Hop aboard the Santa sleigh for a festive baby (late Dec /early Jan)

[Crazytictac]

Jingle jingle....anybody joining me? I figure this HAS to be my month if I'm starting the thread :o

....more chances.

(Don't know why my message posted before I was ready......)

Good luck with the charting Wiggly - I find it quite reassuring to know what's going on and you can be quicker to pinpoint what's going wrong if it's taking a while to conceive if you know what's going on with your cycle.

Ohhh,it's exciting to thing about!I seem to go from very exited to really quite stressed at the idea of it all.I'm a bit of a control freak in some areas so hate not knowing if/when it will happen.I'm sure I'd be much calmer if I hadn't had all the health issues linked to this.we'll see how it goes.my sis in law when to doctors today& they refused to do test as she's only 1 day over (though she's done 3 of her own-all positive).

Argh!I mean 'think' not 'thing' about- this is what I get for posting on my mobile.

Love the idea of being able to share thoughts/feelings with others at a similar stage. Hard to know what it feels like unless you're going through it.dh is mega chilled and just assumes it will happen within a couple of months which is great as it nellies ne but also frustrating as he doesn't tolerate any of my 'what if it doesn't conversations.

Nellies me= mellows me.I henceforth promise that I will proof read all posts done from my mobile before pressing 'post message'.

limeleaf and treats I've had similar experiences about a week after when I think I've ovd I've had a sort of nighling/scratching more or less in the middle of my bikini line not cramp like af type, then it disappears and af arrives, I'm 30 on Friday but guess we all get less fertile with age typical that I've spent the last 14yrs doing everything I can not to get preg and now it's harder than I thought! x

I sometimes wonder what the hell I thought I was DOING in my twenties when I could have been having babies. I've got no excuses - I met DH when I was 21 and we got married when I was 25. We still waited until I was 32 before we had DD. Obviously, I know that's hindsight talking and I had excellent reasons at the time for not wanting babies (and, actually, I think DD came along at just the right time for us), but if we aren't blessed with another baby, I'll always kick myself for not getting things started a bit earlier.......

Don't Treats you and me are in almost the same place.

I've been married for 10 years and I've spent all that time trying to persuade DH to start trying. It's been 10 cycles now and I'm going to be 37 in a week.
Massively depressed.

I turned 30 a couple of weeks ago.just have to reassure myself that the majority of us will be pregnant within the first year&the vast majority of us by the second year.that said, I'm only on c1 so it's probably a lot easier said then done.

Updated stats

Seat reserved but not yet boarded:
sticklebricksuk

Flying high:
Roxy31 TTC #1, cycle 9, AF due 6 April
QTPie (38) TTC #2, cycle 2, AF due around 6th April
YaYa OC TTC #1, cycle 2 AF due around 7th of April
Wiggy29 (30) TTC #2, cycle 1, AF due 9th April
Combatqueen (30) TTC #1, cycle 4, AF due around 9th April
Cejay8 TTC #?, cycle ?, AF due 10 April
LimeleafLizard (36) TTC #4, cycle 4 AF due 10 April
Eleanora (33) TTC #2, cycle 1, AF due 10th April
FrenchLimeBlossom (35) TTC #2, cycle 3, AF due 18 April
Crazytictac (31) TTC #2, cycle 6, AF due possibly from 17 - 24 April
Asianbabe (35) Cycle 11, TTC #3 AF due 20th April
Happilymarried cycle 12
Pandawatch TTC #1, cycle 4
Treats (35) TTC #3, cycle 3
Pipbin (36) TTC#1, cycle 10
Pinkie29 (30) TTC #1, cycle 3
Olivetti TTC #2, cycle 2

BFPs:
Debeez TTC #2, cycle 3, AF due 27 March
StrawberrytallCAKE

Pipbin will you be taking up your seat, then? Try not to get too down, you have to keep going, it will happen. This has to be a lucky flight, what with the reindeer and all... X

Thanks Lime. It would work out so well if it was this month.
He's hoping.
Magic flying reindeers, do your best.

Sorry Pipbin - didn't mean to put a downer on things. I've started lurking in the parenting sections of bookshops in my lunch hour again (I last did this four years ago.......) to look at the books on fertility and conception - not that there's anything I don't already know in them. Anyway, I was looking at this one yesterday which was a lot more upbeat about the chances of conceiving over 35. It's just that the odds reduce from about 25% per cycle in your early 20s to about 15% in your 30s - you just need to give it more chances......

