12 months on and most people on my TTC thread are pregnant so I'm starting a new one! Come and join me if you've been TTC a while or are TTC after pregnancy loss... we've been through it all!

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iloveberries Age 31, DH 32, DS 2 yrs. Been TTC #2 for a year, 1 m/c, 1 ectopic, 1 tube removed. Will be starting TTC again after my next AF.

Still following the ladies on my original TTC thread but most of them are now pregnant so whilst I'm delighted for them I wanted to start a new place for those who have been TTC for a while and are still awaiting a healthy, sticky bean in the right place.

All welcome..... nothing if off limits, nothing is TMI, no 'babydust' though please

eeeeek. Fingers crossed. are you waiting till tues to test or 'doing a moo' and POSs all weekend ;) :0

Depends on what I can get from the village phamacy and how much they cost. It's closed now. Will let you know tomorrow if I'll be 'doing a moo' lol! Hope they have them on the shelf. Not looking forward to having to explain what I'm after & am far too impatient to wait for an amzon delivery! If they have the frer i'll definately do if not I'll (try) to wait!

I think you should def 'do a moo' berries I love it. Although if I had not peed on all those sticks I might have caused unknown damage to Henry (yes we have a name already!!)

Berries I also like your baby sex predictions!! Although the thought of twin boys is nice, it's freaking me out because im not sure we'd cope financially. You HAVE to get a BFP this month!! I think your plan of bonking as much as possible is brilliant! That's what we did!!

I have just had 2 lunches!! Urgh. Feel a bit greedy now!

Ilove - liking your prediction it's funny as I want my ds to be the only boy if that makes sense he is my heartbeat at the moment came just after I lost my mum! But I do love my girls!!!!!! We have had so many boys born in my family since me having mine I think a girl will go down nicely!!!!
I went to gp today and have sickness tablets, got sicknote but I'm upset as it will alert my work place of my current situation and I wanted to keep it to myself as long as possible especially till after I have my scan!!!
Am I being silly I feel like crossing it out!!!!
Mrsnec - as I don't drink alchol I couldn't tell you if it's a sign! I am a believer in not reading into it until its confirmed as ilove said I use to get all the tell tell signs I was and I wasn't! Although this time I just felt different I was so emotional and tearful about the slightest thing!
Anyway what do I know!!!!!
I'm trying not to be too concerned about eating but just need to keep drinking!!!! And also sleeping is hard so hot!!!
What I love is the fact that in months to come we can hopefully all look back and hold fond memories of how this thread got us through a real hard time in our lives! Ilove I totally understand what your saying I would feel the same! Do what you makes you happy! But I have a good feeling about this month!!! July 12 will never be the same!!!

Hi Count. Did your doc put everything in the sicknote? Can you put it down to something else? I'd really hate to have to tell people before I'm good and ready and certainly not before a scan. Thanks for your advice. I agree with both sides at the moment! I do feel like I'm looking for signs all the time. My only comfort is that it's not that long till I'll know either way. I like all the predictions too but I'm not very good at it! Is it true what they say about instinct? Also I think it's fine to name early too. You have to name at some point so why not now? I'm not fussed if it's a blue one or a pink one for us when it happens but think a girl would be easier to name. And I only want 1! I can't do this twice!

Hi all. It's great the positivity and happy feeling a bfp brings here.

Soo glad all your sticks now show a strong bfp Moo. But I understand totally the need to keep poas I'd be the same. Sure I have a poas addiction at mo and Im not pg. I'd pee on either variety. I'm so desperate for even AF to show up!!! I've been on dr google looking up what high Lh means and results not good. It's either sign pcos which I don't think I have or early menopause which is what I'm freaking about. Although I did get a perfectly neg opk yest. So that makes me a little hopeful. Once I head away on hols there will be no poas until I come back. I've decided if no AF shows by sep I might go to gp and see if it is menopause. Sorry moo don't mean to rain on your parade it's just you are opk specialist.

Mrsnec your sudden dislike to drink etc is interesting. Fx for you.

Count and disco sorry ms kicking in but that's a good sign that all is as it should be. It'll be worth it in the end.

Berries you sound like you have a good plan for this month. It will be your turn. As for the Isf glad you have other friends in group that see her for the cow she is. That makes it easier to bear.

Mezza how are you? Are you poas soon?

Sorry all I'm on my phone and it's hard to read back all. But everytime I don't get to check the thread there has been bfps.

