12 months on and most people on my TTC thread are pregnant so I'm starting a new one! Come and join me if you've been TTC a while or are TTC after pregnancy loss... we've been through it all!

[iloveberries]

iloveberries Age 31, DH 32, DS 2 yrs. Been TTC #2 for a year, 1 m/c, 1 ectopic, 1 tube removed. Will be starting TTC again after my next AF.

Still following the ladies on my original TTC thread but most of them are now pregnant so whilst I'm delighted for them I wanted to start a new place for those who have been TTC for a while and are still awaiting a healthy, sticky bean in the right place.

All welcome..... nothing if off limits, nothing is TMI, no 'babydust' though please

Tas of course you can! Big hugs to you don't rush the work thing but step this way for luck and support! X

thanks hellokitty xx

moo just seen the amazing news! Congratulation!!! Amazing news, am thrilled for you x

Hi all!

looks like ive missed alot while away on hols!! congratulations Moo, such amazing news! and welcome to the newbies!

i thought on the 13th month and being away all chilled out, i'd get a bfp this month however.....AF arrived this morning, 3 days early-almost worse however not as emotional as i was last month which is always a positive!! feel silly too as for some reason ran out of ov sticks on hols so not even sure if i ov this month. hav got my first blood test thurs to determine what is going on, and will be ringing the consultants secretary after the results to try and book in with him directly if my GP wont refer me....and i'm not guna wait for them to pull their finger out......just watching lorraine.....babyboom - biggest in 40 years! wonder what i am doing wrong!!!

its good to be back girls.....any more news?

also, my 2 friends are due the same day, and just found out my cousin and his wife are due the day before them great news but very strange how close they all are!!

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Hi Tas. And everyone else I haven't met yet. Moo hope your teeth are sorted soon sounds nasty. Kitty you are right. Definately the right place for support. I just wished I'd discovered it sooner! CD 29 here. No sign of AF although, dare I say it I think I can handle her more than another bfn! Resisted poas today!

Hi all, i had my scan this morning which showed that im ovulating on the right side which keeps happening and is no good as my right tube is blocked :( im feeling rather low today i dont think it is ever going to happen! everytime i visit the hospial i come away feeling hopeless they just keep talking to me about Ivf which we worked out today will cost me over £5000!, then i had a cup of tea at the cafe and there was pregnant women everywhere im normally not bothered but today i felt like killing them all like they had come in just to annoy me, sorry for moaning i just have no one to talk to at home my dh just keeps saying 'it will happen' and my mom keeps telling me to try and relax and make the most of the child i already have i should be greatful that i have one, and i am very greatfull she means more to me than the world it took me 3 years to get her its just i feel for her now as she wants someone to play with to and all her friends have siblings.
sorry to go on just needed to write how i was feeling down somewhere hope everyone is doing well
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Rachie big hug I feel for you! They need a preg free town in moments like this! And the lottery to fund ivf x x

Hi Rach. I can't begin to imagine how that feels. Not that I know anything about it but is there not anything they can do to that tube? We haven't even got as far as medical intervention yet but even in our research it seems a lot of people push you down the IVF route before they've tried the alternatives. I don't know what the answer is but I know you'll get the support you need here and as far as your feelings go towards the preggy ladies in the cafe? I think that's natural and I'm sure there's a few people here who will admit to having similar feelings at some point. I'm just sorry you didn't have any brighter news today.

hi, they said that they wont do anything with my blocked tube as they dont want to make scar tissue on my left healthy tube plus my dh's sperm isnt great and there's not much they can do for that.
Im just having a bad day today lots of my friends are having there babies this month everyone i talk to has either had one, is due or found out they are pregnant! im dreading september when my daughter starts school 3 of the moms will have new borns by then. Why is it that people always feel the need to ask you when you are going to try for another one! i never know what to say to them now :@/ oh well fingers crossed for the lottery i think lol
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Hi ladies,

Can I join too? I have just had a MC at 7 weeks (first pregnancy). Was a tough few weeks as at first they weren't sure if it was going to miscarry as I had a clot but in the end it did. We are now back to TTC! I'm 31 so not hanging around although I am debating whether it would be good to wait for at least one AF. Any advice?

