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Ratata thats exactly what i felt like. when he punched the wall i got that horrible feeling for that poor girl. hope he holds his temper better with her.

on an unrelated note... and possibly tmi Af is due in 6 days but noticed a light brown discharge tonight.... could i be the luckiest person alive and conceive in 3 weeks. doubt it. iv been reading to many of these threads i think.

Yeah I really hope he isn't like that with her or the baby. I had a total lump in my throat when the baby was put on the table and not breathing.

NearlyDunne I hope you are the luckiest person alive :) Woo lets symptom spot :D I've been doing a lot of that. I should stop obsessing...

Glad to know I'm not the only one obsessed at times though.

I didn't think i would be like this at all but when your on here and every one is talking about it. i wouldn't have even thought that was a symptom until reading things on here.
Sure we shall just have to wait and see :)

Raspberry i am so sorry :( I really hope it happens soon, i am seriously sending concentrated babydust good wishes. I am so sorry you've been so sad today. :/

Ratata crikey, I am thinking it is sounding very positive! Having the wring days doesn't seem to rule things out, i am starting to suspect, so gosh, go for it on Saturday when you test. We will all be here glued for the results!

Soooo, the last pill has been taken. Soon it'll be all systems go!

I have a question though. I've been on Microgynon for about 6 or 7 years. Should I expect any side effects from stopping it? I never used to suffer massively from mood swings or anything like that so hoping not, but any experiences?

Oh yes, a friend of mine announced she was pregnant a few days ago. I'm really happy for her, but slightly jealous (in a good way!) Fingers crossed I won't be too far behind her!

Good Lukc Ratata with the pg test at the weekend!

I also love OBEM, it's fascinating and really shows that you just don't know what's going to happen on the day!

Shamefully I also love 16 and Pregnant on MTV.... though being very American they seem to have an entirely different system..... all interesting though. And a little bit terrifying!

Just a quick hello from me

Feeling a bit down, argued with DH the other day about this whole TTCing bollox. He says I'm stressing too much and everything I do and say is about getting pg. He's right of course, but he doesn't understand how it feels to be so out of control and worried it'll never happen etc etc. He says he's worried we're falling apart, as am I. We never have fun anymore. We have virtually no sex life and I want to get it back, but he reckons the only reason I want a sex life is to get pg but that's not true, I just want a better sex life. He says sex is boring. He thinks we can get pg naturally but that I want to rush IVF just so I can get pg, but after 19 months of TTCing I honestly don't be.ieve we can get pg naturally so of course I want to move onto the next step, which might actually result in a baby. He also says I'm so hung up on getting pg he thinks he's not enough for me. Which is sad but true. I love him to bits and don't ever want us to break up but he can't provide everything I need and we've been together 8 years and just the two of us is getting boring and I'm lonely.

Anyway, we've made up but it's just a matter of time before the arguing starts again We're away this weekend (though AF is due) so hopefully we can forget about TTCing for a couple of days and have some fun.

Hi the the newbies (sorry for being miserable) and hope everyone is ok x

Raspberry - Regarding the XBox sharing that will go out the window. My brothers and I do a secret santa (four of us all with partners) and this year DH got the Cars2 game. With shocking speed DSS1 sidled over to him, onto his lap and reiterated everything we have ever told them about sharing. We were all wetting ourselves laughing but he's played it more than DH. The Kindle is especially great for kids (stepsons are 6 and 3) and I hate kids using consoles.

Hey guys
feeling odd today my tummy felt really tight on the inside if you know what i mean like id eaten to much. But i hadnt and my back was kinda sore. i have been on the pill so long i dont remember if it is what my af feels like. i actually feel silly even posting it.
Has anyone had that b4?

Josie I am so sorry about the fight. It is definitely stressful. But he clearly loves you very much and the time away will help too?

Hi girls! I was all ready to kick myself up the arse but have had a bit of a stressful day. I've just started a thread in General Health which will explain it a bit more..
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/1376956-Anyone-had-ovarian-cancer

Bit stressed out by it all - feel free to comment but I didn't want to re-write it all!