Hello all,
i'd like to join, need cheering up and distraction. I had an ERPC early feb after a MMC, i've had 2 decidedly odd cycles since (1 very short at 21 days , 1 long at 33 days, with lots of spotting and odd temps) but just looked at Clear Blue fertlity monitor and they say after 2 cycles lasting 21-42 days you can start to use it- i'm not intending to buy one but it did make me think maybe i'm going to have a more normal cycle this month. My period is almost non-existent flow wise , so much i tested again today to check it wasn't an implantation bleed- BFN again, so am on here at CD2. The other issue, which is as equally upsetting as the MMC is that DP has now decided (in the last week) he isnt sure we should have a baby, he isn't going to stop me (has said if i want one that badly to go ahead) and hasn't threatened to leave me if i do but is having very grave doubts. I'm finding that very, very hard to deal with but have decided to try again another cycle and see what happens whilst also getting my head round this development and its implications. I'm in my 40s with 1 grown child from a previous relationship and initially didn't want another, DP wanted to have one as he doesn't see his own very much- ex moved away with their child.

Welcome blackcats. Sounds like you need a .
Sorry to hear about your situation, sounds like you have faced some sad and worrying times. Hope you will feel comfortable chatting here.

treats I might see if I can find that in the library. I had the pregnancy and baby's first year ones which were quite good.

Encouraging that we just need to keep up the SWI!

So I'm super moody today, been horrible to dh, he can't say or go anything right bless him.... Is this a possible sign of ovulation? It's a new sign for me if it is, and doesn't help when trying to make sure we have lots of swi!

blackcatsdancing - sorry to hear about your situation. I think cycles can take a while to settle down after a previous pregnancy - I've had the same situation in the last few months. It doesn't mean you can't conceive though - you just need to watch for the signs that ovulation might be about to occur. Have you tried OPKs?

What has your DP said about not wanting a baby? Do you think he's upset about the MMC? Hope the two of you can work it out.

combatqueen - could be. Ov'ing is a big hormonal upheaval. Or it could be that you're feeling stressed out because you know that you're close to the right time - I know I sometimes get a bit panicky at the thought of 'missing the window'. Maybe you should go and make up

thanks for the kind welcome limeleaf

treats yes i've used OPKs, bought a stack of cheapies from amazon. I think i ovulated last month, albeit far later than usual , i got a very dark second line though didn't quite catch one as dark or darker than the control, however compared with day before and day after definitely a good sign and temps then went up and stayed up until AF , pretty certain i didn't ov the first month, CM signs not great though but again at my age they won't really be the same as a younger womans. I've bought pre-seed to help things along!
DP was devastated by my MMC, he said he'd feared it throughout, there always was a high chance of me having a MC due to age. We both wanted to try again and have been TTC since 2 weeks of having ERPC. I'm so sorry for your loss and can completely understand the desire to get pregnant again. I won't dwell though as I know you want to talk about TTC on here.

Now i have to go to work, my long shift today so no time to dwell .

that ended oddly, for me TTC is part of the healing process, its important for me (and i thought for dp) to try again. If it doesn't work then it doesn't, but at the moment it feels the right thing to do.
Anyway work beckons and i must make an effort to get back into good eating today, moping around leads to poor eating habits and i need to be super healthy.

So blackcats it sounds as though your DH's reluctance to try again might be a fear of having another MC. Which is understandable, just as your own need to heal involves TTC again. Ah I do hope you work things out -each of you and together. Hope your long shift goes quickly!

My temp was up a bit yesterday and a lot this morning so definitely into the 2ww again now. I am not good at waiting!

Morning all. Time for I think.

Hope everything goes well for you blackcats

Limeleaflizard I think I'm in the 2ww too though not temping or monitoring things too closely so don't know when ov'ed. I can feel the symptom spotting coming on already - right boob is definitely sore and like combatqueen I'm quite moody (but that may be normal...!).

Have decided I will definitely not test until AF due on 10th april as we are staying at my Mum's for a few days over Easter and don't want to give anything away

We can be POAS buddies on 10th Eleanora. Looking at the stats, there might be quite a few of us on that day! I don't want to test earlier for the same reason as you - PILs here over Easter and MIL is unnervingly good at guessing.

I think if you've suffered a loss, you can go one of two ways. You either rush to replace what you've lost, or you retreat from it and don't want to put yourself at risk of further loss and pain. blackcats - it sounds (from what you've posted on here) as though you and your DP are pulling in different directions in response to what has happened. If that's what it is, then don't be too frustrated with him. I know that's easier said than done when time isn't on your side.......

I ov'd much later than 'normal' last month as well. I haven't used OPKs before but I might do it this month as I had EWCM at random times throughout my cycle. Poor DH was told for ten nights on the trot that it was 'really important' to do it tonight......

Phew!my do has just got a permanent contract at work.now we can keep going without money worries!

Dear partner I should have said.