TTC 10 plus months, part 6

[mrsden]

A friendly, supportive thread for those of us who are taking a bloody long little longer time than average to conceive.

Babyblocker is a great name for my fibroid fugitive

Ah mrsden that's interesting. I think I've read (on MN most likely) that anovulatory cycles are normally longer - but I've had a couple of really short ones where I too have struggled to see OV signs, and assume I just haven't ovulated that month. Yes I believe once or twice a year is "normal" for having an anovulatory cycle, so you aren't doing too badly!

Thanks for the translation lisa, I was confused by the Wahine bit in teuchter's name!

You did make me chuckle wine about your number logic for not wanting a January baby. I honestly really really don't want a baby this cycle as it would be pretty much due on wedding day. This is not an attempt to goad fate, but a genuine concern! Thanks for the pixie reminder (sorry pixie for forgetting you ) and I am also wondering how lemon is doing. I am sorry you are no closer to answers, and astonished you were first seen in July. Time moves in weird ways in the TTC world doesn't it. Can't believe how fast I'm aging it goes between cycles, yet how slowly the 2ww always goes, oh and the waiting for answers part. There was a grads thread aroun the time that biscuits got her BFP but we didn't have too many for a while so perhaps it has gone all quiet.

Hi ladies! Am going to attempt a bit of a catchup, although will be a rubbish one cos on my phone!

princess I am totally disgusted by the comments and "advice" you received from supposed medical professionals. How awful. On a different note nom nom to the pate and that's from a veggie! I love the Beany too - was excited to learn she has a house in our area although it's still a shit hole here

frannie pleased to hear the mentalling is a bit better today! 2 google searches - good going!

lisa sorry to hear you can't make the meet up but VERY jealous of your Italian sejourn. I just love Italy. Pasta, wine, gelato...

Welcome teu.

mrsd they make a small 'puncture' either side of the vaginal wall with a needle to get to the ovaries. There really wasn't much blood, but it kept going for some time.. Most peps have no problems & they now wonder if I have a slight bleeding disorder. Boo to AF but great news that your clinic of choice should be able to fit you in! I too seem to have dud cycles at a certain time of the year - def Jan for me (prob to do with Xmas over indulgence...)

euro good luck with the ov testing! Not long now til the procedure - exciting!

nelly brrrrr re heating! But yay for appointment dates. And thanks for pointing out my Easter 'signs' :) I too had thought that but haven't mentioned cos DH would take the piss!

joy I am indeed off work. My boss has been v understanding and has been sworn to secrecy. Do you have the option of working from home? I could prob manage that today. I was terrified of the sedation but it was ace! They gave me an anti anxiety drug via iv first (which gave me a nice relaxed feeling) and then the sedative. Was out like a light! Woke up towards the end - when they were inserting the vaginal pack to stop the bleeding, urgh- and started moaning about needing a wee and that it hurt, so they knocked me out again! Woke up when they were putting me in the wheel chair and felt v calm and chilled! Honestly nothing to be scared of and in fact a rather ace feeling [druggie emoticon]

wine not long til that next appointment now. Hang on in there! And lol that your due date would be on your phobic no (are you listening big fertility pointy finger?!)

stacks hope everything is still going well with you.

Well, 5 of our eggs fertilised so we have 5 little embies in a petri dish in Wimbledon! Makes me a little emotional as is the closest we've come to creating a baybee so far. Only 1 bit of bleeding today, so hopefully that is all ok. Have a lovely cocktail of drugs, including 2 different suppositories! ET booked for thurs, along with some lovely sedation :)

Hello ladies,

I hope the start back to the working week wasn't too onerous. Only three more days to go til another weekend!

whatmess ? oh my goodness, another BFP! Amazing. Mrsd has indeed created a wonder thread!

gin ? glad ec went ok, well done. 12 eggs is a great number, fingers crossed they are all doing as they should now. Hope you?re feeling ok after the bleeding though, sounds nasty.

mrsd ? Sorry AF turned up, I hope this cycle is a better one for you. I?m pleased your clinic seems to have planned ahead with extra doctors, it sounds like the other closure shouldn?t affect things too much. Totally agree about doctors thinking they are gods. In this case it must be very true, even the nursing staff call him god when he?s not around!

euro ? sorry you?re still in limbo as to which clinic you?ll go with. I hope things work themselves out.

