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Agree mtc76 - get it checked out.

josie sorry to hear that you've had a wobble, hang on in there, I understand your fear, but better to try and fail than never try at all. You just never know what will happen.

Keep going Josie, the fear of the unknown is completely crippling sometimes. I think all of us who have been trying for a long time know that awful feeling and it's completely understandable to be feeling it more now when you are going through so much. xx

We're here for you Josie rooting away, waving pom poms, etc.

Can I join?? Currently on 2nd month trying ttc our 1st baby, top secret from all friends an family as I'm worried we'll have problems do front want added pressure 'why aren't you pregnant yet??' etc! Not read all 650 messages just theist few, Josie you clearly are an amazing strong woman hang on in there. Sorry to hear about your friend, not sure what to advise other than I've known a few pregnant women lose the plot completely! One was ridiculous you'd have thought she invented pregnancy or that it was some unknown illness! x

Hi Pinkie and welcome! Some people seem to like to tell everyone they are ttc, but I agree that it adds far too much pressure! We originally only told 1 person - my best friend who is also ttc and struggling. We then chose to tell my parents after the Drs decided I needed an operation under general anaesthetic to check for blocked tubes, etc.

All that aside, here's hoping your stay is a short one , but don't be afraid to ask any questions - we've a wide range of experience on this thread so someone is bound to know the answer!

In Cave-Watch, I've decided to have my Day 21 blood test on Monday, it's due tomorrow but hospital is not open for bloods at the weekend. I'm 90% sure I've ovulated, certainly Fertility Friend says I have, but I figure I'll get a better progesterone reading if I wait a few more days.

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Thank you all so much for your kind words I was having a major wobble yesterday, but today I feel so much stronger! Last night?s injection was a bloody doddle, after all that whinging! It?s funny how when I?m not worked up about it, it doesn?t hurt as much and doesn?t bruise I?m sure there?s a lesson in that somewhere So now I?m almost excited to start the 2 a day next week, at least I?ll be making progress, and the gaps between each stage get smaller

MrsMellow you?re totally right, it?s better to try and fail than not try at all. I?m usually a quitter but not when it comes to something this important.

Thanks Raspberry I?m going to keep going, I couldn?t bear the thought of stopping now, as much as I say I want to

Thanks for the pom poms Cave Good luck for your blood test

Welcome Pinkie and thank you so much, you almost made me cry! It?s the hormones I tell you I started out not telling anyone but my best friend (yes that one!) then as it got harder I told mam, then she told the rest of my family (thanks mam), then my work admin colleagues found out (seeing as I literally couldn?t stop crying when one of them told me she was pg), then I got bullied and moved offices, now all my admin colleagues there know (but this makes it easier for appts etc), we told ILs and now most of the people where I keep my horse know (I told them when we started IVF because I didn?t like having this big secret over my head, and it makes it easier when I?m having a bad day ? people know why and don?t continually ask what?s wrong) but it?s totally up to you who you tell, sometimes I wish no-one knew because then they wouldn?t ask how it?s going. I would advise at this stage don?t tell too many people unless you?re 100% sure you won?t regret it, because you can?t take it back.

Hi Cavemum/Josie, your all so nice well am currently 8 days past ov I think, I say think as my cycle varies from 35 to 42 days and has been as long as 56 in the past so hard to know when I ov last 2 have been 33 days. Going to buy a clear blue monitor as the poas are hard to interpret sometimes af due 15th boobs usually very tender the week before but had nothing yet?

Basically we want to keep quiet as I'm likely to have pcos tick all the boxes minus excess hair! It's hard too with almost everyone we know having 'accidents' or the old 'I was on the pill it mustn't have worked' trying to maintain patience and when af arrives I've been ok just think fresh start etc! Decided we'll give it six months then see the doc if nothing happens.

Hi guys, sorry I've been a bit absent, been on holiday :)! Went with a couple of friends and their babies, the whole camp was teaming with babies either that or I noticed it more! Was good & we baby sat sometimes but made me want one of our own so bad!! we made love every day as reminded us how much we want one! Want to go on holiday next year with my own little one!

Waves to pinkie, good luck!! I'm a bit of a blabber mouth about ttc! Told some friends at work, but soon most people will know as we do lots of x rays & I can't do them (as wont know if preggers) & have told best friends. We are going in to our 3rd month now.

:) xx

Daft question, thought I was a week past ov, had a vey bad pain lower right tum so done an ovp and it's positive? Odd but gonna dtd tonight! x

Pinkie when you say you thought you had already ov'd do you mean you just assumed you had, or that you'd had previous positive OPKs or a spike in temperatures?

