Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

ah state big bear hugs for your grandma's birthday tomorrow, shall we all join in a chorus of 'cancer is a cunt' at a certain time?

blue has had her baby and i am embarassed to say i cant remember his name but it was beautiful - oh oh it was Maxwell

midget hoo-bloody-rah for an excellent consultant, i should get the same one i had with DS and-not that bitch who broke my waters with a machete, if i ever set eyes on her again i will fucking kill her er yes, where was i? lovely consultant!

and stupid. I remember baby blue.

Totally understand all the head-wrecking - really think I won't relax this time until there's an actual born baby. I have already managed to metal myself up good-oh over my stupid blood pressure (which when last checked is still hovering just around the "tiny bit higher than normal" mark), as I am now convinced that all random wooziness is a result of it suddenly going insanely high despite the fact that it's been the same for weeks, and that I am going to explode/develop placental abruption/etc.

In to GP tomorrow for more BP checking anyway, have ordered home BP monitor. GP tried different BP meds on me last week which made me keep nearly fainting so told to stop them. Dr Google (the reputable end, like, proper medical journals) informs me that there is almost certainly no need to medicate preggo BP if it stays at my level anyway so I am hoping my "look I will do my monitor every day until I see the specialist" stratagem will work. Wish doctors would stop freaking out over it as it is not helping my attempts to be positive! and calm!

Great to hear your consultant was positive midget, hopefully your mind will be in a better place and you can get a decent nights sleep! I didn't tell anybody about this pregnancy until 20 weeks although it was quite obvious!

It's two weeks tomorrow till my CS. Cue major metalling!!!!

I think poppyjen might be after me? I did see baby had posted on a thread in pregnancy and asked her to pop over and see her old chums on is thread as am sure she is due any date now but I haven't seen a post from her. Does the stats thread get up dated with arriving babies?

Also adding that cancer is indeed a cunty cunt! Horrible, evil, cruel disease that I wish would fuck right off!!

Congrats on12 weeks state xx

Wow! 7+4s and 12 weeks - time is flying :)

midget glad you have seen the consultant so quick and that it's helped calm you down a bit. Your hospital sounds ace, and it can't hurt to ask for a 3D scan - the worst they can say is no?!

wild I wish I could reassure you that you could just get pregnant and be normal, but I think worrying is inevitable :( Having said that, I wanted to get there straight away and I honestly don't think that waiting a month or 2 would have made much difference.

How long do you have to keep the GPs at bay for til you see your specialist leedy ?

I have got pregnant straight after MC and also waited. All good choices at the time but I hate to depress you but I have metalled with both. however if your head says wait, then listen to it. You know what is best.

Why did I just google images of amniotic bands? Hoping to see ultrasound pictures to reassure myself some more. This is not what I got. Stupid fecking me needs google stripped off my phone. will be stepping away from google for some time and just coming here for loving strokes.

Night night all. you raise me up, so I can do something on mountains-

midget, so glad you got to talk to your consultant today. I hope they have helped you feel a bit calmer. Will you have additional scans etc going forward? I dont know about amniotic bands, but they don't seem to be worrying in your case, so that is A Good Thing.

wild I agree with all that has been said on trying again. After my first mc, in the wtf cycle, I was totally obsessed with getting pg again. It was both a physical and mental thing. But I couldn't, because of big family commitment 9 months later. Then, the next month I felt much calmer and felt like I needed to have a break from it.
Second mc, I just wanted to get pg straight away.Both were hard in different ways.

I have a bit of good news. I had an unmistakeable kick from her today. I was listening to Nina Simone. She must like jazz.

marnin' all

I need sugar and caffeine - DS went to sleep at 4pm last night - 4 - so was up very early this morning, and DH and I took advantage of having 'no' DS and had some booze... sleeeepy.

Thanks for counselling me :) I have decided to be grown up and wait! Dh and I chatted last night and he wants two weeks notice at least to stop any booze and eat right and make a good healthy baby, which is grand. So we aren't in it this month but will be wonderfully committed next month and I cannot wait. i need to get back into my work so when I do get pg I will either have finished and be a SAHM or be comfortable enough with deadlinbes that if I need time to metal I can. Look after mesen like.

hurrah.

yay for a proper kick jaffa! that's amazing! :)

Good morning everyone... Little bit sad to be wondering in here but have read through a few pages and this looks like a safe place!

bit of background... started ttc at the end of January this year (was on injections, then pill for a year while they wore off, stopped pill at new year and got first period end of Jan). Started getting some spotting in early May, way too soon after last AF for it to be happening again so suspected ov or implantation bleed - faintest bfp confirmed implantation. Then continued spotting for 24 days - was certain that something wasn't right but doc just said keep testing and if it's still positive at 6/7 weeks call the mw. Last Thursday it stopped and had two brief days of thinking I might be able to enjoy the pregnancy when bam, heavy heavy bleeding and mc started on saturday morning.