Bought some OPK's from ebay so that the shagging doesnt become a chore!! Got a diabetic OH so spontanous isnt an option either as he needs to fuel up . At least we can go all guns blazing and the right time!

Really sorry to hear that Rach. I know other people can make you feel worse. Having a lot of experience of that myself at the moment. I think the next step is up to you but try not to think about it just yet. keep playing the lottery just in case. I can't offer you any advice regarding siblings as I have a very different point of view so if it's what you want don't give up! Hi Almond. Sorry about your MC. I don't have any specific advice for you unfortunately but you are in the right place and I've been told I've still got time at 34 so you've got plenty!

Rachie, I am 31 and dd starts school September too! It's very nerve racking time and your babies seem suddenly grown up! My dd is desperate for a brother I keep hearing but I tell her well you should make the most of having mummy to yourself! Although she says I do know how to share lol! Hi everyone hope all is well with you all! Sorry to hear about the miscarriages it's such sad news! Big hugs to you all and start ttc ASAP as I was advised by consultant I was more fertile for 3 months after. I know it was not so for me but seems to have worked for my. Friend and sisters x

Hi hellokittydrivesmenut i cant believe how fast my dd has grown up too she cant wait to start school its me thats sad about it lol. My dd keeps asking me for a sister as she is such a tom boy and plays with thomas the tank engine so she said if she has a brother he would wont them so she wants a little sister i just tell her mommy and daddy are working on it! Its just hard to watch her playing on her own sometimes in the garden i always pictured lots of children running round out there.
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Hi, almond301 so sorry to hear about your mc, i have thankfully never had to experience a mc so i dont know much about them but i know you will get lots of help and advice of the lovely ladies on here :)
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Hi Almond, just a quick one...you don't have to wait for AF if you don't want to. We tried straight away but it didn't work out and in a way I'm glad it didn't. I was still grieving but I was very upset. However i know some cope better than I did. I suppose it really is horses for courses!

One thing i will say is that my first period post mmc was very very heavy (even tho i'm usually a light to medium flow) which I found hard to deal with both practically and emotionally so be warned about that.

In the meantime, I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how you must be feeling. I was v fortunate and got pregnant again on my third ovulation so hopefully it'll happen again for you soon. Fingers crossed xxxx!

Know what you mean rachie I get told to relax and it will happen but my daughter rubs my stomach and talks to a baby like her friends on their mummies tummies it's awful, children make you desperate ttc ASAP . Almond- hope your feeling ok disco is right in what she says so get going , I am not over my mc yet because it's hard to fill the void of what should be and monitor where I would have been constantly hope for you it happens quickly! To all I hope this is our thread and we all get there soon! X

Morning all. My cycle started yesterday. I was so shocked and phoned my gyno because bleeding stopped Sunday after the evacuation on Thursday. Then started bleeding yesterday and phoned the gyno and assistant said it is my next cycle as my time is usually round the 26th. I had nightmares last night, 2 in a row and cried myself awake at 4. Counldn't sleep again. Feel a bit panicky at times. I'm on my way to go and try to talk to someone. Hugs to all

Morning ladies, so sorry for the losses and the hard and stressful time you lovely ladies are having TTC. I know all too well how disappointing it is to either have no clue what is happening from cycle to cycle or seeing that witch with her red cloak of doom swoop in.

Almond welcome and sorry for your loss. As Disco said, start trying as soon as you feel ready.

Tas so sorry that your cycle has started so soon and for the nightmares. Hope you get a better nights sleep tonight. Are you going to start trying again this cycle or wait a month?

Berries have we seen the peak on the monitor yet?

Mezza and Munchin how are we doing?

MooleyWooley, it is something I have to think about still. I want to start straight away again, but some advice I got was to at least wait one cycle just to assure everything goes back to normal size and so on.