Many women seem to find, once they start paying close attention to their cycles, that they ovulate sooner/later than they'd first thought. My thoughts would be that if your getting a line you definitely need to get down to business!

I'd had what looked like positive ones a few days before I thought id ovd, tho with my cycle bring quite long may ovulate late?

It's definitely possible, the OPKs only tell you that LH is surging. You can have a surge and not ovulate. The only way to be sure if you have ovulated or not is to chart your temperatures throughout your cycle.

They recommend having sex every other day throughout your cycle to make sure you cover all bases.

Get cracking! (and probably keep going for another few days too)

Oh man this is hard work where do ppl find the time?! If we don't get it this month I'll start temping properly x

Forgot to add I'd had a long ache lower right side which felt like an ov pain, will go for it again tonight

Hello all,
feeling a bit sorry for myself today - just off the phone with a very close friend of mine who is coming to stay in a couple of weeks - she's 6-7 weeks pregnant , which is obviously great news, but they weren't even trying! She'd come off the pill and was using condoms unsuccessfully obviously and was planning to start trying later on in the year for a variety of reasons, but jeez... how unfair is that!
I'm really happy for her - she's completely shell shocked and doesn't quite believe it - but stamps foot really

Hi mrsmellow same here, happened to my brother and they're due in july and almost everyone who had one recently it 'just happened' pleased for them all obv but annoying when you put all the effort in and get nowhere :( x

Hey all. Lots of activity on here as always! Have been a hermit revising and working constantly so not much free time for posting! Hi to anyone new! :)

So glad you were feeling better josie. You sound like youre handling things incredibly well and little wobble now and again are only natural considering. Have everything crossed for you that everything goes as planned.

raspberry when are you moving? So exciting! Hope it goes well :)

Hi all,

Haven't had time to catch up yet. Am back TTC after MC 3 weeks ago! Although I don't think this will be our month... as have had LH line showing up on ebay cheapies since I stopped bleeding. Also this week I had a pain where I suppose my right overy is but it lasted on & off from Mon till Friday.

How is everyone?

I feel like af is on the way hff due thurs 15th

Hi all, feel a bit crap today my AF has been really irregular, 4-6 weeks apart (which means I don't know when I'm ovulating!) I had a small bleed and period pains 2 weeks ago so assumed it was AF as it was 6 weeks after last period (did POAS negative) although yesterday & today I've had small bleeds again. POAS again just in case negative! What's going on!! Wish my periods were regular & I knew when I was ovulating!

Just a quick update from me, got my scan tomorrow to make sure the buserelin has worked enough to start stage 2 - stims!

Hope you are all ok, will catch up properly tomorrow, work is really busy thank god

Hi everyone :o

Today is our first day of no longer trying not to conceive - I "should" have started a new packet of the pill today. Can I come join you guys?

Note that we NLTNTC rather than TCC as we think it'd be nice to just chill out about it and let it happen when it happens the husband doesn't know though that I've spent hours lurking here or that I have the fertility friend account or that I've been looking up Isabella Oliver maternity dresses.

I reckon it'll take about 3 weeks, though, before we get obsessed with TCC just like the rest of you

Pinkie, I've never ever ever met anyone who openly admits to finding TCC. And yet obviously lots of people do - looking at conversations here on mumsnet.

Almost everyone seems to find it "just happened". The only exceptions are 1) and 2) friends (who are post menopausal) who admit that they couldn't have children and 3) a very very very close friend who only told me that she was TCC because I live on the other side of the world.

Clearly there's some big conspiracy going on!

Weekly random read and update from me! Welcome newbies, etc etc!

TTC (or NTTNC ) or whatever going badly. I am due a tooth extraction soon and have broken my shoulder. Not only is the 8inch green streak of a bruise not all that attractive but I can't imagine even trying right now (ouchie). That combined with waiting for the dental work (and they don't like to do it if you're pregnant) and no sign of period (still can't use the AF reference... don't know what it even means!!) since coming off depo! Boooooooooooo!

Hello again all, I didn't think I would be popping back so soon... And to say goodbye to you all! We stopped actively TTC but were having unprotected sex, just not watching when I was ovulating etc. And apparently that worked for us lol! I got a BFP yesterday!!!! So we are now one of those annoying couples who weren't actually trying but just not preventing either... I'm over the moon. And been told today I have a niece, to top it all off!

Fingers crossed I don't mc as I'm already worried about that.

For the symptom spotters, my symptoms were: brown spotting mid cycle, and again a few days before AF due (both times after orgasm!), mild cramping, feeling like AF was imminent for 3 days, no sign of AF, mildly sore boobs, heartburn, slight dizzy spells and mild nausea.

I hope you all get your BFPs, sprinkling baby dust to all. It's been a nice stay. Lots of love, Ratata xxx