Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

[WhyAlwaysBoris]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Big hugs for mumtum x

Mumtum I am so sorry
Tiago hope it went ok at the hospital

So sorry Mumtum.

Hospital checked heartbeat and said that there is no sign of any problem with the baby, so all is well here (now my own heartrate has gone down). 24 more weeks of madness to go

So sorry mumtum lots of hug and strength being sent your way x x x

Congrats boris and glad to hear things are ok tiago

Thanks so much all of you when no one in rl knows its so nice to know I have all of your support . Hospital phoned back but earliest they can see me for erpc is Wednesday morning so 5 more days waiting and hoping I don't start to mc naturally . Who was that said having the date helped though it meant an end ? I do feel the same xxx

oh mumtum so sorry hope the ERPC goes well and you recover quickly. There's not much anyone can say right now, but I'm thinking of you. I had a very stiff G&T when I got my bad scans, followed by blue cheese, dying hair, large amounts of caffeine etc. Take care of yourself and take lots of time off work if that's right for you. Glad your boss is so good, he sounds great.

manda hope radio silence means it's all under way

boris congrats on your BFP, a line is a line! Mine was a BFN and I'm sure AF is around the corner.

I might take a break from TTC for a month or two. This cycle has been so stressful, constantly convinced it's another ectopic, every twinge is terrifying. Then if it was in the right place I've got to worry about another MMC. What manda said about being pg again not being the sudden cure all made me think 'wtf am I doing?'. I just want to enjoy my life and my lovely DD. I'll be lurking and I'll be back in a month or two. If I do ever get another BFP, I'll need a lot of hand holding and soothing of fevered brow.

just ran on to the computer for the first time today and my heart sank when i saw mumtums message i am so very very sorry

another one hoping the radio silence from manda means she has a LO in her arms

boris the CB digi is definitive - you are pregnant so get onto your consultant/epu/gp or whatever but get onto someone because you are pregnant today

off for a bath and a Ginless tonic had the ILs over today so i am a tad frazzled

Greurgh, just had a surprise resurgence of nausea. Funtimes.

Also if things look good at the NT scan, I am BREAKING OUT THE MATERNITY TROUSERS. Sick of having one pair of too-big jeans, but can't bring myself to do the maternotogs until I get past the point when I miscarried last time.

And yes, boris it totally sounds like you are totally up the duff. Totally.

Agree with everyone, you're pregnant boris

Phew taigo - glad all is well.

Hi mumtum im so sorry for your sad news and I was so hoping your news was going to be better than mine x

So 5 days after hearing my news I'm starting to come out the other side.

As background through the beginning of April I started to get period like pains with no period - at nearly 42 and not trying to not get pg for the last 3 years thought I was going through the 'change' early :) my partner talked me into getting a pg test and we couldnt believe it was positive so we went out and got another!! - I have a 9 yr old daughter from a previous relationship though it took years of trying to have her! To say we was scared was a understatement but was also delighted. Started bleeding at 6+5 weeks and had a scan on 6+6 which was inconclusive . Was told to return in 2 weeks which was Monday - I had lost all :(.

I have started to turn the corner due to a great partner and believe it or not my manager at work - she was the only person that knew!

So the positive out of all this ......... I know I can at least still get pg and OH is up for trying again (lots ~ ).

Life can be so cruel and though I have not participated on this page as yet - reading your comments good and bad have helped me through the dark days I have though I am sure there will be more to come!

Thanks to you all xx

Can someone please buy señora manda a smart phone? Just popping in from Spanish Spain for news.

mumtum so sorry. Here's fast forwarding to wednesday so you can begin the process of moving on. I am all for TTC ad soon as you feel able. That is different for us all.

Best go data roaming will be the death of me. Spanish Spain has been good for me. My spotting has stopped and I am relaxing a bit. Praise be for the Doppler, I may be metalling without it. 17 weeks today but counting down the days till this bean is a viable baby.

laying out some fresh juice, gorgeous strawberries and a big chunk of water melon. Please come join me on my terrace, it's a glorious and sunny morning in Spanish Spain. The sun is good at Distracting from metalling.

