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TTC after miscarriage - A New Start to a New Year x x x

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diddle · 06/01/2006 15:43

Ok ladies, here we go a nice new thread for us to share our fears and smiles on.

Lets keep smiling and positive, and make sure that this is a Happy year for everyone.

Life is far too short to waste, and after such a rough year for most of us last year, lets make 2006 an extra special one x x x

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going4potty · 12/01/2006 21:15

peepee, your not selfish just human. Hope your alright, it will happen when the time is right. Hope the family visit cheers you up. Well i have to work tomorrow, so im of to read then go to bed. The house still smells of fajitas, its making me hungry, but no i will resist, bye all

carly82 · 12/01/2006 22:58

is anyone around? have just had a huge row with dp and could do with a friendly face

Charlee · 13/01/2006 01:35

peepee dont be down on yourself, when i was going through my last m/c i didnt tell my family at first, its just such a regular thing now for me i didnt want a huge deal made about it, i knew i had m/c'd before i started bleeding, the night the bleeding started i felt rough, my sister rings me up to tell me shes pregnant! i was gutted i just sat down where i was and cried and cried.

I was so ashamedof myself for not imedietly being happy for them, but i think when you have a history of m/c and really want a baby its natural to feel jelous of pregnant people especially family or friends.

Anyway my sister is due anytime now and im going to go to her whens shes had it and be happy for her as im sure you will be when your friend has her baby.

but dont feel bad its a natural reaction. you will get there, we all will

HellKat · 13/01/2006 05:11

Morning all.
Surprise surprise, pains slowed down . Bleeding is still same old "brown" muck (so sorry for tmi) and just feel like bad period pain. It kicks in, then eases. I did however, enjoy 4 Mini Buds and a huge slab of cheesecake.
Jane- Unfortunately hunny there's no guarentee how long it takes. My first 3 were instant but my last was a missed mc and I had this same colour bleeding on/off until the erpc. This time around, I thought it would be quite quick as I was having regular pain but does'nt look like it. Regarding insensitive friends, I'm still not talking to one of mine. I texted her to let her know that I'd mc'd last year and her response was "Oh sorry, anyway my life's still shite". That did it for me.
Getting back to normal periods can take anything from coming on when you'd normally be due or a good few months later, everyone's different.

Read an American website last night on just how long this is meant to take and apparently it can take up to 4 weeks in some women!!!!!!!!! Stuff that! If this is still buggering about, I'll ask them for an erpc when I have my endo surgery on the 25th (don't see why they can't do it at the same time).
Still wishing for a good full flow, so to speak. My boob (the one without the lump) has started shrinking again) and my bra fits so something's getting rid of my pg hormones, just wish the rest would follow through.

Ok, ok, enough of my mithering .
Hope eveyone's well and {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

HellKat · 13/01/2006 05:11

Carly- {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}} Hope you're ok hun x

kreamkrackers · 13/01/2006 07:32

good morning everyone. how is everyne today? did a test, shaking as i write this, heart thumping out of my chest, it's a bfp
dp is still in bed so i'm not sure whether to wake him up and tell him as he gets very moody when woke up but he will really enjoy the news. i don't think this smile will ever come off my face. hope everyone else has lots of good luck on this thread as well today.

kreamkrackers · 13/01/2006 07:41

woke dp up, he's made up but then wanted to go back to sleep as he's off work today. made myself a lovely big cup of earl grey tea in celebration!

Charlee · 13/01/2006 07:55

CONGRATULATIONS KREAMKRACKERS

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diddle · 13/01/2006 08:21

congrats kreamkrackers.

Hellkat - seriosuly worried that you may not be miscarrying and that you should get it checked out hun.

morning to everyone else.

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HellKat · 13/01/2006 08:33

KK- Congrats!
Dids- It is hun, know it deep down. Don't feel pg at all anymore, in loads of pain. For some daft reason it's just taking forever. Look at the last one, carried it around for 4 weeks and still did'nt mc.

HellKat · 13/01/2006 08:33

Plus there's not much they can do until I test again next week. Too early even for a scan. It's just a waiting game.

HellKat · 13/01/2006 08:52

Rang the epu again. Again they were fab. They said it could take a while but should be quite quickly. If nothing's happened by next week then I'll need a scan.
Apparently, some poor, poor woman went 4 mths until she mc!!!!!!!!!! Thank god it won't take that long. basically the less pg you are the less amount of time it takes.

