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TTC after miscarriage - A New Start to a New Year x x x

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diddle · 06/01/2006 15:43

Ok ladies, here we go a nice new thread for us to share our fears and smiles on.

Lets keep smiling and positive, and make sure that this is a Happy year for everyone.

Life is far too short to waste, and after such a rough year for most of us last year, lets make 2006 an extra special one x x x

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kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 13:09

that's what happened whe i had my mc, it showed up a week later and was still very faint. that's why i was so keen on getting a result early or on the day as i thought it might show that i've got a good pg this time (fingers crossed). with dd the test was very faint as i went the loo, then went the chemist to buy the test and then squeezed a wee out as i couldn't wait four hours i knew i was pg and she wasn't planned. it was very very faint but it was a positive. i'm so glad we had her though, a very happy accident! this time it feels strange planning it but i'm made up dd will have a brother or sister close in age.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 13:15

KK - I know what you mean about getting a strong result nice and early. I knew from the word go that something was a miss with my last PG because even after a week after AF was due, I was still getting a weak result. This time though I know 100% I have OVed late in the month and therefore won't get a BFP til much later

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 13:42

well i've got my fingers crossed for you, i'm really hoping you get your positive.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 13:50

Thanks KK! I hope it will happen! If it is going to it will be this month - the month I start my course! That would be just typical! Ah well, what will be, will be!

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 13:53

how long does your course take? could you fit it around having a baby?

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 13:57

Well, this Access course runs til Xmas this year. I won't be able to complete it if I am PG. I would be due before it finishes. But I could do it another time - or the college may find a way of me doing it. I'll cross that bridge if I need to. If I could complete it, the certificate I get holds for 2 years so I could defer my entry to Uni for a couple of years so not all is lost. Anyway, I would rather be pG!

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 14:19

i agree with you, i didn't finish my childcare course to become a nursery nurse because i got pg, which gave me loads more childcare experience than any course does about it. because dd has a cardiac condition, is peg fed and has learning problems i want to look after her myself until she can go into a special needs school. this is why i'd like to have another child whilst i'm at home. once dd is in school the other child should be at a nice age for nursery and then i can get back to doing something outside the house. sometimes i find it hard, i'd like to do part time work just to give me a break from the house and so that dd isn't as clingy as what she is but we don't have anything around here for her and my family don't ever look after her because of the peg. we also want her to have a brother or sister close in age. once we looked at the good and bad points we found the good points outweighed the bad points and also we both just feel the time is right for another.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 14:24

KK - I am so sorry but I am so naive and don't really know what peg feeding is. Sorry, I am a little thick

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 14:26

Okay! just used my brain for once and lookin git up! Understand now! (hooray for the internet!!)

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 14:41

it ain't hard to do peg feeding but my family don't want anything to do with it. maybe it's their way of getting out of babysitting, yet i always babysit for them. oh well, no big lose really i'd still worry with leaving her after everything she's been through.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 14:44

Perhaps they just feel that if anything went wrong they couldn't deal with it. I know I would find it hard (although the difference is, I would give it a go!) Its kind of fear of the unknown isn't it. Until they have done it once they will always be afraid of doing it. Vicious circle really.

How old is DD?

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 14:49

she's 20 months. i agree with you if it was one of my niece's or nephew's and i hadn't experienced peg feeding i'd want to learn it just incase their mum was ever ill. i find it really hard when i'm ill i have to just get on with things so i'm hoping i have an easy pg. mind you, i never mind any of my niece's or nephew's these days if their mum's ill as i can't risk dd getting ill, she always takes badly to illnesses and it's another trip back to hospital. so best if we avoid all ill people!

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 14:53

Will she ever come off PEG feeding?

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 15:03

hopefully, but we can't really say yes until it happens. i do hope so. she's now allowed to have liquids orally but she doesn't like drinking. she will only take a few sips of water and that's it. we tried her off the peg feeds for a day but she took so little that we couldn't not top her up through the peg. she now has 600ml of milk and 100ml of water through the peg. before she had the peg put in she would only take about 100ml - 200ml of liquids a day (even that was a struggle to do) and her nappies were barely noticable as being wet. speech therapist thought it might be going down the wrong way again (into her lungs) so they recommended the ng tube but as it became more perminent than last time she had an ng tube it was suggested she had a peg put in. at first she was still being really sick (she has severe gastic reflux) but they put her domperidone medicine up (antisickness medicine which makes her digest things quicker). she's now up to the 2nd centile for her weight and has loads of wet nappies.

going4potty · 15/01/2006 15:18

Hello again, kk with the peg feeding do they supply you with all the food substitute (drs i mean) or do you make things up and syringe it through tube? Hope you dont mind me asking, just never seen it used in a home environment.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 15:24

Ahh I'm glad to hear that she is doing well . I'm sure as she gets older and bigger she willbe able to come off the PEG feeds. I really hope it gets better.

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 15:33

we get the milk deliviered. we have to have milk bags, milk bottles, syringes and the giving sets (hook the bags of milk up to the peg and put them through the machine). we get the delievery every four weeks so we have to store loads of equipment. it's handy that they delivier but it's a pain storing it.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 15:34

Well, I think you deserve a medal for doing all that you do. You are a very special person xxxx

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 15:37

thank you but i really don't think i am special. i think i had a special child given to me and i'd do what any mum would do and look after them as best i can and if that means feeding her this way so be it. everyone in my position would do the same.

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 15:41

This is true but as I see it you must be a special person to be blessed with a precious child. I couldn't be trusted to do the job. All children have there demands, their needs, but some have more, and if you are able to meet them you are truely special yourself.
Don't do yourself down KK. You are special
We are all special

kreamkrackers · 15/01/2006 15:52

yeah we are all special. life has obviously thrown some bad dealings in all our paths and that's why we're here together. but life also throws good things our way and hopefully everyone on here will get their good things thrown at them now and no more of the bad.

HellKat · 15/01/2006 16:20

Hiya all.
Have'nt been posting too much as I don't want to bring the thread down. All I say on "that" matter is I'm still in limbo, nothing's happening apart from pain so going to see if I can get my bloods done tomorrow.
On a happier note, CH looks like a positive to me hun so until Tuesday *Whispers" Congrats hunny!!!!
Hope you're all great and having a good weekend.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Coathanger · 15/01/2006 16:33

Oooooo, HK don't speak too soon. Might have all been my over active imagination!! Bet I get an extra BIG FAT NEG on Tuesday. But we'll see. Not getting hopes up at all. All I will say though is still no AF!!

HK you deffo need to have your levels checked. Remember what you predicted! Well its still not impossible - I pray hard that all is okay one way or another big {{{{{hugs}}}}} to you hun

going4potty · 15/01/2006 16:45

Thanks for that kk, you are indeed very special, god knew were the right person to care for her, so thats why shes with you. I know it doesnt compare, but with regards to no help with babysitting etc. My ds had very severe eczema when he was a baby, use to bleed and weep all the time. Nobody not even my mum use to sit him until he was about 6 months old. But once they got use to wet wrapping etc they werent too bad, i think maybe theyre frightened theyll get it wrong???

going4potty · 15/01/2006 18:10

I was that keen i should have an af and now i wish shed go so we can start ttc, its so exciting, worrying , scarry, fun all at the same time. Feel a bit all over the place at mo, especially as dhs interview thing is on wednesday.