The All New TTC whilst Breastfeeding Support Thread

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Have a breastfed baby or toddler? Why not try for another one?! Who needs sleep anyway?

Come join us whether you are waiting for your first period in months or are are a few months into trying.

Why thank you all! It's the first time I've ever been cheered for my period

My dd is 15mo, my baby friends seem to think I am crazy for even considering trying for another, as one of them said yesterday "they are just such hard work right now, and I really think that they need our whole attention" I keep reminding them 9 months is a long time, and it took me a year to conceive the first time, so I could be looking at a 3 year old by the time the next one pops out so why delay it... it's not going to get easier in the short term, and I'm not prepared to wait! I have a bicornuate uterus (it is shaped like a heart) which makes pregnancy high risk (for the babies), and I've had issues in the past. I'd rather go through that before my dd can talk and ask questions!

Hmmmm having a rant here! Sorry. Needed to vent.

I think I'm out. Looks like AF has arrived, so it turns out I was really wrong about OV this month. I thought I was having another long cycle but it was a perfect 28 days.

We aren't doing so well on this thread, are we? Anecdotally it seems that BF does make it more difficult to get pregnant. Between this and the constantly interrupted sleep I am seriously looking to start dropping feeds soon.

Oh no perpetual we def aren't having much luck! We also seem to be pretty rubbish at predicting ovulation! Still no AF here but don't feel preggers either. Just going to have to sit it out.
How old is little one perpetual? I think I recall he's a little younger than ds. He's just 15 months and has started dropping feeds this last week or two. He really isn't at all interested in the day now and literally feeds last thing and some snacks in the night. Hang on in there, it might happen on its own!

How bizarre perpetual that we have both had a 28 day cycle this month- AF has arrived properly so today is cd1. It's YEARS since I had a 28 day cycle and have been consistently 31/32 days for last few years. If it wasn't for the fact that you are having similarly strange AF to me I'd be worried by now!

Still waiting to poas again jakey? You may yet be our ray of hope on this thread

I'm starting to think about stopping bfing ds3 who is nearly 16 month now but I don't have the energy to go through any trauma with it at the moment, so will probably just keep going

My nips are really sore. What's that all about? It's either AF or I'm the first person to allude the pregnancy test!
Poas on Monday and was bfn so given up. Only have two cheapies and one tesco left so guess I could test tmrw.
If AF is on the way, god knows when I ov'd. Can't of been last week or when I got the opk. This is rubbish. I'm just going to shag loads next cycle and quit trying to pretend I can figure out my fertile signs!

AF and Cd1 for me today. Almost the exact same cycle as last month so at least I have a fair idea what will happen next month.

Now just got to work out with DH what the 'plan' is this month. Last month he had 'run out of steam'' by O day which didn't help our stress levels or the getting pg! So might need to start DTD lots a little later... Not looking forward to the conversation as don't want to stress him out as then we have no chance!

Hello, I am currently breastfeeding my 10 month old twice a day and have just come off the mini-pill. Still haven't had AF but have felt 'periody' the last few days. How long have others taken to get their first AF?

Hi lones80

We are all very different, depends on your body more than your feeding I think. I've had mine since DD was 7 m despite her being a milk monster day and night, others are still waiting at much later.

Good luck!

Hi lones,
This will be my 5th AF since they returned and ds is just 15 months. Hope yours are soon with you!
Still no AF. Poas and bfn. Def not Preg. Can't be. Must have ov'd last week when I had the ewcm.
Looks like we're all here for another month!

Thinkingof4 I had a 27 day cycle this month and I've always been a 30+ day girl pre-DD. By the way, I keep telling myself that summer babies are more likely to struggle at school. I found it a great way to stay positive with the BFN!

Apologies to anyone who already have a summer baby. I think I need some

Oh dear! Ds is end of June!

onelittle I'm in Scotland so summer babies are fine for me. I want to avoid November/ December. I have a January one but we deferred his school place for a year so he was 5.5 when he started (one of the best things about Scottish system is that you can do that for jan/feb babies if you want)
So a bfp this month and edd in July would be great!

lones I think ds was 11 months when I got AF.

jennimoo sorry about AF hope you are feeling ok

jakey I don't really know what to say. I can totally sympathise with your situation though having had a couple of long/ bizarre cycles. It's easy to let yourself dream about that bfp. Very frustrating for your body to be playing tricks

Jakey, my DS is 15 months. We don't normally do daytime feeds any more (unless I need a quick-fix to get him down for a nap), and I really don't mind the bedtime feed, but it's nights that are killing me. He goes down in his own bed for a 5-6 hour stretch then almost always ends up in our bed when he wakes. He then suckles for the rest of the night and wakes up and cries if I try to put him back in his own bed. He used to do better in his own bed, but we messed everything up over the past few months with a lot of travel and moving house. I used to be able to sleep pretty well with him in the bed, but now that he's so big it's difficult as he rolls and thrashes around, sometimes head butts me, etc. We really need to start sleeping better soon.

