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Angels and Rainbows - The beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. But it can provide colour and hope.

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Whatevertheweather · 13/01/2012 21:28

“Rainbow Babies” is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn’t mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counter balance of color, energy and hope.

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ciwi · 06/02/2012 09:00

blue it sounds like it's too early for you but how frustrating not knowing when to test. I prefer fr for early testing, I have always had a positive on them before the cbd's. Am keeping my fingers crossed for you x
fan good luck for Monday too, will have my fx for you too x

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 09:16

I hate waiting too blue. I'm alright really I think its a mixture of a slight head cold and not wanting to go back to work after having a long weekend with DH. And also if I feel sorry for myself about a cold then I'm not thinking about symptoms all day long.

Bluetinkerbell · 06/02/2012 09:40

Hmmm don't know what to think now... just went to toilet and ever so slightly spotting when wiping... I really hate my body being so cruel! It did exactly the same last month!
It does mean my cycles are shortening...

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 10:21

blue hugs to you.

Bluetinkerbell · 06/02/2012 10:34

it definitely feels like AF is on its way :( Angry

Whatevertheweather · 06/02/2012 10:41

(((((blue)))))

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blizy · 06/02/2012 10:43

Oh blue, huge hugs sent your way. X

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 14:01

blizy how are you? Did you have a good trip away?

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/02/2012 14:05

I was convinced that AF was coming before I got my BFP, though - crampiness, spotting etc, and I took 2 negative tests before the positive. I wish the symptoms weren't the same! Still, shorter cycles is a good thing, isn't it, because it means you're ovulating more often? In your case, anyway, because your cycles were so long.

Fan, good luck! Hope you feel better soon too.

Wtw, how's the first day back going?

Ciwi and Razz, sorry to hear that you're both struggling too. It's so hard - like Ciwi I'm scared to start going in for monitoring because I'd never be away from the hospital, and I can listen to Bean's heartbeat on the doppler if I need to. I'm currently not seeing the MW again until the 17th, which I agreed on Friday before this last panic attack. I was quite cheerful on Friday because Bean was dancing the fandango. I've got the consultant on the 16th and nothing between now and then. The MW did say to phone her if I was worried at all, so I could ask for an earlier appt. Angel, I think work is going to help me too. At least when I'm here I'm distracted. Razz, I know what you mean about part of you wishing for a 34 week delivery! When I was being monitored on Thursday DH was really hoping I was going into labour just so it would all be over. What you said about never going through another pregnancy has really struck me, because I do want more children (assuming Bean is ok, please God). If Thea had lived I would now be starting to think about baby no 2, and I do want Bean to have siblings. I think it is going to take a long time to pluck up the courage, though.

Bluetinkerbell · 06/02/2012 14:12

it's very annoying when symptoms are the same for AF and pregnancy indeed.
I have some brownish discharge on pantyliner, and a little on wiping but no red blood...
Told DH that if I'm not pregnant now, he will have to perform on every single day I have a high and peak reading Wink
But we will have to wait and see whether this turns out to be proper AF or not...
thanks for all the hugs... it helps that other people are thinking about me :)

blizy · 06/02/2012 14:30

Too, razz and ciwi- I can't imagine how you must be feeling hugs to you all.

Fan- in ok'ish thanks. I had a lovely weekend. I met with a lady from the feb ante/postnatal thread. It was fab!

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 14:40

blue I've just sent u a facebook message, its about a fellow mumsnetter whose dh had put a filter on their computer so she can't access mumsnet. I think she made me a friend through you, I've just been messaging her to say if she needs some support to message me anytime she likes. Can't believe her DH has done this to her.

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/02/2012 15:44

Shock Someone's DH has blocked them from accessing MN? Shock Angry I would give DH his head to play with if he did any such thing! Hope your friend is okay - sounds like there's some back story there.

Bluetinkerbell · 06/02/2012 16:16

thank for that fan it's ridiculous that he has done that!

it is AF Angry I really thought we had managed it this month... don't know whether I should go back to temping or not...

