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TTC Hysterics thread!

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Archemedes · 29/01/2012 09:02

Hi a wierd Idea but I've browsed through threads and seen that some poster feel sometimes that complaining about i.e not being pg after 2 months is insensitive to people having problems.

I can see their point , but we all need a place to let off steam without being made to feel guilty. So......

I made this thread as a perfect place to spout off any worries how silly they may seem.

Please be honest about what you think!

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Snowbeetle · 29/01/2012 10:19

OOOoooo yes. I've been feeling awful in RL as I have only been trying for 7 months while my friend was 18..... doesn't compare does it! Still I can't deny I really want to get preggers
On the plus side she has now succeeded!!! Yayyyyy - so that's encouragement to anyone who's been waiting a while. She said she relaxed and forgot about it.... so, maybe being pleased to find somewhere I can let rip is exactly what I shouldn't be doing. hahahaha. oh well. Grin
currently on dreaded 2ww.... feeling convinced its my lucky month.... 2 in the back of the net on right day... come ON l'il swimmers. :)
My situ is complicated by impending job hunt post qualification and all sorts of other things which mean I really need to fall preggers now and not later... still Mum Nature won't be told will she!

bettybat · 29/01/2012 13:01

I honestly think the hysteria comes from being told ALL our lives how easy it is to fall pregnant. As teenagers, the fear of God is put into us. Don't even sit next to a boy for fear of "getting caught". Use condoms and the pill because their sperm is super strong and will cut through anything! Being pregnant is the worst thing that can ever happen to you - DON'T LET IT HAPPEN!!!

Hahahaha!

This is drilled into us as fact, as the bogeyman for teenage girls, as worse than death.

So when, as adults, as fully grown women, we want it to happen...and it doesn't happen immediately, it's extremely hard to undo a lifetime of wiring that says it can happen just be pegging your underwear on the same washing line as a man.

Snowbeetle · 29/01/2012 13:08

haha bettybat - that made me laugh - so true. :)

backwardLFDTpossom · 29/01/2012 13:56

bettybet so true. You spend so long trying NOT to get pregnant, then when you want to and it doesn't work on the first couple of goes, you end up in hysterics!

Bah.

Chunkychicken · 29/01/2012 14:09

I feel do stupid for stressing/obsessing about TTC as this is only our 2nd cycle & I think I worked out why we didn't get the 'right' day last month... Yet I'm still expecting to have to start charting etc and what might be wrong.

We concieved my DD after DTD literally twice, in roughly the right timeframe, and she's now 21mths so I feel almost cheated that it hasn't happened already. I mean, what happened to the chav-style fertility??!!

Its do pathetic to feel like that though. I know that getting preggo is one thing in my life that I can actually influence so perhaps I'm driven to obsessing about it cos I can't do anything about other important things?? Could also be cos I'm broody as hell too... Confused

Driving my DH up the wall & can't really talk about it with anyone else in RL.

Think I ovulated very recently and we DTD LOADS lately so getting cautiously optimistic but at the same time, not sure I want to get my hopes up. Then feel that thinking positive is a good thing. Then worry I should be 'relaxing' and not thinking about it.... Feel like I have about 50 personalities.

Seriously worry how I will cope if it doesn't happen soon. I mean, how do some of the women on here do it for months and months??!!

I an SOOOOO pathetic Blush

Snowbeetle · 29/01/2012 14:19

Hi Chunkychick. I know exactly how you feel, I glanced at dh and feel pregnant with ds, now I'm stunned to be on my 7th cycle this time round. Considering myself vair lucky first one was so easy.
I feel opposite though - that getting preggers is the one thing I can't influence and this is pants cos I like to have tight control over everything else. TTC is Mum Nature's dept.
I was totally obssessed for first 4 cycles but am trying to calm myself down now so I don't go mental. How will we cope? No idea - but i do know I am going to be a much better person to be around when it happens
Grin

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Archemedes · 29/01/2012 14:20

I'm sort of relaxing this month

I've been ttc for like just over a month Blush

last month I took 3 tests only for AF to come early and was generally a loon,

who knows this month :)

good luck to all you ttc

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Snowbeetle · 31/01/2012 08:29

Archemedes you're my kind of nutter! Grin
Is this your 1st you are ttc or are you a mum already? :)

Chunkychicken · 31/01/2012 16:31

This is the only place I can think of for sharing my own particular brand of TTC madness...

2.5yrs ago I conceived my daughter, on day 14 of my cycle, which was a Saturday... I am certain it was then, as we only DTD twice (once on the Tues & then on the Sat).

