The All New TTC whilst Breastfeeding Support Thread

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Have a breastfed baby or toddler? Why not try for another one?! Who needs sleep anyway?

Come join us whether you are waiting for your first period in months or are are a few months into trying.

Do stay Lola, it's so good to hear good news not just BFNs!

Another day not testing here. Probably 12-14 dpo now and LP usually 15 ish, so AF could be due anytime from tomorrow. Don't know when I'll test, might try to just wait for AF. Hopefully it'll be a very long wait ;)

Yeah that's what I'm going to do now. Off to Kent for a week with dh and ds and not taking any tests. If no AF by midweek I will buy a CBD I think.
I'm knicker checking like there's no tmrw. Nothing. I'm exhausted too. Def with child.

Spotting. Light pink when I wipe.
Obviously AF but why does my head still persist on telling me it might still be implantation bleeding. This TTC has made me cuckoo!
Only 10dpo too. Bet it's this pathetic LP that's my problem. Def dtd at the right time.
Feeling and hormonal and slightly mental lol. Have had anxiety all day as read tooth on dr google and convinced myself that there is something wrong with ds as he doesn't seem to speak as much as he used to and can only say about 10 words which I only seem to hear occasionally. My mums just really told me off for being stupid. She says 16.5 months is still very young for boys to be saying loads. Not a good day at all!!!!

Glad I can stay

Doesn't feel real yet and as DS is only almost 2 i am not sure why i have forgotten everything about pregnancy, seriously i'm clueless.

So when do i go to the doctor again?, and the NHS go from first day of your last period don't they, so i am 4 weeks, or am i ?

So far boobs are only a bit tingly but the nipple twisters(DS ) definitely hurt more !

You guys are doing good with the no testing, i'm sure it will be a bit easier on you than the constant testing, cheaper too.

Sorry jakey x posted,

Sorry your having a rough day , hot water bottle available?

obvious advice but- just don't worry seriously, is he happy:?, if he is then think does it really matter?, it might be nice but it doesn't matter if it isn't making him sad or angry

lola stay until you are ready for the next step. We need someone to cheer us up.

jennimoo hang in there. Another 3 days to go at most.

jakey thanks for explaining. It makes sense now. I got pregnant last time after 3-4 months so I didn't think short LP could be a problem. I wa sure age doesn't cause short LP! I understand completely how this ttc could do your head in. Do you know what I fantasied today? Somehow I got pregnant before ewcm, because of sperms already in my tubes. And that's why I still haven't see ewcm yet. It's pathetic isn't it?

Also DH has been struck down by a cold. Temperature, loss of appetite, the whole works. I told him that luckily we dtd last nigh, so he has a couple of days to recover. Needless to say he's not impressed.

Yes he's super happy and actually very bright. Understands everything, carries out complex tasks, points to stuff in books when asked etc. He chatters constantly but it's all nonsense! I think he might be just having a more physical phase. He was better at talking before he walked and now he's mobile he doesn't sit still, into everything and I get the impression, talkings a bit boring! He used to do all the animal noises but is totally bored by that now too! Does he sound ok to you lot? Do I sound totally ridiculous? He's said loads of words since he was one but I only ever hear them a few times and then never again. Don't even know why I've for my knickers in a twist about this!!! Aaarrgghhh Lola, I think I've forgotten about how to be pregs too! I think I made a drs spot straight away and then saw the midwife at 8 weeks! As for the nips, my friend is about 8 weeks pregs and bf. she thinks her supply has dropped a little but dd not bothered and she says the nips are bad but bearable! Are you taking any supplements? You prob need some to keep your energy up. Being pregs and bf is super hard work!

jakey your boy is doing very well to have 10 words at 16mo. Mine is 19mo and I think it's only last month she showed any interests in books. She is a very active girl and sounds just like your little boy. She won't sit still for a second not even for the TV. She hits all the physical milestones on babycentre early but is behind on all the verbal ones. I assume that because she isn't interested in me reading books to her. About a month ago she suddenly started taking books out and pointing at pages and making consistent sounds for things. She also picked up a habit of watching dora the explorer though! (She points at TV and go do do).

She has her ears tested because she had jaundice. They also checked her speech milestones. They said unless they don't have 2-5 words by 18mo you don't have to worry. But I guess that baseline is when doctors will intervene.

At 16mo nothing she said was comprehensible. As in she will never always refer to elmo as mo mo. but she made a lot of speech like noises.

DD wasn't talking til well past 18 months and took a while to get going as didn't really want to try. Now she's away and was well ahead of where HV said she needed to be.
Hard to believe now that at 18m I was worried she wasn't talking!

Also I think I was too good at picking up her cues: no need to speak!

Oh its great too read about a BFP, congrats.
Jakey- have u read kellymom, there is something there about the return of fertility without luteal competence then eventually with. I hope it happens for u soon.
I am on CD15 of my first cycle since DS born, no sign of ewcm. Boob monster has stepped up a level too so i am wondering if i will have a very long wait. I am.so impatient!just hoping i might be really lucky and catch an egg quickly.
Good luck everyone, my fingers are crossed for news of more BFPs.