Feeling so gutted and bewildered. At the moment I just want to try again asap - it felt like it took so long to get a bfp this time around. I know in the scheme of things four cyclesisn't too bad, but I was already quite depressed whenever AF arrived (especially I think as I'd gone for years without having it because of the injections) and I don't think I can take month after month of it again. Adding in extra months while we wait seems unbearable at the moment. But I think DH will want to be sensible about it.

Not helped by friend who is trying to be helpful but is bugging me at the moment. She had a mmc earlier in the year so for the most part has been incredibly supportive - however it feels as though she's being a bit self-righteous about waiting three months before ttc again because she has, and it's the right thing to do etc etc. I don't think she gets where I'm coming from because she got a bfp pretty much as soon as she started ttc last time around.

Sorry for the big whinge - not a great introduction Let's say I'm anticipating lots of metalling about getting "back to normal" never mind about ttc.

Maybe some of wilde's coffee will help if there's any going spare? Also seeing above that some of you are pg again, and some are very nearly due is encouraging.

waves and crosses fingers that she hasn't sounded completely whingey

Hi Cheap welcome to the thread ((hugs)). I'm do sorry that you had to join us, mcs are rubbish, but the ladies here are lovely.

jaffa whoop whoop on a kicking girl! maybe she is going to be a champion kick boxer or World Cup women's rugby/football

will you get the fuck off google woman!!! you will not be told will you

wild me and DH do that sometimes, we will never learn, if DS goes to bed early you do not drink as you will have poorly headness when they wake up at 4am!! i remember once when DS was poorly he went to bed at 3.30pm but did actually sleep till about 7am - that was one lucky night!!

cheap welcome but for your MC. You dont have to wait 3 months, you can start right away in the WTF cycle, but be prepared that it could take months, IKWYM about getting blue everytime AF arrives. OTOH it could happen right away. Whatever happens just settle down with some of wilds and - M&Ms?

Ladies i have a doofus question, at my scan tomorrow i will be somewhere between 7+4 and 7+6 coz-i have manipulated the stats and said i am 7+6 so am going with it if all goes well will i see anything? i know i should see a heartbeat but will there be any shape of a foetus??

martha you might see a sort of blob with little buds. I had one at 6weeks which was literally a blob and then one at 9 weeks which looked like a jelly baby!
There is a good section on the Baby to See website which shows scans at different stages which I was obsessed with at your stage! Be careful googling 'baby at 7 weeks' as I did that once and got some awful images from some nutty pro-life website, you can imagine what the pictures were of and it was pretty disturbing. Waves to everyone else!

Welcome cheap :)

waves to buggerlugs and welcome back - congrats on your BFP! i am glad you are here as you can answer a question for me - what the hell is an ESH? as in BESH and all that malarkey, i have wanted to join but just dont understand it all

Cross post buggerlugs - welcome and congratulations :) . I have a 17 month DD and am 18 weeks pregnant. I lost my first and third pregnancies, so I am currently doing the pregnant after mc thing for the second time. You will worry more, it's only natural, but that's what we're here for! There is no reason why your pregnancy shouldn't be anything other than textbook so try not to let the metalling get out of control. I found having a couple of private scans in the early weeks very reassuring - I don't know if that's an option for you?

oo buggerlugs i like the sound of this place, i am sure i will settle in there nicely!

thanks for clarifying that, i now see where the term comes from bastard-daily fail

I am delighted to be a PESH! Look at me, selfishly gestating at nearly 40 with no consideration for the rest of society etc. etc. WHO DO I THINK I AM? Should I not have retired to cronehood by now?

Welcome back and congrats, buggerlugs, and welcome cheap! I didn't wait three months either, fwiw - didn't go for it the first month because I had a chest infection and then got pregnant our second month trying.

And hoorah for the kicking mini jaffa cake! Sorry if I have failed to namecheck everyone, I am trying to concentrate in an office where the heating seems to be set on "suffocate".

i am definitely a PESH - like leedy i am cracking on 40 (in fact bambino is due 2 weeks before my 40th - thats Bruges out the window then )

I blame my ovaries for not withering and falling out when I hit 30 like the Daily Fail says happens to "selfish career girls".