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TTC 10 plus months, part 6

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mrsden · 14/03/2012 17:05

A friendly, supportive thread for those of us who are taking a bloody long little longer time than average to conceive.

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lisacn · 06/04/2012 20:28

nelly so far so good with the DIY, we're still talking to each other, have eaten 2 easter eggs so far [bushock], I do ache is places I didn't know existed though.

Happy Easter may your weekend be chocoluscious

poutintrout · 07/04/2012 10:19

Wanted to quickly pop on and wish everyone a Happy Easter & happy days off Smile

Will catch up properly with everything next week but just wanted to say to all my fellow DIY'ers that the Pout household is about to embark on decorating the spare room right after I have eaten a few more cinnamon whirls, stressed a bit more that the paint I have bought is plum and definitely not the sage green I wanted, found my painting clothes that I am pretty sure I threw away because I couldn't face washing them, had a few more cups of tea, daydreamed about how super the room might look in a parallel universe & generally put starting off enough to ensure that we are still decorating at midnight I fully expect fireworks to commence right about the point where DH realises that we don't have a pasting table. If he suggests using my dining room table there will be murder Grin

Love and waves to everyone

whereismywine · 07/04/2012 10:54

Ha ha pout it is also Easter spare room decorating in the wine household. My mood with the blue paint that was supposed to make me feel holiday like but actually looks like a teenage bedroom is just about lifting after wall has been largely hidden by furniture,mirror and pictures

Honestly I've been such a grumpy cow with this period. I'm blaming it in hormones but I think it's the year 2013 partly to blame. Crazy lady!

Happy Easter you lot. Im mostly cooking, family round tomorrow for beef Wellington. I'm feeling the pressure of delivering non soggy pastry [bugrin]

Frannieannie · 07/04/2012 11:17

Hi lovely ladies,
Haven't posted for a few days as have had family to stay- 2 teenage boys.....exhausting! Enjoying the peace today.

Just wanted to pop in to say that I hope you enjoy the Easter weekend and wanted to use one of the bunny emoticons [busmile]
Will catch up soon- but ladyg grrrrr to your doctor. I think I always thought that when you pay privately the care and service would be outstanding- feel like they have the monopoly on fertility so can get away with less than other health issues. Glad you gave him CD1 whatfor!
I had a big temp drop at 6dpo and feel like AF is on way so am in 'sorry for myself' mode. Still at least CD1 may be over for next week and I can start IUI sooner (trying to find silver lining....).

Have a great break everyone- hope there are lots of Easter eggs (especially for gin!) xxx

Stacks · 07/04/2012 20:29

Evening all. I'm a step behind the DIY people, as I'm only just planning my reorganising and decorating. I still need to finalise plans for a new kitchen, and talk to dh about it after getting a bfp. He's started worrying about saving money now. Also want to redecorate bathroom, hallway and guest bedroom/nursery. Lots to do. Most will just be choosing a colour and reprinting though, nothing major.

GinSoaked · 08/04/2012 11:05

Hi ladies! Just a quickie from me to say Happy Easter! May you day be filled with lots of choccie (and the other kind) of eggs! My egg collection is tomorrow morning, eek. Have a good day [busmile] [busmile]

lisacn · 08/04/2012 15:24

gin good luck with your egg collection [busmile]

well haven't killed DH and buried him under the patio yet, not going to finish the tiling this weekend [buhmm] but never mind, will be glad when I can put things back in the kitchen, this living like a student isn't really me anymore

hope everyone is ok x

Frannieannie · 08/04/2012 19:55

Hello all, hope you're all enjoying the long weekend and the DIYers are still talking to OHs!

Apologies in advance for being me, me, me but I am in 2ww obsessional mode with too much time on my hands. Need someone to give me a big, cold wet fish slap around the face please!! On 6dpo my temp was 97.1 but it was back up to 97.8 this morning. I have googled implantation dip in every which way and know it can mean nothing. Also been v nauseous but not sure if thats because I'm working myself up to it!

I know its do unlikely to be any different to any other month but I'm still torturing myself! Have baked biscuits, cleaned out cupboards, painted a unit but am still obsessing- short of giving myself a lobotomy I'm not sure what else to do! Was going to confide in DH but the conversation will be a minute long and I'll feel even more like a mad woman!

