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mid 30s, TTC #1, 2 years so far, fed up. anyone else?

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CaipirinhasAllRound · 13/01/2012 18:51

Just wondering how many of us there are in the same boat

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CaipirinhasAllRound · 18/10/2012 13:09

Hi all, new and old

I'm on my phone in the office so this will be short

I'm still waiting for day 1. Been spotting and getting mild pain for the past 36 hours but it's still not here

And I didn't get an interview for the job I applied for - not enough 'gravitas' apparently!

Hope you're all doing ok
X

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missbrightside · 20/10/2012 08:52

Hello all.

Mad Mut Welcome ! (But sorry you find yourself on the shit boat !) I don't think there can be any objections to having private tests along NHS ones to speed things up (in fact, the NHS would probably thank you for it !)

FabiOne I've only just properly read your name - I think I always write Fabio ! Sorry to hear that you have been through the mill with it all. I do hope you are feeling much better. Am afraid I have zero experience of Laps or endo removal - but if (as I understand they would) some of your womb lining was removed I wouldn't have thought it would be completely implausible that it would delay your cycle (errr .. maybe I should just shut up and stop giving medical advice that I am certainly not qualified to give !) It must be a man thing with Miranda as my partner has a complete irrational dislike of her ! I've watched most of the episodes on my own on the i-player to avoid him chatting throughout it !

Caiphirinas Tell the interviewer to stuff their gravitas ! I would really struggle at an interview now - I haven't had one for the best part of 10 years !!! Hope CD1 has arrived .... !

Not Now Did you manage to book any open evenings ? I must let you know that - after a flurry of visits to the Agora this week (I've had a scan every other day) - so far I haven't been able to fault them. Since our last cycle they have got quite a few new members of staff - and consequently appointments have been on time, the nurses have had longer with you on each consultation, and any phone queries have been responded to promptly (all of these factors were small bug bears but which left an overall bad impression of the capabilities of the clinic).

Have had a manic week of combining visits to the clinic (plus an intralipid on Monday) with work. But have jigged some things around (needs must !) and now have two weeks off work ahead of me .... ! Phew ! Am scheduled for egg collection on Wednesday. I'm trying to be very positive about this cycle. Probably due to a change in stimming medication I have responded completely differently this time. Last time I had an 'alright' number of eggs (10) which developed quickly and were 'ok' quality. This time I have (a predicted) greater number of eggs which have developed much slower. This should (hopefully) have a bearing on egg quality (ie : they should be better). Time will tell I suppose .... !

Am going to try very hard to avoid anything fertility related for the next couple of weeks. I've got a list of 1001 things that I always maintain that I don't have time to do (nothing exciting I hasten to add - mainly boring jobs around the home !) - so I'm going to do them !!! If I don't end up with a baby I may at least end up with my life a bit more in order ! I completely wasted the last two weeks I had off work by looking at pictures of other people's embryos !!!!!

So I'll wish you all well for the next couple of weeks. I'll let you know how we get on .................... !

Take care all xxx

notnowImreading · 22/10/2012 07:52

Good luck Brightside

CaipirinhasAllRound · 22/10/2012 10:48

I second that, fingers crossed missbrightside

CD1 finally happened yesterday so should start sniffing in a couple of weeks

Hope everyone else is ok

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LesleyKnope · 24/10/2012 16:28

Hi all! Sorry I've been a bit quiet, house renovations have totally taken over my life & I was hoping to get some time to reply from my laptop so I can see all msgs & reply properly but it never seems to happen so decided to try a quick msg on my phone.
Good luck Brightside! Sounds like things are lining up v well & hopefully you'll have a busy couple of weeks ahead - fingers & toes crossed you'll be departing shit boat ASAP!
FabiOne - I had hysteroscopy & laparoscopy 2 weeks ago - turns out I had prominent septum which he's corrected but i seem to have opposite problem as I haven't stopped bleeding. Dr doesn't seem worried but I'm well & truly cheesed off with it. I found lap was way rougher than I expected but kind of glad I didn't know as otherwise I might have struggled to go through with it!
Hope everyone else is ship shape on this shit boat - big hugs & sod gravitas - we have serious balls to go through what we do!
Xxx

CaipirinhasAllRound · 26/10/2012 18:35

Hey Lesley, we've got another weekend of DIY planned. I can't wait til it's all over so we can just enjoy our weekends rather than either doing DIY or feeling guilty about not doing DIY!

All our IVF drugs have arrived to day. I've just had a look through everything and wow, there is a lot. Seems really serious now!

