The All New TTC whilst Breastfeeding Support Thread

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Have a breastfed baby or toddler? Why not try for another one?! Who needs sleep anyway?

Come join us whether you are waiting for your first period in months or are are a few months into trying.

No advice jakey only had the one double length cycle after AF just came back. Fingers crossed though!

tizzy congrats on BFP! DD was 2 last week, still feeds loads but only in the day now. We've found the gro clock works for keeping her kn bed in the morning, although only got as far as 5:55am so far!

AF has now left so guess I better start thinking about DTD this month. Oed on cd16 the last 2 months, so at least know where to aim for!

Hi, again

How is anyone planning to get their stubborn feeders off in the night, am i going to have to put him in his own room?

he is probably ready but i am so lazy that i dread walking in and out of bedrooms all night!

Lola We did the night weaning with moving DD to her own room. It would indeed be a pain to go to her room to feed her. Can your LO help himself? Have you tried sleeping in a tight fitting top?

We are now two weeks back from our holidays and she still is waking up once every night. I am not feeding her back to sleep, but using standard sleep training methods - going into her room regularly in 5-15min intervals. The longest it took was over an hour to go back to sleep

Ds has an attack of the snots and just got up to refill the humidifier and AF!
Am happy with that - means I am still fertile and it would tie in with that 2nd lot of ewcm so a good LP.
Def no opk's next month. I've come to the conclusion they are pants. Going back to basics and going to do the old three times a week and ewcm day tactic.
I don't plan doing anything really Lola. I'm ok with feeding ds in the night for a bit longer. He helps himself and doesn't really disturb me that much, plus I think he benefits nutritionally from the bit of extra good stuff! If I get a bfp though my plan is to get a little bed by mine and try transitioning him that way with one of the sleep training methods. I am happy to tandem feed in the day but not to share a bed with two milk monster at night

Welcome back Tizzy and massive congratulations! It's about time we had another BFP on this thread I've got everything crossed for you that this will be a sticky bean.

Jakey, I'm sure you're right that it's just a wonky cycle. Apologies if I may be talking out of my arse as I don't know that much about it, but I saw someone on another thread go through something similar recently and some other MNers were recommending that she go to the GP as it could indicate things like PCOS or an ectopic pregnancy. Also, you could always ask for a blood test to determine once and for all if you could be preggers.

Lola, we're just going through this ourselves as the constantly interrupted sleep due to DS suckling throughout the night is killing me. No advice, but you have my empathy!

ToddlingTerror, sorry your nights are still so disrupted. I'm finding travelling affects DS much more now than it did when he was a tiny baby. Once it took us a full two weeks to get back to normal after a trip to the States! Hope things settle down for you soon.

I just agreed yesterday to travel for work for three days next week. I've been turning down travel opportunities until recently as I wasn't ready to leave DS, but now I'm looking forward to the chance for a little break and a few nights of rest. But that gives us one week to get DS used to DH putting him to bed and settling him at night! Any tips? In some ways I think it might be easier to break DS of the night suckling habit with me not there, and I'm actually considering properly weaning him, depending on how he is when I get back. I will have to express a little whilst I'm away as I managed to get a blocked duct just from a late night out last week, but I think I'll try 'don't offer, don't refuse' when I get back.

I had intended to let DS decide when to wean, but I'm sick of being a zombie from not sleeping well, and I'm convinced that BFing is making it more difficult to get pregnant (we really wanted a close gap and I can feel that slipping away). I am still a bit conflicted about it, but I think it will be difficult to stop anytime. Also, I don't fancy tandem feeding, so if he didn't wean if I fell PG I would have to interfere anyhow, and his personality is already becoming stronger so I think it might be worse with a stroppy older toddler IYSWIM.

Is anyone else considering weaning?

Sorry Jakey, somehow I missed that your AF has arrived! Sorry you're not PG after all, but it must be a relief to know where you stand. Better luck this cycle!

perpetual I think the 3 days away sounds like a good time to consider any changes, but I wouldn't worry about prepping for DH putting him to bed, DD behaves totally different if I'm not about (better!!!)
We 'night weaned' DD a while ago and for us it was the best thing to do, and although I was nervous at the time about it wing right I now see it was. DH went in and resettled her, didn't take that many days / weeks, and since she sleeps through better than average. We didn't co sleep though which I'm sure poses more of a challenge.

CD 7 today and started temping again. Was tempted not to bother but know I'd regret it when I wanted to pinpoint O!

No worries perpetual, thankful for the advice! It's good to have some people to talk to who are interested in your cm and AF lol! Didn't think about PCOS and ectopic either but you're right! Thank goodness it's arrived now anyway.

I think you'll be fine to just go. I left ds about 1am and was gone until 8am when my friend had her baby ( I was birthing partner). I just got out of the bed and dh got in. He never blinked an eyelid and woke only once when dh settled him easily. He did have a big feed when I got back but didn't seem to miss it when I wasn't there. I think you'll be fine.

Quick question for those who temp. When do you start temping, what time do you do it and does the bf in the night affect it?

Yaaay tizzy I'm so pleased you got a bfp!!

And yay jakey on AF finally arriving. I had a 42 day cycle followed by 28 day cycle so I think you can safely write it off as a wonky cycle.

