The All New TTC whilst Breastfeeding Support Thread

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Have a breastfed baby or toddler? Why not try for another one?! Who needs sleep anyway?

Come join us whether you are waiting for your first period in months or are are a few months into trying.

Finding time to dtd is a nightmare! Me and dh don't even sleep in the same room! We didn't before ds came along. Because of dh's horrific snoring but I co sleep with ds now too which makes it even harder. I have to sneak across the hall to the spare room! We dtd everyday in the run up to ov this month so can't understand what went wrong. Gotta be the blasted hormones!

If we weren't TTC I'm not sure it'd even be once a month here. Dunno if it's the BFing but I'm just not really bothered! Natures way of spacing the DC I expect!
Anyway, have had words with DH who agrees to increase frequency but said he's "not 17 anymore". (Really, I hadn't noticed ;) )

Hope the supplement helps jakey, I'm sure of you can sort that you'll be on your way.

Oh, I ordered preseed with my opks, you never know, might help!

So far its not too bad for us as baby goes to sleep at one end of the superkingsize mattress and we can snuggle at the other end and nobody gets disturbed or curious....once she becomes aware of whats going on (when is that, btw? lol) it's going to get a LOT harder!!!

jennimoo I am using conception plus. Every little helps, especially neither DH nor I are 17 either

Hmmm I've just been reading up on pre seed and stuff. Do I need it? TMI but since my AF returned I have had ridiculous amounts of EWCM and i mean ridiculous amounts! I obviously don't need an actual lubricant so would it still help? I'm willing to do anything lol

I have lots of Ewcm some months, less others. No lubrication needed but thought it was worth a try. Never know, I might be 'hostile' in there ;)

at Hostile. It's almost as good as barren !

I think the idea my body is fighting off the invading sperm as doesn't want to go through all that again is funny. A part of me wonders the same, especially as the terrible twos really seem to be upon us...

OK need opinion - going POAS nuts today!

Pre-DD luteal phase was 11 days..... I'm now 12DPO and no AF and no BFP....

Had a crash BBT dip yesterday to below coverline, and today it was back up to almost the previous level - but surely 11DPO is too late for an implantation dip? And anyway, if it was implantation, shouldn'y I have tested positive today?

(Tested 3x - bad me! - all BFN :( )

Hello ladies, how are we all doing?

Anyone find it strange we were all ovulating and expecting AF at similar times? It seems to be quite close each month doesn't it, within a few days.

Enough of my musings for one night haha...

Hope your all good

Hi welovecouscous DS was having water in a beaker from around 7 months in the day time and started on cups of water at around 11-12 months, and then milk too, he is Just 2 and every now and then will have a watered down fresh orange or apple juice usually if were out for dinner, We are the opposite he mainly feeds at night daytime he has a cup of cows milk or water

rainbow is it one of your first cycles, I can't remember? Are you sure you ovulated? As you mentioned temps dropping I guess you can be fairly sure. I don't think the LP is necessarily the same as pre DC but hopefully just not testing positive yet.

couscous Do you offer DS a cup of milk instead ever, when you're there? Rather than stopping him BFing you could just offer a choice and he will take it sometimes. DD (26m) is a milk monster but I offer cups and she seems to ask for that instead sometimes. Hardly drinks any water though, unfortunately.

welovecouscous my AF returned when I was down to 3-4 feeds, around 12mo. What I did for the day feeds was moving DD to scheduled feeding once solid was well established. I was also working FT so she was already day weaned during the week, but demand fed during the weekends. The schedule was like bf on wake up, breakfast, mid-morning bf, lunch, mid-afternoon bf, tea, bedtime bf, then 1-2 feeds during the night. Around 12mo, I offered a cup of cows milk mid morning, and solid snacks mid afternooon instead. I only tackled night feeds at 15mo. So at your LO's age, I was at 2 feeds, wake up and bedtime. It's not so extreme as total weaning, is it? WHO recommends 2 year of bf, but I think many who follow this are doing a lot less than 10 feeds.

I followed Dr Jay Gordon methods for night weaning. One of the suggestions he gave was offer a cuddle instead of a bf. I found that DD was happily settled for the cuddle. Maybe you can try that, but for day weaning? For example, get some raisins on a plate, a cup of water, and then put him on your lap and see?

As for drinks, DD has full fat cows milk and water in a free flow cup.

HTH

Oh and I think someone up thread mentioned wearing tops that are hard for little hands to get into. That definitely works too. It's easier to refuse when they can't get at it themselves.

Rainbows, I think implantation can happen As late as 12 days and it would take at least 48 hrs for hcg to rise enough to show up. I'd say you are still in there til AF shows up. Try again tmrw if nothing before.
Welove, welcome! I think everyone can tolerate a certain amount of feeds without it affecting AF. My ds still feeds loads in the night but minimal in the day and mine came back when he turned one. My mate who is about 8 weeks Preg and still bf an older dd, has been night weaned for ages but they only returned when she went to nursery and the day feeds dropped. I think I would prefer to try drop day feeds than night. Bit less stressful when you aren't half asleep! I'd try distraction as much as possible and try and get the feeds down a bit. Have you been tracking your cm? Any signs things are headed in the right direction?

Thanks for my replies - 13 DPO, temps still high and no AF - which is very unusual for me at this point of DPO - and BFN.

I'm fairly confident of when I ov'd as I am tracking on fertility friend, and despite my temps being up and down like a yo yo pre-ov, as soon as I had fertile CM my temps totally changed to a dip then a consistent rise, then a big "crash" dip at 11 DPO, but back up to previous level now....

Welove - my AF turned up when DD was 16 months despite her still feeding every 2 hours during the night, and every 2 hours during the day as well, if I'm there! I think for most women they return after a set amount of time, regardless of BF, just that having a gap between feeds can help this....

• I work 4 days a week, 3 half days and one full day, so I don't normally have a gap of more than 6 hours... once a week it's 8 hours.

14DPO (unheard of for me!) temps still up and still BFN... this is getting freaky///

Fingers and toes crossed for you.

hi everyone, think this is the thread i joined ages ago but then i got a bit sressed out and have avoided mn for a while, can i join you all again please? DD is nearly 17mo, we oficially started hoping for #2 in february but af didn't return till october. Body seems to be playing all sorts of games with me and no idea what's happening with my cycles, hate this ttc business!!!

Rainbow- got my fingers crossed. hope a bfp is on its way!
Highheels-welcome to the head wreck!
i am on cd20 with no ovulation yet of my first cycle. when AF returned did u all have long irregular cycles? ds is teething / growth spurting and on me all the time i guess that must be having an impact to!

Hello!
I had a long first cycle, nearly double normal length I think, but then settled down to reasonably regular. Good luck.

Hello highheelsandequations :) (Maths?) DD is 17 months here as well, but only had one period so we're about equal I think!

15 DPO temps still up but stil BFN on internet cheapie ultra sensitive... this is driving me nuts! Also really really sore nipples now as well - couldn't stand having the water on in the shower

My temps chart is really clear. We havent had sex since day before ov (thanks non-sleeping toddler) WTF?!

I had long irregular cycles pre-DD anyway, with a short LP (11 days) so until 11 DPO passed this cycle was seeming normal for me - ov'd on CD 27.

I used to ov between CD 17 and CD 28 - which is why I got into charting as it was soooo unpredictable, but I get a clear dip before the rise of ovulation, so with temping I get warning... :)