Morning All! Great advice for Tas, Rach & Almond. I'm not sure what I'd do but when you're ready Tas seems to make sense to me as long as the doc's ok with that. A friend of mine MC'd 5 times. 3 in a year before she had her son. She had her daughter 2 years later. There is hope. There are plenty of success stories out there! Have no idea what's happening with me. Am officialy 2 days late but without giving TMI it was too late to test this morning as thought AF arrived but she hadn't also DH was dissapointingly uninterested when I told him.

Mrs - tbh I think most men seem to have that same response , my dp seems to get very uninterested when I even mention baby making( we are actively trying) he seems to go off shagging lol! They are a strange bread x x

Thanks Kitty. Makes me feel much better. Yes he is a bit like that. He doesn't think there is a problem & that if we just DTD as much as poss it will happen. This is the 19th month of trying & haven't been on the pill for 7 years! I've not even done my temps or used opk's cos he thinks that's too clinical and putting too much pressure on us. I'm just trying to get to know my cycles better & do it that way but support from him would be nice! Hope it works. We don't live in the uk. Just found out we don't earn enough to pay social security so don't qualify for state health care at all (not that I expected to but worth a try!) anyway it means we'd have to pay for everything privately and they go straight to ivf here which neither of us want. Just get a bit fed up! Think there's a few of us here that could do with a bit of good luck!

I'm all over the place today. Can't think straight! Lost my phone this morning, or I missplaced it somewhere in the house! went to shop quick and when I got back, 5 min after, I looked for my phoned but couldn't find it. Don't know if it fell out when I was running of if someone took it or if i put it down somewhere in the house and can't find it. It is on silent! It still rings so DH doesn't think someone took the phone. with all this my DD(6) lady who gives her a lift home left me a message saying she can't pick her up. She arrives home usually 13:30. just before 3 I phoned the lady and asked her if everything was ok. She then told me but she is home, didn't i get the message. She phoned DD's teacher and phoned me back immediately saying DD was with teacher. So she was waiting for me from 12:30 till 15:00 Went to fetch her and burst out in tears! meanwhile DD is FINE - NO tears from her! Luckily teacher understands and knows what I'm going through. just hope my phone comes out

Hi Tas! I don't really know what to say that isn't going to sound like a cliche but this has only just happened and it will get easier I promise! Try to take it easy and not be so hard on yourself. Your DD is fine and none of what happened today is your fault! Xx

Wow - lots of new people on the thread! Hi everyone!!

So sorry to tasja (are you living in south africa??) and almond for your miscarriages. I won't give you all the cliches as I am sure you've heard them all before but feel free to rant, offload etc on this thread as we've all either been through a loss or had trouble conceiving so we know what you're going through.

This has been a lucky thread too so hoping you'll get your BFP soon.

I have also heard you're more fertile after a MC. After my Ectopic i was told not to try for 3 months to let scar tissue heal. I had loads of EWCM in the couple of months after and really wanted to try but heeded the advice. 2 of the lovely ladies on my EP thread just went for it and got pg straight away so I am kinda annoyed I didn't just crack on. Anyway - I am using pre-seed this month to try and increase the, ahem, moisture in there for DH's swimmers!! I am sooooo wanting an august BFP!

rachie - i feel your frustration that they won't flush your tube - still i guess they know what they're doing. I don't have any ideas which could help you - acupuncture maybe??

hellokitty - oh god that situation must be so hard for you. Will you be at work when DD goes to school? I am the only one of my friends with one child now. Everyone has 2, is pregnant with 2/3 or is pre kids. It is very hard.

mrsnec - 2 days late???? sounds promising to me! Are you going to test tomorrow? Fingers crossed for you

moo how are you doing lovely? Of course you can still post here now you're pg but it's very sweet of you to be considerate of us! You've waited 13 months for this so enjoy it!

disco - not too long till your scan, how are you doing?

count - how far along are you now? My inspiring one tubed wonder!!!!!

Still no peak on my monitor, day 15 today and pre ep i was ovving on day 17 and post ep it was 15 so maybe i am going back to CD 17. Who the fuck knows??!!!!

I JUST WANT A BFP. IN THE RIGHT PLACE. WHICH TURNS INTO A HEALTHY BABY BRO (OR SIS) FOR MY DS.

Please please pretty please!!!!