Anyone ttc baby no 2?

[theladyintheyellowhat]

Hi everyone!

Just wondering if anyone is trying for baby number 2?

I've been 'sort of' trying for two months, but this month am really determined! I think i'm supposed to ovulate this wednesday, so BD'd today, yesterday... etc!!

I have a 15 month old DD....

Sorry Huppo, I wonder what that is about? Bloody bodies playing mind games with us. Are you often late? Or clockwork?

I agree totally with what you said about mistaking premenstral symptoms with pregnancy symptoms. I have been convinced that my boobs were sore like they were with DD but now it's fine totally. Dint think this month has been successful, worried that we totally missed my ov. I'm confused by the cewm! Hay ho just have to wait and see.

Hello I really don't know, since my periods came back in June they've never been late! I did another sneaky test this morning, just to be sure, and it's definitely negative. And AF is now 5 days overdue.... I want it to come now so the cycle can start again. I even looked at an ovulation prediction kit in Boots this morning. I'm too old to leave this much longer!

Hello you are so right, the whoe theme of this ttc business is 'wait and see'; what else can we do?!

Sorry Huppo for your BFN - its very frustrating when your cycle goes whack when before its been so steady and predictable.

As I mentioned earlier in the thread, my cycle was much shorter for the first time ever last month totally confusing me. To add to my confusion I've now been charting with Fertility Friend iPhone App for 2 cycles. Cycle one (the weird short one) said ov was on CD18 and AF came CD21. Usually AF is CD30. This cycle it is saying ov was CD11 (???) and AF predicted for CD21 in which case we have missed the boat as didnt start SWI until CD12. I started OP Kits from CD11 and they have all been negative so I am convinced I havent ovulated yet but the temperature charting is suggesting I have. Arrghghg! Why is this not more simple and clear.

Feel like I basically 'might' ovulate any time in a 3 week window! Not exactly precise.

Good luck everyone will be checking back regularly to see how you all get on!

Can I join you all? I bring wine and left over valentines choccies! Hubbie and I just started ttc number 2 and I just have a funny feeling it won't be as easy this time. Hope i'm wrong! Xx

Welcome Wine

God I have eaten way too much chocolate today but of course wine is always appreciated :)

Are you of the group which is still bf and mad enough to want a baby whilst the current one is still little? Our DD is 4 months.

Not quite, Breastfed for 13mths and DS now 14 months. Didn't feel ready any sooner but full respect to those who do. Don't want too big a gap so keen to crack on now!

yes, just wanted to write this down somewhere, don't know who I can talk to about this and feeling a bit self indulgent.... Don't know whether I'm kidding myself, but we've been trying in my head since about September, but circumstances keep getting in the way. EG: DD1 ill and not sleeping one month, DH ill and too tired the next month, MIL's wedding 7 hour drive away the next month (knocked out a few days, both whacked from drive, next night dd1 hyper due to wedding and not sleeping, then drive home), next month Xmas, another 7 hour drive, next month DH goes out, stays out unusually late, knocks out two nights as next night he is too tired and falls asleep on couch at 8pm. DD1 goes to bed at 8.30 (if we're lucky). Trying not to mention whole TTC thing to DH, as I recognise how obsessed I am with it, so don't want to bang on at him. Hence why I didn't mention the date clash when he went out and got drunk, just told myself that it would be fine, we had one more night that cycle. It wasn't due to him falling fast asleep so early. Now I have the week marked on the calendar, have told DH I will not be going out, we will not be having any house guests and it would be greatly appreciated if he would also not go out, but he's an adult so that's up to him... I know I'm totally ott, but I don't see how else to get this going. Anyone else find similar problems? Am I kidding myself? At 36 is it just that I am now infertile?? My sister can't believe that I know when I ovulate, let alone know whether we have dtd at the right time. She just falls pregnant by accident. She is younger.