*wine ? I really, really hope that your appt brings some news and resolutions for you.

I?m odd-number phobic too ? how strange! I was so convinced that 2012 would be our year for a baby, so much so that I heralded in the new year by announcing that good things always happen in even years, let?s see...

I?m not sure whether it was actually any cheaper to self-fund via the NHS. Most clinics we?ve looked at seem to have a standard price that includes everything, around here they?re all much the same price though.

I feel like I?ve opened up a can of worms by trying to move our funding to another clinic. My GP was lovely, and very helpful, this morning but she said she didn?t know whether we could move/what the process was etc as no-one had asked the question before! She?s gone away to investigate with the PCT so we just have to wait and see.

princess and artemis ? what a horrible experience you had after your mcs, I never fail to be shocked by just how wrong some doctors and nurses manage to get these things. Glad you?re in a positive frame of mind princess, it sounds like you?re in a good place.

izzy ? what lovely news, I?m so pleased things are moving along as they should.

frannie, kitty and anyone else in the two week wait ? hope you?re surviving things ok

nelly ? Yay for your appointment, great news that it isn?t too far away either. I hope your heating is back by now? Sounds chilly where you are today.

joycep ? great news that you have your appt through too. Things seem to be moving in the right direction. Sorry you?re having a tough time with family issues though, rubbish timing and not what you need.

Welcome waves to philbee and teuchter.

On the BFP front, there was fatima too. Does that make 9 in two threads? Yikes! Definitely enough for a grads thread to get going.

Sounds like much DIY/housey fun was had over the long weekend. We didn?t do anything nearly as productive, I just worked my way through a few Nigella baking recipes and cooked delicious Jamie O homemade burgers and chips yesterday. I blame nelly for starting my Nigella obsession!

Waves to everyone I've missed.

Cross post gin. Brilliant news - five little embies growing nicely and not long to wait until ET. I've got everything crossed for you x

princess love your advice on why to keep the temps low , also told DH about fanny cam

gin its all getting very exciting, 5 little mini yous in a petri dish , how many will they put back???

I'm hoping this will be my last overseas trip for awhile for obvious reasons and didn't really want to be on the steroids and in my first trimester and travelling, now I couldn't a toss about any of that!!! Although I shall eat gelato for two anyway

Hello lovelies!

Can't go away for a long easter weekend without missing another BFP. Congrats whatmess so happy your treatment worked.

Sadly ours didn't, I started spotting over easter (which meant me crying my eyes out for hours, handy when staying with family) and then AF appeared properly today. No more crying now, and onto the next cycle of IUI. It was a total mind-fuck though, with the raised hopes of having had the treatment and stuff.

So much other stuff that I am just waving at the grads, congratulating mrsd on bus-making and welcoming newbies teucht and someone else. Still need to read the last page! So back for more soon!

Hello all, sorry for being away for ages again...had my family over for easter, was lovely and managed to duck any baby questions very well. I'm getting v v v good at the excuses and fake smile now :)

Exciting to here all the news on the thread...things are moving forward for many of us, yay on the bfps, and Gin, 5 embryos, that's great!

We had the gp appointment last week, after a manic few days house hunting. GP referred us on straight away, I think they have a one year policy here. But then she turned bad (well, not massively, only in my head!). She had a go at me for asking for mefanamic acid, taking paracetomal, and for taking my (prescribed!) asthma medication.

so I have gone cold turkey, halved asthma medication, no paracetomal, etc. although she did say I could keep drinking tea, woohoo!

sperm test for DH tmw, he's quite nervous (and I had ewcm today, terrible timing...!), and blood test for me on thursday. and referral to clinic is on its way, although I think it will take a couple of months.

Wow 5 embies waiting for your transfer, gin. That is so exciting!