Ds night weaning seems to be working as he has slept till 5/6am every night this week, just one feed morning and night. I gave him water the one night he did wake up and he settled without too much fuss. So far so good but he is 16 months now so better able to settle himself. I have 2 nights away in November so need to work out what to do for that- might end up stopping feeding altogether as he really doesn't need it- just loves it!!

AF from hell
Trying to think positive thoughts and embrace the fact I am fertile again.
Much chocolate required!

jakey I had really painful cramps this month too, makes it even worse doesn't it! Hope you feel better soon.

Have a jakey
hope you are feeling better soon

Hope you are a bit better now jakey

We've had a fun weekend with 2 out of 3 boys being sick so just waiting to see if ds3 is next. I suspect he won't be long as he's a bit hot this morning :-(
Still at least all the bedding has been washed now!

How is everyone else getting on? I expect I'll be ov'ing in next few days so fx dh and I stay well enough to dtd!

thinkingof4 I hope you're all on the mend, sounds bad. So far DD has avoided tummy bugs etc, I'm sure the milk helps!

I think I'll be Oing around Friday...

Me toojennimoo I think! Though if this is a short cycle could be a bit sooner
Hoping ds3 will have some immunity from me and maybe not get it bit that's probably a bit optimistic!

Hi, I haven't read the whole thread yet as my phone doesn't seem to like mumsnet!

But I have a 13mo dd who breastfeeds like a newborn. She will rarely go longer than 3 hours, day or night without a bf. So I was surprised when af returned 2 months ago.

Me and dp decided quite recently that we'd like to try for dc2 but my question is, am I fertile yet even though af has made an appearance? I haven't been using any sort of contraception since dd has been born if that makes a difference?

Hi guys, bad luck with vomiting ds's thinkingof4! Hope everyone ok now!
Feeling much better and actually had an AF similar to post Preg AF so things do seem to be returning to normal slowly. I'm on cd 5 now so quite a while to go before ov. Got no opk or hpts left and not buying any either. Going to go by the ewcm and the ov pain and see what happens!
Good luck you two for this weekend! Fingers crossed for bfp's for all of this month!
Hairy toothbrush welcome, technically you should class yourself as fertile From the first period but in reality it takes a few cycles for everything to get back to normal and some find it difficult to conceive. If you get time read back through the thread to see some of things we've encountered along the way! One thing is for sure Anything can happen with bf and AF!

similar situation here perpetual - was going to let her self wean but actually i think I might make it to a year and then wean as she is a WELL fed baby and already quite stroppy (6mo) when she doesnt get her own way which can only get worse! Also no sign of quitting night feeding - its very variable, sometimes just once, sometimes apparently constantly! doesnt so much bother me but I really dont want a big age gap.

TTC in earnest has crept up on me - still not meant to be 'trying' until after xmas but woah, that feels close now! I question my sanity in trying to do this but then give myself a mental slap and think of X, Y or Z who had 2/3/4 young children all at once and survived it!

Thank you jakey! That's good to know, it's made me feel a bit more positive about everything.3rd Af should be coming next week so I'm going to see that as things being back to normal.

I've started reading through the thread already which has given me so much to think about.

Hi everyone, I have namechanged But i am still Lola.

How are you all feeling emotionally, i feel ridiculous but i am quite inwardly obviously jealous of every pregnant woman (just happens to be everyone in the whole wide world with a vagina bar me).
And i feel like a greedy child,i know how many women have been trying for longer and i have one already. . .

Just feeling a bit sorry for myself and it is making me feel guilty.

lola I've only been trying 4 months and so feel guilty for finding it tough going. Especially as, apart from not wanting the age gap to increase too much, there's no reason I need to get pg at any particular time. I luckily got pg 1st month with DD and needed to do it quickly as either well with work contracts ending (got back to work before job ended...)

Anyway, - opk but masses of cm yesterday. Earlier than expected this month as only cd13 today and Oed cd16 the last 2 months...

I was on the pill when i fell pregnant with DS, i expected i would obviously fall pregnant straight away we only used condoms so there were no hormones to get rid of and i'd had my period for a while.

The same for me jenni , DP works i don't so i don't have a reason to do it now i suppose, i feel like i am rushing because i want a small gap and i feel like i am loosing it, he is only 22 months but i start thinking 'if it happens this month he will be this age' and i do it every month.

We have so far gone for just having sex not thinking about anything else, we have sex every night but i keep thinking maybe i need to put in more effort in finding things to help fall pregnant.

I am worried it might start to feel like we are doing it as a chore but so far so good!

lola I'm feeling sorry for myself too. One downside of charting is that I have noticed my period is getting shorter. It was 27 days last cycle, and looking like it will be 26 this month. (I'm spotting today already at cd 25). Google says it is a peri menopausal symptom . I'm not even 40.

Same here lola - don't really understand how I can be jealous of people with babies when I already have one? V greedy I guess. It's like I'm addicted to the buzz of TTC, getting that BFP, telling people and oh my god, then this little person arrives and

I just can't wait to meet the next member of our family I THINK we'll stop at two for practical reasons (career, car unsuitable for 3 carseats and so on), so probablymaybe that'll be our complete family unit?

Is anyone else planning on tandem feeding?