Josie I'm sorry to hear you and DP are struggling a bit. It is a stressful process and I don't think men will ever understand. I very often have to consciously back off with DH and remind myself that it is not all about having a baby, I want his baby so if I scare him off then it kind of defeats the object. I read quite a good article the other day about maintaining a healthy relationship and one of the things they suggested doing was reminiscing about the days when you got together, do something you did when you first met, look at old photos and talk about it, what made you happy back then as it helps keep things in perspective and I think there is some truth in that. Can you take a few days out and do lots of talking but not about the problems, talk about the nice things, the things you love about one another. It is very hard. pm me if you want to have a chat off thread.

Waiting your DSS sounds hilarious! I suppose we must practice what we preach though!

Anyway, I'll post in later but I really need a bath and I am completely knackered so might try and get an early night.

Hi, hope it's okay if I join in! I'm new to MN but have been lurking for awhile...

Our situation is that we originally started TTC in November 2009 and I was charting obsessed for about 6 months, with no luck. I then had a bad relapse of a chronic illness so we stopped TTC for the remainder of 2010 and all of 2011 while I got back on my feet with my health- it's a long term condition so it's still an issue, but I've improved enough that we felt we could give TTC another go. So it's technically cycle 1 for me on this go-around, but it's not really, if that makes sense.

I'm either just about to or have just ovulated so we've been pretty busy this week! This month was pretty casual but think I will break out the OPKs next month if nothing happens. On the down side I have a bad cold...which put a bit of a damper on the whole 'yay I'm ovulating!' thing. :P

Oh, and I'm 27, DH 26, married 3 years!

Hi everyone, thanks for the support, it really helps, and good advice in there too. I feel like we're a bit closer now, we've cleared the air a bit. I'm very difficult to live with so he's doing really well to put up with me (I even got sick of my own voice complaining this morning so god knows how he copes with me!) Looking forward to this weekend away, and AF is due so no pressure for a dirty weekend and then we're off together next week so can have some fun. I'm visiting a friend next week aswell, and maybe her daughter, who really reminds me what it's all about, and although I'm scared of my neices and nephews (something to do with the rest of the family judging how I am with them) I'm not scared of my friend's little girl because I don't feel like anyone is watching how I am around her so I can play and have fun, which I never get to do, so could be some good therapy.

Thanks Raspberry, I'll PM you

Welceom Mercredi

Hi mercredi welcome
josie im glad things are a little better now and i hope the weekend makes you a little closer.

nearly spot anymore maybe symptoms? I have been paying attention, but nothing here. Ertd due in 6 days now.

Also discovered that poas tests are much cheaper here in australia than they are at home in canada. $9 for 3 tests vs $15 for one! Now I have 6 sitting in my luggage. Going to leave them behind for our weekend trip, cause it's going to be tempting!

well im like a bear today so i think af is on its way. poor old dp is getting told off for being nice.
tests on ebay are dirt cheap and apparently are good. i ordered some :)
i want to test but know it will be negative. iv turned into a mental ttc-er.

A colleague/friend just found out she's 20 weeks pg. I'm gutted but I know they've been trying longer than us but haven't been for any tests. And I don't see her very often so I can pretend it's not happening.

NearlyDunne I have been like a bear all week. I was in the car with DH yesterday morning and had to actually tell myself to shut up and stop moaning cos I was sick of the sound of my own voice!

Knock knock....

Raspberry just read your thread and replied on it. Hope everything is ok.

