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TTC Hysterics thread!

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Archemedes · 29/01/2012 09:02

Hi a wierd Idea but I've browsed through threads and seen that some poster feel sometimes that complaining about i.e not being pg after 2 months is insensitive to people having problems.

I can see their point , but we all need a place to let off steam without being made to feel guilty. So......

I made this thread as a perfect place to spout off any worries how silly they may seem.

Please be honest about what you think!

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Archemedes · 27/02/2012 17:41

Need a bit of un MN hand holding.
Hey all.
hope things are going well, a baby has been born in my family today, Ive bought a card wrapping the presents etc , but theres a weird sick feeling I know ill be surrounded by baby frenzy for a bit and after it being nearly 3 months and no baby its going to be quite hard for me. How do I man up and but on a grin.

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CostumeDramaQueen · 27/02/2012 18:04

Hi Archemedes
I'm going through sthing similar at the mo. Baby just born in the family, mum fell pg super fast. I am trying to concentrate on my own relationship to the baby, so I am carving out a role as attentive, but slightly excentric aunt.
Its going well so far, but sometimes you do just feel like yelling - "come on UTERUS get your act together!"

CostumeDramaQueen · 27/02/2012 18:18

Thanks for setting up this thread Archemedes
Also, thought I should introduce myself as quite new to MN - have been TTC 1st dc for only 3 months, but already quite obsessed.
[waves, hoping to make some MN friends]
Baby frenzy amongst family has reached fever pitch recently due to new baby in wider family. Am asked on weekly basis why I don't have kids - which makes me rather stressed and angry.
DH very supportive, but much more laid back so I feel like I am doing worrying for both of us!

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Archemedes · 27/02/2012 20:48

You could be me Costume Drama!!! those feelings are exactly mine, I just know AF will be arriving soon and ill be devostated for another week, month ugh when will it end.

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Archemedes · 29/02/2012 09:26

This week is put me in a very wierd state I'm even less motivated than usual, I havent really been anywhere for a few days and for some reason the idea of doing so fills me with dread. I don't know if its related, I miss just getting up everyday and being able to function and just getting on with it really.

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Archemedes · 29/02/2012 12:38

this minute just found out a relative of mine is expecting, someone up there is enjoying the avalanche of salt falling into the wound :( I wish I didnt feel this way but I do.

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morecoffeepleaseholdthecake · 01/03/2012 00:10

Hi Archemedes. I feel your pain, hope your baring up ok. It's so hard isn't it, I know so many pregnant people at the moment :(

And would everyone please stop asking me when we are going to have the next one!ffs

Anyway, we will be into our 15th calendar month of ttc in march. Am getting so fed up. Have been referred to fertility clinic now. Still mo AF since last one which was in.January. god knows what's going on, but it seems I'm still not pregnant.

:(

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Archemedes · 01/03/2012 09:39

Thanks :)
'And would everyone please stop asking me when we are going to have the next one!ffs '

OMG I know, argh,
I hope you get some some good luck soon morecoffee.

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CostumeDramaQueen · 02/03/2012 17:07

Hi there - need to have a bit of a whinge -
Yesterday got undeniable PMT pains so although AF not due til next Weds I'm pretty sure its not been my lucky month this month.
Ideally I would like to just shrug it all of and think I'll get there eventually but although we are offically TTC, DH seems so oblivious to the whole thing. How do I up my chances of TTC without making it look like a military operation?

PandaWatch · 02/03/2012 17:37

Hello all! Can completely empathise with everyone on here. What is currently driving me crazy is that not only have a load of people I know had babies recently (yes, yes, of course I'm very happy for them Envy) but everytime I log into facebook the newsfeed is dominated by pfb and "isn't being a mum awesome" smugness - arrrrrggggghhh!!! Of course I would never say this in real life (except to DH and my mum - both of whom are incredibly understanding) and I feel really mean in thinking it but c'mon - a little sensitivity for the ttc-ers wouldn't go amiss!

Phew. Felt good to get that off my chest :)

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Archemedes · 02/03/2012 17:44

Oh CDQ, it sucks doesnt it.
then again I havent until today DTD for a few days, I felt actually it helps me to 'chill' a bit.
Do you talk to him about it???
erm maybe you could perhaps sit and say to him although you don't wanna come across are seargant babymaker not making effort feels like wasted time and makes it unbearable towards AF time.

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Archemedes · 02/03/2012 17:44

Yes Pandawatch same ere its horrible isnt it.