Very of the gelato for two eating, even if there is only one of you lisa.

Sorry about the rubbish weekend joycep. And about the bloody pg announcements mrsd!

Fingers crossed appointments will bring good things, nelly and especially wine.

On other news I got a bad cold over the weekend so have funny (stuffy) ears. And the bright red of AF has stopped again and we're back to brown. No I am not going to obsess. I am not allowed. I am sure it will start properly again...

Oh lemon sending a big hug. But, they do say iui often needs a few goes so hang on in there, it's a proactive thing to be doing and trying. Periods that stop and start are most distressing and fuel mentalling - have you been tempted to test or is that too depressing?

Seriously considering testing wine when I forget the quite impressive bright red flooding of work-loos that induced me to call the clinic to get the ball rolling for the next cycle. But if it isn't proper AF, I ought to let them know (so they can treat someone else in my space). Difficult. And I did enough menkulling already. Come on, I have deflated boobs, I had bright red blood earlier. I should sleep on it and if AF is still not overly keen tomorrow maybe try a cheapie...

Hello lovely ladies!

Blimey there is so much going on at the moment. I?m going to try and catch up but sorry if I miss things.

gin that is great news, it must be quite emotional to think of your little embies in their dish. Good luck for ET. Are you transferring one?

lemons I?m sorry about AF and how upset you were over the weekend. Fingers crossed the witch miraculously buggers off tomorrow. If not, I hope you feel ok about moving on to a new cycle. Hugs.

Hi ladygee how are you doing? Sorry you didn?t get much joy from your GP about moving clinics. At least she is looking into it for you, hopefully you?ll get the right answer. I?m a teeny bit in love with Nigella I must admit

nelly and joyce woop that the appointments have come through. nelly sorry about your heating. I really feel the cold and spend most of the time turning anything that might get vaguely warm on and standing near it, much to the annoyance of DH, so I do sympathise. joyce I am really sorry that you and your DH are dealing with non-TTC stress as well. I?m sure my massive recent bout of IBS was set off by additional work stress in combination with the TTC stuff that just bubbles constantly away under the surface.

princess I read your post about how you were treated after your mc completely agog. It read like some kind of 1950?s crazy nightmare. Have you thought about complaining? You seem to have an incredibly positive attitude despite all that you?ve been through.

wine and mrsd it?s amazing how once you get to know your body you can learn to spot duff cycles from symptoms. I?d never in a million years have noticed or thought of this stuff until we started TTC

wine I so hope the appointment goes well next week. They surely, must be able to move things forward now, they?ve messed you around for so long. I really hope the conception channel opening makes the difference.

euro hope you get the IUI cycle sorted soon, extra stress is very unwelcome when you?re going through treatment.

Hi teu nice name!

lisa gelato! Hope you have a wonderful time. I bloomin love Italy. It would be hypocritical of me to say don?t worry about the sperm and eggs, because I have spent the last year doing that pretty much non stop. Distraction is the way forward I reckon, and having a lovely trip to plan always helps :)

frannie how?s the mentalling going? At least it has helped you declutter the house!

Waves to stacks whatmess beryl pout and I?m really sorry if I?ve missed anyone.

I stopped mentalling completely over the weekend, because the ?symptoms? faded and I started feeling very AF-like. The only thing was that my boobs are still v sore. I have put on a bit of weight lately and decided to start doing the 30-day shred tonight as I have a couple of holidays coming up and don?t want to look fat in the photos want to get in shape. Anyhoo before I went to put the DVD on, on a total whim, I decided to get the digi out and pee on it, I just suddenly had this thought that I should check before I started doing loads of ineffectual press ups and lunges. After ages and ages, the digi flashed up with ?Pregnant 1-2?. I couldn?t believe it, can?t describe what a shock it was. I was shaking and my heart was pounding. It?s taken me ages to calm down! I told DH straight away (told him I had a present and got him to hold his hand out, after the result had sunk in he said ?urgh has that got wee on it??)

