you. DS and I had blood tests done right away and then I donned the full metal jacket for a week while the results were processed. Turns out DS did NOT have Slapped Cheek at all - misdiagnosis by the doctor, though he had all the symptoms. And I, who have never knowingly had it, have the immunity to it. So hold tight before you panic too much - lots of childhood illnesses can present like Slapped Cheek. And you may very well be immune. And if not, they'll monitor and the chances are slim that it will affect your wee bean. I, a Slapped Cheek sister, am holding your hand. :-D

grand sorry i know nothing about slapped cheek, but hope DSS is feeling a little better

pixie i think we can all identify with that, i thought i was never going to get out of that black hole last year but lots of things pulled me out of it (this thread being one of them )

cheers confused

wishful what a difference a few days make! you sound in such a happier place. you will get low moments but i agree that you should throw yourself into your wedding and honeymoon plans then that will give you some time to get ready to TTC again. so happy for you

thanks for the reassurance pie i sometimes wonder if sonographers really know their stuff (some of them do i know but i work in medical regulation and i know that they arent infallible!)

missc if i say you are in the third trimester then so be it sadly that means that you get a good licking from midget which is worrying

OTOH midget thank you for your little sob!

grand there's a high chance you'll be immune if it is slapcheek, as pp has said lots of other childhood illnesses can appear the same.

when do I enter 2nd trimester? I'm 12+1 --how I produced two children I don't know my brain is empty--

Sometime around now, state?

This is the heaviest AF I've ever had. This is normal for first AF post m/c, right?! I feel completely wiped.

I was utterly drained during and after my first af post mc. Exhausted and dizzy, Lots of vitamin C and rest helped me a bit. Take care of yourself xx

backward my first AF after the MC was heavy, like - really heavy. but it got straight back to normal after that.

DH and DS let me have a lie in this morning, they got up at 7am and i got up at 10.15am with poached eggs on toast and a cup of green tea waiting for me

still in pjs!

sorry about your AF backward. Mine was early and light but was terrified before it came. this cycle is being wierd too. meh.

hope you ok grand?! I don't know much about slapped cheek but, as usual, the lovely ladies here have stepped up with wonderful wisdom and experience :)

think post 12 weeks you are in the second trimester, so now state

congrats sass!

martha with my scan at 7 weeks DS was put a few days behind when i thought he was conceived then a few days back again at my 12 week scan (which was actually at 9 weeks as they insisted on going by LMP but was an accidental pregnancy on pill). but literally a click 1mm either way would change the edd at that stage, I have two different edds on two different pics of the same scan! they know this and say to give or take 3 days.