This cycle we DTD on day 10 (which was also a Tues) then day 13 & 14, which of course, if it worked, would mean the due date would be 2.5yrs after my DD's birthday.

This is also our 2nd cycle TTC #2.

Surely all this coincidence must mean it MUST have worked & I'll get my BFP in a couple of weeks right??!! Hmm

Or should I just fetch my straight-jacket now?? Confused

Now just to work out exactly when I POAS so I can do the same again... :o

Snowbeetle · 31/01/2012 16:35

Sounds positively kharmic to me Chunky
:)

Chunkychicken · 31/01/2012 16:42

LOL

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Archemedes · 31/01/2012 23:38

I am a mum to a 2 year old lol,

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morecoffeepleaseholdthecake · 01/02/2012 00:13

Hi. I am currently ttc. Kind of feel out of place on the other threads as I already have 2 dc, both were concieved within 2 months! This time we have been going at it for 13 long months and still nothing. I am hoping that this will be the month! Wink

wifey6 · 01/02/2012 07:33

Hi ladies....can I join? ....I have a wonderful DS & we are on our 2nd cycle ttc. I have health issues after having DS which has made ttc a lot more difficult-if not impossible at times. I have been obsessing over it for months & really convinced myself that we had been successful...but AF put a stop to that. ....it's nice to find a place where I can come & talk honestly about all this.

Snowbeetle · 01/02/2012 12:41

Hello morecoffee and wifey6 (you're not one of Marquess of Bath's hareem are you Wink

Nice to be somewhere where first-time ttc and those already with children can share the same struggle - having one has not-a-lot to do with another going to plan does it.

Archemedes I have a 19mo so not so far behind you, I'd like a smaller age gap if possible.

.................................................................

So last 2 days I have been thinking positive and convinced myself this was the month then today I decided I was delusional and it would probably not be and I may as well resign myself to another month of misery. I am on an emotional seesaw and wish I could turn my brain off sometimes. Budge over Wifey room for one more .

wifey6 · 01/02/2012 13:00

Have you got many days before you test snowbeetle?

Snowbeetle · 01/02/2012 13:05

I have 5 days till it is worth testing.... but I can test anytime.

By the way - you're probably sick to death of people telling you stuff like this but my friend was told she would never have kids due to health issues (very severe rampant endometriosis) and she had two dd.

So while you're breathing and he can get it up there is still hope. Grin

Snowbeetle · 01/02/2012 13:07

follows choccy with nice cuppa (psychiatrists assistant brought them in saying we both looked like we could do with a brew)

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Archemedes · 01/02/2012 13:17

Yeah I mean theres my head saying well you had a child together so yoo will eventually get pregnant again,

but makes no difference emotionally i'm a gibbering wreck inside. lol well I was last month. being calmer....only on the outside.

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Goldrill · 01/02/2012 13:20

ooh - hello! Can I join in too please?

Have lovely DD 14mo, conceived on first go with virtually no DTD. Have previously managed to get pregnant whilst on the pill and virtually celibate: I assumed DP just had to look at me funny and it would happen.

Now on cycle 6 of TTC - have had two very early miscarraiges at 5/6 weeks last autumn. Am now getting a bit convinced that, even if I do get the BFP it will be gone the week after.

Trying to stay positive: DD has brought home every illness under the sun from nursery, and I had Hand Foot and Mouth twice - both around the times I miscarried. So I guess I know at least I can get pregnant and maybe it was just the illnesses and stress that caused them to go fruit-shaped. Am still BF a couple of times a day too and suspect that may not be helping. Ho hum.

One week to go this time!

wifey6 · 01/02/2012 13:22
wifey6 · 01/02/2012 13:26

Goldrill....welcome...firstly, sorry to hear of your miscarriages. Sad I can't imagine how worrying this all is for you. You'll get support here ... .

TheScarlettPimpernel · 01/02/2012 13:35

Can I just say I bastard well love this thread Grin

Excellent hysteria indulgence, top marks for clever Latin word-pun on use of 'hysterics', and shedloads of good luck and 'babydust' all round Grin

(I won't join because I've gone long past the stage of being anything like hysterical but just found this an irresisitibly brilliant idea!)

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Archemedes · 01/02/2012 13:48

Thanks scarlett,

sorry to hear about what happened goldrill good luck for the future.

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Goldrill · 01/02/2012 13:58

Thanks chaps Smile. Is not a biggie - just disappointing - as when AF arrives yet again!

Good thread indeed, Archemedes!