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CostumeDramaQueen · 02/03/2012 17:59

Pandawatch - I know what you mean - I don't really want to discuss my TTC in RL but a bit of sensitivity wouldn't go amiss - being griled by relatives as to reluctance/inability to have children so not a big help!
Thanks Archemedes - I am going to plan what I'm going to say to him - we've had a lot of 'serious' conversations recently which hasn't been super sexy!
Thanks for sharing - always helps to know you're not the only one!

PeachesandStrawberry · 04/03/2012 11:15

Hello Ladies,

Can I join.

I have a DS who is 3 this month and we are TTC #2. It has been 5 months and I have been worrying that it is not going to happen. I just need to have my mind taken off of it and maybe it will happen soon.

Hope everyone gets their BFPs soon.

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Archemedes · 04/03/2012 13:25

Yes of course you can,

Aw Hugs Strawberry, Hope yours comes soon.
I hope this thread is the help for you as it has been for me.

Good Luck all.

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Archemedes · 04/03/2012 13:26

I can totally relate with the whole 'need your mind taking off it'

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Chunkychicken · 04/03/2012 14:33

Hi peaches.

I have a lurk/occasional post on this thread now & then to remind myself I'm not alone/completely bonkers. It helps me keep sane to realise that there are other mums out there TTC #2 with the same-ish age gap I'm hoping for & I've not missed the boat/left it too late!! For some reason, I seem to be surrounded by mums/mumstobe with stupidly small age gaps (13mths, 18mths, 2yrs) to name a few & last cycle I had a chem preg that should/would have resulted in a 2.5yr age gap. Since that didn't work out, I feel like its NEVER going to happen, DD will be at school before I'm pg & other irrational thoughts...

Good to have a place to share them :)

PeachesandStrawberry · 04/03/2012 17:16

I know. I sometimes wonder if it is ever going to happen as well.

I fell pregnant quite quickly the first time so I keep wondering why it is taking longer.

Glad I found this thread

StateofConfusion · 04/03/2012 17:28

Hi everyone can I join,

I have a 4yo ds and 3yo dd, both of which I fell pg with in 6mnths, hence the close age gap!

I had two very early mcs last year 6 and 7wks and then in december a missed miscariage at 14wks, I'm still heartbroken. And utterly insanely desperate to be pregnant again.

Af returned in the 28days, then was a few days early and this month is now two days late, I tested yesterday and it was -ive so I'm guessing this isn't my month either.

Ginabambina · 04/03/2012 20:23

hello all,
i have only just started ttc and feel a bit of an outsider on other threads, just got married and only just started and a lot of people are a lot more seasoned than me!
not panicking too much at the mo, got SIL's wedding coming up in 3 months and i'm a bridesmaid, so trying to get that out of the way first! any advice is welcome as i'm a complete novice

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Archemedes · 04/03/2012 20:51

I'm really sorry for your losses StateofConfusion, and wish you good luck for the future and you Gina.

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StateofConfusion · 04/03/2012 21:40

Thank you archemedes

What's everyones top tips for TTC then, unbelievably, I'm clueless!

cockinthepot · 05/03/2012 13:19

Right then, I need a reality check....
Any advice appreciated as I honestly don't know which way is up anymore....

TTC dc3 - this is the 5th month.
In order to do this I have had to stop taking medication for an ongoing health problem. This health problem is now back in full swing and means I spend approximately 5 days in pain/bed/not fit for much every 2 weeks or so.

During pregnancy this health problem tends to be less severe and once baby is born I can resume taking the meds and should be well again after about 3 months.

Dp and both dc are super and help me through every episode but I am definately feeling now there must be a limit to how long I put myself and the rest of us through this....

I think I will always regret not having a 3rd but should I just be grateful for what I've got - I feel such a selfish cow even whining about this as my 2 dc's are amazing and I know I am lucky but......

No one in RL knows we're TTC so therefore have seen me relapse recently so lots of questions there too which are tricky... advice from consultant - hurry up and get pregnant - helpful eh!

Sorry, not really sure what I'm asking for to be honest, probably just feeling sorry for myself (yesterday was a bad day).

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Archemedes · 05/03/2012 14:32

I have none,

where just here for madness lol

I'm crap at this.

erm here goes, Look up your ovulation cycle , theres one on here.
take folic acid if you're not already, and other vitamins are good too.
around your most fertile days stop drinking if you can.

Last of all breathe :)

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Archemedes · 05/03/2012 14:34

I honestly don't know what to suggest, sorry

someone more helpful may be along soon.

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