Sorry most of you probably don't know me (old frolicker who dropped off as it was taking a long time to TTC) but I just wanted to come and say hi and also say to Josie please don't lose heart. I am sorry to hear you are having such a shite time at the moment. Also wanted to add that it tooks us 22 months of TTC to get even a snoot of a bfp and we had undergone all the tests etc and were on the wait list for IVF. I know 22 months is not that long as well and I know there are tonnes of people out there that it takes a longer for. I guess I just wanted to say it takes different lengths of time for everyone and although it is tough seeing people around you get pregnant (really bloody tough) you just never know when your time will be. I will be lurking to see how you get on and keeping everything crossed for you. Chin up chica xxx

marshmallow I came off the pill almost 6 weeks ago and I haven't had AF yet, you may be lucky and get yours on time but from what I read it can take a few cycles before you start being regular again. Also about 2 or 3 weeks after I stopped (TMI WARNING!) I had a lot of clear mucus stuff come out me one day. Googled and it was normal as many other people have it when coming off pill. I have never had that much before. It may or may not happen to you. Exciting being off it now isn't it :)

josie sorry to hear you aren't having a good time of it. I agree with taking a little trip back in time and remembering why you started going out in the first place. Let the sex come naturally (if you AF doesn't come) and do it because you want it. All relationships have ups and downs and dry spells. Enjoy your weekend x

raspberry I know all too well what you are talking about, well kind of. 2 weeks before my wedding I was struck with bowel and bladder problems and in a lot of pain. Doctor said IBS. Did no tests. I tried to put worries behind me but then I googled and had all symptoms of ovarian cancer. I had to try and put it all out of my mind to enjoy the wedding and 10 day honeymoon. And I did. Had to. It was hard but easier because I was always on the move. Got back and kept going back to doc as I also had back pain. Given pain killers. Didn't work. Back to doc, given v strong pain killers. Didn't work. Phoned one evening and basically said that I was being fobbed off with tablets that weren't helping and why wasn't I getting a scan or tests. Next doc appointment I get sent to hospital and get ultrasound, X-ray and gyaene exam. Nothing comes up. Now going back to doc to arrange colonoscopy and upper GI exam. Keep pressing them if you think it's taking too long! They act on people who don't leave them alone and get a bit hysterical. Big hugs to you!!!! It's horrible to be worrying about health problems. Btw the fact that your number went back down says to me that it's more likely to be something less serious x

Does anyone watch practically every pregnancy programme on tv btw? I watch OBEM, 16 and Pregnant, Teen Mom and anything else I can find lol.

Omg Ratata check out mybirthTV, it's online so just google for it, it's fab for the totally addicted as there are video diaries and they are all lovely chilled out(ish) home births!
On the symptom front I mentioned a few on my other thread but I do get bloating / bit of trouble pooing (sorry-tmi) and I get stabby pains like stitch down below but I've never really thought much of it. I'm going to make a list and take it to the next appointment if the bloods are still high. Until then im refusing to google anymore.!!

Hey lanky! Thanks for your message, hope you are well and I love when you old timers pop in, gives me hope for my future!!

nearly I'm the same when AF is on its way. DH goes 'are you being a grumpy moo' and I shout 'no I'm not you're just fucking annoying' then realise I maybe am and smile sweetly and apologise. He does always just tell me to 'man up' over cramps though which drives me nuts :)

Oh and welcome mecredi :)

Hope you are feeling a wee but better josie it's not nice feeling so low and I know how it feels to get to that point where you actually moan yourself out!!

Right, off to drink red wine, this first week back has been a killer!

to everyone x

Well hello AF. You finally arrive. I think. It's very light and I haven't had my usual sore boobies that I always get beforehand but I think it's AF. Typical when we set tonight aside especially for a bit of fun. Oh well. I'm getting wasted tomorrow anyway lol. Good for the health :p

Dp knows what im like and just says he knows i cant help it.
Hope every one had a good day.

Im on approx day 22 of first cycle off the pill. before taking it my cycles were about 30 days but i know it can take a while for first period to come/for cycles to settle down in general. i hope af isn't too late though as im going to find it hard not to get my hopes up and will probably end up spending a small fortune on pg tests!! Must resist!! How have everyone else's experience of coming off the pill been?

I like to remind DH that when I'm on my period I could actually murder him and get away with it under diminished responsibility so often threaten to kill him

Little my periods went back to normal relatively quickly but I did get a lot of pg symptoms for the first few weeks when I came off and nearly drove myself crazy. my periods are also now more unstable. I used to have 35 day cycles and they were quite predictable but now they are usually between 29-35 days.