Hope everyone is okay and have a good weekend all
xx

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Pomatron · 31/10/2012 23:01

Hi I was hoping you may have room for another slightly bitter and twisted long term ttcer?
My other half n I have now been ttc for 2 years with absolutely no hint of that little line appearing on the test strip. Frankly I'm starting to get more than a little pissed that nothing has happened when everywhere I turn there is yet another pregnant women or a 3 month scan appearing on Facebook. I nearly laughed out loud the other day when someone I know announced her 2nd pregnancy along with the helpful comment of "it had been 2 months and we were starting to worried that we might have probs".... Two months try two years!
I'm sorry realised that may not be the best intro to me, I'm not always such a negative ranting nancy :)

LesleyKnope · 01/11/2012 07:49

Hi caprinhas! What renos are you doing? My current dilemma is wanting marble in the kitchen but knowing its not a practical choice :( when do you start ivf drugs?
Not now - what news? Hope all's well.
Welcome Pomatron! But sorry you're here - we've been trying since Jan 2010 so fast approaching our 3rd anniversary (although 3 miscarriages & 2 negative IVF rounds en route). Just found out v overweight girl at work is expecting her third child - joy - that'll be another nice marker of months passing by without a BFP as I approach my 37th birthday! Sorry feeling v v grumpy about it all today!! Xx

LesleyKnope · 01/11/2012 07:52

Ps FabiOne - how are you? Has period reappeared? I think surgery really messes things around...

missbrightside · 01/11/2012 10:00

Hello girls

I managed a whole week or so not looking on the internet (did help that I had lots of appointments to keep me busy) but now I've reverted to my mad googling self ....... !

Pomatron Welcome - there is always room for another ! Deactivate your facebook - it's liberating !!!!!!!!

Lesley Sorry that you are having a bad day - hope that by now you have recovered from your procedures. Could a (now corrected !) prominent septum have previously caused difficulties ? Don't get me started on overweight pregnant people. There's one where I work too ....

Caiphirinas Have you started downregging yet ? How exciting. Needless to say I'm sending you every good wish.

Not Now How are things with you ?

Not really sure what to say about how our second cycle has gone so far. All went really well to egg collection - got a good number of eggs - good initial fertilisation rate - and then all went rapidly downhill with (again) our embryo quality not being good. Had two embryo's transferred on Monday but they were the only two (out of an initial 10) that were viable for transfer and they weren't even at the blast stage that they should have been. Lets just say I left in tears feeling like it was totally game over ..... ! I've cheered up a bit (thanks to a bit of selective googling) as I'm not the first person to have been in this situation and there are some nice success stories out there - and am going to just try and focus on staying positive until we know one way or another next week ..... !

Although - I don't know if mother nature is having a f**ing laugh at my expense - as I've woken up this morning looking about 4 months pregnant. My stomach is so bloated. I'm normally quite slender and so it's really noticeable (luckily it's cold so I can get away with wearing a big baggy jumper !) I'm quite sure it's explained by the cocktail of steroids and daily injections in my stomach & arse for the last two months - but as I'm off work I'm going to milk it and at least pretend I'm pregnant !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh lordy me, I've totally totally lost it now !!!

Right - I'm now typing a thesis about myself - I've been up hours and haven't managed to do anything constructive yet !!!

Take care all xxx

CaipirinhasAllRound · 01/11/2012 12:43

Hi everyone

Welcome Pomatron Facebook is a bloody nightmare isn't it. Today seems to be 'look at my halloween themed child'. I looked to deactivate my account last week but couldn't figure out how to do it

missbrightside sorry the you didn't get more fertilised eggs but figures crossed that the ones you did get are stubborn little things that cling on for dear life!! I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I start down regging next week and at the moment think I'll start injections on the 28th Nov. How much time have you taken off? I've booked the week when they do egg collections and transfer off but not sure if I need to take any time after that off? We've got an all day Christmas meeting and party the week after transfer which we're all meant to go to but I've told my boss I'm not going

Lesley what aren't we doing! we put in an upstairs bathroom last year as we only had a downstairs one and we're now on the stairs and lounge but there have been issues with our chimney that still aren't resolved. We put in a new front door last week and feel we're making progress but I don't think we'll be back in the lunge until after Christmas (we haven't been in there since at least May!) what are you doing?

Notnow how are things with you?

we're going to the coast for 2 nights this weekend which has worked out perfectly as it's the last weekend before I start with the drugs and potentially turn into an arsey emotional wreck!

hope yo're all okay
xxx

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missbrightside · 01/11/2012 13:27

Not long now Caiphirinas !

I will have had two full weeks off. Egg collection was last Wed - and transfer this Monday - so it straddled into the two weeks. My main reason for wanting some time off post transfer was to avoid my long and stressful commute (which is often spent sitting on the train floor !!) as opposed to work. If I worked nearer to home I probably would have gone in.

I convinced myself that I would use my time off constructively but so far all I've done is a) watch crap b) read crap c) google things. Actually, that's a lie. I have done a bit of knitting !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Enjoy your trip to the coast.