Thanks to all of you for your lovely messages yesterday I apologise for my short and abrupt ones . I can only say as much as I thought I had prepared myself to hear it was a mmc I didn't realise how big that little but of hope was I still had .

I agree with so many of you I had several large glasses of wine last night and had a small Chinese take away with my favourite prawn dish though it made me feel like a naughty girl rebelling

Still feel devastated and so and that in their words as its only my second proper mc ( they don't count the two cps) there won't be any extra tests done. This seems insane to me as both my 'proper' mc have been identical. Mmc at 9 weeks with foetus stopped developing between 5-6 weeks. And I suppose the two cp have been foetus stopped at 5 weeks too so surely an issue ??? It's making me very cross...

That said dh was an absolute rock yesterday and I will be eternally grateful he insisted on coming as I don't know how I would have coped without him.

Odd conversations we had through the afternoon though but some were so reassuring. He too wants to start ttc ASAP so we are both entirely happy with the decision to go erpc and not wait for natural mc. Waiting till wednesday however is more than difficult as i feel ive now been just waiting for 3 weeks already and patience us sadly not one of my virtues
But the hosp did advise if they put me as an emergency this could false hope as I'd be on the end of a list and if things overran I'd get sent home so actually being booked as a bonafide patient on a list is a better way really. Can't say I'm looking forward to it but can say I now can't wait for the closure and new start it will bring

do however if i may want to pick your knowledge regarding all the help we can get with conception vitamins manda when u have a min any guidance here would be great hope it's all gone well ........

And anyone got any advice on baby aspirin ? When do I start taking it how long for and where do I get it from ???

Sorry yet again for another meme

Tas maybe a month or two rest from ttc wil be good for you physically and mentally but do lurk Hun we will miss u x

Tiago glad your gush was no cause for concern

Marf how are u hun?

Bonzo congrats defo preggo

Midget thank you for your kind words x

And thank for your support anyone I have not properly name checked it really is a massive comfort

Hi mumtum. I know exactly how you feel as I went through the same as you a couple of months ago. It's awful to wait for the scan as you do have a little but of hope that you will be one of the lucky ones.

I wish I would have said earlier but I don't like to be doom and gloom when there could be a chance but when I was waiting for my confirmation scan I asked to be booked in for erpc the day after scan. My op was already booked in for me so I didn't have to wait like you are doing. Maybe this can help someone else next time.

Re tests: I have had three mcs but had loads of the tests after second mc because it was a late one. I am now waiting for my referral to a rmc so that I can have more tests but all I want to do is try again. I have to wait and I bet the tests come back clear. I am surprised that the two cps don't count towards you being tested can you try asking your gp for a refferal or tests?

Try to look after yourself and take things easy.

Just a quickie...

mumtum baby aspirin is prescribed if there is a clotting issue. St Mary's prescribe 150mg per day from a BFP (don't take it before and always with food). Probably doesn't do any harm to self medicate but I would check with EPU on a BFP. I self medicated with 75mg with DD1 before my referral to st Mary's. For me it is a wonder drug (already had 3 or 4 losses before her) but I over clot. My only successful pregnancies have been down to simple baby aspirin. You buy it at the chemist 75mg. X

bonzo have you tested again this morning?

martha how are you doing?

mumtum so glad your DH was there to support you. Make sure you get some time booked off work after the op.

pixie sorry to read your news but welcome to the thread - these ladies are really fab for advice and hand holding and (sadly) we all have experience of a part of life we wish we could've avoided! But, there are also some great stories where things are now working out!

I have had a ridiculous lie in this morning so only just had my cereal...still hungry though so think I may have to go and dig crumpets out to toast as well...

Sorry to keep you all on tenterhooks - I got home yesterday afternoon but haven't been able to get it together enough to update until now.