Sorry you're still stuck in limbo...how frustrating! Hope you do get a BFP or at least AF shows up soon.

Jenimoo, sorry about AF, but at least you know where you stand now. Better luck this month!

Thinkingof4, where did these sudden 28-day cycles come from? Hopefully this bodes well for us both this cycle!

Lones80, my AF came back when DS was 13 months old. I felt like it was coming on and off for about four months before it actually did. Are you looking to TTC soon? If so, good luck!

ToddlingTerror, I'm another with a summer DC. DS was born at the end of June! I would rather have another summer baby than a winter baby TBH.

perpetual travelling does wreak havoc to a toddler's routine. DD has been sleeping through for 3 months or so. But she went back to waking up once a night since our holiday. I stopped the night feeds at 15mo because she has grown too big for it. The same thrashing, head butting you are experiencing now. And sleeping sideways across the bed too. I use Dr Jay Gordon's method and she slept through once I stopped the night feeds and the cosleeping. (Until the holidays obviously).

I hadn't thought about timing to the school year... DD is end of September, so quite good timing I guess. If we're unsuccessful this month ill be going for and August baby next, DH laughed when I suggested skipping a month!

I'm exhausted after a day of parties yesterday, toddlers in the morning, grandparents (3 sets) in the afternoon. The 'highlight' was my mum yet again asking when DC2 is coming, in front of party guests, by grabbing my belly. I'm tempted to say that if I were trying that could be very upsetting, but I think that would just encourage her, as would imply we are TTC.... Ahhhhh!

It would indeed be madness if we stop ttc to avoid a summer baby. That would be 1/4 of the year skipped! I guess it's not so much of a problem if I'm 20. But I'm 38 and I feel every cycle is precious.

Yes and I'm a summer baby and am super intelligent and dh is a winter baby and super dumb

Hello everyone, can i join?

I am still breastfeeding DS (22 m) About 3 times a day if we are at home and throughout the night
If we are out all day he won't feed
He still feeds to sleep

we have been trying since may

i got my periods back when he was 14 months so 8 months ago

i want to stop feeding as much but am a softy

Hi Lola here's hoping you get your bfp soon

I have started night weaning and going well so far- ds woke at 10 and cried a bit for a few minutes but back off to sleep himself, then slept till5.45 when I got up and fed him. That was our 2nd night so I'm really pleased! Might start to sleep properly again for a wee while!

Any news jakey ?

Welcome Lola!
Still no AF! Do you think it's possible my periods have stopped again? Getting a bit worried now!

How terrible to still be in limbo Jakey. How many days has it been? I would make a GP appointment as there are a couple of things they might want to test for, and besides making an appointment is probably the best way to bring AF on

ToddlingTerror, I'll look into Dr Jay Gordon's method, thanks for the tip. Something's got to change soon as this is not sustainable. In fact I've started to really think about weaning.

How annoying Jenimoo! People can be really insensitive sometimes.

Welcome Lola!

Hello hello all! Been off for a while (smashed iPhone) BUT.....bfp last Friday! Happy and terrified, plus not counting chickens as I've had several chem pregs / early mcs before but have fingers crossed tightly! Scan booked for 12th oct (6 wks) if all still well then. Boobmonster 2 this month,feeds sooooo much, day and night, nightwaking galore and he will not cosleep anymore so Lordy knows what we'll do if this is a sticky one?! Boobmonster also waking early - v early...anyone got ideas on how to cope with feeding a toddler in a diff room and a newbie cosleeping? Really shouldn't be thinking this yet I know, but can't help it..

Congrats tizzy! That's fab news! We had to get at least one bfp this month

Not sure what the dr could do perpetual? Can't be sure I've ovulated at all, despite the positive opk's. I have heard of people whose AF came and went again because of bf. I guess it all depends on how much you feed and how long it delays ovulation for?!! What were you thinking they could test for? Its now 41 days, had positive opk on cd17 but then all that weird ewcm and ov pain about cd 27 so that would make it still within the realms of possibility that AF could still come in the next day or two. Thought I had a bit of spotting yesterday but it hasn't amounted to anything. Guess I ought to poas again as haven't for well over a week but sure I'm not pregs. If I am I'm symptomless, unlike last time when I was dying by this stage!
Any ideas ladies?what's your longest cycles been?

Grats tizzy, that's very good news. And we do need it on this thread!

Jakey I looked up on the NHS website, and it seems you should see your doctor if you have missed two to three periods. So it's still early days for you.

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/menstrualcycle/Pages/DoIneedtoseeadoctor.aspx