Pomatron · 01/11/2012 20:05

Why would you dress a baby in a Halloween outfit anyway!
Seems a few of you have already started with the ivf, we have had all tests and I had lap n dye but they didn't find anything untoward. Our NHS trust states you have to have been trying for 3years if they can't find a prob to get 1 free round. So thinking we may have to go private... Or lie Hmm... The new NICE guidelines are saying 2 years tho (even tho most NHS trusts ignore them). Interested to know if any of you are with trusts that have different criteria?
I'm in my thirties and hate all this waiting :(

CaipirinhasAllRound · 01/11/2012 22:22

Where do you live pomatron? I'm in east berks and ours is 3 years and under 35 yrs old for 1 free go. I'm 35 in about 6 weeks so have just snuck in

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CaipirinhasAllRound · 05/11/2012 18:33

hope everyone had a good weekend

how are you feeling missbrightside?

We had a really good weekend in Devon and spent most of the weekend eating - perfect!

I start sniffing this Wednesday and have decided to book a week and a half off round collection and transfer

xxxx

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missbrightside · 06/11/2012 09:20

All the very best to you for tomorrow Caiphirinas. Glad you had a nice relaxing weekend before you started.

Our test day is tomorrow. Have managed to show levels of restraint I never knew I had and haven't tested early ..... I've literally got one test left over from last time and that's the only one I'm going to do .....

Hope everyone else is well.

xx

CaipirinhasAllRound · 06/11/2012 18:44

missbrightside I really hope it's good news tomorrow, good luck
and well done on the restraint - am very impressed!
xx

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FabiOne · 06/11/2012 21:21

Caipirinhas and missbrightside - good luck to you both for tomorrow for different reasons. Really hope things go your way. Miss bright side, will you test at home tomorrow or have to go somewhere?

Pomatron - welcome aboard! Some people have it so easy on the conception front don't they. My friend got married at the start of August and just announced she's pregnant, honeymoon baby. Grrrr! Then there was the fifth girl on my floor (of about ten women altogether) who announced she was pregnant and didn't find out until she was 11 weeks. Makes me so jealous that these people have no problems at all. Why can't it be easy for all of us!

lesley - period did arrive in the end thanks. was two days late. now we are on the 2ww. oh the joys of symptom spotting!
I know all about house renovation so I feel your pain. We moved in nearly a year ago and have spent the last 6 months spending every evening and weekend painting, sanding and wallpapering! The only positive is we have a lovely spare room ready for a cot to go in once its needed.

Completely agree on the whole Facebook thing. If people aren't putting up their scan photos they're putting up pics of theirs kids first day at school. WHO GIVES A FLYING SHIT!! Although I am very suspicious when someone leaves Facebook. I keep expecting them to come back announcing their pregnancy (which has happened a few times previously). Bitches!

By the way has anyone seen any of the latest threads from loup19? I was keeping an eye on them but then they disappeared, wondered what she decided to do about the pregnancy in the end and her shit of a husband.

missbrightside · 07/11/2012 20:36

Another negative ... totally totally gutted ... feeling very despondent with it all right now ....

Hope everyone else is having a better day ....

xx

FabiOne · 07/11/2012 21:47

Ah missbrightside that is shit news. Is that a definite for this attempt or could you get BFP in the next couple of days? Big hugs xxx

CaipirinhasAllRound · 07/11/2012 21:59

So sorry missbrightside, that is shitty news
Look after yourself and have a big glass of wine
big hugs from me too xxx

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notnowImreading · 07/11/2012 22:03

Raaaahhhhhh!
It's so fucking unfair, Brightside - so sorry. I really thought this was your month. Take care of yourself. X

Pomatron · 07/11/2012 22:20

A little question for you ladies after trying for so long have any of you found your OH to be really uncaring, insensitive and selfish (like oh it's all about me)
Caipirinhas I'm in Oxford, I did read that Berkshire, Buckinghamshire and Oxfordshire all have same policy. Just wish they would follow the bloody NICE guidelines :( I need to get my hormone levels checked again though as my cycles have started to change (they have always been so regular).
missbrightside I'm real sorry to hear your news. Take care x

missbrightside · 07/11/2012 22:29

Thank you girls for sharing in my frustration with it all !! I just really am struggling now to understand how it has come to be that this has turned out so bloody difficult ...... !

(Caiphirinas please do ignore me as I certainly don't want to discourage you as you start today. I do hope that your first 'sniff' went well).

xx

LesleyKnope · 07/11/2012 22:53

Oh brightside that's gutting. So sorry. Hope you're doing ok. It's bloody tough & bloody unfair. Keep the faith though - you WILL get there.

Pomatron - my OH is ok but it's really affected his sex drive, he says I'm just a bit of a stress head & it's all so focused on baby making. I hate what all this has done to me, I used to love a drink & to party, but now I can't relax as well & feel guilty that booze might even further damage my crappy eggs. It sucks!