Coathanger · 13/01/2006 08:53

Morning everyone!

HK - I had the same thoughts as Diddle. But if you are sure it is what it is then I'm sure you're right. You know your body. But just remember to take care of yourself - promise me you will xxxxxxx

Carly - I am so sorry I wasn't on last night. I am on MSN now if you want to chat. How are things this morning? xxxxxxx

Peepee - aww mate, don't feel down. I don't like seeing my mate sad It is so hard when those around you are finding out this news. It is toatlly normal to feel disappointed and jealous and possibly a bit resentful. But your friend sounds like a good person and isn't oblivious to your feelings. I'm sure in time you will get used to the idea and become a huge pillar of support to your friend. xxxxxxxxxx

Congrats to KK too!

Hope everyone else is well this morning!

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diddle · 13/01/2006 09:27

peepee - i think your reaction is totally normal. Of course you are happy for your friend, but it also reminds you that you want to be in that situation too. I can understand her being worried about your reaction. I remember about 6 months ago a friend telling me that she was pregnant, i was so so pleased for her, all the time she was telling me i felt happy, and smiley, then as soon as she'd gone i burst into tears, i was inconsolable. Its ok to be upset, it doesn't make you any less of a friend to her.

Carly - Hows things this morning??

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mygirllolipop · 13/01/2006 09:34

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FirstNikki · 13/01/2006 09:51

Good morning all,

Jane, af can take time unfortunately it is a waiting game, they can come back roughly the same as mine did. sorry about your friend she probably didn't know how to react.

HK hope if you are mc that it ends soon (in the nicest way I meanso you can get back to normal)

G4P agree some people are fab and other odn't acknowledge it one of my sisters was one of them

CH hope ou feel better to day

PeePee your baby will come and it is perfectly ok to have those feelings about your friend I would say its natural

KK - congratulations on your bfp

Carly hope things have been cleared up with dh

charlee sorry af arrived good luck for next time

best wishes to all and {{{{hugs}}}} xx

mygirllolipop · 13/01/2006 09:59

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carly82 · 13/01/2006 10:00

morning girls
HK still sending lots of ((((((((hugs)))))))) to you hope thinks start picking up for you xx
PP think you should have some too hun (((((((hugs)))))))) xx
Stupid silly row with dp last night will all be sorted soon and don't apologise for not being here it was late and i know how you ladies are tucked up in bed by nine with your cups of horlicks
CD 28 for me today so i tested and bfn but expecting it tbh will wait till wed to test again as that will be cd33 and thats how long last months cycle was.
Kreamkrackers congrats on your bfp
Hello to everyone else sorry if missed anything out just had a quick skim please feel free to remind me if i have

mygirllolipop · 13/01/2006 10:04

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HumphreysCorner · 13/01/2006 10:21

Morning ladies

Just seen kreamkrackers news-mega congratulations on your BFP hun

carly-there is still time for you to get a BFP as you seem to have a long cycle. Hope you settle your argument with DH. ((xx))

HellKat-try and rest as much as you are able. ((xx))

Charlee-sorry about AF-evil witch! ((xx))

peepee-I sympathise with you about hearing your friend's news. You have every right to feel sad but as the others say, it will happen to you. ((xx))

Hello to everyone else, hope you are all OK.

Going bowling and for a pizza tomorrow night for SIL's birthday. Unfortunately MIL & FIL are coming to. I was just congratulating myself that after New Year's Eve I wouldn't need to see her again until Mothers Day-drat! Anyway, if she dares to mention the p*y t**ing I will kill her!

Have a good day and lots of love to all

xxx

mygirllolipop · 13/01/2006 10:35

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FirstNikki · 13/01/2006 10:37

morning mygirl weather is a bit grey but dry here at least its light..god I had the dark days..well done on your weight loss keep up the good work...I weighed in last night only lost a pound bit gutted as was very good and trousers were telling me I had lost more, so guess have lost inches this week.

Feeling focused got up and went for a swim before work and plan to go out tonight with dh for a couple of drinks as I know I won't be pg this month (no signs and lack of bd at cruicial time) [angry sad]...but will be on full form next month.

FirstNikki · 13/01/2006 10:42

mygirl...my mind has gone blank (sorry for being dim today) where are you on the testing stakes?

Carly..fingers crossed for the cd33 test

mygirllolipop · 13/01/2006 10:54

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