June BFP thread! come join us!

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Thought I would take the plunge and start the June thread! I won't be getting my May BFP as my cycles are sooooooo long. Who's. With me?

winkle you should still have some swimmers hanging about from dtd on cd18 so try not to worry too much and just carry on with dtd from tomorrow

Agree with queen will be some swimmers lurking from dtd on cd 18.

My dd was conceived with sperm that must have been about 5 days old. We had been trying like crazy and the month we decided we needed a break was the one where we got a BFP. It still baffles me to this day.

Thanks girls. It's just I hear it's best to dtd every 2-3 days and this will be 4 days :(

So much 4 eod. We've had a child free sat nite n Sunday morn so at it twice a day. G keep thinking this is no good 4 his swimmers but if u can't have a bit of nookie when u want it'll take all the fun out of it.
I am hoping that's it 4 2nite n I can sit and have my wine n chocolate in peace

I love the summer!

Go ribs! No one ever NOT got pregnant from having sex!

Wow ribs and winkle you are putting my attempts in the shade. We
have been dtd more like every three days, pretty poor effort i know but we (dh) got throughly pissed off with the enforced shagging when we were ttc our dd.

Trying to be more relaxed re dtd this time round, although Friday was anything but relaxed.

My hubs confessed to me he's feeling the pressure. Typical considering I've been more relaxed this month! Argh!

Aww winkle don't worry too much about dtd fails. A couple of days off is no big deal. Plus he will probably be.more than ready to dtd tonight with all those extra swimmers stored up

We had a day off dtd yesterday. Have been doing everyday this week..... I instigated the day off and used my back as an excuse. My back is much better but I just wanted a rest tbh and it had been sooooooo hot yesterday! still having lots of ewcm today. Will dtd tonight and then off on hols tomorrow! Can't wait. Started packing. The first thing I packed was pregnancy tests followed by a box of tampax incase its bfn. Oh the joys of ttc!

I turned down dtd last night on account of it bein late, i was tired and we dtd in the afternoon. DH said he wanted to make sure we were dtd more because we wanted to. Doing it eod when we didn't want to would be for a baby but when we fancied it twice a day then we shouldn't not dtd.

I am worried we tired out or waste his swimmers

Have a fab hols morecoffee!! Hope you get your BFP whilst out there. Where are you off to?

Kicking up - In my opinion you can't have too much sex when TTC!

I agree with having sex for fun rather than TTC but we tried that last year and the bottom line is we weren't doing it enough! Having some sort of plan is good for us - at least I thought it was!

Winkle - we were doing the same but we would concentrate all the DTD into a week or ten days. So now, we're doing it for fun but we are going to concentrate on making sure that the ?TTC? bit of it means that if we don?t feel like it for a couple of days, then we will do it EOD. So can serve both sides of it.

I am sure we will all be ok though. I think it?s more important to DTD lots than only trying to catch OV for a week :)

Totally agree kicking. Gonna give his DPs swimmers a day to recover today, think I spotted a tiny bit of ewcm this morn, not sure if its just left over jizz tho - sorry tmi.

morecoffee - take out the hpt and add more tampax!! Thats when you'll get your bfp!! Its sods law!!

No noticeable EWCM for me. Is it supposed to be just like...wondering outside or does one need to go a-hunting to find EWCM?

I'm on CD13 now.

I'd like to know the answer to that too Kicking! I don't get much stuff in my knickers at any time of the month...

I do get occasional ahem...on my knickers but like...same as you now on CD13 and wondering if one needs a net and some clamps to check?

How long are you cycles?

I should OV from the 1 June - 6 June (according to the magical calculators) so I have lengthened it from today until the 12th June. Then AF should arrive on the 14th June

@winkle .. I think a bit of sperm comes out even before you finish so all is not lost on the DTD sessions. the withdrawal method is the worst for family planning for that very reason!

@ribs .. Jizz is one of my fave words. thank you for using it today! I blame overly strict parents who would not even let me say belly or fart. We like bum as well in this house!! no one says bottom.

@morecoffee .. Your packing is like mine, but as now plan to test before leaving on Saturday I hope I can use the tampax and co codamol space for pregnancy magazines. FX FX FX

@kicking up .. It is there on the loo roll when I wipe after I pee. If in doubt, you have to get some on your finger and thumb and see how it behaves. Ie stretchy or not! I don't get copious amounts but never have problems with dryness when DTD so apparently that means you have enough for TTc. Bodies are clever things.

ladies, I read a few research papers last night about conception and days of intercourse and the few days before are as good if not better than OV day. One paper found that not a single pregnancy happened from sex after ovulation.

the key seems to be that the sprem is in the Fallopian tube ready to meet the egg. So anything up to 5 days before OV means there are spermies there ready to get busy.

I would say that any bfns we get this month are not for the want of trying and it will just be because something was not right and it wasn't meant to be this month. I think we are all doing the basics perfectly!

Hello!

we are getting closer and closer to June (squeeeek)
I'm on CD23, lots of DTD this month. I think I ovulated on CD16 (according to my own calculations and ewcm, since the sticks failed me again) so 7 days till testing. Although I very much doubt I could last that long and will probably cave in on friday or saturday.

ted

I think the reason for that is that we never ACTUALLY know when we OV. Last month, I had the EWCM (I think), I had spotting, had the cramps and everything. If I take from the day I think I OVed to the date I should have had AF - that was 100% correct.

Except I was 4 days late for AF. So I must have OVed later than I thought. Which is the actual dropping of the egg that must have happened 4 days AFTER I thought it did.

So natural we tapered off a bit but still had tons of swimmers going but just had only DTD twice in the week I OVed.

No chance this time. I don't care if I choke on the swimmers (on their way UP) - hehehe. I want to be full to the brim. Just do long as it doesn't tire him out.

To be fair though, I think we tend to DTD too early to really catch the egg. Then, when I do OV, I think we're pretty tired of by then. If you look at last month, we DTD frantically for 9 days before I OVed (based on when I thought I OVed) and then tapered for the last 4 days before the egg dropped.

This time, the buggers are going to be there at the very least EOD until AF is due.

Has anyone done this perfectly all month?

@kicking .. Ah yes, if you don't know when you are OVing then yip, EOD must be the only way.

I also think we burn out too early. No, not managed to do EOD as planned to. just too exhausting!

I am doing surveys. I want to find out if EOD actually works!

OR if being anal about the temps and the tests and stuff works...

Hi kicking give the survey a try but I predict both methods actually work (and don't work) in equal measure.

Also need to point out that anal defiantly won't get you pregnant

Oops meant to say definately

Ew ew ew!! Nothing goes near my bottom!

I know that everything will work. It's a complete self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm just interested. I like to hear peoples stories :)

Hi all. Have dropped off thread in last week or so. FX for everyone as June approaches...Happy hols to those going away.

kicking, on your question, we were never strict about eod or whatever. Dr here says every day best in the 5 days leading up to ov, and a quick bit of internet research seems broadly to agree (ie if swimmers healthy, the reduction in quality is more than made up for by quantity). What worked for us was doing the winkle! After many months of trying, the month I did that for the first time was the month we succeeded. Keep reminding myself of that every time I feel fed up of lying with legs against wall!

Amazon Package arrived for dh on Sat. Turns out he'd ordered a microscope to look at his swimmers!! Anyone else have a sciency partner?