Hi all, well seems our thread has lots of posts since I was here last...
Weekend was painful, went to inlaws, and inlaws are alright but Sil is a pain in the arse, doesn't see my DS from one year to the next then feels it's her right to try and discipline him when she does, winds me up no end.
O day 13 today and not sure if anything will happen this month as DH has a cold and not feeling well.
Pussycat I read your posts, and haven't seen you on for a bit - I hope you're ok?
Dh's just don't understand a woman's need to have a baby, and when they do sometimes that has the wrong impact as well. I said something to my DH the other night and said that maybe we should stop trying, to which he replied "no I don't think we should, you need to have a baby". and I took that to mean that he was only trying because it's what I want, when actually he was just trying to be understanding. I think sometimes they just can't do right for doing wrong.
And sometimes men can be so insensitive, after all you've been through, it's possible your DH might see this latest struggle in your life as something else you're having to go through, and that he's having to go through with you, and he is partly responsible for the outcome this time. Remember it takes two to make a baby, so while you're the one that wants to get pregnant, your DH knows that without him, that isn't going to happen, and for men this can be hard to come to terms with sometimes, and even harder to admit to. I don't know about the other things you've been through in your life, but I imagine that your DH has been thhere for you to help you pick up the pieces, he's been the one to tell you that no-one else can hurt you now that he is here, this time it's different, he wants to give you a baby, and every month you don't get pregnant, it's just posssible that he feels he was unable to give you the baby you desire.
You should try talking it through with him, tell him you're in this together, because you are in this together, when you have your baby, you will both be parents, he is going through it as much as you are, and neither of you are failures.
Hope I'm not babbling too much and hope some of this makes sense
If you need to talk I can let you have my email address, or even phone number
(((hugs)))