welcome wine....ooh, wine, I could murder some right now! I breastfed my DD for 13 months and she's now 17 months and I only now feel like I'm ready to do it again! For me, I think bf that late made me feel like DD was still a baby that needed a lot of physical attention. She now seems so independent that I've had a rush of broodiness! This will be our 4th cycle of TTC but my cycles are short so it doesn't seem like we've been trying for ages. Took about 5 months for DD but seemed like an eternity.
pink does your DH want to TTC as much as you? if so you shouldnt have to tell him not to go out on nights when you should be DTD. I agree that we can get a bit obsessed with TTC which is not very sexy so I dont make a big deal about having sex on particular nights but once evvery few days during your fertile week(s) should cover your bases. I dont know when I ovulate either (bloody ov sticks never show a positive for me!) but regular sex should do the trick unless you have super long cycles or something and can't keep it up all month . Good luck!

Just realised dc is 15months..... Never was good at Maths! After bf for so long (I also had to give up dairy while feeding as dc has a nasty dairy allergy & reacted to cows milk protein in my milk!) and on a restricted diet for pregnancy & bf I felt I needed a few months to get my body back & eat/drink what I like!!
Pink - sorry to hear you're so frustrated. Agree with bewler. Every other day should hopefully cover your bases. Hope it falls into place for you this month.

Wow a nice a busy thread:)

Debussy your cycle looks confusing to me! It looks like you will have to do 3 weeks of SWI [yawnemotion]. I know it's been said before but we spend years obsessing about NOT getting pregnant to then find out that it is bloody complicated TO get pregnant!

wine welcome! Thanks for the wine, i have to confess that due to my gut that I'm nit up the duff I had a very small glad of White wine [Blush].

pink feel free to come on here and vent, I think there is always someone who us experiencing something similar. I hope you tie your husband down this month. Well not literally unless that's your thing!

Ok I'll leave now!!!

Off to watch OBEM to depress myself.

Hi ladies, can I join too please ?

DH and I are trying again for #2 after a MMC on 6th Jan this year.

Took a year of trying for that one, so thought you ladies might bring me some luck. Am 42 in June so need to get on with things. Haven't yet had AF since ERPC but we are still trying as I fell for DD 8 days after ectopic and tube removal so I have been on it right away.

Doing a combination of weekly pregnancy tests and daily Ovulation tests, good job I bought some cheapies as nothing yet :o(.

Thanks for all the words of wisdom and support. How much can change in 24 hours. We won't be trying this month at all. I think that's a good thing. Hopefully we'll be able to start again soon and we'll both be absolutely ready.. in my head we've been trying for months, but think my DH is only ready now. We had a chat about it after the other news... Found out that my brother needs a transplant, most likely from a sibling. They won't take transplants from pregnant women nor for one year post-natally. So, the trying is off until i've either donated or been crossed off the possibles list. Hopefully, I'll be able to donate. :)

blimey pink, so sorry about your brother . I think its very selfless and brave of you to be so forthcoming about donating. He is lucky to have you as a sister!

Welcome Heels, really sorry about your MMC, really hope this thread brings you luck. I am CD 12 and SWI is in full swing (er, obviously not right now) so fingers crossed. Off to a hotel with DH for my birthday on saturday - our first night away from DD. When she was younger I couldn't bear the thought of leaving her overnight, she's now sleeping like such a rotter that I can't bloody wait for a night off!! We are going to have to combine DH's fantasy night of honeymoon type sex and raunchy undies with my fantasy of going to the spa and reading my book in the bath with a glass of wine and going to sleep and NOT BEING WOKEN UP until morning!

pinktrike I was 39 when I had DD so I wouldn't worry about toy being past it.

Thanks Bewler. Thats a difficult combination lol maybe you need two nights away. Hope you enjoy it. We have just had 5 nights away in Egypt, missed DD like made as I felt just so far away. She is a good sleeper so Nana doesn't mind having her.

heels how old is your DD? I cant wait till my DD sleeps a bit better so I can palm her off onto grandparents for a night every now and then. She's easy to settle but does keep waking up for a drink of water and a cuddle which is getting a bit tedious! She sleeps through sometimes but other nights she can wake 2 or 3 times so quite unpredictable. I can spy a few new teeth on their way so maybe that's it. Who knows!