Mrsnec - yeh it's there in black and white and it's just not how I wanted them to know so soon! Maybe I will call them and asked if they can leave it off! It will go through too many eyes and I don't want them up in my business and all the quizzing! Speculations and shocks!!!
As they know I had an ectopic!
Glad you don't have long to wait to find out I tested
3 days beforehand and had a faint line in which I thought it was a evap so ignored! It's only the morning after I was due I felt I should test used cheapy 1st saw faint line and then went for my fav CBD I like the words pregnant! Just wasn't expecting the 2/3 part!!!
MooWoo - I have a proud collection of cheapy sticks timed and dated! It's only after I got the all ectopic clear I stopped!
Ilove - I agree and you have your other friends to back you so it's not like it's just you she's a prized grade 1 MooMoo( cow)!
Liking the idea of keeping a snack close by! I already have the crackers! And ginger beer! ( nice)
Also gone off choc!!!!!!!!! What's that all about!

well it can't always be good news Munch we just like news in general and at least you have a plan of action! Yes count get back on to the docs and see if they can change. The last thing you need is colleagues asking questions. And I can deal with booze aversion but wont be happy if I get it to choc as well! Can confirm that's not happened yet as DH just fed me after dinner Magnums yum!

Berries that sounds like a lovely way to spend the day! I know children can be hard work but I'm looking forward to seeing the world through the eyes of someone who has never seen it yet.

Fingers crossed for you Mrsnec!

Hmm, Count I'd definitely ask if the doctors can change it. I know they can as they offered to leave off 'miscarriage' on my sicknote as some people don't want work to know. I know that some people just can't be professional and keep their mouths shut!

Muchin I do hope AF shows up soon for you, it must be so so hard to be stuck in limbo land.

Two lunches Moo?! I try to split my meals up to cope with the hunger pangs but it backfired when DP made me the second part of my breakfast but made me double the amount I expected! I ate it anyway, strawberry jam sandwich, yum! A bit of a change from branflakes which is what I normally have!

The midwife appointment went well, she was a stand in for the one I had before (who is coming back, yay) but she was really nice and wished me good luck very sincerely at the end. She also gave me carte blanche to not eat healthy food if I don't feel like it and also to rest as much as possible! Yesssss. I know I can't do that too much or I'll end up an unhappy overweight whale but a result all the same. I can expect my first scan the last week of August or the first two weeks of September. I asked her about the cramps and she said that blood supply to the uterus was increased dramatically and that sort of thing and that mild cramps were normal. So here's hoping I get through the next four and a bit weeks without incident until the scan.

I also spent the day eating italian ice cream sunning myself on the beach so it turned out well! I am definitely appreciating my mum being around, her mum died when she was a teenager and so when she was pregnant she had no-one to talk to about babies etc, so it's a pretty special time for both of us.

Hey, im still here i just cant get on the computer as much as i would love too!,
Well i really dont no what the clinic are doing with me lol, My last appointment they signed me off saying there was nothing more they could do then i have recieved another appointment out of the blue i went to it yesterday and she gave me more clomid and wants to scan me next week! i think that they have forgotten what they told me last time :@/. On the plus side my husbands sample was a little better than his last one but still not brill its gone from 0% movement to 21% so maybe there is hope as long as we bonk all the time and maybe upside down to help them along the way lol.
I hope everyone is ok and are enjoying the sunshine.

moo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Aaaaaaaaaaarrrrrggghhhh! You're PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!! That's BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Morning everyone just checking in. Disco & Moo enjoy eating what you want when you want! Worry about it later! Rach, that is very encouraging and positive news but does sound like that clinic has given you the run around a bit. Maybe you'll have better luck this time.

Festie cheers my love!! Still can't quite believe its real and just taking each day as it comes!! Hope you're doing ok. I'll pop over to see you guys soon!!

Rachie good news on the extra Clomid and spermie movement!! Doggy style and missionary are apparently best positions for get the, ahem, deposit as close to the cervix as possible

Has SiL over for dinner last night, told her the news and she is over the moon. First time she'll be an aunty!

Bloody tooth is driving me to distraction though and I'm worried it's going to have negative affects below!!!

Right off to prepare for my meeting. Catch up later

Rachie - an increase of 21% is quite something, especially from a base of zero. I would feel pretty encouraged about that. Just shows docs don't know everything do they!

Had a couple of drinks last night as was mums bday.... Feeling a bit guilty about it now as should really be abstaining as we're ttc but I just can't abstain ALL the time! Came home and dtd anyway even though only cd9.

Disco - your day wih your mum sounds fab! Which coast were you on?

For the ladies who are pg....hope I'm not speaking out of turn but there is a boat load of research linking mums diet in pregnancy (ESP early days) to future health and intelligence of baby. I know it's hard when u feel rubbish but if you can manage it try to get lots of fruit And veg and snack on stuff like crackers and cheese, hard boiled eggs etc. I'm obviously not a dietician but even if you can't then maybe a smoothie and multivitamin for pregnancy would be good. This is when baby's body is being built! Aaah - so exciting! I Am longing to grow my second baby more than I c

More than I could ever explain!