Phew- so there we go! Actually feels cathartic to have written it down!

Good luck tomorrow gin! Waves to everyone else! Xx

whatmess · 08/04/2012 20:38

Hi everyone and Happy Easter, Sorry I've been quiet recently. I've been visiting family over the weekend. House full of screaming kids (seven of them ranging from 1 to 12), so it's been wonderful but very noisy and I am very glad to be home.

Well, I have been feeling extremely uncomfortable recently and decided to do a test when I got home tonight. BFP [busmile]. It's very early days at only 11 DPO, and after my previous history, I am really very scared. Ecstatic but petrified at the same time.

Frannie I had a significant dip below the coverline at 5 DPO. I hope it means something positive for you too.

eurochick · 08/04/2012 20:47

Wow, that is good news, mess!

whatmess · 08/04/2012 21:01

Thanks Euro. I am still a bit shocked I think. As much as I hoped it would happen this cycle I really didn't expect it to. I just hope it all sticks where it should and stays put, Fx.

lisacn · 08/04/2012 21:04

mess a massive congrats and fingers crossed for you x

izzybizzybuzzybees · 08/04/2012 21:19

OMG whatmess.....what a lovely Easter present for you!

This has got to be most fertile thread of all of them!

philbee · 08/04/2012 21:22

Hello. I'd like to join if it's ok. We've been TTCing for a second child since last Jan. I did get pg last year but had a mmc, possible blighted ovum. We are now nine months TTCing since then, so not sure if I qualify for this thread. Just looking for somewhere a bit less excitable than the main conception bit to hang out. My AF is due on Thurs and I've had the inklings of it today, so not hopeful. Am waiting for results of first round of blood tests at the mo.

kittysaysmiaow · 08/04/2012 21:35

Hello lovely ladies

Just popped in to join in with frannie on the mentalling, and by the time I reloaded the page there was another BFP! Blimey!! Congratulations whatmess that is fantastic news. I always thought we'd get a run of BFP's at some point after our lean times, looks like it's here [bugrin] [bugrin] [bugrin]

Hope you are all having a great weekend (obviously you are, mess!) I have been doing a lot of housey stuff, not as productive as decorating whole rooms but more along the lines of general tidying and bits and bobs think it's called rearranging the decks on the titanic

Anyway I will catch up properly tomorrow but wanted to wish gin huge good luck for tomorrow - egg collection on Easter Monday [busmile]

And frannie I will give you a big wet fish slap if you give me one back? I'm 12 DPO, I think, and I'm getting my hopes up. Really annoyed with myself as I KNOW I'm heading for a huge fall!! I've had loads of tummy trouble, nausea, feeling offish and boobs are killing me. I know that a) boob pain is totally normal for me at this point in cycle b) tummy troubles are almost certain to be IBS and c) When AF comes I have to ring the clinic to arrange all the tests so I am blatantly just desperate for an ironic pre-IVF BFP. But, but....I can't help it. First time in months I've properly got my hopes up. Anyway I was considering POAS just to put myself out of my misery, but all I've got is an expensive digi and I don't want to waste it on what is almost certainly a BFN...so am going to try and hang on in there til when AF inevitably arrives later this week!

Ooof, got that off my chest. Hope everyone ok. Catch up properly tomorrow, I'm off to scoff a mini-egg egg. [busmile]

kittysaysmiaow · 08/04/2012 21:36

x-post philbee welcome. Sorry about your mc. You're very welcome here.

philbee · 08/04/2012 21:40

Thank you Smile

Frannieannie · 08/04/2012 22:45

Omg what mess! Fantastic news! So glad that all the treatment you had resulted in such a happy outcome. Good luck!

Welcome philbee sorry to hear about your mc. Wishing you lots of luck.

kitty here is a very friendly fish slap, thank you for mine! Yep, I think it is pre-iui/Ivf wishes for ironic bfps for both of us. But the way this thread is going shows that there is hope. Fingers crossed for us all! I can see myself heading for a giant fall too but some months it's sooooo hard to stop it. I have a digi too and was thinking of doing it at 13dpo due to party this weekend. AF might have shown up by then though! Having a poas in the house is now like a packet of hobnobs would have been- I can't forget it's there, it plagues me then when I've used it I feel full of regret!!