So, Baby arrived at 1.45am yesterday, only 9lb 1oz. He's very sleepy and congested thanks to a rapid labour again (once it finally started - I had indeed SROM'd on the morning of the 17th (yes, his due date blue! )). Waters going but no contractions was a blessing, it meant I got two lots of antibiotics onboard (i'm gbs+) although after six hours and a sweep of nothing doing they started talking about synto drip which I said I was very keen to avoid (worried about hyperstimulation given once I start its usually quick). It wasn't until after two vigorous (read: ouch) sweeps further and around half an hour before they were gonna call time on waiting that my body finally agreed to play ball...

That was at 11.30pm when I was a 'firm, 4cm. Not a good labouring 4cms'. DF had to leave at 11.15 as we were out of childcare/time for DS2 - he's never spent a night away from both of us and as much as DF wanted to be with me I was worried about DS2 and in my mind his needs were more pressing than mine. Pain came on hard and fast and midwife offered me pethidine. I've had two good experiences with it but thought there might not be enough time between getting it and baby arriving for it to clear his system so asked for a half dose. Midwife sais 'based on what i've just seen from your last exam (at 11) I'd be happy for you to have a full one'. I went with my gut and the lower dose. And, sure enough, he arrived an hour and 45mins later.

I don't recognise him! I think, I was really expecting him to look like DS2 (even though I hadn't given it much conscious thought) and he really doesn't! He's very dark/red skinned, lots of black hair. And sleepy. Because obviously the pethidine is in his system. You'd think I'd take the opportunity to rest/sleep but I'm fretting he's sleeping too much, not eating enough (he keeps throwing up as full of mucous from the quick birth)... and I can't switch off until I literally pass out. So I'm running on 6 hours sleep in the last 58 hours give or take. Actually don't feel too bad (post delivery rush of hormones and andrenaline, I thank you!) but know the crash will come (fully expect to be weepy tomorrow).

And I may not recognise him, but I do adore him...

Forgive me if I don't post as regularly as usual for a little while, won't you?

Love to all! xxx

oh manda congratulations and well done!!!!! sooooo happy for you, and glad it was relatively stress free for you i will miss you over the next few days/weeks but will let you off this time

looking forward to pics of the gorgeous boy - and well done again

ok so i am on full metal throttle, went to the loo this morn and i wiped a bit of brown on the tissue. so i went again about 10 mins later as i had felt a gush and there was, what i can describe as, brown mucus, went again about 2-3 times since and the brown mucus is all but gone now.

someone please tell me this is either old blood or implantation. i am 4+5 today

Congratulations manda - fabulous news
Glad to hear you are both doing well, take care xxx

Hi Martha. I had that with the pg for my DD and my mc. I never checked it out, but put it down to the plug forming. I'm sure everything will be ok.

Oh, and congratulations manda.

Martha I don't expect this to calm you down as I expect you are in full metalling mode, but if it's brown it's old - I had it a couple of times with DD and all was well didn't stop me having a melt down though
Phone the hospital for advice if you need to and maybe try and take it easy for a while.

Manda many, many congratulations!!

Baby 'only 9lb 1oz'

mumtum i hope you are managing to distract yourself somehow this weekend.

I bought some of the 75mg aspirin today that Midget mentioned for you and had trouble finding it at first as in Sainsburys the 75mg is behind the pharmacy counter and you have to ask them for it even though the much stronger 300mg is on the normal shelf . So you might have to ask the pharmacist for it. It is very cheap- was about £1.50 for 100 tablets.

The ones i bought dissolve in water (GP said to use this type) but seem to have lots of bits that stick to the empty glass once you've drunk it- which makes me worry i'm not getting the benefit. Am i doing it wrong?

I still don't believe i am pregnant- whether this is intuition about things or just fear I don't know. I just know I have a really bad feeling about it all.

I tested again this morning in the hope that the tests that were fainter yestereday than the day before would have rallied and got stronger again. I got three negatives.

Have agreed with my DH I won't test again for a few days and if I haven't bled until tuesday will test again with another CB digital.