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 16:43

I'm so sorry its AF blue.

blizy · 06/02/2012 17:07

Blue- Sad for you.

Fan- I seen that earlier, I would be lost without mn, it is my sole support network well apart from Dh.

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/02/2012 17:49

Oh boo, Blue.

AngelGeorgie · 06/02/2012 18:10

Blue xxxx sorry xxxx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 06/02/2012 18:11

blue sorry to hear that. Sad think I might be the same, AF due on Thurs, and while temps and stats look good in theory, don't feel pg at all. So trying not to get excited.

too, ciwi and razz hold in there ladies!! we are here for you, thinking of you, and admiring you. Thanks

blizy / fan / blue also seen that FB post. Not sure how to help...

Whatevertheweather · 06/02/2012 18:34

Oh blue that bastarding witch Sad Big hugs lovely, I know this month held extra significance for you xx

Fan fx for you that she does not show up xx

I also saw the fb post but think I missed something as didn't see it was her h that blocked access??

Well first day back at work done. Was actually okay until I finally got access to my emails and it loaded straight up to 25/08/11 as the last time I logged in. I was emailing clients at 4.30pm, not having any clue that my whole world was to cave in just 4hrs later. Unbelievable. I also saw the brief email I sent from my blackberry 2 days after to a few colleagues saying what had happened. The disbelief and confusion in the words is palpable yet I'm calming outlining what needs to be done on some cases I was working on. There was also some sympathy emails from colleagues that were hard to read. Took me right back to the early days of receiving cards etc. Luckily someone spotted the tears and took me outside to compose myself. I felt like a bit of an imposter but am sure that will pass.

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Bluetinkerbell · 06/02/2012 18:54

Thanks all! sometimes I think is it ever going to happen? :( Of the 6 days I had Highs and Peaks on CBFM we dtd 4 days out of 6 with last peak day twice that day, but didn't day after... I don't know what more we could do than try to SWI every single day...

wtw well done for getting through today and reading those emails! ((hugs)) x

Mias hopefully it's a BFP for you soon! I will start CD1 tomorrow... which makes this a 30 day cycle.

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 19:44

wtw I pm'd her and she told me her DH had put a filter on the computer so she can't see or access mumsnet or netmums. I'm appalled really, DH can't believe it. I have tried to encourage her to talk to him tonight to tell him how she needs this support network. Apparently he doesn't want their personal business on the forum.

Anyway, I'm so sorry blue I guess you just have to carry on, I read there's only a 24% chance each month and that's only if the sperm reaches the egg. I know it depressing. I think swi every other day is the best way to go rather than every day. Make sure your taking your vitamins that DH is taking his (zinc and vit c) also no hot baths etc. I'm sure you do all this already. We just have to keep trying hun, that's all we can do. It sucks, it sucks big time. As I said once before wouldn't it be nice if we came on heat like dogs or our pee changed colour when we were fertile!

How are you pg ladies doing?

cheese how's ella I hope she's behaving herself and getting stronger, maybe she's already home with you.

Waves to all.

fanjodisfunction · 06/02/2012 19:52

wtw meant to say, that must have so difficult to read. Well done for getting through the day. Are you full time or is it a phased return?

Whatevertheweather · 06/02/2012 19:54

Oh crumbs fan that's not good, didn't even know it was possible to do such things on computers Sad I only ever access through my phone.

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TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 06/02/2012 20:13

Wtw, for making it through Day 1. It's amazing how quickly you'll settle back in, though. I'm so sorry you had to go through all your old emails like that and found some upsetting ones. How long were you off for? I was off for 18 weeks including the annual leave I took before Thea was born, so nearly 6 weeks before she arrived and 12 afterwards. Then I managed about 3 weeks on phased return before getting signed off for a further 6 weeks. I did just slot back into place very swiftly - probably the fact I work for local government where things change very slowly helped there.

Miasmum, FX for you!

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