Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

Thinking of you midge xx

will be thinking about you midge.

i am just about to pop to the gp re my crazy brown spotting/bleeding episodes. not sure what they will do or say. i have been up all night panicing about it all.

i am hoping they test me for hormone inbalances. stupid receptionist was asking me too many questions and i can't stand her anyway so that isn't helping.

Seen quickly. Baby Perfect. Sonographer said though that I have an amniotic band but didn't seem too worried. Googled it foolishly and now metalling on full jacket. The baby isn't tangled in it but appears it could be at any stage. Also can't help thinking all my ERPC's have caused this. Google is not my friend. Not seeing my consultant for 4 weeks. May have to call to get that brought forward. Unhelpful that they use the same term regardless of if it a band or a sheet so I can't decide if very serious or not. She didn't seem concerned at all so guess they would have referred me straight away if they were. Help!

glad the baby was good midget! never heard of amniotic band and don't want to google as i have enough on my plate!! hope it's nothing to worry about and you get seen by your consultant quickly to put your mind at ease.

went to gp - they did sweet FA, i am seeing the private guy next week at liverpool so will see if he can do anything about this persistant spottting.

Thanks Pebs I often say GP's are over paid admin assistants. Just always send you somewhere else...

Well I rang the antenatal clinic and they rather worryingly gave me an appointment this afternoon. I know this could be very low risk to the baby or potentially bloody awful (loss of limb, increase miscarriage, deformities a plenty) but I need a consultant to hold my hand. I allowed myself to be all joyous about the pregnancy when I left the scan room but now beside myself with what could go wrong. Need to calm down and step the fuck away from Google. Google is not my friend.

www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/scans/amnioticbandexpert/

please don't worry midget xxx

(sorry it's Pie, I need to name change back)

Sorry I meant to say am sure it's an amniotic sheet otherwise they would have explained more to you as bands are very rare. Sheets don't look to cause any serious problems. x

Glad baby looks ok midge :)

Can anyone help with this?

I have another Urine infection, not seen the dr but classic signs, (painful urination, frequent urination, painful back) I had one 2 weeks ago and took a fulll course of anti biotics.

I'm 16+5 weeks, I can't get an apt with my dr today so I'll either have to go to ooh tonight or wait until tomorrow.

I drink loads and I am a very hygienic person.

This happened every few weeks in my last 2 pregnancies, it's getting silly now.

so a few questions.

Do I go to ooh or wait until I can possibly see a GP tomorrow and drag the kids along to that?

Do I request some sort of further testing into why this happens?

Should I buy some of the dip tests and use them at home so I can just call the dr and say that x,y,z is showing up since it's happening so frequently.

Is there anything they can do to minimise this or am I destined to spend the rest of the pg on and off antibiotics?

Is there anything I can do to help it/stop it happening?

Thanks Pie The babycentre link was the first one I looked at. I like that link. I should have stopped there. Trying to think sheet not band. They use the same terminology so lets just think sheet not band for now. Thank god my consultant is so good and they are seeing me quickly. After being calm I am now hysterical.

I can't say stay away from google! I am the worst for looking and looking until I find the worst possible scenario! Why do I do that?! Why do the negative articles always outweigh the positive ones!!

I'm crapping myself as my C-Section date is the same as the day the doctors are on strike, I know they said maternity services won't be affected but I can't stop fretting something might be wrong with the baby and need a specialist but there won't be one around.

midget I would be very very surprised if it is a band, they wouldn't have been unconcerned if that was the case. Hopefully you can get all your questions answered this afternoon xx

Pie I sure as hell hope you are right. She didn't seem too concerned but did just say 'you need to talk to your consultant'. Logic tells me your are right. Dr Google is a right dint. Not sure if sonographers just have really good poker faces. Although would be cruel to let us leave on top of the world if in fact we shouldn't be. She did say it was really rare though which increased my metalling as bands are rare - sheets are not. I am so happy they are seeing me this afternoon though - remind me not to grumble about the NHS for a while

Tits they never seem too concerned about infections unless they are raging so I would wait till tomorrow but if you are worried then stalk OOH. I would ask why they are so frequent though - you are more prone to them but every other week is just taking the piss. see what I did there

urgh google STEP AWAY FROM MR GOOGLE NOW - he knows jack shit! midget hope you are hanging up your metalling jacket and just thinking sheets rather than bands (SHEETS not bands )

thanks for all the jokes guys! jaffa i am at work so cant click the link but will do so tonight, funnily enough we have a few Father Teds also on our recording box thingy which-i still call a video coz it is my comfort zone! and said to DH that is what i need to watch.

tentatively whispers - i am 7+4 today

oooo i think that was a little bit of excitement coming from me - i honestly think it is this thread that is raising me up (in a westlife stylee)

7 + 4 is amazing martha (!!!) Are you tempted by an early scan (or did you have one quite recently??) sleep deprivation is seriously affecting me just now and the baby isn't even here yet. I will only have about a week off between finishing work and CS. Mmmmmm, wonder how that happened

theonlyone/pie i know i cant believe it, DH asks me every day and each day we get that little bit more excited. i had a scan at 5+6 because i went for my booking in appointment and told the MW all about my previous MC and CPs then told her i had some brown spotting, she whipped me straight in. they couldnt see much but could see that elusive 'black spot' which is the sac. they want to be sure so i have another scan on Friday (7+6).

woo hoo! (yes i think i am having a good day!)