MuddyWellyNelly · 08/04/2012 23:01

Oooh whatmess - I don't know if I can handle more BPF excitement so soon [bugrin]. Only kidding, course I can, that's awesome news! Fingers crossed for sticky sticky things!!

Hello philbee - I completely associated with the way you said this thread is less excitable. I think we're at the rather more grounded stage, which is why it's nice. My heart sinks if I go on to those other threads now! Mind you, the last cluster of posts are clearly registering on the excitable scale, given the rash of BFPs we've been getting :)

Frannie and kitty have a kipper each. The getting your hopes up is the killer even now isn't it. We are a long way from the days of getting your hopes up because you thought that it was most likely the case that you WERE pregnant. Now, when we get our hopes up, it's simultaneously coupled with bashing yourself repeatedly on the head, muttering stupid stupid stupid under your breath. I miss the innocence of, oh I don't know, cycles 1 to 6 [buhmm].

Anyway we have no heating today which is annoying as we have a full tank of gas at vast expense, and a 3 month old boiler, also at vast expense. And our plumber has ignored our calls. So I now need to go to bed with a hot water bottle. Rock and roll in the Nelly house. However we did stay at friends last night, and drank copious amounts of wine until about 1am. At about 8DPO too. I'm such a rebel. no wonder I'm not pregnant yet

princesschick · 09/04/2012 08:16

Morning everyone, seems I forgot to turn off my alarm for Monday morning, so really wide awake now. DH is snoring away nicely!

Nelly I hope your 2ww is going ok and that you are enjoying your secret hobby this weekend.

gin well done with your injections. I think that's soo brave. I'm terrified of needles and really hoping once they've found out why my progesterone levels are so low it will involve pills, creams or pessaries. Sorry to hear it causes red itchy lumps. The things we ladies have to do! Oh and what news about your Dad. I hope you're coping ok.

lisa sorry you've been feeling down. Hopefully you're enjoying a lovely long weekend filled with treats and fun activities. You are allowed to bitch and moan as much as you like on here. We're all going through a prolonged rough patch in our lives and everyone needs an outlet somewhere. You're in good company, everyone's very understanding.

carebear hello and welcome to our gang [busmiley] good luck with your immune testing. Let us know how you get on.

izzy whoop whoop! Your little sea monkey (as dh and I refer to them pre-12 weeks) sounds like its coming along nicely. Everything is crossed for you.

Artemis I'll join you for a line of folic acid, you can drop a couple of my vitex too if you like? Your neighbour sounds like a complete nightmare! I think I'd be having words or at least making loud, snide comments from the other side of the fence in that particularly Britsh way!!

Waves to everyone I've missed xx

In my world we've been doing the house, at a wedding, a 30th birthday party, a lunch in Surreh with my mum and dad and back at the house to strip wallpaper from the ceiling. Any DIY rows can now be blamed on my hormones as can any other bout of irrationality. There have to be some benefits...

I'm not surprised at the bad doctor stories. My heartfelt apologies to all who've been on the receiving end (most of us!). And yes we should be grateful for the NHS, but we do pay for it out of our taxes and the least we can expect is to be treated with compassion and dignity. When I started to MC the first time, I was 27, unmarried but in a loving long term relationship and hadn't planned to get upduffed but was a very happy accident. The first doctor I saw told me not to think I was being punished by God for getting pregnant outside of marriage. We were both so stunned and angry that we just sat there and took in her horribly prejudiced and dillusioned diatribe. I've also been told that women don't have time off work for MCs because they are "a normal part of life" and that "your babies were just not viable, women in Africa living in famine conditions have healthy babies". These comments were not made by 1 but 2 female doctors, in their 60s who were so cold that I spiralled into a deep depression (referred by a different doctor 6 months later for counselling, which I declined) because I thought I couldn't cope and that everyone else could. Now 3 years later they do the tests and I barely have any progesterone , which could well explain my depression, MCs and more. Why don't they do these tests earlier rather than waffling on about nonsense????!!!!

I've also been reading Take Control of Your Fertility this weekend, which has convinced me to start charting again. I thought that my charts were useless because they were irratic, now I realise this is exactly what I need for keeping an eye in my levels. I've found it a very helpful book and it outlines in simple language all the things that can be done if shagging alone doesn't get you there.