Anyway, hope you all don't mind me saying that!

Have a great weekend. What are your plans everyone?

berries that is so kind of you!! all of those foods I can stomach too!! I love cheese

Made appointment for midwife eeeeek 3rd September!!! Seems so far away!!!

Hi all, just been to pharmacy and got me a test called a super 7. They only had 2 kinds and neither were brands I've heard of. I got that one cos it had the best english instructions. It was 18? for 2 bit pricey? Anyway, couldn't resist poas when I got home and it was bfn. Now I feel really miserable. Knew I should have waited till the morning. I'm wondering if my symptoms are stress related. We planned to sell our house before we moved. It was on the market for 3 years and we lived apart during this time and it was our first 3 years of marriage. Sale fell through 4 times so we rented. Tenants just given their notice. So I came here anyway but haven't found a job and just got another rejection for a job I really wanted. Our business supports us just but isn't enough work for both of us and I don't enjoy it. DH moans at me at work and yesterday he accused me of doing nothing all day. I tried to start a business with a friend but it failed and now she's moving back to uk. Sorry about all this folks just feeling a bit hopeless today. Am sure I'll snap out of it!

sorry about your bfn mrsnec. Maybe it's worth trying again in a few days with FMU?
I've had a very stressful day. Woke this morning and didn't feel as sick as usual and convinced myself pregnancy symptoms had disappeared,was also worried because I've had some cramping and don't think I look as fat as yesterday. We're due to travel to Ireland tomorrow for a week and I had visions of starting to miscarry while we're away. I phoned the EPAU who were quite dismissive and said that as I wasn't bleeding it wasn't actually an emergency. I then googled for private scans and found somewhere about an hours drive away. DH had left at 6am to go to a job interview the other end of the country so I convinced the younger kids they wanted to play at Grandma's today and headed off.
I had a transabdominal scan and there was a baby,with a heartbeat on the scan,gestational sac measuring 6w6d in the uterus, so that was obviously a huge relief though the sonographer couldn't measure the heart rate. She then said it looked like a possible gestational sac near my ovary aswell, but as it wasn't a diagnostic scan she said she couldn't tell me more and I should contact a hospital asap in case it was an ectopic. I then headed off to the hospital with a referral letter and printout of my ovary scan,to find the EPAU was closed and all the staff in a meeting. I was directed to the gynae ward where a doctor looked at the printout and decided it was just the Corpus Luteum and no ectopic though they didn't confirm with a transvaginal scan which the sonographer had suggested they might.
I know statistics for miscarriage decrease after a heart beat is seen but then I see all the stastics for increased risk for over 40s.
I think i need to stop googling!

Rachie I think an improvement in movement from 0 to 21% is a pretty positive outcome! It definitely gives you more of a chance than before anyway. The clomid is definitely good news as well. Fingers crossed for you!

Moo I'm glad your SiL is happy, it's nice to give people good news! And woo hoo about the midwife appointment! Will you be around 8 weeks by then?

Berries I am trying to eat healthily, hard boiled eggs, cheese, tomatoes, peas, wholemeal bread and other salad vegetables are going down well at the moment. I really don't feel like eating fruit though, which is odd as I normally have an apple, a banana, a plum or nectarine and some grapes in my lunchbox. Still, I am also taking my trusty cheap Morrison's pregnancy vitamins (I've actually been taking them since January, I don't normally do multivitamins as I reckon I have a healthy diet but I figured I could use the extra help whilst TTC).

As for the drinks at your mums - I spent CD1-4 of my last cycle getting hammered on cocktails and bourbon in NYC so I wouldn't worry about a few drinks. I understand about the guilt though. I am looking forward to not being pregnant (in March natch) just so I can enjoy a drink without the guilt. I'll probably guilt trip myself for being a bad drunken mother though then...In answer to your question I am on the South-East coast. I moved here two years ago now but my family are in Wales and the Midlands. I miss them but I love living by the sea!

Mrsnec you really sound like you've been having a tough time, poor thing. Living apart for all that time must've been horrible, and feeling underemployed is something I would hate. You need to keep applying for jobs (even when you feel hopeless) as I think that work is so important when it comes to self-worth and esteem (if it's the right job of course). As for the BFN, didn't you say you were going to test on Tuesday? And you actually tested four days early and it wasn't FMU? I would say that you've POAS far too early you daftie! Try again on Tuesday. Whatever the result we'll be here to support you.