Martha 7+6, get you all nearly 8 weeks pregnant. Hurray for that little bit of excitement and curses to you for putting that bloody song in my head. You raise me up blah blah blah

Thanks for your hypnotism and positive thoughts. I have seen my consultant - who I have to say is smashing (made some great calls with DD in what was a complicated pregnancy so I really trust her). She says she is not concerned about it at this stage. She thinks it would have attached by now if it was going to. That the fact that everything else looked OK and limbs free and not tangled are all very positive. So I will try and take her advice and not worry. In which case my news is Hurray. I have a healthy baby inside me. I have to accept that the band will mean I feel metalling is justified occasionally but hey - I am sure I would have metalled anyway so no change there. She also said that is more likely to be a fold than a band but can't tell me that for sure. I think a 3D scan would clarify that I am tempted to ring the fetal medicine centre to see if they can maybe put that one to bed with a 3D scan, at least then I can just put it out of my mind completely and remove any element of doubt. although that would maybe removed my entitlement to being a drama queen. I realise I am very lucky and my hospital care is fabulous. I don't know how anyone could have to wait days or even weeks to get that kind of reassurance.I was literally going out of my mind. I am currently loving the NHS. DD had issues because my womb is shit place to be - I couldn't bear this DC having the same experience but maybe loosing limbs to my inhospitable womb.

So this means that I am going to tell DD tonight. I need to accept that this baby could be a reality. Or maybe I should wait until I am 25 weeks

Thanks again your hand holding and kind words were very needed and appreciated.

yay for a good day martha! 7+4 and a scan on monday!

I can't imagine how it would feel to be pg after a mc... can totally understand your confusion and worry about depression/bonding. And you have a lot going on with your friend :( Personally can't wait to be pg but dread it too. I can't imagine how i will feel when (if) I see a positive test. probably think 'here we go then' rather than yay. Being pg is tough and all-consuming but at least normally you can glow and bask in the comfort that you are growing a life... If you can't enjoy being pg because you can't believe in it (after a mc) then pregnancy is a very different type of journey. I think if you can understand and come to terms with that then you can start to embrace it for what it is, rather than what it is not. (can you tell I have been self-counselling to be more positive about stuff?!)

cancer is definitely a cunt/dint. I can hardly type the word. Am so so sorry to hear about your mum kirrin.

I am so sure that you would have been referred to someone asap if it was serious midget? Shit that you are so worried again but yay a perfect baby! My sonographer didn't have a very good poker face at my 6 week scan when faced with an empty sac.

cross post, glad your mind has been put to rest for a while midget :)

thanks for a good laugh martha I had a hilarious vision of you on a stool a la Westlife, standing up at the crescendo of "you raise me uuupppp". Am doing a happy jig at 7+6 and also at midget's good 20 wk scan. Because it is all good. (joins in with hypnotising it is a sheet it is a sheet, repeat after me it is a sheet)

piemistress one week isn't enough, I would go into work and do a dramatic faint. Get wheeled out. See you in one year!

Who else is due soon? I have totally lost track - bluecrane? poppyjen? Am I making these names up? The last 3 months have been a haze.

bluecrane must be soon surely?

I've just told DD. gulp, it's real now, not just my heartache on the line. She was so delighted. Wish I'd videoed it. She's full of questions and suddenly admitting my tummy is big (previously been staunchly defending its size and saying it wasn't).

God it all seems so real now. And all I can hear is Boyzone ringing in my ears....

I'm 12 weeks tomorrow thankfully I have another scan next week because I've got the full metal jacket on.

Wolf whistling at 12 weeks

12 weeks hurrah state :)

midget how did you keep it a secret until 20 weeks? With my mc-pg I looked reet preggo at just 10 weeks had a nice little pot (and not even a baby in it!) - I can't imagine how sizeable i would have been at 20 weeks! So happy for you that you have managed to make it 'public' with your dd and very pleased she is so excited :) What loveliness :)

Am thinking i might not ttc this month and give myself more time to heal from the mc and get back to 'normal' :( Heart says yaya baby! Head says noooo, you will just metal too much. hmmf. If anyone wants to reassure me that I can get preggo and be normal i would be very grateful (though better be quick as I will ov at the weekend, thanks)

that only posted some of my message.

Its also would have been my Grandmas birthday tomorrow.

I'm getting aches around my hips and umm fanjo but I've done a bit of walking today, I dared look in babies r us so now I'm freaking out that the next scan will be mmc.