Ive also been enjoying reflexology which is doing wonders for my moods and I'm going to re start yoga. I was a bit worried it caused me to MC last year as I did a big astanga sesh just before it all kicked off. I'm now confident it's hormones but I'm signing up for a gentle yoga class.

Also, I've spent this weekend outlining our hormone woes to loads of old friends we've bumped into at various social gatherings. Most of my friends don't have children, but even the one's who do have been kind, supportive and suggested everything from keeping up the non drinking to acupuncture practitioners in our area. For me , it's been a massive relief to outline that I have a medical problem and that we are being positive and I am totally not ashamed that something in my body is not working. Im not ashamed that I have terrible eye sight and wear glasses / contacts why should I be embarrassed about TTC and hormone problems. Actually, I feel fan this weekend. Informed, positive and able to cope. This is the first time in years.

Have a really great bank hols everyone xxxxx [bugrin]

whatmess · 09/04/2012 08:40

Thank you everyone for the lovely comments and wishes.

Welcome Philbee, I'm sorry you find yourself here. This really is a lovely thread.

BerylThePerilous · 09/04/2012 10:28

Morning everyone! I hope you?ve all been enjoying the Easter weekend. It has been rather quiet in the Perilous household ? Mr B is away and I?ve just been moping working. But he did arrange for some flowers and chocolates to be sent, which somewhat brightened things up!

Big congratulations whatmess on your BFP! Do you think it was the recent treatment that did it? Keeping everything crossed for a sticky bean, and a very happy and stress-free nine months for you!

Princess I?m really shocked by your bad doctor stories. I just can?t believe they said those things to you! My own experience with the gynae staff at my local hospital (reputedly a good one) has not been great, but I haven?t had anything like the kind of comments you mention. On a brighter note, I am inspired by the positivity in your post! You sound like you?re really feeling in control of things and so hats Easter bonnets off to you!

Nelly I hope your boiler gets sorted out soon. I sympathise as ours recently went on the blink and it took ages for our landlord to sort it out. Ten days of no heating and, worse, no hot water did not make for a happy household.

Welcome philbee! I?m sorry to hear about your MC and that you have found yourself here. As a fellow newcomer to this thread, I can confirm that they are indeed a very friendly bunch!

Good luck frannie and kitty with these last few days of the tww? Your comparison of a hpt to a packet of hobnobs made me laugh! That?s exactly how it feels, having one lurking there in the cupboard, all tempting-like. Good luck resisting (I know I would have crumbled by now!).

And good luck to everyone else in the various stages ? tww/injections/swi etc ? and especially to gin for her egg collection today [busmile]

minipie · 09/04/2012 16:06

just poking my head round the door to say a massive congratulations to whatmess! fantastic news.

lisacn · 09/04/2012 16:11

nelly I hope you have managed to stay snuggly and warm

gin I hope all went well today

philbee welcome and sorry to hear about your miscarriage

princess bloody hell I cannot actually I can believe that these so called professionals said that to you I've also been told that women don't have time off work for MCs because they are "a normal part of life" and that "your babies were just not viable after my first miscarriage I felt pressured to go back to work after a week by that f*king btch sometimes referred to as my boss, she was so rude to me and told me I was an emotional mess and needed counselling - no shit sherlock!!!! the poor admin girl had come and console me for 20 minutes, why I didn't just go home is beyond me. Anyway when I had my second I took a month off and had some counselling which did help. Now whenever I have time off work they all get freaked out and think something has happened Hmm

Fingers crossed for all the 2wwers :)

Well I didn't sleep well as I was worried about these blood tests and finding out what my ovarian reserve is, been having AF since I was 11 and i'm now 39, time to man up and find outConfused anyway I can say after 4 days of DIY I am still happily married Grin

big hello to everyone :) thank goodness its only a 4 day week coming up

Stacks · 09/04/2012 17:01

Congratulations whatmess so pleased for you. I almost can't believe this run of bfps we've had. I really hope you are managing a better job of relaxing and enjoying it than me. I don't think it will start being real for me till I have some symptoms and a scan. Need to make a doctor appointment tomorrow to get on the books, and hopefully manage an early scan on the nhs.

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