Hi Bewler, she is 2.5 today actually but has been sleeping 7.30pm to 7am since she was about 10 months old which is fab. Obviously we have the odd might where she wakes but a kiss and back rub normally does the trick. Thing is when she does wake I get all moody becasue I am so used to her going through lol

Hello all, can I join you? I come bearing cupcakes!

DS1 has just turned 1 on Sunday and I was SO emotional about it! Obviously, I'm over the moon he's so happy and healthy and all that jazz, but have to say that I am really struggling to get to grips with the fact that he is rapidly approaching toddlerhood and I really miss my little baby! :(

DH had (kind of) agreed to start TTC in April/May so that there would be a 2 yr age gap if all went to plan, and I was keen to avoid a baby being born in November/December/January.

However...Valentine's day was also our third anniversary and we had our first 24hrs away from DS in a hotel! I've been temping for the last 4-5 months to not get pg (felt quite weird looking at when NOT to DTD, esp as that is when I feel most like doing it hahaha!!!), so knew we needed to take precautions, which we did...the first time! We had, for the first time in nearly 2yrs, the most wonderfully indulgent evening in bed and ended up throwing caution to the wind! The next morning, I had a temperature spike and am now on the 2ww!

So, I was hoping I am allowed in, even though I'm not actually TTC officially and will wait if unsuccessful this month, but know I will need support this next two weeks as I drive myself crazy waiting!

Pipsicles- how exciting! Fingers crossed for you. We also started ttc on valentines. Ds 15months and been thinking about it awhile and had talked about it way too much. Was time for some action :p Great you got a night off and could have some time together. Fingers crossed for you! Waiting is crazy and u look for every detail... I was lucky and got preg quickly first time. Hope it's not too long this time. Am not very patient but cupcakes help!!

How exciting Pops, fx for you.

We areoff ttc for the next 3 weeks now whilst we wait for some dodgey smear results for mr, not worried about the results as I often have to have it checked but naffed off that we have to wait, its hard enough whilst ebf without adding 3 weeks to it :(

Quick update here ... now 8 days late for my normally clockwork period ... the tests I've done have been negative but I am getting less convinced by their '99% accurate' claims.

Are you going to do a test this morning Huppo?

Mine kept saying negative for weeks with DD.

Hi Cheshire, no I'm not testing this morning, although today I have convinced myself that there MUST be a good reason for my cycle being so delayed! When I'm back in town for work tomorrow, I might invest in another test. I seem to remember I got a few negatives before finding out I was pregnant with DD, but I'd just come off the pill so my cycle was very very unpredictable.

And before I get a BFP, I'm still allowed cheese and red wine, right?!

Heels what a good girl your DD is! Although 7 is quite early for me because I'm a lazy cow - if we have a night time waking or two she usually goes through till 8. Still I would man up to early wakings if she did start going through more often

Huppo thats mega exciting!! fx you get your BFP! That would be great!

Pips welcome! We had a night in a hotel this weekend and I'm now on the 2ww too (well, its CD15 and I'm averaging 23-26 day cycles). Best bit was DTD in a warm room! At home I'm reluctant to relinquish my pj top as its fricking freezing!! hope you got lucky in more ways than one!

Cheshire sorry about your smear how annoying to have to put things on hold. Hope everything is ok though.

How is eveyone else?

Huppo def stock up on the cheese and any wine I say

Hi everyone,

Pink so sorry to hear about your brother, best of luck for whatever the next few months hold.

Pips good luck with the dreaded 2WW, can I just ask why you wanted to avoid having a baby in Nov/Dec/Jan? Too close to Xmas?

Huppo it all sounds a bit odd if you ask me, I'm holding out hope that you'll get a BFP when you test next time. Fingers crossed for you!

We've started SWI here, today is day 14 of my cycle but I'm pretty sure I don't ovulate until day 23ish. But no harm doing some warm-ups I say ! I'll be in the UK next weekend (live in Barcelona) without DH which is awful timing.... So I'm pretty convinced that this isn't going to be our month. But hey ho, trying to stay relaxed about it instead of my normal neurotic self...