Crikey Irish you've had a busy day! Congratulations though first of all, seeing a heartbeat is brilliant and your risk of m/c drops even if you are over 40. I think you need to step away from google and the internet and concentrate on just living and enjoying your trip. It really is a case of que sera sera, there is very little you can do either way. Just repeat the mantra 'today I am pregnant' and worry about tomorrow when it comes. Easier said than done I know but I don't think the stressing out is good for you. I think that if the doctor had thought for a second there was a risk of ectopic they'd have scanned you themselves, so really try not to worry.

Today has been a bit of a nothing day for me. Mum went home and DP has gone to London (more fool him!) so it's just me, the dog and the cat. I have watched lots of crap tv, walked the dog and erm, that's about it. I have however started to wear a sports bra to bed as my boobs kill every time I roll over. Ouch!

This is just a flying post as I have all the packing to do..

Glad disco moo and count all is going well and yous have your first appoints to look forward to.

Irish that sounded like a nightmare day but glad all is well. As disco said step away from dr google. Enjoy your hols. Hope your dh interview went well.

Rachie news is heaps more encouraging. Whatever your dh is taking or doing to improve the spermies keep it up. Look what clomid did for moo.

Moo hope the toothache pain has eased and nice to share your news with someone in rl.

Mrsnec sorry about the bfn but it may well be too early. If its still a bfn don't worry you have a plan of things to do for next cycle. Don't worry about not doing anything today in work you just were not in the mood. Hopefully a job will turn up for you soon.

Disco sounds like you had q time with your mum. Nice to be able to share.

Berries don't feel guilty about the alcohol. Life is for living and once you stop at 6 weeks I think there is no harm to beanie and sure the way we all poas early around here you will know about your bfp prob at 4 weeks!!!!

Count how Is the ms?

Ds has come down with an awful chesty cough and dirty nose in last two days, just typical as we are going. Hopefully he can shake it off.

I don't know how often I will be able to check in over next ten days but see you all when I get back.

Thanks everyone! Irish and Munch, have a lovely time and do try and relax. Irish, it's easier said than done to stay away from Dr google at times but you did the right thing even if just to put your mind at ease. Moo glad you got your apt and that you could share the news . I think it will be here before you know it. I know I was silly taking the test yesterday but it actualy says on the box an accurate result 10 days before AF is due! (well it would wouln't it and I think that's a marketing ploy and can't believe I fell for it!) No I wont be using the other one just yet! I'm not giving up on the job hunt I feel a bit more positive today. It can be disheartening when you can't even get a job in Starbucks! & that job I really wanted was venue coordinating for a wedding planning company & they rejected me before they'd even seen my CV! My DH won't agree on any of my business descisions if we work together. Just likes my company. He'd be better off with a labradour! My friend is local and also out of work. We live in a rural area but it's closest to the seasonal resorts I'm going to suggest we car share and look at jobs in the city to broaden our horizons a bit. Hope everyone has a lovely weekend! Did you enjoy opening ceremony? Struggled to stay awake here as we're 2 hours ahead.

Hi all.

Lying here feeling sick and bored out of my brain! All the things I'd planned to do this holiday have gone on hold...but obvs i wouldn't have it any other way. I'm even getting back pain from all the lying down, i can't win! Thank goodness for the Olympics. Not a sport fan but I like the choice and to see the sports that don't get televised much. Currently on synchronised diving.

Mrsnec, it says ten days early on the box? That's disgraceful. I don't think any test, blood or urine, could possibly be positive 4 days after ovulation!

Muchin I hope your DS gets better soon! Have a nice holiday!

How are you Berries? Any sign of ovulation?

How has your weekend away gone Moo?

How are you feeling Count?

Hi All! Disco can't believe you're bored! Hope you are having a nice time though and the back ache goes. I too am enjoying the olympics and have developed a bit of a crush on that american swimmer with the silly shoes and spangly teeth. Cheered me up no end. anyway, agree re that test, if I was more confident in the language here I'd say something to the pharmacist. Bit dodgy I can't find any info on the manufacurer either. Oh well, I haven't got long to wait as it's CD27 today!

Evening ladies, sorry to crash the thread but some of you may remember me from a few months back, I still check in every once in a while to see how everyone's doing and just had to post to congratulate moo!!! That is fabulous news!! I joined the thread back when you were GTR' and I appreciated all the good advice you had about cp, cm etc. It's obviously all paid off now!! I got my bfp in Feb but then stepped back from mn as was really anxious about something going wrong, I'm pleased to say I'm now 29 weeks and all seems to be going according to plan although they do think it might be a bigun!!

Anyway, so happy for you moo, you really deserved a break, congrats to the other recent bfps as well and good luck to everyone else Xx

Maisie huge congrats to you. Excellent news. And thanks - its been a struggle but we have made it eventually!!

Just quickly checking in. Not much to report. Just taking each day as it comes!!