Thank you so much ladies! Out of everyone ive spoken to you have made me feel way better! I really need to stop reading stuff. The problem is that I am a nurse and know way too much for my own good.. Google is def evil lol! Some sites I looked at said at 18 months they should say 50 words and I totally shit myself!! Sounds like he's doing just fine and in line with everyone else! Phew!
It's so weird, we don't even know each other but this thread really helps me out in so many ways! Glad to have you in my life cyber pals!

Oh and my little boy is 17months and chats nonsense all day but i have yet to hear any real words i am biased but i thinks he is really smart. He goes to nursery and the other kids his age dont talk either.
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DD at 19mo definitely doesn't have 50 words unless you count all her incomprehensible babbling sounds. I know what you mean by googling and worrying though. I do that often and never could believe how behind DD is supposedly to be . By the way her nursery says she's fine with her speech. They also commented how advanced she is with physical skills. He latest party trick is taking her trousers off, all day.

Hello everyone,
I haven't read whole thread (sorry) but just wanted to share my experiences of TTC while BF. My periods didn't return until 15 months after I gave birth and I was starting to fret that i would have to wean DD1. However, they came back, at varying lengths and random timescales, and we conceived on my fourth or fifth cycle. I had ovulated late (going by EWCM) and didn't test positive until about three weeks past my ovulation date. I am now eight months pg and still bf DD1, who is 2.5. Hope there are some more BFPs soon - I know how frustrating it is! I found it was dropping the night feeds that really made a difference to ovulating.

Good to hear your story haggis

AF has arrived here so no testing today!

Ok, do you think cutting down DDs BFs is likely to help? She has about 4 short feeds a day now. I have regular AF (30/31 days) and 15/16 day LP, just the same as pre-DD! Temperatures, OPKs and CM all seem to point to me ovulating.
So what do you think? I can't see that BFing is interfering but that's the only thing we're doing different and DD was 1st month TTC (although was temping and opking!)

11 DPO and despite temps rising consistently up to yesterday, today had a huge dip below the coverline.... I think this means AF is on its way :( Also extremely knackered....

I don't know if it has anything to do with the BFP jenni but we did start dropping feeds , probably too quickly though DS didn't seem to mind, If you are going to drop some being out helps, if we stay out all day he doesn't notice that he isn't having booby because he is far too busy and the easiest thing i did to stop him feeding so much was wear tops that he can't get his little hand in because it's easier to say no when he hasn't already had a grab of it, it's cold now so tops that aren't as low cut or jumpers are what i have been doing.

Lots of ''oh dear, all gone booby'' as well.

Sorry AF showed up though

I am taking pregnacare original for pregnancy & breastfeeding have been since ds was small though, it has everything in it. (i think)

You found fine jenni. Daft question but are you dtd enough? Took ages for ds and I ended up seeing the fertility nurse. She said we weren't trying hard enough and we needed to do it 3 x week every week. It was only once I stopped just shagging when I thought was the right time and doing like she said that I caught that month.
I've been back on google lol but this time researching luteal phase lengthening. It seems 50mg of vit b6 daily can lengthen LP. It inhibits prolactin and therefore allows to progesterone to keep rising. It says it may reduce milk supply slightly but not enough to cause concern so I'm giving it a go this month. Pretty sure that's the issue. My pmt disappeared about 2 days before AF this month so that would mean that the progesterone levels had started dropping by 8dpo and that's way too early to sustain a Preg.
It will be our month next time jenni and if we both got AF yesterday then looks like we are going to be cycle buddies this time!
Thanks for the success story too! Gives us some hope!

The DTD could be it... Have been doing what was successful with DD and DTD around O but every other day is the best we managed. Second month trying there was lots of DTD before then as we hit the window DH couldn't manage it any more... So haven't been doing much before in case that happens again. Might have to try the 3 x a week and see if we make it to ovulation this month!

The best we could manage at the moment is every 3 days . We have been very unlucky with colds and sickness bugs. DH is still poorly and DD threw up her tea tonight.

Every three days is still good going, we only manage every now and then! due to workload more than anything - we're both busy all day and DH is working into the night, by which time me and DD are asleep!

As for words mine only does mama and dada so far but she's crafty with them, using it all for her advantage - she WONT say them if you want her to like she did at first for a round of applause, she now uses it as emotional blackmail, saving them for the times when she thinks she's not getting your attention or is a bit upset then it's 'mamaaaaAAAA!'

BigBoPeep it's so much harder with a young toddler to find the time and energy to dtd isn't it? We hardly go out, but are still knackered most evenings. And DH and I get sick a lot more too. I think it's because we are tired, but DH said it's from DD's nursery.

Still no sign of ewcm. I wanted to do bbt charting, but I just couldn't remember it when I wake up. DD is a early riser so I'm always woken up by her crying. It's hard to think 'wait I need to take my temp' while the LO is wailing away in her cot .