It doesn?t feel real at the moment and it goes without saying that I?m terrified! I honestly never thought this day would come. Very early days of course but just knowing that my eggs and DH?s sperm managed to get it together is encouraging. I'm having quite strong AF like cramps and symptoms at the mo so really hoping AF doesn't arrive.

Love to all you fab ladies, It was our 19th month by the way, with not a sniff of a BFP before this. x x x

kitty congrats and fingers crossed for you

Wow, kitty, that?s fantastic news! (which you snuck in right at the end) :) So pleased for you and really really hope it all goes smoothly for you. Congratulations!

ooh forgot to say with my first preg it felt like AF was starting, I even told DH that it hadn't worked, the cramps are your uterus changing to make room for your little bean :)

Massive congrats kitty!!

The thread is on fire! Amazing news kitty do I recall stealth secret shagging?! 10 bfps in 2012 my goodness. Are these Christmas babies? Exciting times!

Thanks so much ladies and thank you for your reassuring words lisa will try not to worry about the cramps too much. Yes wine there was stealth sex and we didn't do it on ov day so I guess the day before must have done the trick.? We also got hammered although I didn't drink much in the 2ww

kitty there is no reason to worry about this not being the perfect pregnancy, why wouldn't it be, when you see your GP make sure you get something for the nausea it can hit you like a freight train, this little bunch of cells is going to turn your world upside down

oh and your maternity card form so you can get free prescriptions, and eye tests and free dentistry too,

Woah loads to catch up on today! Have only got 5 mins before I need to go to bed but had to say congrats to kitty! Amazing news! I can't believe this recent run. That finger has been very busy! I'm sure all will by fine and yay to not having to lunge!

I think the finger has missed me this month (sounds dodgy) as have my tell tale AF signs- lower back aches and an itching sensation in lower belly- sigh! Not over until the fat lady sings though I guess. Sorry lemon that the evil witch is playing games. I really hope it's not the real thing and it turns into bfp 11! Have been wondering how you've been getting on- so sorry to hear that it's been emotional and stressful. Lots of hand holding here if needed x
Night night to all and welcome to teu x

Thanks for the welcome.
Stacks I got FSH and AMH levels done "values reassuring of likely having good ovarian reserve for age"; other bloods and thyroid function normal. Figured we may as well start there.
Why do people go silent when you admit you're TTC? Up until then it's all "you'll be a great mum", "wait til you have yours", "hurry up and get pregnant" as soon as you say we're not having much luck....and the subject gets totally avoided. Gripe, sorry. All my friends have children, many have completed their families. Bringing up the rear again.
The name - I'm a Highland Scot living in NZ (5 years this weekend); nothing like this seems to exist out here so I'm returning to the homeland for my sanity check. Hope you all won't mind.
Off to read up on peas now.

kitty

V v quick but so happy for you. That's given me some hope too. X

Can I say hi too? another out of UK (for the passed 15 years) person. Been TTC on and off for around a thousand years, only discovered online chats existed last month (bit slow that way). I'm 39 and doing a 'all out, charting madness, one last try' in run up to the big 40. Why not right?

Thanks frannie and nelly

waves to nellie and artemis I knew I'd manage to forget someone on my mammoth catch up!

Welcome purple

Wow kitty CONGRATULATIONS. That is great news. At this rate it completely feels like a bus with the recent run we've had, somebody else is due her BFP soon!! (Those one a month stats have gone all over the shop, now, care to re-calculate?)

Welcome purple.

Thanks for the handholding all of you, and frannie who will won't join me in IUI madness soon. The treatment really is nothing to speak of, but as I said I found the WW very difficult for the first time in ages, got something to do with hope, I suppose... AF is well and truly here and it feels good to be moving straight onto the next cycle of IUI. Which reminds me, euro what was your final decision on clinics? And are you scheduled for IUI at the end of this week? Thinking of you!

In fact thinking of you all, so happy lots of more or less natural BFPs here :) just a little longer for the rest of us. When is the meet (monthwise)? Are all the recent diffed ladies going to be sporting visible bumps? Waves and good days to all!

PS kitty you have/had CB digitals in the house?!! I am amazed at your restrained!!